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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Proserpina: 6:21pm On Jun 26, 2023
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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by phorget(m): 6:23pm On Jun 26, 2023
Proserpina:
Lol, do you know the bolded is a punishable offense in the UK? cheesy



Then he can keep it in Nigeria,at least UK law isnt Nigeria law... undecided

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Nobody: 6:51pm On Jun 26, 2023
Psady:
U know u r just being wasteful ask me y? Then Ur point is inconciderable,I guess u didn't get his worries.why is most black couples in abroad complaining about this same issue of trust ?

What does wasteful and inconsiderable have to do in the context of what you are saying? You should be more concerned with how to express yourself grammatically than quoting me.
My response to the OP was just me saying on a lighter note that the current issue with his wife is not a enough reason to leave a stable country where he is living well to Nigeria that is extremely bad at the moment. I'm sure he likely sold all his properties to relocate there. People who are settled here with jobs and all are finding it difficult to cope in this harsh economy not to talk of the OP who wants to move back in a haste, probably he hasn't even saved enough capital to set up a business in Nigeria. Is the suffering and hardship he'll likely face with kids for that matter worth it?
There are better ways to handle the current issue, like get an additional job, just make sure he earns more her. Communicate effectively with his wife, not shout. Let her know the effect of her actions on the family especially the kids and then come up with a solution together.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Foxie: 7:08pm On Jun 26, 2023
Acidosis:
Your reasons for relocating are not clear. I think it is lame to always include healthcare as one of the main reasons for relocating out of Nigeria, especially to places like the UK. That reason has never made sense to me.

Healthcare cost may be cheaper in the UK but access ain't better (for the middle class). The only people who should be complaining of poor access are the poor villagers in Nigeria (people who don't have 20m to japa anyway).

All the private and tertiary hospitals in Lagos or Abuja are not mere monuments. They admit new patients everyday, probably faster than what you'll get in the UK, Canada, or any other developed country. In fact, Nigeria is by far the only country in the world where you can simply walk into any government hospital and see a Consultant after few minutes or hours without a prior appointment.

So I think it's time to reflect. Find a better reason to remain in the UK and continue to reinforce that belief. Remove healthcare and other related nonsense from that list unless you have a life threatening medical challenge that requires consistent funding and attention.

Btw, listening to pastor Jerry or any other new generational pastor changes nothing. They follow these programmes for the prayers and blessings they hope to get. The day pastor Jerry decides to dum.p prayer rain and requests for holiness and end time message, people like your wife will dump him. Listening to pastor Jerry is, in fact, one of the main reasons she'll continue to dress seductively. Pastor Jerry is not Pastor Kumuyi.

You should find a way to remind your wife her old time values (if she had any during her time in Naija). Environmental influences are so powerful and we can't emphasise this fact enough. The values in your new host country will most likely shape your behaviour and attitude. Today na seductive dressing, tomorrow she fit change gender or get herself a female partner.

Na you get work to do at this point o...so keep trying to talk sense into her.


I've always been a fan, you say it as it is. Well said sir!

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by faithfull18(f): 7:58pm On Jun 26, 2023
You are sure she won't come and read it here.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Ishilove: 8:53pm On Jun 26, 2023
Nlanalyst:
If you need free ride from the airport to your hotel or home upon your arrival. Quote me later.
It's 100% free of charge.
There's no free lunch in Freetown. What's in it for you?
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Nlanalyst: 8:55pm On Jun 26, 2023
Ishilove:

There's no free lunch in Freetown. What's in it for you?
If you couldn't figure the subtle message in this post then you're too dull to be engaged.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Ishilove: 8:59pm On Jun 26, 2023
Nlanalyst:

If you couldn't figure the subtle message in this post then you're too dull to be engaged.
Says someone who sounds like a kidnapper planning his next heist. Ogbeni ko'oriburuku ko geddifok.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Psady(m): 9:07pm On Jun 26, 2023
BrighterThanDay:


