| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by OboOlora(f): 7:44am On May 26, 2023 |
What u need is intense BDSM!!!!
Let her tie u down like ewure Iya Oshogbo and play with ur deek.
If it stands, she will sit on it and fvck u to coma
If not, she will flog ur sorry a$$ till ur brain connects with ur vas deferens and achieve an erection
Either ways, stay faithful to ur beech. Nothing de streets except std, billing and spiritually-drained whores 6 Likes |
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| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Ccchat: 7:45am On May 26, 2023 |
It's well |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Suspect33(m): 7:48am On May 26, 2023 |
Samantha124:
The only way to show her how serious you are is by moving out of the house and filing for a divorce despite her objections.
But if you want to stay in a loveless marriage just because she has objected for a separation, then feel free to stay, but you gonna have to honour your vows by staying faithful to her and not sleeping outside.
Remember you might be stuck forever once a child comes to the picture. They don't want to have a divorce, stop forcing it. All these frustrated bitter women wanting other women to leave their husbands and be like them. Misery does love company 1 Like |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Faposky95: 7:49am On May 26, 2023 |
pretydiva:
The truth is you no longer find your wife sexually attractive. Tell tha little big guy to grow some grey hairs and do what the brain and heart says...... You owe your wife everything....no matter how impossible it is. Jus one year, I'm feeling Olosh....vibes Check it bro...... |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by JaskanFactor: 7:51am On May 26, 2023 |
sexual aspect is important, but finding a partner with whom you can work as team to raise family and survive in this very harsh world is also important. And its not easy to find both of this in same woman.
That is why, if sex is the only issue, and you a getting older, maybe best to agree to work together as team to raise family, whilst both of you find other ways to satisfy your sexual needs in respectful manner to your relationship.
One of the things about growing up in this world is that things dont always work out like text book says, so you have to get creative.
There are many couples out there that work well as team to manage a family home and raise children , but for sexual relief, that is mostly done outside the home.
And another thing that will help rekindle sex life with your partner is not to share the same room, and if possible separate apartments but close. They say some distance helps to rekindle the mystery that leads to sexual attraction.
2 people living ontop of each other and hoping for increase in sexual desire are asking too much of human nature.
Trust me, there are women out there that will take your sexual life to heaven, but as life survival team partner, they will ruin your finances home etc. Its most important to find someone who can be your co pilot, then you might have to get creative about recreational sex. 2 Likes |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Suspect33(m): 7:54am On May 26, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:
I think the woman is instead the one in a loveless marriage. No sex, no attention, just a glorified housemaid in the union while the man gets his knuckles shined outside by several other women. If she ends up tying herself down with a baby, I doubt that will change anything for him since from his OP, he seems to have already moved on.  No matter how you trash talk it or try to run it down, marriage is a good thing, because no man wants to marry you, you've now made it a personal assignment to trash talk marriage any chance you get. It's a defense mechanism to convince yourself that you don't want what you can't have  , or that having that thing is morally evil. You're always here trying to run down marriage and to propagate divorces. lol |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by negga4al(m): 8:02am On May 26, 2023 |
Your inability to achieve erection or sustained one is purely psycological - well according to your story. This means you have to get to the root cause of this which I think is that you expect too much of your wife. Let me establish something here:
1. Marriage is not made up of perfect people. It is a combination of two guys with their imperfections, frailties, weaknesses, differences both in ideas, opinions, cultural background (maybe), family upbringing, likes, dislikes.
2. You are not to try to change your wife (one who's been formed that way many years before your met her) to be like you, you are only going meet frustration and bitterness (trust me I know).
3. Since trying to change your wife is an herculean task, what you do is help her, lift her up, cover her weakness, she is your wife!
4. Communication is key. You need to discuss how you feel with your wife, of course say it without make it her fault or that you are better than her. Lose the ego with your wife because your ego will only lead you to loathe her for something she is innocent of, which in turn will lead to a boring, dry and breakable marriage. Now, how the hell do you expect your wife to know what you are thinking if you don't share, she be winch?
5. Cheating on her will never fix your problem with her, it is just a stop gap gratification. You go out there with other women, make your dangler happy and come back to a home of disappointment, loathing and hate. Now you will repeat this cycle until your wife becomes your sister or roommate. Then you rationalise your cheating escapade, and make your wife the problem.
