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Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 1:19pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Having gone through Comfirm4real post regarding his sister's marriage, i decided to share my own personal experience. This happened to my mum younger sister. She had been married for 18 years with 4 kids. Her husband often abuse her. He beat her, smell her pants whenever she returned from shop. He decides the kind of clothes she'd put on. The man is naturally insecure. This my mum sister is a gentle and quiet person. The man feels insecure because of her beauty. He often chase male customers away from her shop. This my mum sister hid how her hubby treat her away from family. Her husband will give her bible to swear if she doesn't had sex with any man before coming home. He often check her phone and monitor her movements. It was when she couldn't take it anymore she reported to her family. She invited her family to her house on Sunday when the hubby will be around My mum went with her elder brother and sister. It was when they got there she narrated all what she has been going through in marriage. My mum was extremely mad. Let me briefly summarise the kind of person my mum is; My mum experience domestic violence when she was 13 from her neighbour. The man derived joy beating his wife. My mum said she came prepared into marriage. My mum is married for 31 years and my late dad never raise his hand on her. She said if a woman is too calm and quiet, men will take advantage of her, especially Nigerian men. My mum said she had it in plan that the very day a man (my father) will raise his hand on her, she will treat his fvck up big time without traces. My dad has the tendency of hitting women though but i guess because my mum wasn't a calm and quiet person. My mum in particular insulted the living daylights out of her sisters husband. They later find out the man cheat on his wife. He thought that was how his wife too will cheat on him couple with the fact that his wife is a beautiful woman. He naturally feel insecure. He apologised and begged his wife and family. Although my mum took her sister and children that very day away from his house. He came with his family begging like a fool. They later settled it and live peacefully since then. He bought her a car as a gift. When she returned back to her husband's house, her neighbours almost ate her up. They were so happy for her. They kept asking her so she had a No nonesense family and she's taking shit from her hubby in the name of marriage. If you have sisters, daughters or friends that are too quiet and calm. Just pray for them to meet their type o. Men do take advantage of calm and quiet women seriously. When i saw Comfirm4real post, i thought he was referring to my mum sister. To those Men giving flimsy excuses unbehalf of Op inlaw for treating his sister like trash. We know the kind of person y'all are. We know you select your choice of spouses because obviously you can't try that nonesense to all women 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by immortalcrown(m): 1:22pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
The man is wicked. The signs might be there before marriage but she ignored them. It might also be a quickly-established marriage. If they dated for at least 3 months, he definitely shown her some signs of his inhumanity. So, how did your aunty end up with such a man? Whenever you guys bring this kind of report, try to tell how the story began so other people will learn good lessons. Don't just cry and give other people the atmosphere for them to also cry without anybody learning a good lesson. |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by izonborn098(m): 1:25pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Men men men'' everybody now get story to share'' After men we will enter women'' Deceiving another man to raise another man's child' Making one child having up to 6 fathers. What of the betrayal men go through in the hands of the other gender. We are also waiting to also hear from men' you can't tell us one part of the story. |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by yrhuhfy113: 1:27pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: If things were DONE the right way, many of these abuse and nonsense won't happen WHY WILL YOU MARRY A MAN WHO IS NOT SUBMITTED TO GOD OR TO AUTHORITY......... WHY WILL YOU MARRY A MAN WITHOUT A TRACK RECORD OF GOOD CHARACTER.... See, people are the cause of their problems due to negligence. I BLAME BOTH OF THEM. If we follow GOD'S WAY, somethings can NEVER BE THERE...... Cheating, lies, twists, narcissistic tendencies.... MAY GOD HELP OUR SINGLES TO BE PRAYERFUL ENOUGH TO CHECK THESE THINGS OUT OF THEIR OWN LIVES AND FIND SPOUSES WHO HAVE BEEN RID OF THESE THINGS TOO. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Nobody: 1:27pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Stop marrying nonsense, ordinary shout at me sef will make my likeness for you disappear instantly even if I'm wrong. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Candidlady: 1:31pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Is it that some women are comfortable being in an abusive relationship... Idont just understand ... You treat me like shit be rest assured that id treat you like a latrine.. prolly cut your life short Men are demons and Satan put in one body izonborn098: Mr opposite of EMPTY ain't you a man... Why not share your story... Dead gender Ipray to be in a relationship with people like you... 6 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 1:31pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
izonborn098:minister of defence. Keep it up. We know your type 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by izonborn098(m): 1:35pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 1:37pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
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Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by mariahAngel(f): 1:38pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
