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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Loyalty1: 3:45pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best
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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by ejimatic: 3:46pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?



I feel your pains!
Yiur case is like that of a woman whose husband has some mental issues. Yet she has two kids for him and she is still with him till today. The man is a civil servant.

In yiur own case, you saw the problem before yet yiu embraced it because of sentimental love.

You married him jobless believing that things would change. How sure are you?

He has some mental issues yet he did not tell you .By the time you know it was late.
Please continue to bear up and God will provide a way out for you .What you need is a good job that yiu will use to take care of him and his innocent kids.
Don't leave him now so that he will not comit suicide. because of loneliness. He needs you now..
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by spiceadole: 3:46pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?




Lol..
Women can marry anything.

They marry sick men and later start complaining.

You saw a man with some mental challenges..Instead of running for your life,you married him.
That was how one of my friends married a man who had SS genotype.
They spent a greater part of their marriage in the hospital before he eventually died within 2 years of marriage,living her with nothing
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by ColdHunter(f): 3:46pm On Jul 30, 2023
Foodqueen:
Your story is incomplete o jare.

His family members should care about him.

But not his wife right?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by churro: 3:46pm On Jul 30, 2023
Don't know who will help you with a new account. I know I will not. If you're genuine, what's the shame in it. You kill person? You created an account today and you think people will flood in to fill your bank account with their hard-earned money or waste time verifying you. Dosent work that way, dear. Not for me sha. Wish you all the best.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by tonididdy(m): 3:48pm On Jul 30, 2023
efficiencie:


This is sad but the norm. By your admission, the man has been good to you when he is sane but for the mental health challenges he has. It is your responsibility to help him get healing. As with most mental health issues, it is most likely supernatural. You have to pursue supernatural solutions as much as medical solutions to help that man get healed from his disease.

Lol…did you even read the post et’al?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by FireUpNow(m): 3:49pm On Jul 30, 2023
Madam pls don't leave your man just because of health issue instead pray and also seek medical help for him. Marriage is for better or worst and in health and sckness
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by HoneySwag(f): 3:49pm On Jul 30, 2023
jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.


What do you mean by good men? Don't you men also have a choice? Is it every lady you come across that you date? Haven't you refused dating some? Why do you men always have to sound like it's a crime for women to reject some men that comes their way?
Look let me tell you, no relationship will work if the love is one sided. Both the man and the woman have to love each other because in the long run is that love that will conquer all odds. But in a case the love is one sided, one party will hurt the other intentionally or unintentionally without caring.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 3:50pm On Jul 30, 2023
Loyalty1:
If you believe that God Almighty can heal and deliver your husband joins NSPPD streams of joy International online prayer from Monday to Friday by 7am to 8am. I promise you God will heal your husband. Millions have give mind blowing testimony definitely your own will not be different. If you are interested, I will buy data for you to connect to the online prayer. If you do hear the slogan''WHAT GOD CAN NOT DO DOES NOT EXIST. Na then
MIllions have given mind-blowing testimony yet their lives have become nothing but a game of whack-a-mole at the same time. How many of your millions of members have in fact had all of their so-called spiritual and health problems resolved for good? I can guess the answer is zero and rightly so because the case is no different from the case of all those many churches out there too. Na one week one trouble with many of you religious people. Ordinary folks don't even come close to that kind of drama! undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by MN07: 3:51pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

Don't wates your time God will not do jack sheet look for a solution for yourselves.

Why do people waste time with prayers and churches I just don't understand.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by fortunechy(m): 3:54pm On Jul 30, 2023
Ur story is incomplete...
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by mkoabiola: 3:54pm On Jul 30, 2023
This is depression and frustration not mental challenges as u claimed

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Desusi: 3:59pm On Jul 30, 2023
Jewessgratitud3:
Madam, if you truly love him like you claim, don't leave him. He's now a part of you.

You know it's not his doing that he has mental health issues, the best you can do is help him get through this phase until he gets back on his feet again cos if you leave him, you may regret the outcome of your actions if he plunges deep into depression and it gets out of hands
Or leads him into the street. The shame will be on you and your children.

Don't think it is Rosy out there. Every one has one thing or the other they are passing through that even when you hear it, you'll thank God. It is not better out there.

So it's better you try and look for help and find something to do in the meantime. cover your shame/man until he can bounce back again. Lastly, don't forget to pray.

