skywalker240:

Nothing like anything Off

My wife was even the one who insisted we do fertility, genotype, blood group etc, even though I have them in mind

Only a woman with dirty cupboards would be put Off by such kind of suggestion

Your orientation is different from mine, so no point engaging you further on this. My advise was directed to op. It's left for him to consider or discard.

Just one test that some people failed to do some years back will lead them to do over 10 tests and numerous treatments in the future

Wisdom is profitable to direct, you already said your father is a Medical Doctor, for you to state it you definitely understand the implication, the man have seen things and instead of turning him to prayer warrior in future he wants to avoid that at least medically.

1Sharon:


If your dad refuses to attend your wedding, that says alot more about him than he is trying to say about you.

think well my friend, you wouldn't even want
your own brother to marry for years without an issue. If I had done this same test i won't be where I'm today.

perryy:
I wish I listened to my mum then. Guy, you better listen now or regret later. That is all.

thanks for your input. Don't mind those advising him not to listen to his dad. Nobody to advise me then of what to do, I'm seriously regretting it today.

He might be putting you in a tight spot right but he has his reasons. Shey you said he's a Doctor. Na only him know wetiñ him Don carry eye see

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

How about you both carry out the test? Among other tests, this is important. It's shouldn't be up for question that she should do the test too.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Standard tests if serious to avoid stories Tomorrow

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Tell her na, which kind small pikin be this one



Abi you dey fear the woman??

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

But this is normal na. Fertility test is even one thing everybody from 25years should do even before marriage. Please heed to your father's instructions, you can't tell what his eyes have seen in that medical field.

Acme45:
think well my friend, you wouldn't even want to own brother into a situation where he will married for years without an issue. If I had done this same test i won't be where I'm today.

And are you sure the fault is from your partner and not you?

Because Nigerian men can be arrogantly ignorant about this fertility issue.

1Sharon:


And are you sure the fault is from your partner and not you?

Because Nigerian men can be arrogantly ignorant about this fertility issue.

I can't send all the test results I had done here, I can't even tell my family what I'm facing. So that she won't be thrown out. Do all the necessary test, both parties so that you will not be praying for what you don't even know about. Funny enough the other partner with the issue will be silent.

Acme45:
I can't send all the test results I had done here, I can't even tell my family what I'm facing. So that she won't be thrown out. Do all the necessary test, both parties so that you will not be praying for what you don't even know about. Funny enough the other partner with the issue will be silent.

Are the tests from both of you or just one party?

@ the bolded, Nigerian men always blame the woman. Their logic is that as long as the woman carries the baby, if she can't conceive then automatically it's her fault.

Remember they also blame the woman when she gives birth to only girls.

As long as a woman has a functioning uterus, she can have a baby. If it's hormonal problems, they can rectify that.

[quote author=beekind post=122895286]
Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.[/quote

Really it's no big deal if you or your dad need her to run fertility tests. I'm sure she wants what you want too. The way you tell her matters. Show her you have done yours and YOU (not your Dad) want her to run the tests too and that whatever outcome has little or no bearing on the marriage plans. It will only help you both to position and treat whatever defects she might have timely. She will want kids too so no big deal about the test

YOU MUST NOT TELL HER IT IS YOUR FATHER’S CONDITION.

Your father is not foolish and might have heard something from his background check on her family that he just doesn’t want to say out loud. He wants you to find out first hand.

Smh. The fact that you’re arguing shows you’re not even ready for marriage and your wife to be is using your head, you’re scared of her and she has successfully emasculated you.

A genotype and fertility test are a MUST in today’s world. So you won’t complain that nobody told you.
A man or woman might be infertile, the earlier it is known, the better for all parties.

The time for ignorance has passed.

IF YOU LIKE, also forget to do DNA test after birth, you hear? Lol

achimendy:




Tell her na, which kind small pikin be this one



Abi you dey fear the woman??

E dey fear am. He’s weak.

Zedoo:


E dey fear am. He’s weak.

Hahahahahahahaha



I guess so.

1Sharon:


The fantastical stories you people tell sha.

If you want the foolish girls number I will send it to you, presently she has enrolled in one school of health.

Depriest2020:

If you want the foolish girls number I will send it to you, presently she has enrolled in one school of health.

And you really think she's going to confirm her story over the phone with woman a strange woman? 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

1Sharon:


And you really think she's going to confirm her story over the phone with woman a strange woman? 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Then what else do you want from me? Or do you want the phone number of the woman she worked for so you can verify?