What does wasteful and inconsiderable have to do in the context of what you are saying? You should be more concerned with how to express yourself grammatically than quoting me.
My response to the OP was just me saying on a lighter note that the current issue with his wife is not a enough reason to leave a stable country where he is living well to Nigeria that is extremely bad at the moment. I'm sure he likely sold all his properties to relocate there. People who are settled here with jobs and all are finding it difficult to cope in this harsh economy not to talk of the OP who wants to move back in a haste, probably he hasn't even saved enough capital to set up a business in Nigeria. Is the suffering and hardship he'll likely face with kids for that matter worth it?
There are better ways to handle the current issue, like get an additional job, just make sure he earns more her. Communicate effectively with his wife, not shout. Let her know the effect of her actions on the family especially the kids and then come up with a solution together.
Saying you being wasteful was just a mere joke for qouting the whole thread.And saying your point is inconciderable is you not profering any solution to the Op's present predicament through your response.I know you good in the use of English unlike me , am trying to be better.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Investor137: 9:13pm On Jun 26, 2023
But how some men finds somebody’s wife attractive still baffles me…

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by henrimoto(m): 9:16pm On Jun 26, 2023
Foodqueen:
U want to forgo everything you and your children have there cos of a woman

She has tasted it, even if u bring her back here, burn her passport, she will still find her way somehow to go back.

What do u really have here waiting for you.

U want to relocate her to naija to start afresh.

It won't end well.
....You think it's easy like that., before she knows, 18 months don meet her for 9JA.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Zupay: 9:54pm On Jun 26, 2023
kingthreat:
OP is just one of many people that have sacrificed their marriage, happiness and relationships because of Japa.
@OP, tell her you have a top job at an oil company wey dey pay X3 wey you dey earn for UK. Tell boys make them draft you confirmed letter, print am show am to your wife. Tell am say una still go dey go UK for visits. She go follow you come back. grin

She won't come back.....that is confirmed.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by WantsandMore: 9:55pm On Jun 26, 2023
Nlanalyst:
If you need free ride from the airport to your hotel or home upon your arrival. Quote me later.
It's 100% free of charge.
grin cheesy
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Mantilla(m): 10:24pm On Jun 26, 2023
Chief look don't stress your self much about that woman. Once lunch an investigation to really understand what is going on. Make devil no use your wife draw you back.
Just take good care of your daughter and work hard.
Sit your wife down and explain yourself to her, let her know the things that she is doing that's not sitting in well with you.
If she refuse to change, call her parents to talk to her.
She is an opportunist 🤷
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Nobody: 11:05pm On Jun 26, 2023
Psady:
Saying you being wasteful was just a mere joke for qouting the whole thread.And saying your point is inconciderable is you not profering any solution to the Op's present predicament through your response.I know you good in the use of English unlike me , am trying to be better.

No one is perfect bro, we are all a work in progress. I felt bad that you just attacked my previous comment without seeing the humour in it, reason for my response. All the best bro.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Nlanalyst: 11:11pm On Jun 26, 2023
Ishilove:

Says someone who sounds like a kidnapper planning his next heist. Ogbeni ko'oriburuku ko geddifok.
Your interpretation is based on your level of intelligence, little one.
I definitely can't ease you of your stupidity.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Damilolly(f): 1:36am On Jun 27, 2023
Many posters have given sensible replies of which this is one.

I just want to reiterate to the OP that Pastor Jerry celebrates Hilda the cook for her fame, position and wealth; till today he's not had anything to say about her way of life. If your wife does similar, shakes her bum almost naked, wears just netting etc but hits the jackpot she'll be celebrated by people like him and testify of financial blessings. He was recently called out for giving a very rara actress a huge amount of money for her birthday. Men like him preach "prosperity" not the "gospel" that Jesus came to share. Yes, he might utter one or two sentences about holiness once in a blue moon but 99% of the program is about how much you can get if you fully submit to him/his ministry. So hopefully you'll also give him some money while doing all you can to get more via your professions even if it's dressing skimpy selling lust.