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You're great with this counsel! And if l may add to this, there is nothing God cannot do,you said you have prayed, how persistent are you? Do you pray a prevailing prayer? This kind of suasion is not a gentle men prayer,you need the anointing of men of passion and power to break this yoke.People like Adeboye,olukoya and papa kumuyi who is currently at ogbomoso for July edition of GCK.What are you still waiting for get in touch with him thru GCK ON YOUTUBE and get your miracle. God is real madam.l stand in faith with you.Money is not everything, the lord will surely provide for you!
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:06pm On Jul 30, 2023
Desusi:
You're great with this counsel! And if l may add to this, there is nothing God cannot do,you said you have prayed, how persistent are you? Do you pray a prevailing prayer? This kind of suasion is not a gentle men prayer,you need the anointing of men of passion and power to break this yoke.People like Adeboye,olukoya and papa kumuyi who is currently at ogbomoso for July edition of GCK.What are you still waiting for get in touch with him thru GCK ON YOUTUBE and get your miracle. God is real madam.l stand in faith with you.Money is not everything, the lord will surely provide for you!
Your gods of men don heal them millions of followers , many who come back year after year with the same problems, finish? Na to dey recruit more blind followers for una dey always they without first reasoning that maybe it is wrong to rope others into the delusion wey never solve your own personal first. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kei144(m): 4:07pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

If it's attack, then all you need is to find a Christian who really has the Holy Spirit. The Christian can drive out the evil spirit(s) causing the problem by the Holy Spirit. If you were in my vicinity, I could have done it for you. You need to see a true deliverance minister.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Myer(m): 4:11pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
▢ What mental illness(es) would that be?

▢ Has your husband been getting treatment for the condition or have you both not been paying attention to these things?

▢ You learned right after your first child that your husband was mentally ill, so you must have done some serious background to at least learn whether the condition is hereditary before having your second child. Or did you think it was all Ok to leave such things to chance? undecided

▢ Your husband does not work and he is mentally ill, have you both tried coming together as a couple to maybe replan your union in such a way that would maybe get you to become the major breadwinner while he transitions more into the role of househusband during his down seasons? I mean what have you both tried up until this point in time that has not worked for you still? undecided

This is a greatly articulated counsel.
I'll just like to add one more option;

Have you considered praying about it?
If your faith cannot deal, kindly take him to your pastor or MFM.

God still heals everyone who is sick in the name of Jesus.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Soulifting: 4:12pm On Jul 30, 2023
This is very very harsh and unfair to say. If you have nothing good to say, you can keep quiet.
We all have subtle mental illness, its just different stressors that tilt us

Sorry op. You need to get medical treatment for him. Try secure another job. It's a very long journey, but just live one day at a time.
And pray well for God to pull you through


jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Desusi: 4:13pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Your gods of men don heal them millions of followers , many who come back year after year with the same problems, finish? Na to dey recruit more blind followers for una dey always they without first reasoning that maybe it is wrong to rope others into the delusion wey never solve your own personal first. undecided
You're novice to the things of God.Needless arguing with you.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:24pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kei144:
If it's attack, then all you need is to find a Christian who really has the Holy Spirit. The Christian can drive out the evil spirit(s) causing the problem by the Holy Spirit. If you were in my vicinity, I could have done it for you. You need to see a true deliverance minister.
Stop lying to Him. How many of your religious holy spirit folks have healed all the others wey full dem churches to overflowing? How many of the 10s of thousands wey flock una deliverance ministries year after year una don heal finish? undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:27pm On Jul 30, 2023
Myer:
■ This is a greatly articulated counsel. I'll just like to add one more option;
Have you considered praying about it?
If your faith cannot deal, kindly take him to your pastor or MFM.
God still heals everyone who is sick in the name of Jesus.
MFM don heal all the many 10s of thousands wey dey flock to their churches week after week, year after year, finish? There are many 1000s who have been coming for deliverance for over a decade out there...una don heal them finish? undecided

Na to rope others into the same delusion wey never resolve una own shit....na im many of you know. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:28pm On Jul 30, 2023
Desusi:
■ You're novice to the things of God.Needless arguing with you.
You have never even experienced God to begin with is the problem. You confuse your gods of men for God is your major hindrance. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Myer(m): 4:30pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
MFM don heal all the many 10s of thousands wey dey flock to their churches week after week, year after year, finish? There are many 1000s who have been coming for deliverance for over a decade out there...una don heal them finish? undecided

Na to rope others into the same delusion wey never resolve una own shit....na im many of you know. undecided

Instead of countering my counsel why not focus on your own counsel sir.
Or do you doubt that God heals every sickness?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Frankmorgan: 4:32pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. You are right but knowing that poster, I tend to think what he meant is instead that mental illnesses patients are not to be seen the same as Nigerians used to see and think of witches. undecided

2. I have myself in addition to living with it and I can tell you that exercise and good diets are not solutions. They can serve as a form of coping mechanism but a coping mechanism can also become a problem if care is not taken. undecided

