TELL HIM THE TRUTH.

Whether you tell him the truth or a lie, it will be discovered on your wedding night. Not all brothers are daft not to identify a sister who is a virgin or not.

Let me share this story with you. A sister got married and on their wedding night, the brother discovered she had been lying to be a virgin all along.

This single lie of hers almost broke her new home. The brother wasn't angry because she wasn't a virgin but because she LIED. If you want to break a person's trust in you, tell a lie!

While they were courting, the brother asked to know about her past sexual life (if any), not to disdain her, he just wanted to know what to expect on their wedding night at least.

Meanwhile, the sister had lost her virginity. According to her, she had sex just a few times before rededicating her life to Christ. But she chose to lie to her fiancee for whatever reason that suit her.

Virginity is not something to lie about especially when you have given your life to Christ. Whatever happened in your past was only a chapter of your life, not the entire book!

It is better to let the brother know that you are no longer a virgin and trust is established than tell a lie and lose his trust for you when he finds out. But before you divulge such information, please hear this.

It is very important to go into a relationship with a Child of God who understands forgiveness and restoration. I mean a man who understands that when a sister is in Christ, all things become NEW and she can be trusted.

Some of our born-again brothers do not understand these things. Their born-again doesn't want to have anything to do with a sister's past. They are looking for a saint to marry. Some of them are even bent on marrying a virgin.

So, if you're in a relationship with a brother like that, just know that telling him you're not a virgin might birth the END of that relationship and you must be ready for whatever comes out of your sincere truth. Probably, he was never yours!

But here's the main thing. If the brother you're in a relationship with asks if you're a virgin or not, tell him the truth! Even if he doesn't ask, because some brothers might be shy to ask such questions, let him know the truth before you get married.

You don't have to tell him how many times it happened. Just let him know you are not a virgin and since you gave your life to Christ or rededicated your life to Christ, you have turned a new leaf.

Giving him the full details might escalate things. Not every man can contain such information, especially at that moment. It is wise to know what to say and how to say it.

The most important thing is, he knows what to expect on your wedding night and trust is established!

Also, divulging such information at the stage of friendship or the early stage of your relationship isn't wise. You must take your time to know the kind of man he is, and how he interprets things, and react to them.

Secondly, you must be sure he loves you so much not to allow such information to ruin your relationship. Thirdly, be sure he is not an 'I must marry a virgin' kind of man. If he is, then he is not for you!

His mentality about virginity or not matters a lot and you must be aware of it.

However, some brothers do not mind, as long as you have repented from that old way of life. So, don't be scared to say the truth.

Tell him the truth, not only because you don't want to lie to him but because you are a Child of...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

Mary Balogun

LoveUdie:

TELL HIM THE TRUTH.

Whether you tell him the truth or a lie, it will be discovered on your wedding night. Not all brothers are daft not to identify a sister who is a virgin or not.

Let me share this story with you. A sister got married and on their wedding night, the brother discovered she had been lying to be a virgin all along.

This single lie of hers almost broke her new home. The brother wasn't angry because she wasn't a virgin but because she LIED. If you want to break a person's trust in you, tell a lie!

While they were courting, the brother asked to know about her past sexual life (if any), not to disdain her, he just wanted to know what to expect on their wedding night at least.

Meanwhile, the sister had lost her virginity. According to her, she had sex just a few times before rededicating her life to Christ. But she chose to lie to her fiancee for whatever reason that suit her.

Virginity is not something to lie about especially when you have given your life to Christ. Whatever happened in your past was only a chapter of your life, not the entire book!

It is better to let the brother know that you are no longer a virgin and trust is established than tell a lie and lose his trust for you when he finds out. But before you divulge such information, please hear this.

It is very important to go into a relationship with a Child of God who understands forgiveness and restoration. I mean a man who understands that when a sister is in Christ, all things become NEW and she can be trusted.

Some of our born-again brothers do not understand these things. Their born-again doesn't want to have anything to do with a sister's past. They are looking for a saint to marry. Some of them are even bent on marrying a virgin.

So, if you're in a relationship with a brother like that, just know that telling him you're not a virgin might birth the END of that relationship and you must be ready for whatever comes out of your sincere truth. Probably, he was never yours!

But here's the main thing. If the brother you're in a relationship with asks if you're a virgin or not, tell him the truth! Even if he doesn't ask, because some brothers might be shy to ask such questions, let him know the truth before you get married.

You don't have to tell him how many times it happened. Just let him know you are not a virgin and since you gave your life to Christ or rededicated your life to Christ, you have turned a new leaf.