Perhaps it's time as the spiritual head of your home to decipher what it means to follow Jesus and then begin to institute it in your home. Read the Bible yourself in your home as a family daily so you see directly what God says, not outsourced to men who plucked verses out from all over the place to make a selfish point totally out of context and for their own benefit. Thankfully you already have a child who can align with you as you direct your family but hurry before she becomes a teenager.

Ps: please do not lie or do anything illegal, immoral or unethical.
If you succeed in deceiving your wife, falsely imprisoning her, destroying her passport etc how does that build your home and relationship with not only your wife but your creator and what does it teach your child? If your child intends to remain in the West you need to be intentional about the values you teach her. If the examples set are that it's ok to break the law to have one's way it will be hard for her to resist temptation when she is faced with it. She might be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, IT professional etc but she's tempted to take some meds, breach confidentiality, etc and that can ruin one's career in a land where the law is mainly followed to the letter.

You're the man of your home, lead in love as the head, serve them, help some more with the house work.
Your wife is earning more and doing most of the house work. I assure you she hasn't picked up UK attitudes. She won't be doing that if it was the case. I pray you do the right thing for your home.

Acidosis:
Btw, listening to pastor Jerry or any other new generational pastor changes nothing. They follow these programmes for the prayers and blessings they hope to get. The day pastor Jerry decides to dum.p prayer rain and requests for holiness and end time message, people like your wife will dump him. Listening to pastor Jerry is, in fact, one of the main reasons she'll continue to dress seductively. Pastor Jerry is not Pastor Kumuyi.

You should find a way to remind your wife her old time values (if she had any during her time in Naija). Environmental influences are so powerful and we can't emphasise this fact enough. The values in your new host country will most likely shape your behaviour and attitude. Today na seductive dressing, tomorrow she fit change gender or get herself a female partner.

Na you get work to do at this point o...so keep trying to talk sense into her.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by DBraveT(m): 2:58am On Jun 27, 2023
First of all,TINUBU WAN SUFFOCATE US HERE O.
I never marry o but i think base on people's experiences and books i had read about marriages,i have a point to chip in..
Calm down follow this issue,no rush or pressurize yourself into any quick decisions.
You know the norms over there is different. their rules very strict.
Women could be very curning and dangerous at times.
So get patient and study her very very very well and get 100% justfiable evidences so that make you no go take a regrettable decisions.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by grandstar(m): 3:55am On Jun 27, 2023
twang414:
If by any reason, I regret relocating into the UK, in a way my soul swears for that man called buhari, because not only will I have been able to cope in Nigeria because I financially doing well, it just seem like the insecurity, delapitated financial, health, educational anf other sector has fallen short of catastrophic mess reason why I left. Sequel to my previous post on here, I have seen people blame me for apparently doing somethings am nt meant to do, but then no matter what I come here to discuss, na me know the intoto, and na me know exactly the toe inside the shoe wey dey pain me. The recent event of yawa that happened was when myself, my colleague who found me the job that am working at now went for lunch break, and I have sang plenty praises and accolades about this my friend to madam about how nice he has been to me and she knew he was the one that linked me to this good job. Recalling that day, she had called me at work that shes coming to London area with her director, a lady she met in this country who also linked her to beauty and cosmetic business with a well known brand thaat they want to come and sample and sell some products at a mall there in London. So during lunch, i called madam, cos we normally go to get launch at this same mall. Omo na so I call madam oo, sey shey u dey around, sey me and my friend dey mall for lunch, if u dey around make you for meet and greet am o, she come sey she dey one eatery, make i waka come there, funny enough we were just a minute away from her. Lo and behold as i saw madam and her director, I greeted the director, then reached out to madam to introduce her to my friend, omo she just sat down there, me wen dey expect sey since u know this na my correct friend wey help my life, u go at least stand up and greet him proper, omo she didnt stand, and I could see the way my friend was nodding his head while talking to her, it shows a sign of respect, but madam didnt reciprocate, I felt somehow...after the intro we left and I called her few mins later sey why u come downgrade me like that, that you could not even greet my friend proper, in which as of one i observed her while sitting there, the cloth she wore was an eyesore, so I knew thats why she didnt stand up,so I said why you come wear this kind clothe wey I know sey u nor fit wear comot for house if I was at home, she quickly confessed that it was because of what she wore that made her not stand up to greet my friend, that she apologised, but she has something to tell me, I said what, that is it possible that I allow her to be free to wear whatever she wants, that for example because of how shes dressed, it drew attention towards her that people tend to approach her for the product while giving her commendations that they like her shape and body, that she sold more products than her director, i was like wow, and u listen to pastor JERRY every morning, if you practice the preachings and you allign by the words that you hear, do you think you approach is the best way to sell your business? That you feel using your body as an object of attraction to well market to me is an indirect process of establishing organized and professional prostitustion. She said no oo, that sebi me I know sey UK tough, and she had to use whatever way to convince customers to buy from her. It didnt end there, wetin come burst my head be sey, she come tell me to allow her be free with whatever she wants to wear, and that I should put it into writing for evidential purpose so I wont deny it in the future that I accepted, omo my hND FALL, Something wey nor fit sup for NIJA.
I stylishly agreed, and penned it down on whatsapp message that I agree, I did it because, to catch a monkey u must act like one, u cant drag anything as such as that here, cos if I disgree, she go do am anyways and it will only cause more probs, but for my mind, we never spend a year, u dun dey run crazy race, me wen use millions carry us come here na to come here come dey follow your own dirty mandates, so I just dey plan on how we go go back Nija and destroy our passports. Since that time, she dun dey wear werin she like, wey be sey my daughter come tell me one day sey she nor like wetin mummy wear comot that she had to keep dragging her shirt down to cover her bum, I Was devastated that my 10year old will have such conscience and awareness.