6. Thank God you can perform in bed. If you have discussed this with your wife (Go to no 4 above) you can have her excercise (join her to encourage her), take natural herbs, fruits and aphrodaisic foods and lead healthy life (do this with her) which in turn would increase her sexual performance. I didn't mention drugs because it only solves her problem short time.
7. Man, respect your wife by using protection - if you choose to continue your escapades.
Marriage can be beautiful if we swallow our pride, communicate, share our problems and make a conscientous effort to make it work. 1 Like |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by tiswell(m): 8:03am On May 26, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:
You already abandoned your wife so why do you care if she thinks you are impotent or not?
You already abandoned the marriage and have yourself so many other women lined up so why are you trying hard to make us believe you care a lot about about your wife? Are you waiting to get her pregnant and tied down or what? Why not tell her the truth of what you do so she can find her way at this point? read carefully this time without biased emotions,then comment afterwards. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by OnweGodspower: 8:03am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Move on kwa? If i had moved on, i wont be here seeking help. That's STD please get yourself and wife a good drugs, and pray also. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by AmazonTopaz(f): 8:10am On May 26, 2023 |
Confirm bentenny:
I dont care what sanctimonious people say but you see sexual compatibility...Its very very very 'importanter'
There are guys who will instantly click sexually with OP's wifey without any fuss! |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Exclusive101: 8:10am On May 26, 2023 |
Work out daily, blend watermelon 🍉 with seed n drink persistent for 3 days. If it makes a difference keep at it n you'll never have same problem again. You might take this lightly but try it to know the difference n yes during this period avoid sugar beer coke ice cream Yogurt etc Mokole2023:
Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal? 1 Like |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Praktikal100000: 8:16am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,
I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
I await your responses, suggestions and advice.
Many thanks, Do not confess to her or she will use it against you later 1 Like |
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| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Mokole2023: 8:18am On May 26, 2023 |
Ccchat:
Your story is full of lies and the earlier you tell the truth, the better for you. You claimed you have BP and you are not aroused by your wife, how then are you aroused by other women with the same BP? Secondly, when you say your wife doesn't live with you, you also lie, so we won't ask you "How can you be living with a woman and won't get aroused?" and if you are not impotent, why is she or the other women you claimed you slept with not pregnant yet? I'm sure you have not slept with that woman since you got married to her and you refused to let her go because of your selfish ambition (you wanted a child) because I'm 100% sure you know your problems already. The simple truth is that you are impotent and you should be in your late 30s and what you don't know is that the sperm that comes out of you once in 3/4 months can not impregnate a woman until treated. I think too much intake of junk, carbonated drinks, alcohol, infection,..., has rendered so many men impotent and they don't know until they are married in their late 30s. There is still a solution if your case is not severe, first of all, you need to be sincere so you can get help Totally way offpoint. 1 Like |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by 4realsexy: 8:18am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,
You need to build a relationship with your wife. Not just the husband and wife thing.(like open 1 or 2 bottles of red wine and finish it with just her alone, it will bring out her wild self and trust me, you feel like eating her raw)This is natural but over time go on it's own. Dont force it, because if you do, it will work your mind and you start struggling with quick evacuation which is worse than quick erection. And mostly if you find attitudes unpleasant in your wife, it will make you loose urge. Most when is the nagging and troublesome type.I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
I await your responses, suggestions and advice.
Many thanks, |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by josite: 8:19am On May 26, 2023 |
research habituation.humans find the spouse they co habit with day in and day out less sexually attractive more and more .ur wife doesnt excites u any more .but what worries me is that u said u both love apart so habituation may not be the issue in ur own case.
does ur wife says words that puts you off or does she reminds u of you financial adequacy or other inadequacies when you meet her.
it is nothing spiritual.
see a therapist or a sex counsellor.im sure i can help u by GOD'S GRACE. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by dapsoneh: 8:21am On May 26, 2023 |
U need psychotherapy |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Mydazz(m): 8:22am On May 26, 2023 |
Never found the wife attractive, that was subtly stated from the onset, distance is an issue because time is not spent together which could have helped in building up the necessary intimacy. Thus should be discussed by the couple if its really a problem |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by bewla(m): 8:23am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal? let her go on leave for six month Avoid her just call and dont get close only video calls and tell her to put sexy clothes only for you make it a new or first time you meeting her Then tou fall back in life |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by masui(m): 8:26am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Actually, some Viagra meds can also act as anti-BP. I'm not yet off the BP meds as advised by the Cardio. An elder gave me some "concoction" to ward off the negativity. Now lemme burst your head: Wifey was totally against my "consultants" like i said she's from a strong clergy family but on a particular night, i took the herbs n said a small prayer to God to not fail me... everything worked great!!! 3 days ago, it was automatic though i ddnt take d stuff. 2 night ago, we went back to square 1 and surprisingly she started asking me to go use the herbs, which i later did tho but i have been scared to try again honestly. Abeg you fit waybill the remaining herbs to me. God no go let you see shame. 2 Likes |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Bananapill: 8:28am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,
I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
I await your responses, suggestions and advice.
