glojid:


Kindly read up on the effects of older men having children. It runs both ways. Just pray to God for the best in marriage. So many people have healthy children in their 40's and even 50's. The goal is to marry well and not come to Nairaland to be seeking for advice every day

Bout the Men, me I doubt cuz I've never experienced nor seen cuz my Dad's friend first child is 27 and when his wife died and he married a young lady of 23 their kids are one of the most beautiful if you'd ask me, There's another in my church to same thing, My Oc at 40+, Ned Nwoko et al. Me I have not seen

but I've seen a whole lot with women, Alot but Yes, the prayer is to marry right

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35 before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

It's true and you are right. Please take all the time you need, and make sure you are Rich so that your kids will not suffer a day of their lives. All this yarn yarn is a lie. You don't even need a Man.

sobhladi:
Is Marriage supposed to be for everyone?

No

Abi1985:
Except a woman has made up her mind that she does not want to have kids. Having children at a fertile age is key. Please do not wait too long to settle down or marry. It is not easy for many women after the age of 35 to 40s to conceive children. It is very possible for a woman to have children in her 40s and even 50s but the chances are not high compared to a woman in her 20s.

Should a woman marry a madman or have a baby with an irresponsible man because one wants to have kids? Definitely no.


Do not fall into the category of a woman who is so focused on her careers or degree that she ignore to date or ignore life after work. That PhD can wait if you already have a Master.

It's not in their position to decide because they can't marry themselves

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35, before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

How old are you?

Klass99:


@ The bolded, I am saying the same thing in different words but directing my message to men.

Men should not for the sake of trying to prove they are fertile and their pee-pees are not dysfunctional bring children into this world to suffer as well. And they should not, out of selfish motivations, of who will look after me in old age, bring children into this world to suffer.

Especially when they cannot provide for normal healthy children not to mention ones with disabilities. We both know how such stories end....the men usually walk out and walk away.

This jingle of men not taking care or providing for kids would be much effective in the North. Atleast birthing a healthy child that isn't catered for by the Dad still got lotta hope. And besides, Exposure and Civilization down South have made it possible that even if you're not responsible as a guy, at the News of your GF giving birth would tie the knot in your brain to step up hustle (happen to two of my guys, they took their life serious after their GF mistakenly got pregnant and couldn't abort) Also, such irresponsible men your talking bout are bout 10 in a thousand.

While you've got a point that men should only birth kids they can take care of we also advocate for women to know who they open Leg for and marry. cus ion think Irresponsiblity in men is hard to hide. when you see an Irresponsible man you'd know. Ladies should do better in being moved by what they hear rather than the obvious they're seeing. In this note, putting women who 70-80% of them give birth to disordered children at their old age on same scale with irresponsible men do at all no follow join/gum body. Rate it with Irresponsible mothers instead.

And that is the simple truth

It has been observed that most women today do not bother whether they have child or not.This is because adoption of child is legalized, modern technology has made it possible to have surrogate child and in addition although,its a criminal offence to buy a child, oftentimes we hear people having babies factory. With all these, some lazy and criminal minded women would not be conscious of time frame to marry or give birth. I want to thank op for this awareness. Those who are struggling to have baby and those who are having one issue or the other will tell you better.

Sandralight:
Why is it that men are the ones obsessed with when a woman should give birth lol
Abeg let women breath!!!!

Not at all. We see their desperation for marriage and fertility in different prayer houses, that is why the OP in his wisdom offered his two cents. Most women get wiser after the unfortunate has already happened, hence the caution.

Mindlog:


And which data tied those neurodevelopmental disorders exclusively to older age of conception and birth..... don't show off your ignorance.

I do Neurodevelopmental Assessments (NDAs) and a good percentage of the mothers are in their 20s and early 30s.

You should maybe research on "old sperm and birth defects".

In today's reality, it is more a function of finance not marriage for a woman to become a mother as a woman can have children without being a wife......so it is not exclusively about getting married.

How many women have this finance you're talking about.?
Continue deceiving them
Shebi na kuku fishbrain den get
Una go hiaram

Winters23:


Wtf does "settle down" even mean? Like is it that there's no real life before marriage or what

Right on point. I too don't get it.

Cromagnon:

How many women have this finance you're talking about.?
Continue deceiving them
Shebi na kuku fishbrain den get
Una go hiaram

Always remember that one "fishbrain" gave birth to you, so you are at least 50% fishbrained.

Offpointng:


Cuz we're tired of having kids with Autism, down syndrome and other associated kids disorders that comes from giving birth at an old age. Y'all should have mercy on innocent kids and take your mind off marriage and child bearing once y'all clock 35 abec

Hahaha typical naija man reasoning. It's always their woman's fault. And you think old man's sperm can't cause autism, Down syndrome etc? You that is lamenting the woman's age might even be years older than her yet you think your own aging doesn't affect sperm quality? Do you men really think that those defects are solely the females fault?

