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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by shantti(m): 7:43am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Bro u are dumb for twisting an argument into team I support the op cos am a woman vs team I don't support the op cos am a man I labeled u a woman cos u refused to answer a simple question I asked u, instead you deviated from the question and brought in a totally biased perspective which is as different from my question as day and night. My question: if a man arrests his wife who assaultes him, would u support him? Expectation: yes or no Your reply: men have been known to assault women, women don't physically assault men Study this your reply and tell me why I won't label u a woman. U r a woman ma 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Mrbllymer: 7:43am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:Stop jumping on my mention please. I don’t care about a kid’s opinion. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kemadealadire(f): 7:45am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Oizee:It's not a woman's job to be responsible for a man and still carry out her 'expected roles' as the woman. @OP, let him be, you didn't do wrong. But, I am curious where does he get money to drink and smoke ![]() He isn't providing, not helping out with caring for his children and around the house, still destroying stuffs and beating you and his fellow men here are saying you should have overlooked, like they would if they were in your shoes, anyway, the easiest thing to give is advice, talk is cheap. I hope they give their sisters the same advice. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 7:46am On Aug 23, 2023 |
shantti:keep defending domestic violence. Check your community and family members and tell me if you've heard or seen a wife beating her husband. Keep defending your likes. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 7:47am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Mrbllymer:what opinion do you expect Mr adult? The worst that could happen is divorce and it's a win win for Op 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by shantti(m): 7:48am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: U see what am saying Madam d madam A simple question means am defending domestic violence. Pls carry ur feminine mood swing away from here 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by shantti(m): 7:49am On Aug 23, 2023 |
LadyRosa: Ok |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by LadyRosa(f): 7:50am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Mrbllymer: Whatever I lay down here is born out of previous experiences. So I'm not new to physical abuse. I can Tolerant joblessness, its fine, its ok! Life can be hard. I can manage depression, yeah! I will make that person see life from another angle. Yea, you can take drinks alcohol, yea fine by me, I can buy drinks and share with my depressed husband.Na job e no get, e no kill person. The bible says drink and forget your sorrow. BUT getting drunk and misbehaving, you're crossing the line.Get drunk and sleep, no problem, I will clean you up if I can, and we talk about the actions when you're sober. But coming home to beat me up, you just awaken a part of my brain that harbours deadly vibes. I will NEVER forget, even if I forgive. And I MUST pay back even if I forgive. My father was misbehaving at one point, till I had to remind him I'm not his wife. My mother is the opposite of me, I don't know she managed to birth me,maybe na my father people blood I carry IN EXCESS. Very nice, funny and sweet woman, my mother. My father thought me how to fight, so I grow up fighting and behaving like a man. He treats me like a man ,so I eventually broke his hand like a man. I remember one time I was in the University, my mom called crying, na 5pm but I enter entered 911 to Lagos with farm goods. By 11pm I was in his house. I made sure I break all his cars windscreen and dagger all his tires. He cried!The same way he made my mother cry. His blood runs through my veins he should calm the 4ck down! I remember during my marriage, my dad and my uncles begged me in my room to be calm in marriage ![]() ![]() ![]() My mother called me next day to tell me my father cried ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't miss him, hardly call him self.Na him dey call. I have forgiven him, but will never forget. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by sacajawea: 7:50am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Don't feel nothing! He is a very stupid Boy. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by shantti(m): 7:51am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Keep supporting domestic violence on men by women, when u beat ur husband, he will kill u and everyone will support him Domestic violence towards men by their wives and subsequent lying is a No, I also don't care what led to that. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 7:52am On Aug 23, 2023 |
shantti:keep defending domestic violence. Maybe you think you're engaging with American man ![]() Like we're not in the same naija. Even a blind person know an average naija men are violence by nature until proven otherwise. Yes, i am part of Naija men but a responsible one that do not tolorate or condole violence 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 7:56am On Aug 23, 2023 |
shantti:tell us how many wife you don see or hear beating her husband na. Tell us how many wife you don see or hear kill her husband as a result of domestic violence. Na naija you and i dey o baba. No dey cap for your fellow man like i no know wotsup 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Dmacqh(m): 8:03am On Aug 23, 2023 |
2 wrongs can't make a right. 1. He has wrong attitude after his downfall. Can he rise , Yes. He lost job not his senses. He lost his pocket not talent. He should start from somewhere. I think he has ego. He wants to return to his former lofty heights, which isn't bad but he can start somewhere. 2. If you are buoyant, you can given him a loan to start a business. 3. What's your reaction and action to him since he lost his job ? Men ego are bruised when they feel inferior 4. He beat you. So does he deserve cell, Yes. But in this our part of the world, it will be somehow. 5. If you can , change location with him, so he has new environment. 6. Take him to his family, and plead your cause there, do the same as well to your family. 7. Pray to God, and keep your voice low when he's angry. How was he, when he was feeding you ? |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Savechild23: 8:03am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Verokeena: Police has no fvkin right to detain him for one second, u either file for divorce or get the hell out of the house. Police, ur boundary stops where marriage begins! Stuupiid idiiets claiming responsibility as whöres! Ewu nwanyi! Ishigbuola m! 2 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by 96ACE: 8:07am On Aug 23, 2023 |
