Congratulations! Kindly ensure she doesn't give birth to a female gender.

Samantha124:
Yes, I am.

But you need to understand that a person with HIV can still get married to a HIV negative spouse and have HIV negative kids.

But we can't say the same with a girl who did illegal abortions and has a damaged womb.

Will you marry a woman with a damaged womb from doing illegal abortions?

person come here for advise, una don Dey bring blame forget advice. If you can’t advise, just ready and ignore

Puss360:
Lol... At 22 years, u already know much to choose between wearing condom and "Not pouring Inside"....
If at this age, self wellbeing and how to become a man isn't your priority, you prefer everyday sex, then well it's obvious you like the sex, the girl, and also anything that comes with it....
Whether she is pregnant or not, just get a house, marry the girl, then you both become couples... So u can have the complete freedom of sex, and have the kids if u desire...

But well, I hear say when the rod big and sweet, the gal dey forget CD... But when e small dem go remember CD 🙈🙈🙈..

every time blame. Person come seek advise. If you dnt have, why not just read and pass. The deed has been done. This person no be pikin for Christ sake. Hypocrites everywhere

You're free to advice him..

shege45:
person come here for advise, una don Dey bring blame forget advice. If you can’t advise, just ready and ignore

Agozskey:
Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all.
This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you

bro, you don Bleep up be say you don Bleep up. That child might not na complete, you might have to opt for dc. The problem now is, as e Dey illegal for nigeria, na quack go fit run am for you. And different complications fit arise as a result. Just do your research and try to locate a good place to do it, no be all this back yard nurses so she doesn’t have issues

Samantha124:
You're free to advice him..

just did. Next time just read the post and move on if you can’t advise. Na so una go Dey do like una holy pass

shege45:
just did. Next time just read the post and move on if you can’t advise. Na so una go Dey do like una holy pass

Thank u bro

But I was only stating facts... Why support an illegal act that could come with long term consequences?

shege45:
just did. Next time just read the post and move on if you can’t advise. Na so una go Dey do like una holy pass

shege45:
every time blame. Person come seek advise. If you dnt have, why not just read and pass. The deed has been done. This person no be pikin for Christ sake. Hypocrites everywhere

Lol... Oya advice him and rest...

Agozskey:
Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all.
This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you

Did she bleed for seven days after the abortion?

Samantha124:
And the same thing would apply with you Nigerians, you would pay a lot of money for surrogacy because the woman has a damaged womb from doing illegal abortions, only for the couple to have a daughter that'll grow up and do illegal abortions and have a damaged womb like her mother since abortion is like a normal thing to do there even though it's illegal...

Now who gets to suffer the consequences more? Is it the HIV one or the one with a damaged womb?

And this country that has the highest number of damaged wombs is still the most populated country in the world. Isn't that amazing?, how come south africa that has least damaged womb fall short?. I guess HIV is really really a great threat compared to a damaged womb perhaps many of them are scared to marry each other because of this so called disease.

Puss360:

Lol... Oya advice him and rest...

would do

Samantha124:
But I was only stating facts... Why support an illegal act that could come with long term consequences?

swear that you have never don anything illegal in your life before. Remember say if you do expo for waec, it’s illegal oooo

It's the most populated country because you guys have baby factories... Girls get abducted and turned into baby making factories under duress.

You know very well that no law would grant you any legal adoption after committing illegal abortions, so you end up doing back door adoptions, the same way you do illegal abortions.

And for your information, Nigeria is the most populous country in Africa and not in the world.

As for HIV, not that I'm encouraging it, but why be scared of something that's not a death sentence? And why have so many children only for them to end up begging for food down the street

Are you telling me that you're proud of your country for having so many uneducated and hungry kids begging strangers for food just to survive?

bercarray:
And this country that has the highest number of damaged wombs is still the most populated country in the world. Isn't that amazing?, how come south africa that has least damaged womb fall short?. I guess HIV is really really a great threat compared to a damaged womb perhaps many of them are scared to marry each other because of this so called disease.

Samantha124:
If a 3 year old child can be taught how to read and write at that age, then you can also teach him or her about HIV if one of his or her parents is HIV positive... But if you feel he or she is still too young, then you can wait until he or she is 5 years old.

The problem with you Nigerians is that you're not educated much about HIV and you still see it as a death sentence, because if you were educated about it, you'd know that if an HIV person takes his or her treatment accordingly and eats healthy, then he or she would reach that stage whereby the virus is undetectable... And as long as the virus is undetectable, then he or she can't pass it to another person even if the person gets exposed to that HIV positive person.

