How can you be depressed because of a woman? If you came here to seek for advice, means your wife wish (death) might come sooner than expected. Marriage is No longer for Better or Worse. In this life, you 1st before the rest people, you can arrange the rest people as you deem necessary But 1st position is You. Don't kill yourself because of somebody ooo most Especially Woman... Nahhhhh

Adachizzy:

There's no jazz. You probably assist the family in one way or another other hence, they don't want to lose you and the assistance, yet. They most probably know their child doesn't love you.
Papa is just giving excuses.

Btw, I'm a lady.

I have said it earlier, that here in the north it's like a shame for a family when their girl child is divorced....thats why they keep pushing it..

I don't think I have help them....

Maybe by marrying her yes

You are afraid of missing ur son?

Don't worry, when you are dead, he will call another man daddy.

Be playing with ur life.

Nothing compares to a woman who is scorned.

sleek214:
How can you be depressed because of a woman? If you came here to seek for advice, means your wife wish (death) might come sooner than expected. Marriage is No longer for Better or Worse. In this life, you 1st before the rest people, you can arrange the rest people as you deem necessary But 1st position is You. Don't kill yourself because of somebody ooo most Especially Woman... Nahhhhh

Best advice bro...i will discuss with my father....thats exact what's my father is saying to me

DonEd:
You are afraid of missing ur son?

Don't worry, when you are dead, he will call another man daddy.

Be playing with ur life.

Nothing compares to a woman who is scorned.

Maybe am not matured enough to understand, I am just 28yrs

I will seek advice from my parents and see...

Thanks so much

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Wait until her wish happened before you decide what to do

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

If you die he will grow and be whatever he will be if you No die the same thing

Bennysam:

Wait until her wish happened before you decide what to do

Thanks for the advice man

Bennysam:

If you die he will grow and be whatever he will be if you No die the same thing

Fear of not been with him I mean, after the divorce

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Pls stop misinforming people with this.You only had misunderstanding and the family settled it.Go for proper tolak when you're finally ready for divorce her.
Where did you coin Divorce is three,remaining two from.half baked knowledge at play here.

Reminderz:

Zulum, I'm sorry but you're fvcking weak... She says those things to you, and you're here still talking about love, whining like a child... she might have even be wobbling another cock right now... your wife doesn't respect you, shouts at you in your own house, wishes you death, and you're saying you still don't know what to do, until she carry knife shook you for belle when you sleep abi? don't worry, I hope don't carry your news yet because even your enemy sef gan nor do pass this one...

divorce her dirty ass, take back your son, if the wahala too much on the son's custody, leave the child for them, go live your life in peace, your life is already full of problems, you still allow a problem live under the same roof with you... are you even sure the child is yours? smh... when we talk about red flags day in day out, you guys think it's just words, who's now crying and suffering for it now??

if you're not the owner of that space, leave there, divorce her, cease contact with her and her parents, take your child with you, but before ceasing contact with her parents, make sure they know what she did and don't tolerate nonsense... live your life in peace, your life expectancy is already short as a man, don't let a woman whom you're feeding and adding absolutely nothing to your life make it shorter... don't be a fvcking pvssy..

What Is Really Happening?

Zulum:


Walhy i am weak, I know that I am.....i am too gentle, too quiet to cold, to calm., too forgiven.....infact I always wanted to be rugged

a woman that truly loves u

Will appreciate u the way u are,

U don't need to form or put up false character to please her

U better do the right thing now,before is too late

OP you are an adult and know what's good for you. I am very sure she's very good in the 'other room' and you can't imagine missing such goodies.
I see most stories here as people catching cruise.
Nobody can ever change an adult, the best is to manage the situation and bear the consequence of your choice.

Zulum:


Sir you understood me well

She's kinda confusing some times doing good like nothing was wrong, but must times am not happy



Her dad said some womens have done jazz to separate us, is that possible?

But really she loved someone before I married her

@ Adachizzy has told you the truth. My closest friend died 2006 and was always using his two kids as excuse not to leave his toxic relationship with his wife (not that I believed him but I suspected the make up sex was the glue that got him stuck in the relationship) Those kids are now grown up and married after his demise. They got raised with little support from their mother who later got married and a daughter for another man

Zulum:


I have divorced her once, and returned her back...

Also send her home back after some months, when we were called she boldly told her dad that she don't want the marriage that I should divorce her....but the dad sent her away and begged us to return her back which I did

that is one terrible of a woman.

May Allah put u through on your plan

compton11:
that is one terrible of a woman.

May Allah put u through on your plan

Amin Ya Rabb

9japride:
OP you are an adult and know what's good for you. I am very sure she's very good in the 'other room' and you can't imagine missing such goodies.
I see most stories here as people catching cruise.
Nobody can ever change and adult, the best is to manage the situation and bear the consequence of your choice.

Sir not at all.

