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Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by strictly4data: 3:05pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by whytediamond(m): 3:15pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer: Tell us a workable pathway to the topic discussed. How can your God make a better decision or solution to the ones the OP shared? |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Mayeldah(m): 3:18pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
If you are in Nigeria, no matter the level of education you have attained, LEARN A SKILL. Even if you have PHD in aeronautical engineering, just a learn a skill as a side hustle plan, it pays!! IT skills, Carpentry, Fashion Design, pedicure and manicure, Barbing, Auto Electrical skills, Graphics Design, Photograhy and Videography, DJ/VJ skills, Brokership/Agency, even Omonile land selling skills, etc... It comes handy when collar jobs fails. 2 Likes |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 3:19pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Truth is the "common sense" that works for A may not work for B because of their different God designed dispositions/personalities/destinies. This is why you must know how to hear God for yourself. 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 3:21pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
BOSSkesh: There was a generation when while collar jobs were truly the saving grace. Today the reverse is almost the case. This is why God's counsel is needed for the season. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 3:25pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
whytediamond: Learning to hear God for yourself. The first thing is to acknowledge that Life is both Natural and Spiritual. The Spiritual being what controls/determines the outcomes of the natural/physical. Once you understand this, you will seek to understand the Spiritual. Some go to dark powers. Some go to various religions. I encountered the LORD of the Spirit in Jesus Christ. And by His Holy spirit and Word, I am being led through life. This is the heritage of all who give their lives to Jesus Christ, put their Trust in Him and accept Him as their LORD and Savior. God's Grace multiplied to you and us all. 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by abbey621(m): 3:26pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Don't know what cool aid/zobo y'all have been drinking lately but if you are fortunate enough to finance your child through 4-6 years of university, you do not owe that child anything else career wise. All that talk about investment, art etc, should be for you! Only when you're okay currently and future wise should you even consider worrying about the career of a university graduate. You want your child to be independent, you want him or her to be able to survive under any condition. These kids nowadays get chewed and spat out by the harsh realities of society nowadays because they've not been allowed the freedom and autonomy to grow independently! There's no f*cking reason, a twenty something year old graduate is still depending on mama or papa for feeding.....Makes no damn sense! 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by olaniyilukman(m): 3:30pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer:God is present in all our lives... |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Djamel(m): 3:32pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer: i liked your comment so i'm not being biased here......its a good advice to give however...... 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 3:32pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
twosquare: Ecclesiastes is a very profound book. You have to know the context around which it was written to appreciate it and not use it to your own destruction. What you've said is the truth and I have not said any thing contrary. I simply said the primary thing is to know God and how he speaks to you. Then He will deliver you from every unforseen disaster either by averting it from coming near you, or granting you the strength needed to go through and overcome the disaster as Job experienced this test as we all do maybe not to the same degree. Life is too evil and unpredictable to be ignorant of God deprive yourself of His Guidance, Protection and Fatherhood. 2 Likes |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 3:34pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
olaniyilukman: This would take a while to unravel. God truly is present with every one. However, the choice is always ours to make whether to let Him guide us or leave us to our own devices and plans. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Kemadealadire(f): 3:45pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Going to school only isn't education, everyone in my family can do a minimum of two handwork asides having certificates because my mum provided the materials and allowed us learn while playing around these things. If you don't get a white collar job, you can still earn doing what you know. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Kobojunkie: 3:53pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer:Wrong! Jesus Christ never said He is God's Wisdom aka Commonsense. Rather He said He is the Truth of God implying they wisdom exists aside of Truth. Truth is not commonsense but rather God's Law which was given to a select people whereas commonsense exists for all of mankind. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Smartguru1: 4:15pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
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Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by UnfairLife7(m): 4:18pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
oluwaseyi0:There are lots of kids/teens and even adults with talent but couldn't harness it due to finances. I had a younger brother who's extremely good in football. He has gone to different competition but couldn't make it. He has the passion. He's very good at it. We've heard series of advice and suggestions but all still boils down on finance. I think being poor has a lots of disadvantage towards one success. I wouldn't blame parents sending their wards to school though. At least that's the only thing they could offer them Some had relocated to saner climes with their first degree through scholarship. Some are also lucky to get a decent job in Nigeria. Although majority with their degree in Nigeria find it difficult to breakthrough. Nonetheless, i wouldn't discourage any parents from sending their wards to school if that's the only thing they could offer Talent without financial back-up is somewhat next to nothing in Nigeria. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Phraences: 4:19pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer: You have heard God's voice clearly before? |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by UnfairLife7(m): 4:32pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
It abbey621:it is very much possible @bolded Don't use your own situation/circumstance as a norms or general standard. In Nigeria today, it is very much possible for graduates to depends on their parents in many ways. Someone who got admission immediately after secondary school or someone who was working after secondary school to support his/her parents for his/her education. There was no time to learn skills. I do not mean digital skills. After school and service, you and i know majority of Nigerian graduates do not get job after school. It is not new to us anymore. Some of these graduates ended up with teaching job with paltry pay just to keep soul and body together. Some ended up learning one skills or the other (fashion design, plumbing, welding et al. They obviously depends on their parents/guidian during these period. If you can comfortably assume you see no reason why graduates should depends on their parents after school. What if someone said he/she see no reason why a reasonable person will go through school without coming out with at least strong 2.1 or first-class in a course he/she spent at least 4 years? What would you have to say to such person? I believe that person has reason for saying that just as you 3 Likes |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by viyon02: 4:36pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
