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Can This Be Love ? by bayfed: 1:22am On Jul 09, 2023 |
I had a wonderful relationship, 1 year to the relationship, I caught my partner still talking to her Ex on chats, I was angry, she cried bitterly, that it won’t occur again, fast forward to months ago, after two years plus of been in the relationship. she only comes to my house on weekends, I began noticing some changes, how she won’t place her phone on the table even when we were eating. I decided i investigate her, i discovered she recently got in a relationship with another boy in her school, i graduated this year, she’s in 200 level, am 26, while she’s 22. I read on her chat, telling the boy she’s has no man in her life. She pleaded day and night, that it wasn’t something serious, in my mind I was done, I parked her things, she lobbied me for weeks, and pleaded, like she’s was going to die, if I don’t take her back, I decide I gave her the second chance, I was depressed, as result of denial I saw on her phone. I had excessive alcohol which is bad for my ulcer, which leads to severe pains in my stomach for weeks. I visited the hospital, she accompanied me, the entire treatment took about 3 weeks. while on treatment, her birthday came, I took her out, and bought her cake, we had a wonderful time just us. 2 days later, I had previously asked her to delete the boy’s number, and stop communicating with the boy, Madam refused to listen, instead change the boys name, to another name, and was communicating with the boy, i caught her again communicating with that same boy, some of the chats I saw, was them talking about my cake, I don’t know if she took the cake to the boy in school or not. But she had deleted many other chats as usual. She pleaded again, and cried, and I allowed it slide. Fast forward to 1 month later, I made some research and have some logic that she had an affair with her ex, 3 months ago, when she went to her fathers place to spend the holiday, her ex lives close by, i put some empirical facts, and push her to say the truth, and she confessed. Now at this point, am leaving, I can’t stand this any more. She cried, pleaded and roll on the floor as usual, but am leaving, so she turn it to suicide, all she plead with now is her dying, all she is saying is her killing herself. I live in a renter apartment, it’s hard to control who comes in, last time she walked in, she picked a knife from my kitchen, and told me she’s going to end this all right here. That I will take her body to her family. I was dragging the knife with her for hours. I had to accept to forgive her, before she could let go of the knife. I called her sister, I told her everything, I told her sister, she needs her attention. But the woman seems to be quiet, it’s her husband that has been begging me to allow this woman come back to my life. It almost seems like there’s no way out of this, as the house she’s living, I rented the house for her, and no family member knows there. And she’s there speaking about killing herself everyday. Making suicidal status. And crying for me, I’m strong, but this is getting out of hand, I won’t come here to ask what to do, if it wasn’t. If I decide to block her now, there’s 100% possibility she’ll rush to my house now. It’s her dying that’s my problem, the only knows me in the compound she’s living. |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by HopeNeverDies: 2:52am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Why the fvck she toiling with ur mental Headquarter🙁 Bro lol.. she can’t die; Dey there dey play. And if she dies, Shey nah u kill am ni. Brother cut off that relationship.. regardless of anything. She isn’t just worth it. 8 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by libertyfather(m): 4:22am On Jul 09, 2023 |
End the shit with her, if nah ashawo or love she wants tell her to choose one both won't work, block her if she come around with her suicide threat make video recordings to proof ur innocent....nah so to die easy? 3 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Lungdick: 5:42am On Jul 09, 2023 |
There's nothing you can say, you're ma.d. you're are her plan B. Once she finish hoeing around, she'll come back to you. dump her ass without looking back. 9 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by online4business: 7:02am On Jul 09, 2023 |
bayfed: Had 3 girls like than eons ago. Here's how I got rid of them. If she's around invite your friends to toast her invite another one to roast her. If she agree let him f$vk her in your presence even tell her it's ok. Tell her to enjoy herself with anyone. She go get signal say you no like her na she go borrow leg run. Man don do bad thing for this life ooo 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by izonborn098(m): 7:47am On Jul 09, 2023 |
That your girl just they use u they cause cruise, if she love's u she would have obey your simple instructions. Manchi don't play with women, they can hate u and still love u at the same time. I think at this point you better change location, because i don't know whether her family people don reason her matter, and even if u countinue the relationship, u life is at stake because the girl seems violent. 'SAFETY FIRST BEFORE ANY RELATIONSHIP' |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Kingray10: 7:49am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Guy, I will advise you leave your place for a few days, lock your door, block all means of communication with her. And see if she will die. Can't you see, that, that's her technique of manipulating you to do what she wants. 4 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Bennysam: 7:55am On Jul 09, 2023 |
bayfed:She's just manipulating You 2 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Odward(m): 7:55am On Jul 09, 2023 |
I think she loves you with all her heart, my advice is marry her. She’s a keeper and she will sire so many great kids for you my bro. 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by kelspinall(m): 7:56am On Jul 09, 2023 |
you're fuhkin soft,thats why she's manipulating you,if she truly loves you she won't be hoeing around... she's a no no...tell her to quit the drama and move on, she's not afraid of losing you rather the benefits she's getting from you is her main focus.she knows that she will always come back no matter what she does thats why she keeps messing up.... WHO DATES A BICCH THAT CHEATS? ANSWER - A WEAKLING (SIMP) wake up before she has the last laugh when you will be in regrets.... 2 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by dhiqson(m): 8:01am On Jul 09, 2023 |
![]() Cheated on him thrice Forgave her thrice Came online to complain ![]() ![]() ![]() Thank You God for guys like this They make the world balanced Not everyone should be stoic Not everyone shud have sense Some need to be foolish Some need to be emasculated So as we can learn Thank you God Thank You Jesus Happy sunday y'all Remember jesus loves you ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Dyfynezz12(m): 8:04am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Jesus!, guy ur mental health is at stake here. I can't imagine myself passing thru conflicting pains because of a girl.dat girl is toturing u 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Sonnobax15(m): 9:25am On Jul 09, 2023 |