But I am yet to figure out my fear

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

I will not advice you to divorce her but can u try this and see if it can work. Invite any mallam that you know can preach very well to talk to her. 2) buy islamic preaching that talk about hakkin miji akan matansa ta rinka ji kila zata ji abinda zaisa ta sauko

Arewa247:
I will not advice you to divorce her but can u try this and see if it can work. Invite any mallam that you know can preach very well to talk to her. 2) buy islamic preaching that talk about hakkin miji akan matansa ta rinka ji kila zata ji abinda zaisa ta sauko

To ni ai matsalar ma halayen nata marasa kirki yasa naji bana sonta walhy...

Idan ta shiryu ya kake ganin zaiyi da yadda mind nawa ya canza

1. She was in love with someone else and you and her father ran over her wishes and forced her to marry you.

2. She told you to divorce her and you refuse to do that.

3. She told her father she wants you to divorce her and he won’t allow that.

4. Of course she wants you dead since that’s the only way she could get her freedom.

I think she is the victim in this and you should get the message and free her while she’s still young and only has 1 child.

Free our girls 🤣

Zulum:


Sir not at all.

But I am yet to figure out my fear

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Try, you should also check yourself to know if you are wrong. If we go deeper, we'll find out you are really hurting her.
Anyway, try do what's best for you guys. Marriage matter is very complicated, all parties involved usually claim to be right and never wrong.

some people out there are truly BRAVE.... imagine sleeping next to someone who wish you dead every time you guys have an argument?! you will probably have a better chance in life sleeping next to a wild tiger every night!

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

You are entitled to three divorce

Wow

Zulum:


Fear of not been with him I mean, after the divorce

I understand But a lot of men have died because of this mentality

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

I was once in your shoe bro , please just tell her your door is wide open if she is tired . My ex once said I will die if I ever report her to her family again . Run from Domestic terrorist bro .

Zulum:


Walhy kaddara ne.... Walhy kafun na aurenta babu bala'i da ban gani ba......amma dashike Allah ya kaddara saida akayi auren, and kuma fa bawai mace na rasa ba, i am young and hansome walhy, mata dayawa are dreaming of my type....infact inada kudi Alhmdlh.....

Sau daya na ganta na amince, ban sake ganinta ba sai ran aure, dashike bana zama a garin ina aiki a south....

Ni bansan ya zanyi ba...walhy bata burgeni yanzu, saboda tayar min da hankali da tayi, she affected me mentally and psychologically...

Sorry to hear about that. Iiving with someone who doesn't really have an affection for you must have been hard on you.

Threaten her with getting married to a second wife.

Or call a meeting with her parents and ask her right there and then if she still has an affection for you. If she said yes, then pour out your heart to her parents about how she has been treating you.

A stitch in time they say, saves nine!

Nasha karanta labarun mata wadanda suke kashe mijinsu da wuka ko guba.

I pray your own case will be different in sha Allah.

Also, don't relent, kayi ta tashin barcin dare kana nafila (do that for more than a month, and in sha Allah you'll see excellent results).

Also, after the night prayer, always read hasbunallahu WA ni imal wakil *100, after reading that for 100*, you follow up with what you need from Allah.

Do that and faith, and in sha Allah, things will fall in place

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

When she kills you, you will still miss him.

By the way, she won't let the divorce get to 3 times before she kills you.

Zulum:


In fact I suspect she doesn't love me

Because I have to struggle before we get married....its like a forced marriage, but not from me but from her parents

She is in love with a guy before, my mum asked me to check her.......i have seen many thing that I supposed to do you turn but I insist and married her...

It's like she is trapped in my office, she doesn't appreciate me, she tells me whatever she likes, she insult me....and be telling me I am not doing anything to her apart from the house rent I am paying.

Walhy I loose weight, loose appetite, confused depressed.....

And I am doing very well financially, I am spending more than 300k in my house with 30days

If she kills you now, imagine how distraught your mother will be.

Why don't you flee for your life?

9japride:
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Try, you should also check yourself to know if you are wrong. If we go deeper, we'll find out you are really hurting her.
Anyway, try do what's best for you guys. Marriage matter is very complicated, all parties involved usually claim to be right and never wrong.

Yeah sure, I might be hurting her.....

Naijatask:


Sorry to hear about that. Iiving with someone who doesn't really have an affection for you must have been hard on you.

Threaten her with getting married to a second wife.

Or call a meeting with her parents and ask her right there and then if she still has an affection for you. If she said yes, then pour out your heart to her parents about how she has been treating you.

A stitch in time they say, saves nine!

Nasha karanta labarun mata wadanda suke kashe mijinsu da wuka ko guba.

I pray your own case will be different in sha Allah.

Also, don't relent, kayi ta tashin barcin dare kana nafila (do that for more than a month, and in sha Allah you'll see excellent results).

Also, after the night prayer, always read hasbunallahu WA ni imal wakil *100, after reading that for 100*, you follow up with what you need from Allah.

Do that and faith, and in sha Allah, things will fall in place

JazakAllah

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

U are a simp..

Return ya wife back to her parents..

Aviod talking with her.

But you should not continue in that kind of marriage.