VeeVeeMyLuv:We know the system is corrupt and bad, that is more reason we should find the time to stay with them and inculcate moral standard into them, many go to church and mosque but pastors and Alfas will only preach prosperity and importance of money to believers, no need to be morally just afterall money answers all things. WE ALL NEED TO STAND FOR OUR MORAL VALUE. 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by enemyofprogress: 4:50pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Rubbish! Trash. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by abbey621(m): 4:53pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: All you've written are nothing but excuses! Go back and read my comment, I said the parents sponsored the kid through university, this means they are obviously not poor to the point that they need that kid to help out in providing income for the family. I'm going to say it again, if a parent can sponsor the child throughout his or her university education, there's no reason why such a child would still need to depend on the parent for survival after graduating. Yes jobs no dey, yes the country hard but if these kids are still liabilities before and after university then wahala dey! University is more than just education, it's meant to teach young ones on how to be adults, how to network, how to relate with people from all over! If in 4-6 years you've never made a kobo by yourself while studying at a Nigerian university then you've learnt NOTHING! Finally, your point about 2.1 or first class is also invalid. Yes there's no excuse for not being able to achieve such, failure to do so is nobody's fault but your OWN! It's called ACCOUNTABILITY! I graduated with a 2.2 and if I'm honest with myself, it was my fault, I chose the school, I chose the course and I chose social life over being a nerd....It is what it is! 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by UnfairLife7(m): 5:25pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
abbey621:How many parents in Nigeria can comfortably see their wards through school without them contributing in one way or the other? Very few parents are in that category. Most of these lads chose cyber fraud as sustainance in school and after school. Yes i understand your point though. A child who lack nothing. Everything is being provided for him/her. I believe such a person should be able to think of what to do if not for anything, at least to relieve his/her parents from financial burden and perhaps allow them focus on his/her younger siblings. I get your point. But you know there are students who singlehandedly sponsored themselves through school, had social life in school and still graduate top of their class? How will you feel if those people in that category also said they see no reason why someone would go through the four walls of university without coming out with at least 2.1? You called that personal decision or accountability but to them they somewhat see it as failure. To them anything less than 2.1 is nothing but failure. Sorry to say. Besides, most of these guys don't even depends on their parents. They're mostly into cyber fraud and some other illegal means of making money. The ones who do not involve in fraudulent act depends on their parents which obviously is wrong. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by blesdman(m): 5:34pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Myer:Fake idea |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by blesdman(m): 5:36pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
abbey621:Education is a key for civilisation or colonisation, common sense is the key for life. What's common sense, be humble and loyal to mentors in any area u desire success. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by patorial(m): 5:43pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
The moment I read where you said "buy land, buy art work" I knew you are just new to life and have never had any experience. 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by rtdCivilservant: 5:45pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
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Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by MisterBanny(m): 5:51pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
viyon02: How many undergraduates have parents who are even alive? |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Myer(m): 6:01pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Djamel: He spoke good counsel. Just emphasising the need to still seek God's counsel concerning raising one's family. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by abbey621(m): 6:02pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: All I'm saying is if you are lucky enough to have parents that sponsored you throughout university study, there's no excuse to still be depending on them after NYSC. Even if job no dey, the university experience should have taught you how to be resourceful! Furthermore, for students like that there should be no excuse not to get 2.1 or better! Now, if the student had to struggle with finances by working, shouldn't such a student be more motivated than those who had it easy? I know for sure the most brilliant students from my set were those of very poor backgrounds. In fact one of the poorest from my set made a living selling handouts and conducting tutorials. Such a student after graduation would have no problem being resourceful even if job no dey because the entrepreneurial spirit was already activated! 1 Like |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by galantjoe(m): 6:05pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Parents should have laissez faire authority upon their children choice of career and welfare. Too much pampering of their children, too much welfarist provision of their needs and wants. The parents should use moral suasion in directing them to their career paths. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by yemmit90: 6:05pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
Winters23: Don't mind him, this is the same way society mount pressure on people. The same greedy mentality that is keeping black societies in perpetual wide spread poverty. The funniest part is that, majority of these people will end up stealing, killing, scaming and many dubious ways to achieve this. The so called leaders too will loot off public fund that is meant for development of their people just to accumulate wealth for their unborn generations. Imagine this one advising people to keep accumulating properties , so that their children won't suffer. Why can't you just train your children and pray to God to give them wisdom to stand on their own instead of accumulating already scarce resources at the detriment of others. You plan for your old age by investing in money making ventures, be it real estate or trading and not necessarily to accumulating wealth for children who are suppose to work for theirs too. |
Re: The Biggest Mistake Nigerian Parents Do by Amiee99(f): 6:06pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
I've promised myself that when I have children, I'll make sure they discover their talents and I'll owe it to them to make sure I help them make the most of it. They'll excel in school work and will excel through using their gifts. |
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