It's only irresponsible people who go around infecting others with HIV, the same way as those irresponsible ladies that decide to have unprotected sex and end up doing illegal abortions.

And you're missing something here, abortion in Nigeria is illegal, and something that's is illegal is considered to be a criminal offence by the law.. So those women who are going for those illegal abortions along with those people who are conducting those abortions are breaking the law.

No professional social worker would grant someone who has broken the country's laws adoption, unless that social worker is corrupt... Keep in mind that we're talking about your country whereby abortion is illegal.

And the reason why HIV is never considered to be a criminal offence is because it's an illness and we don't normally assume that everyone is HIV positive on a daily basis, but we all assume that everyone is fertile... So immediately you decide to have an unprotected sex, the first thing that should come to your mind as a girl is that "I could get pregnant", you don't think about HIV.


Personally I don't believe that a person can be pregnant by a mistake when they both consented to have an unprotected sex.

And with surrogacy, there must also be a contractual agreement that is legally binding between the couple and the surrogate, in case the surrogate decides to change her mind and keep the baby.

Like I said, if he's a responsible man and he takes good care of himself to a point that he's undetectable, then yes, I will be with him... Remember that we all have a past and just because he's HIV positive, it doesn't mean he can't have an HIV negative family of his own... If he's still at that stage whereby he's still struggling to accept himself, then I'll try to help him where I can... HIV is not a death sentence.

And the problem with you guys is that with all your education concerning HIV, You guys guys still choose to be ignorant about it and keeps spreading it, while Nigerians that are less educative with such high amount of population are able to curb it's spread. Aren't you guys suppose to give us some respect?

Personally I don't believe that a person can be pregnant by a mistake when they both consented to have an unprotected sex.[/quote] Personally I also believe nobody, with the level of awareness going on for HIV, nobody should be have it by mistake too. My dear you cannot condemn anyone of it, don't make it seems like HIV in your country is better than whatever is going on in Nigeria, Rest please.

If all these things you listed about educating them young having first aid box and bla bla bla is put into use in South Africa you guys should be free by now, it is only good to say not good to practice

What's waec?

shege45:
swear that you have never don anything illegal in your life before. Remember say if you do expo for waec, it’s illegal oooo

The bottom line is that we're not committing any criminal offence, but you guys are and it seems like you're even supporting it.

According to the Nigerian law, abortion is the same thing as murder, hence it's illegal.

I don't support those irresponsible people who go around spreading HIV, but it can still be manageable and the person can still live a normal life without paying a dime, but we can't say the same thing with a damaged womb.

bercarray:
And the problem with you guys is that with all your education concerning HIV, You guys guys still choose to be ignorant about it and keeps spreading it, while Nigerians that are less educative with such high amount of population are able to curb it's spread. Aren't you guys suppose to give us some respect?

Personally I don't believe that a person can be pregnant by a mistake when they both consented to have an unprotected sex. Personally I also believe nobody, with the level of awareness going on for HIV, nobody should be have it by mistake too. My dear you cannot condemn anyone of it, don't make it seems like HIV in your country is better than whatever is going on in Nigeria, Rest please.

If all these things you listed about educating them young having first aid box and bla bla bla is put into use in South Africa you guys should be free by now, it is only good to say not good to practice

Samantha124:
It's the most populated country because you guys have baby factories... Girls get abducted and turned into baby making factories under duress.

You know very well that no law would grant you any legal adoption after committing illegal abortions, so you end up doing back door adoptions, the same way you do illegal abortions.

And for your information, Nigeria is the most populous country in Africa and not in the world.

As for HIV, not that I'm encouraging it, but why be scared of something that's not a death sentence? And why have so many children only for them to end up begging for food down the street

Are you telling me that you're proud of your country for having so many uneducated and hungry kids begging strangers for food just to survive?

The world thing was a mistake, I meant Africa.

So this abducted girls are they from your country? Aren't they Nigerians? This means Nigerians are still productive and doesn't have so much damaged wombs are u claimed. For your information Nigeria has being populous way before chibok girls abduction and no one has used used them for baby factories. I know you are not talking from facts anyways, you are talking based on biasness.

Are you telling me that you're proud of your country for having so many uneducated and hungry kids begging strangers for food just to survive?[/quote] Madam don't try to digress from the topic, we are talking about damaged womb, which has a lot to do with reproduction not about how people feed themselves. If it is so bad as you have claimed we should not investors from your country coming here to Nigeria to do business now?