Giving him the full details might escalate things. Not every man can contain such information, especially at that moment. It is wise to know what to say and how to say it.

The most important thing is, he knows what to expect on your wedding night and trust is established!

Also, divulging such information at the stage of friendship or the early stage of your relationship isn't wise. You must take your time to know the kind of man he is, and how he interprets things, and react to them.

Secondly, you must be sure he loves you so much not to allow such information to ruin your relationship. Thirdly, be sure he is not an 'I must marry a virgin' kind of man. If he is, then he is not for you!

His mentality about virginity or not matters a lot and you must be aware of it.

However, some brothers do not mind, as long as you have repented from that old way of life. So, don't be scared to say the truth.

Tell him the truth, not only because you don't want to lie to him but because you are a Child of...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

Mary Balogun

Story.... After all your long epistles, it's still either A VIRGIN or no relationship/marriage!!!! This i must confirm myself before i will even dress up to go and see her people🙄

I can't settle for a retired olosho when they're millions of virgins in this planet😕😕

Nah nice guys and simps i dey pity pass for this world.

tochez24:




Story.... After all your long epistles, it's still either A VIRGIN or no relationship/marriage!!!! This i must confirm myself before i will even dress up to go and see her people🙄

I can't settle for a retired olosho when they're millions of virgins in this planet😕😕

Nah nice guys and simps i dey pity pass for this world.

Hope you are also decent enough to deserve a virgin, at least if you ain't a virgin too your body count should not be more than one.

Show him pictures of kanji dam
And tell him that's exactly how your puna is so he can wear live jacket before swimming.

Harlots everywhere

IconicR:
Hope you are also decent enough to deserve a virgin, at least if you ain't a virgin too your body count should not be more than one.

I have already paid my dues by providing her with money and comfort....So far I'm medically, psychologically and emotionally fit to make healthy babies with her, then my body count is highly insignificant here my dear.

All i can ask from her is her virginity,care and loyalty ⚠️

Is that too much to ask? After working my ass off to give her comfort and luxury!!!😕😕

tochez24:


I have already paid my dues by providing her with money and comfort....So far I'm medically, psychologically and emotionally fit to make healthy babies with her, then my body count is highly insignificant here my dear.

All i can ask from her is her virginity,care and loyalty ⚠️

Is that too much to ask? After working my ass off to give her comfort and luxury!!!😕😕

Same woman you'll still request she brings something to the table, so where is the justification if both of you provide?
If you think your virginity or body count doesn't matter as a man because you provide then it should apply both ways because she'll work and provide as well
You can only be escused if you intend making her a full time housewife

IconicR:
Same woman you'll still request she brings something to the table, so where is the justification if both of you provide?
If you think your virginity or body count doesn't matter as a man because you provide then it should apply both ways because she'll work and provide as well
You can only be escused if you intend making her a full time housewife

He that made them in the beginning made them male and female.... He didn't make them male and male⚠️

Till the world ends you can never equate a man with a woman, a man must be a man while a woman must be a woman, a feminine!!!!

For me, virginity is my primary requirement of any girl i will marry, then if she comes with extra qualities like a job or something then it's my bonus.

I'm not asking her to bring anything else to the table except her hymen, care and loyalty into my home, if she brings or wants more then it's her choice entirely not mine.

Okay. Next!

In virginity matter, a woman is always at the receiving end. A man can swear that he is a virgin and everyone would believe he can even deny those he has slept with sef well, " no evidence ". But for a woman, hmmm it's only if miracle wants to happen that can re-virgin a woman who has lost it already.

That doesn't mean a man can go about furnicating, FORNICATION is a SIN.

tochez24:



He that made them in the beginning made them male and female.... He didn't make them male and male⚠️

Till the world ends you can never equate a man with a woman, a man must be a man while a woman must be a woman, a feminine!!!!

For me, virginity is my primary requirement of any girl i will marry, then if she comes with extra qualities like a job or something then it's my bonus.

I'm not asking her to bring anything except her hymen, care and loyalty into my home, if she brings or wants more then it's her choice entirely not mine.

I like your stand and I'm ok with it since you don't need your woman to toil and feed you like most men of these days are craving for.
You must also be decent as well if you want hymen, it'll be bad getting a decent woman with everything intact only to be sharing what she enjoys with every other ladies out there.

