| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Jeezuzpick(m): 1:30pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! You have a family that loves you. Better thank God first. Imagine where you'll be now if you were an orphan. 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by darexolu16(m): 1:35pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
i will advice you to seek the advice of a good pastor...the grass is not always greener on the other side...sometimes the right way to progress is just close by...am a living example
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Klington: 1:37pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! You need to be calculatedly stubborn to achieve your goals. Emphasis on calculatedly stubborn. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Juniorangel(m): 1:38pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Step out into the unknown, taste the waters and create memories. Your family will never abandon you no matter what, even if it gets worse the prodigal son was never rejected. 1 Like 1 Share |
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| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by alfajohn: 1:41pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Don’t leave because you just want to leave. The pay of the new job can it sustain you comfortably without recourse to your family. If not I will suggest to stay till your financial situation improves. I understand that you need your independence to grow up and mature but right now town is not smiling. 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Adesina18111(m): 1:41pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
It is better you move away bro...I grew up staying with my mother relatives being an orphan...it got to stage that I personally knew that I am being used by someone I was staying with...I had to go to farm and worked harder for my school fees to be paid while none of his children knew the way to farm...But one thing, I changed my story when I got to 200 Level second semester...I said to myself...I NEED TO FOLLOW MY HEART for the first time and i am ready to bear the consequences...they abandoned and ignored me immediately they knew I didn't come home no more to help on the farm...but by then I was working while going to school too...the rest is a story today...I do send money back home anytime I have in excess now 2 Likes |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by AdaojoTheUrchin: 1:41pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Your family loves you and fear for your safety over the little 'change' that the school has to offer.
There are kidnappers, ritualists, and killers everywhere. Especially in poverty-stricken areas.
They have taken stock and it is not worth the risk. Being Nigerian alone is enough risk. Do not complicate your living risk further. You are actually more interested in 'exploring' than the job. Do not be prodigal, 100% independence is not as rosy as it seems.
Stay where you are, download the LinkedIn app, and start applying for Jobs you want. Turn on the Job alert and you get the vacancy alerts in your email. The rate of recruitment on LinkedIn is high enough to give it try.
Also remember to follow Top opinion leaders, professionals and recruiters in the industry.
Enough said.. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Chibuzoripob: 1:42pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
 u are on point.The earlier u leave,the better.If it is one room face 2 face u can afford for now go nd rent and believe God for supply. DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by BigDawsNet: 1:42pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! I understand what you going tru... And I to be honest... I'm glad how you hav been managing your suitation... No much story... let me advice you... don't go against your family wishes... forget it, they are not in control of your life but they just want the best for you... If you decide to leave and things don't work out... it maybe really difficult for you to get back and get any reasonable help from them.... I once once in ur shoe.. but my family weren't that much on my shoulder... I was free but they only like to make suggestions for me... Anyway, I had to wait and chill for them.. las las they had a great plan for me.. and I was glad I dint mess-up 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by just4fun(m): 1:43pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Explore life !!
You are not growing younger !! Soon the same family will compare you with others or even force you to go and face life.
Move out ASAP and God will direct you...….. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by linearity: 1:46pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Thanks for this.
But what if they cut ties with me and then I need them in the future? No body make it by playing safe I their comfort zone. Very soon you will be a man with a wife and kids and you need to be cut from your current situation to learn life skills. Sit your elder siblings and parent down or write a letter if you think you can’t muster the courage to talk to them politely face to face. Explain to them that you love and cherish them and are truly grateful for their support and concerns, tell them the current situation in depressing to you and it is affecting you mentally and that the new place though you don’t know what would become of it later…but for now, it gives you joy, you become very excited with new lease of life and that it is not fair for them to threat you about cutting families ties and that you truly want to exploit this opportunity and they should please see reasons with you. That you are telling them this or writing them for the deep respect you have for them and do not want to ignore them and leave. Explain to them how this job would enhance your mental wellbeing, how it would help cure your depression, how it would infuse you with energy to face life challenges, etc. These are your siblings and parents and they mean well for you, and they would not read that letter and want to still insist that you remain depressed just to please their sense of your safety. All you need is to convince just one person among them, that would develop a crack among them and it will be that person that would explain to them in the language they would understand….they may just still be seeing as a kid and want to protect you from self-hurt, but at some point they have to cut the cord. 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by weslay: 1:48pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
It seams to me that you want to leave not really because of the viability of the prospect but on emotional grounds.
Personally, I would not leave my state for a teaching job, be it Federal, State or Private.
As a young man with limited responsibilities now, this is the best time to learn a skill that can change the course of your life forever.
Get your priorities right my nigga 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by frozen70(f): 1:48pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Thanks, Frozen.
You're never short of good counsel. Thanks dear |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by kinkydude: 1:49pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
You may not discover yourself until you go out and hustle and build yourself. Make haste. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Image123(m): 1:51pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
My desire is to take the bull by the horns, inspite of the conquences.
