OriOko88:

So wat later happened

I dey nairaland dey tell una so.
If you think your partner is lying and has inaccurate stories omo bail o. Sad thing the guy seeing was doing rubbish with na small pikin

But I never said I have issues with people using my phone.

What I don't like is when you start snooping around and checking things that don't concern you.

If you want to use my phone to call or text someone, or to take pictures, even to play a game or surf the internet, I'll gladly give it to you... Most of the time if my phone rings and I'm not close to it, but it happens that my man is next to it, I'll ask him to answer it for me and same applies with the messages.

What I don't like is when the person starts reading my WhatsApp messages, going through my inbox, and checking my call history just so he could see the number of people that I've been communicating with during the day and the content of the messages... It's wrong.

I also ask for my nephews and niece permission before I could use their phones.

TheBillyonaire:


Phone belongs to private domains, it is not right to check someone's phone if you are not in their private life. Hiusbands and wives have full right into each other's private life including phones because their relationship is not public, but private.

But if you feel the need to not allow your partner into your phone then you are not sharing private lives, therefore are not supposed to be together in that union. That is the truth.

There are people who once had need to keep their phone sessions private to their partners, but the moment you meet that one person that is all you need in one. You will not even have time think of making phones private, because there will be no need for privacy. You both will move to secret lives and you both will know the smell of your armpits and phones will have no need for passwords against each other.

Samantha124:
But I never said I have issues with people using my phone.

What I don't like is when you start snooping around and checking things that don't concern you.

If you want to use my phone to call or text someone, or to take pictures, even to play a game or surf the internet, I'll gladly give it to you... Most of the time if my phone rings and I'm not close to it, but it happens that my man is next to it, I'll ask him to answer it for me and same applies with the messages.

What I don't like is when the person starts reading my WhatsApp messages, going through my inbox, and checking my call history just so he could see the number of people that I've been communicating with during the day and the content of the messages... It's wrong.

I also ask for my nephews and niece permission before I could use their phones.

Your nephews and nieces are not in your secret life, not even a boyfriend is, but married people have moved from public to private then secret lives. Partners in marriage must invade each other.s privacy as a matter of trust test.

I found out that Sha had sex with a guy 2days before she came to my house. She never denied and pleaded but in return, she saw my wedding card and cried bitterly. I'm blessed with 2 boys and a girl now while she's still single roaming the streets of Asaba

Being in a marriage with someone does not mean you mustn't have privacy, we all need that personal privacy.

TheBillyonaire:


Your nephews and nieces are not in your secret life, not even a boyfriend is, but married people have moved from public to private then secret lives. Partners in marriage must invade each other.s privacy as a matter of trust test.

Samantha124:
Being in a marriage with someone does not mean you mustn't have privacy, we all need that personal privacy.

You are right, and it is the reasoning of those who are not married. And there is a little segment of the society that have marriedly the wrong persons for good reasons, such is not a proper marriage in principle.

You can not even dream of hiding something from a real partner in marriage.

I never mentioned anything about hiding things from your spouse and there's no such a thing as a good marriage because each marriage is different from the other... Just because you're married, it doesn't make you a marriage expert.

Tell me this, if your best friend confides in you right now on WhatsApp, will you then go and tell your wife about it?

TheBillyonaire:


You are right, and it is the reasoning of those who are not married. And there is a little segment of the society that have marriedly the wrong persons for good reasons, such is not a proper marriage in principle.

You can not even dream of hiding something from a real partner in marriage.

Samantha124:
I never mentioned anything about hiding things from your spouse and there's no such a thing as a good marriage because each marriage is different from the other... Just because you're married, it doesn't make you a marriage expert.

Tell me this, if your best friend confides in you right now on WhatsApp, will you then go and tell your wife about it?

Yes. My best friends do not confide, they do not talk about their secret lives with people on their private lives level. Only husbands and wives are qualified to get into that level of relationship. There is yet another person that seeks to do that. They are called spies.

So, except you see your committed life partner as a spy, you have no need for boundaries at that level.

Married or not, this information is common sense.

Do you allow your wife to go through your phone all the time?

TheBillyonaire:


Yes. My best friends do not confide, they do not talk about their secret lives with people on their private lives level. Only husbands and wives are qualified to get into that level of relationship. There is yet another person that seeks to do that. They are called spies.

So, except you see your committed life partner as a spy, you have no need for boundaries at that level.

Married or not, this information is common sense.

Samantha124:
Do you allow your wife to go through your phone all the time?

Yes. She has full access.

I noticed when we dated that she used to check my whatsapp messages. So I simply maintained no password policy on any of my phones or laptop. So she has full access to my digital life, and it is easy for me cos I am not on social media except twitter. Nairaland is too harsh for her to even visit, so I have no qualms.

Okay... I'm not hiding anything, but I love my privacy... The most important thing is trust and respect.