The only time they inquire about the virginity of men is when their sexua| purity is questioned.
On a normal settings, all womeπ want a man that is sexually experienced and very good in bed. These females even mock virgin guys and make fun of their naivity.
They all want a man who knows how to make them cum and squirt.
But the moment a man says he want a virgiπ wife, these womeπ immediately get possessed by the demoπ of confusion and they'll ask you " What about the men" 🤡🤡🤡

"She had sex just a few times before giving her life to Christ"


Just a few times
Dey play

IconicR:
Hope you are also decent enough to deserve a virgin, at least if you ain't a virgin too your body count should not be more than one.

Men are not judged by their sexual past...they are judged by their bank accounts while women are not judged by their bank account.... we can't eat our cake and have it ... we abide by 2 different set of rules... a woman lying that she is a virgin , is equal to a man lying that he is wealthy

Beverlyjean:


Men are not judged by their sexual past...they are judged by their bank accounts while women are not judged by their bank account.... we can't eat our cake and have it ... we abide by 2 different set of rules... a woman lying that she is a virgin , is equal to a man lying that he is wealthy

Why are you always on the other side even if they are clearly wrong

IconicR:
Same woman you'll still request she brings something to the table, so where is the justification if both of you provide?
If you think your virginity or body count doesn't matter as a man because you provide then it should apply both ways because she'll work and provide as well
You can only be escused if you intend making her a full time housewife

That's the mistake most women make...what you bring to the table doesn't mean how much money u gonna contribute in the marriage... virginity, loyalty , honesty, feminity, submission, respect , decency , cleaning, cooking , contentment , being agreeable. Trusting his leadership ...these are what a man is expecting u bring to the table ... men don't care about a woman's wealth, if they did like us women... Genevieve and Linda would have been married a long time ago

IconicR:
Why are you always on the other side even if they are clearly wrong

Make your assertion and stop blackmailing the lady when she makes hers. Herd mentality takes you no where, be an independent thinker.

Beverlyjean:


That's the mistake most women make...what you bring to the table doesn't how much money u gonna contribute in the marriage... virginity, loyalty , honesty, feminity, submission, respect , decency , cleaning, cooking , contentment , being agreeable. Trusting his leadership ...these are what a man is expecting u bring to the table ... men don't care about a woman's wealth, if they did like us women... Genevieve and Linda would have been married a long time ago

I disagree with your last paragraph or haven't you been on nairaland for long to read where most guys say a woman should work and make money for the family as well. Men care for a woman's wealth these days.
The women you mentioned are their own problems and they'll get married within a month if they so wish because alot of guys are attracted to their wealth and all of that.

ExudeLoveToAll:


Make your assertion and stop blackmailing the lady when she makes hers. Herd mentality takes you no where, be an independent thinker.

From my response to her you should know this wasn't her first time in doing such.

IconicR:
Why are you always on the other side even if they are clearly wrong

I stand by the truth and fact ... being a woman don't mean u should support everything women think or want... if we tell women the truth, the world will be a better place , if women are held accountable for their misbehaviour like men , the world will be a better place... u can't tell women that they can sleep with anyone they wanna sleep with just like men ...while we tell men to make money so that they can attract women ... we are not men ... a man will take a virgin over a rich woman... while a woman will take a rich man over a man that hasn't has sex b4... men are not born virgins like women ... virginity is " only" associated with women ... Jesus Christ never had sex on earth, he is not referred to as the " virgin Jesus christ " .. but Mary is referred as that ... go and watch justpearlythings, candace owens, Roma Army ... then u will know that there are women that don't agree with the feminism ideology

What u gonna tell him for? Just leave him alone. What he sees is what he gets.

IconicR:
Why are you always on the other side even if they are clearly wrong

He who comes with equity must come with clean hands!!!!🤲🏾

I'm not here to judge women or their past, but in all sincerity, a woman who has lost her virginity deserves nothing!!! Not even a man talkless of a rich man.

Even the bible instructed men to pay the bride price of only virgins, hence you as a man spending millions to marry a non virgin is nothing but a big FOOL💔

As I'm trying so hard to keep making money, a lady that deserves my effort in life she also try so hard to keep her legs closed.

It's all about sacrifices!!!

I actually have a virgin i want to marry now sef but she said i should give to time to round up with her school, hopefully she doesn't loose her virginity by then though🙄

tochez24:


He who comes with equity must come with clean hands!!!!🤲🏾

I'm not here to judge women or their past, but in all sincerity, a woman who has lost her virginity deserves nothing!!! Not even a man talkless of a rich man.

Even the bible instructed men to pay the bride price of only virgins, hence you as a man spending millions to marry a non virgin is nothing but a big FOOL💔

As I'm trying so hard to keep making money, a lady that deserves my effort in life she also try so hard to keep her legs closed.