This man has not said his own side of the story oo, most of you here are saying she’s right because he beats her. What if she’s the one that’s beating him like most women do? 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 8:07am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Savechild23:it's a win win for Op if they divorce. She can easily get a man and settle down but her hubby will have to bounce back financially before any woman can take him serious 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 8:09am On Aug 23, 2023 |
96ACE:LOl You mean most women beat their husband at home? Hahahahaha nothing wey person no go see for social media ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by MSN1(m): 8:21am On Aug 23, 2023 |
thesicilian:If what the woman wrote was 100% correct, i wonder why you would type such rubbish. From the post did you see anything wrong she did? Judges like u are the reason this country is in a mess.I bet u haven't seen how some men beat and maltreat women. So because he is a man, we should start supporting any rubbish but if the woman were to be your sister; you would roast him alive. Women mostly are the ones to be blamed because some got married to boys in men's clothing. Ordinary job he lose, he has started feeling depressed, what if REAL life happens to him? 3 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Mrbllymer: 8:24am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:I still don’t care about your opinion as I didn’t ask for it. Stop quoting me. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by 96ACE: 8:25am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:It sounds awkward but most feeble men are victims if domestic violence here in Nigeria. Most of the men that drinks local gin don’t feed well so they are easily beaten up by their wives |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Savechild23: 8:26am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: U are a mumu woman Ur thoughts are tied to ur shallow understanding! Most men lost their feet because they chose to be over supportive and this is what they get after supporting these wayward whòres! If he retract entire from that woman, he will live better! 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 8:27am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Mrbllymer:you've gotten the worst that could possibly happen which is a win win for Op. What else are you looking for? |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 8:32am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Savechild23:The last time i checked Mr sensible man women do not beg men to marry them. Men propose and get married. Who do you expect to take responsibility in the house please? Nobody said the man will not get back on his feet either still married or divorce. We're only saying the worst that could happen is divorce which is a win win for Op. She can easily get married if she chose to but her hubby had to be back on his feet financially before any woman will take him serious. It's a bitter truth 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Mrbllymer: 8:35am On Aug 23, 2023 |
LadyRosa:lol. Good for you. Though cos you were taught how to fight doesn’t mean you can easily fight a man. Father and daughter squabble dey different from marriage fights, one mostly leads to death while the other hardly leads to death. Like I said I preach against violence and won’t tolerate it but anyone who arrest her husband should forget the marriage, do that and don't expect the marriage to be the same. And husband don’t beat your wives if you don’t want to be arrested. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Savechild23: 8:37am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Replying a fôòólïsh whöre makes her feel validated yes, but u should know how to keep ur wickedness and poor perception and twisted life to urself. Some parents today was raised by evil parents so the circle continues and soon u will realize that u will raise ur kids alone and the no man will ever commit to a whøring single mother 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by rosalieene(f): 8:39am On Aug 23, 2023 |
reading through the first page (comments), i am indeed amazed or rather shocked. Some guys here are more worried about the fact that she locked him up forgetting that there was an action that prompted it(laying his hands on her). Life can happen, you can loose your job or even health, thats why the marriage vows says for better for worse. No matter what, depression or whatever, its not enough for him to beat her up. Most of you will lock him up too if it were your sisters, you would not tolerate such actions. Stop trying to hide from the truth just because you feel he is a man so therefore, he did no wrong. Address the problem from its root rather than apportioning all the blames to the OP. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by PastorFire4Fire: 8:39am On Aug 23, 2023 |
maasoap: Nobody is asking her to leave her marriage but the question is, was the man like this from the onset? He lost his job and he is depressed. Why not help him talk to people about getting another job and let him see your effort on that. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by UnfairLife7(m): 8:39am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Mrbllymer:we're still saying the same thing sir. The worst that could happen is divorce which obviously is a win win for Op. She can easily re-marry as a woman but her hubby had to get back on his feet financially before any woman will take him serious 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Luckysbab: 8:40am On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: I doubt it’s simply a Nigerian thing alone. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 8:40am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Luckysbab:at bolded i don't know why some ladies think I'm on the anybody's side ![]() ![]() ![]() Both of them needs fresh air, make them go cool down somewhere. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by rosalieene(f): 8:41am On Aug 23, 2023 |
Verokeena: dont take what many dish out here. You know your partner better than anyone else and you also know the truth. They will always put the blame on you, so ignore them. I hope and pray you both reconcile your differences amicably. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Luckysbab: 8:43am On Aug 23, 2023 |
LadyRosa: Understood. Violence isn’t the way. She has reacted accordingly though and she should have braced up to handle his own reaction of keeping his distance too, not whine about it now. |
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