As he be now, I wan use style sey my 40th birthday will be celebrated in nija, if she gork the FM we all go together, na say gobe, we nor dey come back again. The recent issue wey I experience na denial of sex. I go touch am, plz plz am tired....or am not in the mood, truth be spoken, there are different reasons why a woman might feel that way, and I pretty much understand that there are certain reasons like fatigue from work, too much thoughts, cos this town na billing, she does most of the house chores, so that alone can be wearing her out, but when we dey nija, no matter how stressed, tired or mentally down she is, she go open for me, its not even about turning me down, its about the way she does it, angrily and authoritatively, na then i come dey sense sey there could be more to it, is it because I earn lesser now that I was in nija, is it because the system is changing her mentals. I come give am lamba one day, i said I dreamt u have started having feelings for someone else, (jokingly oo) she said where, in school or where, I replied the dream is not clear, so U dont know, she said is it Lanre ( the guy I complainedabout in my previous ost) I said the dream did not reveal any identity, he nor reach 12 mins after we don ditch that discussion, She just came from nowhere and said damn am honrny, something wey i never hear from her in a while, now thinking, is it because I raised the false dream story? Something aint adding up there, in which I saw on her phone dey ask the guy to borrow her 30pounds, that does not speak well to me. Nlanders does any1 have a perfectly built up story or FM to take cornishly take us bk to nija, or the one I talked about is legit and ok? Nobody knows it all, why am here. Remain blessed brothers and sister.