![]() Bro,like seriously,I can feel your pain right from here........I think it's high time you involved her family members..Abi she no get parents? Because I don't think the cheating part will stop and so long it'll continue, your sanity will be OFF........... The worst part is that nobody will listen to your own side of the story if she should end up committing suicide. 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Bluezy13(m): 9:31am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Na your type dey wear suit, dress cooperate drive car, but once you open mouth, person go know say you be mumu. 3 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by ITbomb(m): 10:00am On Jul 09, 2023 |
I stopped reading here She pleaded again, and cried, and I allowed it slide. ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by bayfed: 10:20am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Bluezy13: Baba e never reach like that, you understand how fight goes and shout out for directions when you’re outside the ring. But come inside the ring, you will understand, at the end we are all human. It’s blood that run out veins |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by FaAbokiWithSuit(m): 10:28am On Jul 09, 2023 |
HopeNeverDies: If you don't know the Games women play, you will suffer in this life and the next life. Op I am personally going to send you money for casket to bury her if she dies.. 3 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Bluezy13(m): 10:36am On Jul 09, 2023 |
bayfed: You're right. I have never been inside this ring because I don't want to...want to... understand. 2 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by FaAbokiWithSuit(m): 10:37am On Jul 09, 2023 |
bayfed: OHHH MY GOD! Bro let her die asap. I swear to God naa this kind of thing I dey wish for... I personally will buy her an aboki maisuya knife. Ok make I con still tell you. That her suicidal WhatsApp status, naa only you dey see the nonsense posts... She get other settings. Other people wey matter no dey see those suicidal post. See guy, I am telling you again... Go and price casket. If she dies, I am going to fund the money for casket on behalf of her parents 3 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by JOACHINpedro: 10:57am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Wait, do you call this relationship? Even the highest paying job won't demand this stress from you. You're doomed bro. You've graduated, spend some time with your family and leave that kpekus of a girl 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by kunchi(m): 11:19am On Jul 09, 2023 |
Bro that's how they behave...if you got the mind leave her for your own sake oo |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Lady97: 11:34am On Jul 09, 2023 |
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Re: Can This Be Love ? by Brandiebird: 12:12pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
1. Tell her it’s over and follow through with your decision. 2. Every time she calls you or turns up at your place record her so you have evidence of her madness. 3. Tell your family and friends about her suicide threats so that you are not framed if worst comes to worst. 4. She will not kill her self because all this noise is to emotionally blackmail you. 5. Record every interaction with her because when she can’t use suicide to control you, she will set you up! She might accuse you of rape or anything else she can make up. 6. You’re dealing with a narcissist so you need to come prepared. If all else fails: RUN! Move location and change your number. |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by vincenteger: 12:40pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
You are just playing When you are ready you know what to do to end the relationship For now keep tolerating rub bish 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by bayfed: 12:54pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Brandiebird: Thank you 🙏 e don be like this |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Karlifate: 1:56pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Odward:
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Re: Can This Be Love ? by Karlifate: 1:58pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
dhiqson: LMAO! 😂😂 |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by extremelygolden: 2:46pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
@Op. See what you're going to do. Pretend you've accepted her back. Plan to move out of that environment as soon as possible. When you finally find another accommodation far from where you're presently living, tell her the scholarship you applied for in the UK some time ago, and have totally forgotten about just arrived now. That they sent you a mail that you've been offered the scholarship. Get an alternative phone number that only family and close friends can always reach you. Make an arrangement and pack out one of the days you know she won't be visiting you. And don't forget to block her line and on all social media, including that of her relatives too. You need peace of mind, especially at a time like this. Don't allow her to keep messing with your emotions. I hate infidelity and pretense. 2 Likes |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by TBforgive: 3:17pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
It takes two to tango. Send her pictures of exotic coffins and relay how cool she'd look while eternal sleep becomes her forte when suicide seals her fate.... Buddy, Good people suffer the most and worst. And she found out you're one and she'd leave you when a gory massive dent of pain is cemented and stamped in your soft hearts of forgiveness. Leave her now or allow her leave you later... Your choice. |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by bayfed: 3:21pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
extremelygolden: Thank you 🙏 1 Like |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by Gaspardd(m): 3:34pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
When legends say.... Fear women, u think say nah joke? Fear woman dude. If she threatens to kill herself, then its just a threat. Nothing more than that dude. Again why re u snooping around her fone? Are u that stupid? Whatever you seek you shall find they say. Then you re asking if this is love..... Reason they say fear woman is because.. .. Like right now u re filled with pity for her, lets say u guys later got married and she feels settled in the relationship. You will see the ugly snake rearing it's head outside and this type of lady go show you shege you would wonder if this is thesame lady you married out of pity. I was in your shoes one time, i almost faked my death too but last last when she didn't hear from me, 2 mths later she was married to who she got pregnant for. That means she must have been with the guy when she was being suicidal with me. Bro fear woman. SORA FUN OBIRIN. Well to answer your question.... I think this is love. Because truth be told, you really love the attention she is giving you. |
Re: Can This Be Love ? by bayfed: 3:38pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
extremelygolden: Thank you 🙏 1 Like |
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