How is nairaland too harsh for her? Bring her here so that we can toughen her up... .. I will deliberately bash her myself for no reason...

TheBillyonaire:


Yes. She has full access.

I noticed when we dated that she used to check my whatsapp messages. So I simply maintained no password policy on any of my phones or laptop. So she has full access to my digital life, and it is easy for me cos I am not on social media except twitter. Nairaland is too harsh for her to even visit, so I have no qualms.

Babaalajo:
For people that are saying they don't need to check their partners phone, don't you like to know the real person you are dealing with ? Even some friends are evil but you love them and always wish them well,the truth is no one is perfect in this life but I'll like to know who I'm dealing with if I had the opportunity..

They're cheaters who're trying to say it's lame. It's 100% justified. So you can check their private part but not their phone?

ShaqFu:
Don't be scared, I have good things to show you, it'll make your heart skip a beat and your mouth water. 😁

Why does that sound dirty coming from you?

Ishilove:

Why does that sound dirty coming from you?

Oh trust me, dirt doesn't come near it, but pleasure...

ShaqFu:
Oh trust me, dirt doesn't come near it, but pleasure...

Yeyenatu

Ishilove:

Yeyenatu

Yeah Yeah not you,
hell yeah it is you,
When I remove your glasses,
And plant kisses on your eyes...

Sounds dirty enough for you? 😁😁😁

ShaqFu:

Yeah Yeah not you,
hell yeah it is you,
When I remove your glasses,
And plant kisses on your eyes...

Sounds dirty enough for you? 😁😁😁

Go on...

I remember seeing a WhatsApp chat between my x & a former school mate, who’s also a friend, about how he didn’t penetrate her the last time she came over to his office (she goes to use the internet at his office to download heavy files).

He was trying to psyche her up to come again, since my x has been avoiding to go to his office since the incident.

I was shocked & left the chat page for her to see first thing when she wakes up in the morning to check her phone.

She was distraught when she knew I’ve found out & very nervous because I didn’t talk about it that morning.

I decided to forgive her because I saw in the chat where the guy said he didn’t penetrate her. I guessed they “had sex” with clothes on.

Oh!

What a foolish me then!

Thanks to trp.

As in sex na,I was the one that opened Facebook application for her and I usually visit it to ascertain what's happening,I view her chats,one particular guy even told her she's so sweet,and he will be going for his defence ,that she should come and handle I'm ,the way she did it the other time...after seeing this I fears her,and I had to run away,even to this I haven't told her.. though she's married and me toool...enf of story

drimzsmoke:


what thing?

dona4real:
As in sex na,I was the one that opened Facebook application for her and I usually visit it to ascertain what's happening,I view her chats,one particular guy even told her she's so sweet,and he will be going for his defence ,that she should come and handle I'm ,the way she did it the other time...after seeing this I fears her,and I had to run away,even to this I haven't told her.. though she's married and me toool...enf of story

I was only pulling your legs when I asked that question, but thanks for sharing boss!!!

Ishilove:

Go on...

come over and I'll tell you more...

🤣🤣😭

EBEk101:
I bought my ex phone, her friend told her to marry me, her reply to to the friend was, I should marry him because he bought me phone.
I knocked my head seven times and said to myself have sense

wonder233:
Almost everyone is saying they don't check their partners phones because they want "peace of mind". It simply means that deep down, people know their partners/spouses are unfaithful.
Whether we admit it or not, monogamy is unworkable. Humans are just deceiving themselves by imposing an impossible condition on themselves.
Humans, just like other animals, are instinctively drawn to varieties. Mental acuity can't eradicate this, highest, it moderates it. But there must be variety

No Matter How Much We Shield Ourselves From Realities Whether Male or Female, Nature Has Her Ways of Rowing It's Head In Us & When The Nature's Questions Started Popping Without Commensurate Responses From You, That's When The Depressions Starting Rolling It's Head Inside of You as a Gap Between Where You are & Where You Should Be !

But When You Answers All Nature's Questions Without Breaking a Sweat, That's When Fulfillments Abound !

Everyone has Different Scripts, Simply Abide By What Your Emotions Can Withstand & Deal with the Consequences Afterwards!

GOFRONT:
So many of them, male and female alike be saying "Why should I be checking my partners phone"?.

Dont check oo......dey play

Now as we speak, a thread is on frontpage (My elder sister in Dilemma) about the OP whose elder Sister ignorantly got pregnant for a guy who she never know was a pretender by keeping away his kids he got in his former marriage with another woman.

Op's sister is of the opinion that she will never snoop on her Bf's PHONE meanwhile Bf was there in her presence using his PHONE to communicate silently through Sms with his baby mamas.

But when the Tsunami hit her hard, she landed inside dilemma. You can read the story on frontpage. Its there.

thank you o jare

Nonsense talk

You can't check their phone but you can sleep with them without protection

Who is foolish?