Thanks. There's hardly any bull anywhere if what you want to go and do is teach in a private school in some remote place 8hrs away from family. They are concerned for your safety. If you are kidnapped and they are told to pay 10million, are you going to refund? Stay and find better work. Opportunities will open up soon. 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Wodu89: 1:54pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! Leave. But maintain relations with your family in a healthy manner ! |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by atm4real1: 1:55pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! . I will advice you listen to your families.... everyone is different, I understand you are desperate and not comfortable with your current situation, but it's better to be patient better offers are coming. Imagine you want to leave a teaching job for another teaching job in a town of 8 hours journey difference from your place? ... it's not worth it please! Nigeria is not smiling right now in a town you are not really familiar with it considering security and financial issues. I am sure can still explore within your town and neighboring cities within your area. Please reconsider!!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Gentlevip: 1:56pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Some are looking for such family, you are there complaining The fault is yours.. . What have you done to prove to them that you are a real man  When you behave as a man, you even tend to shape their decisions. Be responsible enough, then lets see if you will come here to complain. PEACE |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by MrBroke(m): 1:57pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Thank you.
I'm a male, I'm sorry I should have stated that initially. Bro. Move fvcking out and focus on your goals. This life is personal. If tomorrow you become lonely and financially down nah you go feel am pass o. Most families are less concerned about your goals and wants they only care about your safety which is not a bad thing but like you said you are in your late 20s(na man you be). |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Slurity(m): 1:58pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Hello everyone.
Please I need an urgent advice from the mature minds here. I'm about to take a decision that has the potential to change the course of my life.
A quick background:
I come from a family consisting of five "children", of which I'm the fourth. Right from the days of my childhood, my parents and older siblings have had a firm control over me. They often dictated the friends I'd keep, placed I'd go to, where I should be, and almost how I should behave.
I was mostly indoors because they didn't want me playing around. That had an impact on my personality, because I couldn't master the ability to make friends, express myself confidently, and get involved in social activities that my peers relished.
Fastforward to this point:
I'm in my late 20s, a graduate and an NYSC cert holder, and although the level of control has been minimized, I still experience a bit of it. I don't have a place of my own for now, so I stay in the family house, but my older ones are independent in that aspect though they don't stay far from the family house.
I have a job too, but the salary is not even enough to take care of myself and support the home for a week.
Now here's the issue, I got a job offer from someone I served with during my NYSC, in a state about 8 hours from my current state of residence. It's the same job with the one I'm on right now (a teaching job) but with a slightly better payment return.
The person has a good relationship with the principal of the school, so according to him, the job is secure. I had to accept it because I'm tired of my current situation, and I'm tired of the life I'm living here -- my social life is next to zero, I don't have friends close by, I'm not socially active, and I need to explore. With my little savings, I plan to get an apartment as cheap as possible when I get there.
The problem is everyone is kicking against , because they're concerned about my safety, how I'm going to cope alone in this harsh economy. They've told me that if I decide to leave against their wish, that I'll be on my own and won't get their hands involved if anything goes wrong.
At the moment, I'm thinking of standing my ground and sticking to my decision, because I'm depressed from being in this environment, but I'm a bit afraid of my family cutting ties with me.
Please any advice? I really need some right now.
Thanks! You will struggle to become a man if you dont do what your mind want. Yes, it can turn good or bad but that is not the end of the world. They will respect you more if you start having a say and stick to it. Explain to them in a reasonable way, they love you |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by rajiedreez: 2:12pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
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| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Karleb(m): 2:12pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
If you want their respect, make that move. |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by creativehubb: 2:15pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Study the state you are going to, is it progressive?
Will it benefit you economically and socially?
Listen to what your family members are saying, is there a reason to it? 2 Likes |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by tivity101: 2:19pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Comfort zone has never make a real and a successful man. Not until you choose your path in life believing your instincts and God's blessings, you may never get to that desired destination. So move and explore. It may not be easy initially but believe me you will surely find your feets |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by onuhx: 2:20pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
thank you God you have a family that watch out for you. |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Judolisco(m): 2:22pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
What's wrong wit controlling your life... Go and do a research about those not having responsible parents to control them... D same thing happened to me after service... They didn't want me to go for a job I got online... I simply to them dat it's better than not doing anything.... Tell them you willing to come back home if they get a better offer for u 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Bfly: 2:22pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
late 20s? You should be able to decide where you go and what you do. Only if you are confident.
To the question,
Do what a 40yrs old will do. |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Eeghe(f): 2:26pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
In ten years, you will realize that your family legit love you. And that this love is unselfish...
Show this post of yours to them, and you all will grow and bond more from her
If you are big enough to wanna go rogue, you should not be scared to share this with them. You may even learn what they know about you, that you may not.
Sending you all healing and love |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by Starboytwo(m): 2:32pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
Make that move bro...
You will never regret it...
Gawd, the universe just threw you a lifeline.
Check this. If you stay in your family house, same thing wey dey happen na him go still happen, nothing changes
If you go - New people, new opportunities, new unknown. You can say you just come from America. Everything your terms.
Move bro ASAP. |
| Re: My Family Seems To Want To Control My Life by AndSunGorilla: 2:33pm On Aug 16, 2023 |
DestinedForGrea:
Thanks for this.
But what if they cut ties with me and then I need them in the future? If you are successful, they will look for you but if you fail they "may" look for you. Your major fear is the fear of failure!!! Yes it's good to have good support system, but don't plan your life expecting anyone to help you. I would say you should consider the new job on its merits, 1) is the location safe? 2) is the location close to where you could get better opportunities 3) what's the cost of living in the new location 4) would the salary you would earn there sustain you 5) what is your future strategy for doing better for yourself 6) how does the new job or location take you to your goals? After all said and done, you don't have to travel to be independent, he who pays the piper will always dictate the tune; once you show you are self sustaining, you would notice that respect for you would increase. 1 Like 1 Share |
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