Mindlog:


Always remember that one "fishbrain" gave birth to you, so you are at least 50% fishbrained.

Tell him. He inherited part of her fish brain too.

Sandralight:
Why is it that men are the ones obsessed with when a woman should give birth lol
Abeg let women breath!!!!

The average woman doesn't like hearing the truth.

The biological clock does not work in their favour....time runs out.
Beauty fades.
Fertility diminishes!

Chances of evil increases

delishpot:


Hahaha typical naija man reasoning. It's always their woman's fault. And you think old man's sperm can't cause autism, Down syndrome etc? You that is lamenting the woman's age might even be years older than her yet you think your own aging doesn't affect sperm quality? Do you men really think that those defects are solely the females fault?

Dey play. if you like don't goan give birth to kids on time keep living in the delusion of comparison. una go cry taya later

sobhladi:
Is Marriage supposed to be for everyone?

Is anyone forcing you to marry?

Offpointng:


Dey play. if you like don't goan give birth to kids on time keep living in the delusion of comparison. una go cry taya later

Stop being an ignorant fool. If you want to learn then learn fully about reproduction as it concerns the man and woman. Stop throwing half fried akara up and down only for your ignorant followers to eat and start farting shit from their faulty brain boxes.
Fertility and reproduction doesn't only depend on the mother. Learn and learn humbly.

To be honest I'm glad i birthed my kids on time ....3kids before 30...when people see me they are amazed I'm a mom talk more of having 3 If God run am for you early be grateful....it's easier for your body to snatch back when you give birth early... It doesn't mean if you're unmarried by 30 you are committing a crime...!!!

jeromestarks:
Once a woman is above 23 before you met her, please do not have anything serious to do with her unless you want to use all your hard earned money to treat diseases which you knew nothing about.

Just fvck her and keep fvcking her until you meet a woman within 18 - 23.

How do you walk around with such an empty head? Look at the rubbish you are typing as a grown human being.

God's time is the best ma people

Abi1985:
Except a woman has made up her mind that she does not want to have kids. Having children at a fertile age is key. Please do not wait too long to settle down or marry. It is not easy for many women after the age of 35 to 40s to conceive children. It is very possible for a woman to have children in her 40s and even 50s but the chances are not high compared to a woman in her 20s.

Should a woman marry a madman or have a baby with an irresponsible man because one wants to have kids? Definitely no.


Do not fall into the category of a woman who is so focused on her careers or degree that she ignore to date or ignore life after work. That PhD can wait if you already have a Master.

How many women have you seen that barren because they married late?

Offpointng:


Cuz we're tired of having kids with Autism, down syndrome and other associated kids disorders that comes from giving birth at an old age. Y'all should have mercy on innocent kids and take your mind off marriage and child bearing once y'all clock 35 abec

Maybe you should be preaching early marriage to men then

Lilymax:


How do you walk around with such an empty head? Look at the rubbish you are typing as a grown human being.

Do u wish ur male child marry a woman who is in her 30s or in her 40s?

When you were in your teens or early 20s, do you pray to marry at the age of 30 and above? Is it not stupidity that kept you single to this age? Is it not the same stupidity that will make you choose any man that comes your way now ( why won't you? When you have pushed all good men away from your life when you thought you have time. Now your time is passed. You're angry at the truth).
Do u pray for your daughters to be singing at the age of 30?

How old was your mother when she birthed you?

Somemma13:


Please learn something today, down syndrome is highly dependent on the age of the woman. The rate of occurrence is about 1 in 1250 births among 25 year old women to 1 in 100 births among 40 year old women.

The truth is if a woman wants to have babies and also a husband, it's advisable she marries early enough.
Another reason is incident of cancers. So many cancers of the ovary are linked with nulliparity (no childbirth in women)
I don't push anyone into what they don't want but if you want to have family as a woman, you should make up your mind fast and don't be the source of your own curses.

Those numbers are mere statistics, doesn’t guarantee anything.

Secondly was the statistics conducted worldwide or just a particular geographical region.

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35, before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

but you are 36

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35, before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

Well said.
But this is not an attack but an advice.
Everyone knows OP is making sense.

As it is said, No one size fits all.
For some marrying early is a blessing.
For some marriage can wait till after they have achieved certain set goals and ambitions.

Bottomline, now where you fit and adjust yourself accordingly.

Let the poor girl breath, don't suffocate them, bearing children now is expensive, they don't need one.

sobhladi:
Is Marriage supposed to be for everyone?

For now, how society stigmatises. But soon we will get to that level of free society.