It's all about sacrifices!!!

I actually have a virgin i want to marry now sef but she said i should give to time to round up with her school, hopefully she doesn't loose her virginity by then though🙄

There are virgins everywhere and even here on nairaland but the problem is the type of guys wanting these virgins.
Imagine guys that patronize hookup ladies also longing to wife a virgin, is that fair? That's my problem with them.

IconicR:
I disagree with your last paragraph or haven't you been on nairaland for long to read where most guys say a woman should work and make money for the family as well. Men care for a woman's wealth these days.
The women you mentioned are their own problems and they'll get married within a month if they so wish because alot of guys are attracted to their wealth and all of that.

Men only request for a woman working these days because of the excessive lifestyle of most women these days ... a man can take care of basics needs in his household ... the problem they have is the wife wanting the latest iPhone, bone straights , foreign vacs , expensive cars , expensive jewelry, and most men can't afford that ... reason u hear women say " your money is our money , my money is my money" ... and this new system is making some men lazy , cos they are beginning to believe that they don't have to provide if the woman can make money .... any very wealthy man that truly loves his wife , will not want her to work , unless she insists, maybe to keep herself busy

tochez24:



He that made them in the beginning made them male and female.... He didn't make them male and male⚠️

Till the world ends you can never equate a man with a woman, a man must be a man while a woman must be a woman, a feminine!!!!

For me, virginity is my primary requirement of any girl i will marry, then if she comes with extra qualities like a job or something then it's my bonus.

I'm not asking her to bring anything else to the table except her hymen, care and loyalty into my home, if she brings or wants more then it's her choice entirely not mine.

I like that,

IconicR:
There are virgins everywhere and even here on nairaland but the problem is the type of guys wanting these virgins.
Imagine guys that patronize hookup ladies also longing to wife a virgin, is that fair? That's my problem with them.

Do women that have received lots of gifts and money from men or ex boyfriends to the extent that most of these men became broke... do women like that deserve to end up with rich men? Or do they deserve to end up with poor men ?

Beverlyjean:


Do women that have received lots of gifts and money from men or ex boyfriends to the extent that most of these men became broke... do women like that deserve to end up with rich men? Or do they deserve to end up with poor men ?

Are you equating virginity with money/gifts?
Like seriously?

Beverlyjean:


I stand by the truth and fact ... being a woman don't mean u should support everything women think or want... if we tell women the truth, the world will be a better place , if women are held accountable for their misbehaviour like men , the world will be a better place... u can't tell women that they can sleep with anyone they wanna sleep with just like men ...while we tell men to make money so that they can attract women ... we are not men ... a man will take a virgin over a rich woman... while a woman will take a rich man over a man that hasn't has sex b4... men are not born virgins like women ... virginity is " only" associated with women ... Jesus Christ never had sex on earth, he is not referred to as the " virgin Jesus christ " .. but Mary is referred as that ... go and watch justpearlythings, candace owens, Roma Army ... then u will know that there are women that don't agree with the feminism ideology

I like you, are you a Nigerian?

IconicR:
Are you equating virginity with money/gifts?
Like seriously?

YES...I AM

I dont believe you are a lady or you are from this planet.You just spelt everything out the way it is .Virginity is what all ladies should maintain to keep .

Beverlyjean:


I stand by the truth and fact ... being a woman don't mean u should support everything women think or want... if we tell women the truth, the world will be a better place , if women are held accountable for their misbehaviour like men , the world will be a better place... u can't tell women that they can sleep with anyone they wanna sleep with just like men ...while we tell men to make money so that they can attract women ... we are not men ... a man will take a virgin over a rich woman... while a woman will take a rich man over a man that hasn't has sex b4... men are not born virgins like women ... virginity is " only" associated with women ... Jesus Christ never had sex on earth, he is not referred to as the " virgin Jesus christ " .. but Mary is referred as that ... go and watch justpearlythings, candace owens, Roma Army ... then u will know that there are women that don't agree with the feminism ideology

jattopeter:
I dont believe you are a lady or you are from this planet.You just spelt everything out the way it is .Virginity is what all ladies should maintain to keep .

My mother and father brought me up teaching me these things .. most people act like sheep that's why the world suffers... check out justpearlythings and Roma Army on youtube ..they teach women these same things ... so don't be surprised this thing is coming from a woman... I'm a critical and independent thinker ... I also criticise the black race , and I'm not white ...I also criticise how Christianity allows alot of crap happen ..but I'm a Christian