Samantha124:
What's waec?

na brand of semovita

Okay.

shege45:
na brand of semovita

Samantha124:
The bottom line is that we're not committing any criminal offence, but you guys are and it seems like you're even supporting it.

According to the Nigerian law, abortion is the same thing as murder, hence it's illegal.

I don't support those irresponsible people who go around spreading HIV, but it can still be manageable and the person can still live a normal life without paying a dime, but we can't say the same thing with a damaged womb.

So you think if someone has HIV and decided to be spreading it, if such person got caught it is not a criminal offence? they will leave him to go out and keep spreading it?

Same way i do not support abortion, but your statement made it seems it is worst thing that can happen to someone. People abort pregnancy due to rape incident. I have never aborted before and never will but you can't just come and say stuff about my country and expect it to go down well with people. NEVER

shege45:
na brand of semovita

That wasn't well done.

That is a symptom of badly done abortion.

annford:


Did she bleed for seven days after the abortion?

she did suction abortion, she bled 4 5days

But you're also biased by assuming that all South Africans are HIV positive.

And if all South Africans are also HIV positive as you claimed, then we wouldn't be having Nigerians coming to this country every year and some getting married to South Africans.

bercarray:
The world thing was a mistake, I meant Africa.

So this abducted girls are they from your country? Aren't they Nigerians? This means Nigerians are still productive and doesn't have so much damaged wombs are u claimed. For your information Nigeria has being populous way before chibok girls abduction and no one has used used them for baby factories. I know you are not talking from facts anyways, you are talking based on biasness.

Are you telling me that you're proud of your country for having so many uneducated and hungry kids begging strangers for food just to survive? Madam don't try to digress from the topic, we are talking about damaged womb, which has a lot to do with reproduction not about how people feed themselves. If it is so bad as you have claimed we should not investors from your country coming here to Nigeria to do business now?

Samantha124:
Why does it sounds like abortion is more of a culture in Nigeria? And the worst part of it all is that it's illegal there.

I always hear stories on this forum of abortions this and abortions that.

Why have unprotected sex if you can't own up to your mistakes and learn from them?

Respect your country's laws and stop having unprotected sex out of wedlock, or abstain from sex all at once... Else you guys should campaign for abortion to be legalized in Nigeria since you love it so much.

It's so dangerous in Nigeria yet the girls and guys have the mind to keep doing it

I wonder what goes through their head

So far there's no law that stipulates that spreading HIV is a criminal offence, I've never heard of someone being arrested for it.

Illegal abortion is the worst thing that could happen to a person because most of them don't turn out to be successful and as a result, the woman will end up with a damaged womb.

I've only seen stories here on nairaland of girls doing multiple abortions for their boyfriends, not because of rape.

No law would grant her any legal adoption and surrogacy can be expensive, not everyone can afford it, but ARVs are free of charge.

The truth hurts, so I understand what you mean... You'd do anything to defend your country even though you know it's the truth.

bercarray:

So you think if someone has HIV and decided to be spreading it, if such person got caught it is not a criminal offence? they will leave him to go out and keep spreading it?

Same way i do not support abortion, but your statement made it seems it is worst thing that can happen to someone. People abort pregnancy due to rape incident. I have never aborted before and never will but you can't just come and say stuff about my country and expect it to go down well with people. NEVER

There are consequences for every actions.
You want to play adult play?
Then deal with it.

Agozskey:
Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all.
This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you

GOD want to punish you with that baby

Na we help u give am belle, why u come dey inform us, when u dey do steady straffing, u no inform us ,u come dey disturb us for here, abeg go carry your cross....

Na Fuel matter I dey reason now...

Samantha124:
Yes, I am.

But you need to understand that a person with HIV can still get married to a HIV negative spouse and have HIV negative kids.

But we can't say the same with a girl who did illegal abortions and has a damaged womb.

Will you marry a woman with a damaged womb from doing illegal abortions?

Samantha, don't make it sound like abortion is Nigerian's thing alone. Abortion is done in literarily all part of the world. The problem here is the sex education. I think we need to do more on that, it saves all the abortion and HIV saga. I like your dp.

Thank you..

merrymike47:
Samantha, don't make it sound like abortion is Nigerian's thing alone. Abortion is done in literarily all part of the world. The problem here is the sex education. I think we need to do more on that, it saves all the abortion and HIV saga. I like your dp.