3. I did what you suggested for years after which my brain still crashed. My condition got worse and I eventually had to surrender to treatment. If I had started treatment earlier than I did, I would have probably faired much better than I did. undecided

2. What were you feeding on?. List what you were eating. Were you eating probiotics?.
3. Food plays an important role in mental health. Your brain contains neurotransmitters responsible for various functions.Neurotransmitters are chemical compounds. Chemical compounds needs to be produced or they get depleted. Chemicals are produced from other chemical compounds. Food and drugs are the only things that have chemical structures that pass through your mouth. Neurotransmitters are synthesized from either food you eat or drugs you take.(most prescription drugs for mental illness just works by increasing this neurotransmitters or inhibiting another compound that causes the reduction of neurotransmitters).. E.g serotonin is a neurotransmitter responsible for mood. Low level of serotonin is seen in people with depression.
I don't have the strength to start explaining how sugar affects this neurotransmitters. Because it is a very complex subject. And will require the use of structures for understanding. But as I have explained above food affects your neurotransmitters which is responsible for many functions including your mental health
It is a very complex subject andi am not in the mood to type much
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by fof1: 4:32pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by NamelessOGBENI(m): 4:34pm On Jul 30, 2023
immortalcrown:
May God help you and your family.

If he is not violent and abusive, I advise you to cope. Those who have suffered abuse in rich homes understand that happiness is not always determined by money. Those who have not suffered in rich homes, claim money is everything.
Only few will understand this your assertion.

And from the look of things, it seems that the man lost his job and the woman have been the one responsible for the day to day running of the house, that's not good for a man though. As for his mental health, he'll need the services of a professional.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:34pm On Jul 30, 2023
Myer:
■ Instead of countering my counsel why not focus on your own counsel sir.
■ Or do you doubt that God heals every sickness?
I counter lies that pretend to be of God. It is that simple. undecided

2. God can heal OP even as he is taking medication and even enjoying life without a religious rope courtesy of your gods of men around his neck. God did not prescribe religion nor does He require that one pray to Him first in order to be healed by Him. We are talking of the God who pours out His favor daily on even the wicked and the ungrateful. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Trustedpronet: 4:36pm On Jul 30, 2023
That man is suffering from depression. Nigeria can make you mad even when you don't have madness in your linage. Madam your husband needs you now than ever. Tray to consult a psychiatric doctor, they have special drugs that will calm his anxieties.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 4:39pm On Jul 30, 2023
Frankmorgan:
2. What were you feeding on?. List what you were eating. Were you eating probiotics?.
3. Food plays an important role in mental health. Your brain contains neurotransmitters responsible for various functions.Neurotransmitters are chemical compounds. Chemical compounds needs to be produced or they get depleted. Chemicals are produced from other chemical compounds. Food and drugs are the only things that have chemical structures that pass through your mouth. Neurotransmitters are synthesized from either food you eat or drugs you take.(most prescription drugs for mental illness just works by increasing this neurotransmitters or inhibiting another compound that causes the reduction of neurotransmitters).. E.g serotonin is a neurotransmitter responsible for mood. Low level of serotonin is seen in people with depression.
I don't have the strength to start explaining how sugar affects this neurotransmitters. Because it is a very complex subject. And will require the use of structures for understanding. But as I have explained above food affects your neurotransmitters which is responsible for many functions including your mental healthIt is a very complex subject andi am not in the mood to type much
1. I was feeding on mostly healthy foods and I ate a lot of yoghurt too but guess what? None of that stopped any of what ailed me mentally nor calmed the physiological symptoms I lived with. undecided

2. All those are theories I read well, and they all sound good and niced when you read them, and work on them. But guess what? None of that made the mental issues go away nor did it stop it from eventually pushing me to the point of severe debilitation. I was almost sure that after many decades, I had come to the end of my rope but fortunately, treatment helped me prolong it a couple more years before .... lipsrsealed
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Georgeweah(m): 4:40pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had drdepartment, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?


the lord is your strengh
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Turquoiseee: 4:41pm On Jul 30, 2023
Op I want you to keep quoting psalms 27 whenever you feel down or discouraged. He is the strength of your life. With long life will He satisfy you and show you His salvation in Jesus mighty name.

I have been in your situation, it’s only God that can help and console you and not human philosophies
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Guyman01: 4:42pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
I can be verified Sir. It take courage to come to the public and tell your life story. So many will love to hear the whole thing, just to laugh at you.

You are not different from Anthony who is notorious for creating new accounts daily for begging using female names such as Faith SH, Angel etc
People would like to see your antecedents on this platform before helping because of the plenty scammers here, if its advice you are looking for then its a different matter

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