Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

Acidosis:


Okay. Please assist her in moving her belongings to her father's house.

cococandy:
Just know if you continue you will do everything by yourself until the end of your lives. He will never change and he will never take on your responsibilities seeing as you’re taking his. Instead he will consider it insulting if you ask him to. So you’ll end up married but single. Decide what you want

Darlingme:
Mothers are busy training lazy male children.

In my opinion, too much attention is being given to the ladies on how to be a good wife, but men on the other hand, are not being thought on how to become a better husband. Any unproductive young man, is advised to get a wife inorder for him to behave well, whereas, in most cases, he will later torment the woman.
What you're not as a single person, it's hard to suddenly become it in marriage.

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

cococandy:
Just know if you continue you will do everything by yourself until the end of your lives. He will never change and he will never take on your responsibilities seeing as you’re taking his. Instead he will consider it
insulting if you ask him to. So you’ll end up married but single. Decide what you want

unbiased2021:
■ Sounds like you’re not married.
Well there are other ways to ginger the man up through negligence. If you ginger am, he go man up. Not divorce cos it’s not rosy out there as a single momma of 2 either

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

Darlingme:
■ Mothers are busy training lazy male children.
In my opinion, too much attention is being given to the ladies on how to be a good wife, but men on the other hand, are not being thought on how to become a better husband. Any unproductive young man, is advised to get a wife inorder for him to behave well, whereas, in most cases, he will later torment the woman.
What you're not as a single person, it's hard to suddenly become it in marriage.

GodPrince:
abeg shut up your mouth, you wise well well so how come different guys them take fhuck the hell out of you give you belle run leave you to take care of 2 bastard babies wey dey grow up with you now and they nor know their fathers? The Igbo boy wen dey fhuck you now for warri go still leave you wen he don taya to fhuck your old weak Toto after he give you 3rd child belle he go discharge leave you. U dey advice her to get problem with her jobless husband but different people don fhuck you get belle run leave children for you, abi u think say we nor know your matter for area? Kolo

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

fyzaila:
They'll say if a lady demand for money while dating, she isn't a complete wife material. Imagine! It is only stingy broke a$$ men that makes the above statement. How can you claim you love a woman and find it difficult to spend on her?

Ladies pull your ear and repeat after me "i will never start what i cannot finish"

In as much as i believe in this saying "lets grow together " that doesn't mean you should act mumuishly all because of love. The lets grow together should be after marriage. You clearly saw that he was neglecting his responsibility even before marriage so what now makes you think he was going to change after marriage? When he sees you as his problem solver, desperado. Why should you even agree to such marriage in the first place? In this 22nd century where things aren't easy for an average income earners let alone a low income earner.

Now see innocent children you brought to this world to face the circumstances created by their parents. For the sake of those children, go and report him be it family members or human right or court. Where he'll be forced to get up and start acting responsibly by providing for the kids. Because if you divorce now, the responsibility will still be on you.

Or abi you have found a lover who is willing to accept and take care of you and the kids? Hmmm my sister don't believe any son of man who says he's gonna do that o. Let's face reality, no man will accept to shoulder another man's child/children responsibility knowing fully well their father is very much alive and kicking. Think twice o, before they turn you into an after two hook up mama.

Kubin:
your husband is into bet watch her closely you will know,he either play with his phone or play visual is a betting should,all the thing u mentioned are characteristics of gambler they hardly take responsibility,am speaking out of experience.

oweniwe:
Responses on this thread are one of the many reasons why men are pushed into doing ritual, fraud and other gory things in order to earn money.

All they care about is themselves and children. Nobody care about the man's wellbeing. If he die tomorrow, God forbid, what have the wife gained? Is being alive not enough reasons to be thankful and appreciative?

When he had a job, he was taking care of everything. But there's no job, what do you want him to do? Should he go and rob and burgle.

Everyone keep saying he can't take care of his children.. his children.. shebi the children are his? Oya let him carry one of the children and use to do ritual money.

ahnie:

This one just newly joined nairaland

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

ahnie:
The oga above me Sha!

Klass99:


What did I just read? Ehn ehn tell me something! As a husband what exactly is his role again? A woman should reorient and give a man purpose?

Didn't he know what his purpose in life was before taking on the responsibilities of marriage and fatherhood? Are you men not the logical gender who know it all and don't need us or marriage, except to procreate only?

Now you need us to also hand hold, baby sit and give you purpose too . There is nothing I won't read from NL men. Are his hands broken or is his brain malfunctioning? That man is just a lazy free loader fortunate to have found a woman who is willing to play her role and play his role too. Don't make excuses for him!

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

seanwilliam:
I don’t know if your story is true, but verily I say unto you , if you divorce him , even though I detest irresponsible men, I swear there are 95% chances that you’ll regret it .

Single mothers are finding it hard out here, prepare your puna for general shagging wether u like it or not for crumb . I know this won’t go down well with u and you’ll want to claim “ mrs capable” but trust me, a bird at hand is better than thousands in the bush. Dem go knack u so tey, at some point, you’ll even wish to only bare a man’s surname. And if you genuinely love your kids, single handedly raising them is the greatest disservice you can do to them .

Don’t be fooled by this woke generation .

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

seanwilliam:
I don’t know if your story is true, but verily I say unto you , if you divorce him , even though I detest irresponsible men, I swear there are 95% chances that you’ll regret it .

Single mothers are finding it hard out here, prepare your puna for general shagging wether u like it or not for crumb . I know this won’t go down well with u and you’ll want to claim “ mrs capable” but trust me, a bird at hand is better than thousands in the bush. Dem go knack u so tey, at some point, you’ll even wish to only bare a man’s surname. And if you genuinely love your kids, single handedly raising them is the greatest disservice you can do to them .

Don’t be fooled by this woke generation .

cococandy:
Period. This is a new age and everyone who wants to survive must adapt.

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?t