You guys should learn to use paragraphs.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Bambam321(m): 4:01am On Jun 27, 2023
twang414:
If by any reason, I regret relocating into the UK, in a way my soul swears for that man called buhari, because not only will I have been able to cope in Nigeria because I financially doing well, it just seem like the insecurity, delapitated financial, health, educational anf other sector has fallen short of catastrophic mess reason why I left. Sequel to my previous post on here, I have seen people blame me for apparently doing somethings am nt meant to do, but then no matter what I come here to discuss, na me know the intoto, and na me know exactly the toe inside the shoe wey dey pain me. The recent event of yawa that happened was when myself, my colleague who found me the job that am working at now went for lunch break, and I have sang plenty praises and accolades about this my friend to madam about how nice he has been to me and she knew he was the one that linked me to this good job. Recalling that day, she had called me at work that shes coming to London area with her director, a lady she met in this country who also linked her to beauty and cosmetic business with a well known brand thaat they want to come and sample and sell some products at a mall there in London. So during lunch, i called madam, cos we normally go to get launch at this same mall. Omo na so I call madam oo, sey shey u dey around, sey me and my friend dey mall for lunch, if u dey around make you for meet and greet am o, she come sey she dey one eatery, make i waka come there, funny enough we were just a minute away from her. Lo and behold as i saw madam and her director, I greeted the director, then reached out to madam to introduce her to my friend, omo she just sat down there, me wen dey expect sey since u know this na my correct friend wey help my life, u go at least stand up and greet him proper, omo she didnt stand, and I could see the way my friend was nodding his head while talking to her, it shows a sign of respect, but madam didnt reciprocate, I felt somehow...after the intro we left and I called her few mins later sey why u come downgrade me like that, that you could not even greet my friend proper, in which as of one i observed her while sitting there, the cloth she wore was an eyesore, so I knew thats why she didnt stand up,so I said why you come wear this kind clothe wey I know sey u nor fit wear comot for house if I was at home, she quickly confessed that it was because of what she wore that made her not stand up to greet my friend, that she apologised, but she has something to tell me, I said what, that is it possible that I allow her to be free to wear whatever she wants, that for example because of how shes dressed, it drew attention towards her that people tend to approach her for the product while giving her commendations that they like her shape and body, that she sold more products than her director, i was like wow, and u listen to pastor JERRY every morning, if you practice the preachings and you allign by the words that you hear, do you think you approach is the best way to sell your business? That you feel using your body as an object of attraction to well market to me is an indirect process of establishing organized and professional prostitustion. She said no oo, that sebi me I know sey UK tough, and she had to use whatever way to convince customers to buy from her. It didnt end there, wetin come burst my head be sey, she come tell me to allow her be free with whatever she wants to wear, and that I should put it into writing for evidential purpose so I wont deny it in the future that I accepted, omo my hND FALL, Something wey nor fit sup for NIJA.
I stylishly agreed, and penned it down on whatsapp message that I agree, I did it because, to catch a monkey u must act like one, u cant drag anything as such as that here, cos if I disgree, she go do am anyways and it will only cause more probs, but for my mind, we never spend a year, u dun dey run crazy race, me wen use millions carry us come here na to come here come dey follow your own dirty mandates, so I just dey plan on how we go go back Nija and destroy our passports. Since that time, she dun dey wear werin she like, wey be sey my daughter come tell me one day sey she nor like wetin mummy wear comot that she had to keep dragging her shirt down to cover her bum, I Was devastated that my 10year old will have such conscience and awareness.

As he be now, I wan use style sey my 40th birthday will be celebrated in nija, if she gork the FM we all go together, na say gobe, we nor dey come back again. The recent issue wey I experience na denial of sex. I go touch am, plz plz am tired....or am not in the mood, truth be spoken, there are different reasons why a woman might feel that way, and I pretty much understand that there are certain reasons like fatigue from work, too much thoughts, cos this town na billing, she does most of the house chores, so that alone can be wearing her out, but when we dey nija, no matter how stressed, tired or mentally down she is, she go open for me, its not even about turning me down, its about the way she does it, angrily and authoritatively, na then i come dey sense sey there could be more to it, is it because I earn lesser now that I was in nija, is it because the system is changing her mentals. I come give am lamba one day, i said I dreamt u have started having feelings for someone else, (jokingly oo) she said where, in school or where, I replied the dream is not clear, so U dont know, she said is it Lanre ( the guy I complainedabout in my previous ost) I said the dream did not reveal any identity, he nor reach 12 mins after we don ditch that discussion, She just came from nowhere and said damn am honrny, something wey i never hear from her in a while, now thinking, is it because I raised the false dream story? Something aint adding up there, in which I saw on her phone dey ask the guy to borrow her 30pounds, that does not speak well to me. Nlanders does any1 have a perfectly built up story or FM to take cornishly take us bk to nija, or the one I talked about is legit and ok? Nobody knows it all, why am here. Remain blessed brothers and sister.
Bring her home ASAP, her errors are still fixable before she tear eye finish
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by cococandy(f): 5:49am On Jun 27, 2023
For people telling you to travel and hold onto her passport. I feel some of you are very ignorant because do you think in this day and age, a stolen or lost passport means the owner can’t travel anymore? When they can prove their identity and in a matter of time regain access to their passport?