Many thanks, Seek spiritual help |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Nobody: 8:29am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Your quote is a big ? for me. I did consult with some "elders" and they say in such situations, traditionally its an issue with the woman (something like a spiritual attack). During a recent public holiday, i got myself viagra, I couldn't sleep cos my head was banging all thru d night. I have taken herbs, exercises, weight loss, dates fruit etc but e be like na other people dey enjoy am! Ooh. I didn’t read your post very well… so d libido is active with other women but inactive with madam. In this case no be your gp u go see oo. Na ur pastor/imam/oracle and a sex therapist. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Amhopeful: 8:32am On May 26, 2023 |
Exactly. Sex is a choice and so is sleeping with other ladies. You have to be intentional about working on your marriage. You are both young. Try talking with her,take her out on dates,spend some quality time together maybe without the sex so you can find out more attractive things about her and let the feelings grow. I wish you well. LLSAINT:
I think OPs, you are the problem.
First of all, welcome to the institution called marriage.
S$x starts with the mind. If you lose it, you lost it.
If other girls call and your dickkie comes alive, it simply means you have already engaged them in your mind before the very act.
Work on your mind and communicate more with your wife.
Cuddle her on bed still you sleep off.
Let the thoughts of other girls leave your mindset for you to get focused.
Her 'doughnut' is not different from the ones you fantasize.
Wetin dey sweet man for outside, easy to kill am o!
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| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by jessylaurel(f): 8:34am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,
I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
I await your responses, suggestions and advice.
Many thanks, Everything is in your head. I also pray she finds someone to satisfy her because deep down she feels you can't because of your yeye stand and fall prick. Since you have tried outside let her try too. You're not ready for marriage oga stamina. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Uten9z(m): 8:42am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,
I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
I await your responses, suggestions and advice.
Many thanks, My brother sexual asruser in most men have to do with peace m, joy and excitement you get from spouse, so how she try to kill this factor in you will depress the sexual feeling or affection you can have for her . those other girls, you literally have no any emotional obligations or expectation with them so you are first sycologically triggered . Another factor is sight how she possibly do what she do that take ur sexual desire off, cuz sex is grately influence by sight. 1 Like |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by jaxxy(m): 8:54am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
I have only codedly bn trying to tell her that i feel Hot n get long erections while I'm away. But, as a man u know its only a matter of time before both families get in on this matter. She alrdy told my family n i am quite sure she's told hers as much perhaps they r only trying to be reserved by not asking me yet. So mentally I'm under pressure but then u also think "but i dont rly have a problem with my tool." So wetin man go do? why would ur tool work outside and not at home. Do u think there's more to it or do u feel unattractive to ur wife? Or is she not doing enough to make ur sexual experience what it should be like the ladies outside. This is all abit too strange that why I'm trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by inspectorg(m): 8:59am On May 26, 2023 |
Oga it may seem ironical but let me burst ur mind for the fact u Do not feel erotically dirty with ur wife always; combining u are barely a year in marriage, u have A deep Love for ur wife and u truely respect her and still trying to know more about her emotions and passion. Get on it: put in more work on understanding ur wife, i u wish a very happy married life. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by zinaunreal(m): 9:02am On May 26, 2023 |
You wan kee your wife na . That's just the truth of the matter. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by CyracksMrBlogger(m): 9:10am On May 26, 2023 |
Mokole2023:
Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal? karma at work here. |
| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Mokole2023: 9:12am On May 26, 2023 |
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| Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Cujo007: 9:21am On May 26, 2023 |
Sorry to say, but it's called "marriage". Many married men go through this especially when they are above 35yrs. Marriage comes with a lot commitment, work, stress, and expectations. These take a toll on the man and affects erections. Most often it's a mental/psychological issue and u have to work thru it together. But I never said it's going to be easy. Because, it won't. Try talking through your stressor and find ways to limit them or rise above them, for a start. We can escalate from there. Mokole2023:
Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal? 2 Likes |