I've stated it before that when a woman is "too kind and respectful" to a man, he'd take her for granted and walk all over her. Some men deserve the mean and disrespectful treatment they get. As a woman, you have to teach people how to treat and respect you. Do not tolerate nonsense from anyone right from the onset, or let anyone take you for granted. Do not be afraid to let go of people that are not worth it. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Kobojunkie: 1:48pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:The woman went back to the same man? Many of these kind of stories don't end well. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Kobojunkie: 1:50pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:Stop dragging God's mention into the much that is you abeg! |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 1:57pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:I learnt he's a change person though. He was taken to police station and human rights activists. Although my mum do not want her to continue the marriage. But the man keep coming begging. He seems to have changed after family intervention. Although he's late. He had an accident. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Kobojunkie: 1:58pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:People typically don't change that easily. Since you say the man is dead, it ended well. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by yrhuhfy113: 2:01pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:the attention you seek from me, is not worth it. may you heal from whatever is bothering you. IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO CONTRIBUTE, kindly help the OP. I am not your problem, you are your own nemesis. So have peace and move on oh |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Kobojunkie: 2:02pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:I don't need your attention. All I say is stop dragging God's mention into the muck that is you pretending your opinions are in some way sanctioned by Him when they clearly have nothing to do with Him. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by kkins25(m): 2:19pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Mashallah I was born a boy. . |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Innomama7(m): 4:57pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
OP d story never end, come tell us how your Mama take kill her husband . 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 5:14pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Innomama7:don't worry, i will transfer money to that your opay account 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by ahnie: 5:22pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
When you re quiet they take advantage of you,but when they noticed you are hotheaded dem go glue their palms n mouth 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by ecolime(m): 5:30pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
I am yet to see a wicked Naija wife in all these one-sided stories. They are all saints while the men are the villains. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by IyaTola: 6:10pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Op it's you sharing your experience and not your sister |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 6:30pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
ecolime:be honest and be sincere with yourself please. In Nigeria, who's at the receiving end as far as domestic violence and rape is concern? We aren't saying there are no bad women too but we all know Men takes the chunks of all these in Nigeria. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by GodWrites: 7:58pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: A monster will always be a monster. The abuse never truly stop. There is a difference between being a quiet person and a dumb person. Your mom's sister is dumb. Instead of her to leave a toxic marriage she's putting up with it. She will probably leave in a bag if she doesn't run for her alive. So the car was supposed to bribe her to stay? Women and fish brain. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Nobody: 8:43pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
GodWrites: Rest, the man is dead, it ended in praise, sadly. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by GodWrites: 8:50pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: Oh. That's goodnews. |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by MrLankeeee(m): 9:43pm On Aug 10, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113: Who be this one? You never see pastors wey dey abuse their wives? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by yrhuhfy113: 12:18am On Aug 11, 2023 |
MrLankeeee: PASTOR NA TITLE.... IF NA BY PASTOR..... Then there is no hope. I AM SPEAKING OF GENUINE CHRISTIANS, NOT PASTORS. DON'T USE TITLE TO FEEL ENTITLED. THE HOLY BOOK SAYS IT IS BY THEIR FRUITS YOU SHALL KNOW THEM.... not by their titles. Pls have sense |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by pretydiva(f): 5:32am On Aug 11, 2023 |
Some men and insecurities are like 5&6. Your Mom did well by standing up for her sister. Women should learn to voice out. Yes! be submissive but don't be too calm or quiet.. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by UnfairLife7(m): 6:33am On Aug 11, 2023 |
immortalcrown:LOl You should know some of these men hide their true colour. Yes, you might have a glimpse of who they're a little but you can't get it whole. The only sign she said she saw but ignore was HIS INSECURITY. She didn't consider a red flag enough to let go of him. She's also a calm and quiet person that hardly talk. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by MrLankeeee(m): 10:26am On Aug 11, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113: Thank you. The Arabs that treat their wives well are they Christians? I don't know why you people try to christainize everything. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Men Wicked In Marriage? (my Experience) by Levels1(m): 5:10pm On Sep 21, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: The reason for him to have been treating your acclaimed mom sister like a bitchiest is because of the story he had about your mom's ways of life that lead to giving birth to you whom she is scared of who among them father's you. |
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