What you actually need is to ask yourself if you still want the marriage. Yes or no.
If no, then you know what to do. It’s not complicated.

If yes, then that’s a whole different story and attempting to deceive and hold her passport will not help your situation. Start by asking yourself if you’re still interested in the marriage or not. Then go from there.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by cococandy(f): 5:51am On Jun 27, 2023
Well said
Damilolly:
Many posters have given sensible replies of which this is one.

I just want to reiterate to the OP that Pastor Jerry celebrates Hilda the cook for her fame, position and wealth; till today he's not had anything to say about her way of life. If your wife does similar, shakes her bum almost naked, wears just netting etc but hits the jackpot she'll be celebrated by people like him and testify of financial blessings. He was recently called out for giving a very rara actress a huge amount of money for her birthday. Men like him preach "prosperity" not the "gospel" that Jesus came to share. Yes, he might utter one or two sentences about holiness once in a blue moon but 99% of the program is about how much you can get if you fully submit to him/his ministry. So hopefully you'll also give him some money while doing all you can to get more via your professions even if it's dressing skimpy selling lust.

Perhaps it's time as the spiritual head of your home to decipher what it means to follow Jesus and then begin to institute it in your home. Read the Bible yourself in your home as a family daily so you see directly what God says, not outsourced to men who plucked verses out from all over the place to make a selfish point totally out of context and for their own benefit. Thankfully you already have a child who can align with you as you direct your family but hurry before she becomes a teenager.

Ps: please do not lie or do anything illegal, immoral or unethical.
If you succeed in deceiving your wife, falsely imprisoning her, destroying her passport etc how does that build your home and relationship with not only your wife but your creator and what does it teach your child? If your child intends to remain in the West you need to be intentional about the values you teach her. If the examples set are that it's ok to break the law to have one's way it will be hard for her to resist temptation when she is faced with it. She might be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, IT professional etc but she's tempted to take some meds, breach confidentiality, etc and that can ruin one's career in a land where the law is mainly followed to the letter.

You're the man of your home, lead in love as the head, serve them, help some more with the house work.
Your wife is earning more and doing most of the house work. I assure you she hasn't picked up UK attitudes. She won't be doing that if it was the case. I pray you do the right thing for your home.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by LowKeyManny: 7:25am On Jun 27, 2023
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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by descarado: 8:39am On Jun 27, 2023
How can one read this.

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Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by tensazangetsu20(m): 12:01pm On Jun 27, 2023
Come back to Nigeria. Tinubu is doing well
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by bukatyne(f): 8:47am On Jun 28, 2023
Damilolly:
Many posters have given sensible replies of which this is one.

I just want to reiterate to the OP that Pastor Jerry celebrates Hilda the cook for her fame, position and wealth; till today he's not had anything to say about her way of life. If your wife does similar, shakes her bum almost naked, wears just netting etc but hits the jackpot she'll be celebrated by people like him and testify of financial blessings. He was recently called out for giving a very rara actress a huge amount of money for her birthday. Men like him preach "prosperity" not the "gospel" that Jesus came to share. Yes, he might utter one or two sentences about holiness once in a blue moon but 99% of the program is about how much you can get if you fully submit to him/his ministry. So hopefully you'll also give him some money while doing all you can to get more via your professions even if it's dressing skimpy selling lust.

