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Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Gerrard59(m): 1:03pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme: The children did the right thing. The next is to cut-off such people from their lives. If they could not assist their brother while alive, they will never assist his children now that he is dead. They should hold the grudge till thy kingdom come. They should not forgive or forget. Hold the malice till infinity. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Billionaire2: 1:07pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Wickedness and hypocrisy Even in death the money they contribute isn’t from their heart… it’s just to avoid what people will say 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by CodeTemplar: 1:10pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
You may not like my response but what can I do? There are a number of reasons. 1. Perception of the fellow in need being diabolical and using the assistance as a medium to harm them spiritually. 2. Plain hatred for the person in need and thus wanting to make him suffer. 3. The downfall of the one I need is intricately tied to their prosperity(witchcraft) and so they subtly avoid helping him but prefer to take credit for his expenses and little successes (my personal experience). 4. Lack of trust due to past exploitation of assistance by the one in need. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by slaypapa: 1:10pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
All of ur comments have valid points. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by CodeTemplar: 1:11pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Billionaire2:or to take credit for his physical wellbeing. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by OvertheTop(m): 1:12pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Exmilitant: This is OPs is Saying : There is no need for the Bolded! you don't need to contribute after Death since you never Contributed before death.. Your point is understandable 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by President2001(m): 1:17pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
We don't celebrate people when they are alive that's African culture 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by OvertheTop(m): 1:18pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme: Family is for 30% support while you get back on your feet Quickly without falling into the entitlement trap and becoming LAZY Do not be the one to need the support in the Family. You too are capable of Rendering the Support too. May God help us all( Especially Men) 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by CodeTemplar: 1:20pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Skyview01:if the man isn't entitled then the children were right to reject what he isn't entitled to. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by gentleguy1975: 1:23pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme:but, the thing is, some people do this for selfish reason and not out of compassion,if they fail to help giving the dead,a befitting burial, the community and other relatives would tag them as being wicked, it's a show off thing 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by CodeTemplar: 1:24pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Skyview01:Dont stereotype. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by TheGift: 1:34pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme:I don't, by the grace of God. And by the grace of God, I won't. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by chi4ik4(m): 1:34pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
I recently had heart attack for 4 days resulting from wrong injections and overdose. My test results were horrible and I called, texted and chatted up my lovely friend who is a medical doctor, whom I have sacrified all for both in cash and in kind but she ignored me, I only needed her to guide me medically, interpret my results for me and suggestion another good hospital I could use since we reside in the same state but she never showed any concern. I almost lost my life when I was poorly managed in a hospital until another person refered me to very good hospital that is currently managing my case. This person still don't show any concern and if I had died now, she would been posting my pics everywhere. Note: I never let her down whenever she needs me both in cash and in kind and I only needed her medical counsel. Over 1.5m spent already but I'm glad that I'm alive and active. Just forget people but pray and work hard. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Nobody: 1:37pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
It's their money and they're entitled to it. Let them help you at their own free will, not because you feel entitled to it just because the person is a family member. Chibuezem: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by LARRYOBRAIN(m): 1:41pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Don't pay evil with evil. Exmilitant: |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Darlingme(f): 1:43pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
chi4ik4:Too bad. Sorry for what you're going through and hope you're improving? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Ismael97(m): 1:49pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme: Ask him o |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by vickydevoka(m): 1:50pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme:If your 2 sister and brother have 6 kids and your salary is 500k. Call them everyday and asks them how are you, ok. Omo!! Best way to help your family, pick one person and make him grow. Make sure you follow up so he won’t divert. If you have two people doing well, even burial money no go be problem. Some family de sale land to do burial 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
chi4ik4: Normally this doctors dey wicked wella especially females 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Wodu89: 1:52pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
chi4ik4: Human beings 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Ismael97(m): 1:52pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: Human beings are getting increasingly wicked on a daily. I've given up on Humanity. Only a few people are good. The rest are bad. I've been here crying out for 5k to buy drugs for my sick son, and all I get is insults and been tagged a scammer. I'm tired with Life generally 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by occfx: 2:00pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme: An average black man believes the lesser the population the more opportunity for him so, when a poor person dies, you are minus one burden to them, they will happily contribute money for your exit. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by OmoGomesIlorin: 2:05pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Because every man is responsible for his life. But when the relative dies, his dead body becomes a burden to others, and they need to bury him to avoid double wahala 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
We're a family because mother nature just happened.. If you're going to live your life always expecting other people to give you handouts in the name of family, then prepare yourself for disappointments because each one of us has got a race to run in this life and just because someone appears to be financially stable, it doesn't always have to mean all is well with the person. And what will you gain from using these insults of yours Merch: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by bukatyne(f): 2:14pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme:[img][/img] Well, because they know that after the one off contribution for the burial, they are free. It is easier to contribute for a burial ceremony than be responsible for feeding a man and his family every month. Except you can provide him with a tool for fishing for himself which some poor people don't want. You also do not know if the rich relatives have tried fruitfulnessly to drag the man out of poverty by teaching him how to fish without yielding results. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by YaQsGaYa(m): 2:15pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Ask my uncle this ❓ I even asked him to give me half of my coffin money make I use do business still he no gree, he say na full he wan pay. I tell am sey no wallaha.... |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by bukatyne(f): 2:17pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
Darlingme: Would you prefer they leave the dead people without burial? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by OmoGomesIlorin: 2:22pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
vickydevoka: Helping some people is very difficult and doesn't worth the stress. in January 2021, I promised a neighbour to help him raise some amount of money as loan so hi wife can use it to start a small business which could help them feed. Besides the money I promised, all the business ideas I share with them non were accepted. In the long run, I found they had planned how to use the money to pay house rent. I have to cut the money down to 30%. Up till now, they had not pay back the money. When they had the money, they prefer to use the money to sponsor their daughter's Navy recruitment. Now what do you think will be my worldview about helping people? I have had other experiences. This day I have limit my PH attitude 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by bukatyne(f): 2:26pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
LARRYOBRAIN: Did he tell you his uncle was evil or he was paying him back with evil? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Poor Loved Ones To Die, Then Start Contributing For Burial? by Emekmart: 2:28pm On Jun 06, 2023 |
In fact many of these people help outsiders rather than their own relatives. They are well known outside and even have chieftains titles from outside but their imidiate family members suffer in poverty. Sometimes their money is not genuine. In the olden days we are our brother keepers not nowadays. God delivere us. |
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