Perhaps it's time as the spiritual head of your home to decipher what it means to follow Jesus and then begin to institute it in your home. Read the Bible yourself in your home as a family daily so you see directly what God says, not outsourced to men who plucked verses out from all over the place to make a selfish point totally out of context and for their own benefit. Thankfully you already have a child who can align with you as you direct your family but hurry before she becomes a teenager.

Ps: please do not lie or do anything illegal, immoral or unethical.
If you succeed in deceiving your wife, falsely imprisoning her, destroying her passport etc how does that build your home and relationship with not only your wife but your creator and what does it teach your child? If your child intends to remain in the West you need to be intentional about the values you teach her. If the examples set are that it's ok to break the law to have one's way it will be hard for her to resist temptation when she is faced with it. She might be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, IT professional etc but she's tempted to take some meds, breach confidentiality, etc and that can ruin one's career in a land where the law is mainly followed to the letter.

You're the man of your home, lead in love as the head, serve them, help some more with the house work.
Your wife is earning more and doing most of the house work. I assure you she hasn't picked up UK attitudes. She won't be doing that if it was the case. I pray you do the right thing for your home.


I love this kiss
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Stevenbright(m): 9:04am On Jun 28, 2023
Damilolly:
Many posters have given sensible replies of which this is one.

I just want to reiterate to the OP that Pastor Jerry celebrates Hilda the cook for her fame, position and wealth; till today he's not had anything to say about her way of life. If your wife does similar, shakes her bum almost naked, wears just netting etc but hits the jackpot she'll be celebrated by people like him and testify of financial blessings. He was recently called out for giving a very rara actress a huge amount of money for her birthday. Men like him preach "prosperity" not the "gospel" that Jesus came to share. Yes, he might utter one or two sentences about holiness once in a blue moon but 99% of the program is about how much you can get if you fully submit to him/his ministry. So hopefully you'll also give him some money while doing all you can to get more via your professions even if it's dressing skimpy selling lust.

Perhaps it's time as the spiritual head of your home to decipher what it means to follow Jesus and then begin to institute it in your home. Read the Bible yourself in your home as a family daily so you see directly what God says, not outsourced to men who plucked verses out from all over the place to make a selfish point totally out of context and for their own benefit. Thankfully you already have a child who can align with you as you direct your family but hurry before she becomes a teenager.

Ps: please do not lie or do anything illegal, immoral or unethical.
If you succeed in deceiving your wife, falsely imprisoning her, destroying her passport etc how does that build your home and relationship with not only your wife but your creator and what does it teach your child? If your child intends to remain in the West you need to be intentional about the values you teach her. If the examples set are that it's ok to break the law to have one's way it will be hard for her to resist temptation when she is faced with it. She might be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, IT professional etc but she's tempted to take some meds, breach confidentiality, etc and that can ruin one's career in a land where the law is mainly followed to the letter.

You're the man of your home, lead in love as the head, serve them, help some more with the house work.
Your wife is earning more and doing most of the house work. I assure you she hasn't picked up UK attitudes. She won't be doing that if it was the case. I pray you do the right thing for your home.


Single point of correction. The man never said his wife is earning more money than him but that he is now earning less than he used to in Nigeria.

Check his statement I quoted below:

na then i come dey sense sey there could be more to it, ""is it because I earn lesser now that I was in nija"", is it because the system is changing her mentals
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by ahnie: 9:17pm On Jul 03, 2023
Ishilove:

There's no free lunch in Freetown. What's in it for you?
He wants to beg for used clothes,that's what he does on diary section he's either begging for used keypads,games or clothes
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Ishilove: 9:51pm On Jul 03, 2023
ahnie:

He wants to beg for used clothes,that's what he does on diary section he's either begging for used keypads,games or clothes
Yet he is running his filthy mouth like a locomotive train
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by ahnie: 7:45am On Jul 04, 2023
Ishilove:

Yet he is running his filthy mouth like a locomotive train
He's a renowned ventriloquist dummy.
Re: Please I Need Advise To Relocate My Family Frim UK Back To Nija by Nnamdinaija(m): 8:15am On Jun 16
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