DrFunmisticGlow:
Was the beating right?
Why should be raise his hand on another man's daughter because he has no job?

superemmy:
■ Were you there to know whether he beat her. Women are always fond of exaggerating their own stories

PastorFire4Fire:


Nobody is asking her to leave her marriage but the question is, was the man like this from the onset? He lost his job and he is depressed. Why not help him talk to people about getting another job and let him see your effort on that.

DrFunmisticGlow:

The way you ignored the part where he stopped being a functional member of society or his household, the way he started drinking and committed domestic violence and rape is astounding.


Selective blindness, deafness, muteness and foolishness is your problem.

Op shouldn't feel guilty. She's basically a married single mother living with a hobosexual who is using weaponized incompetence. The next time he pounds on her she may lose her life.

MSN1:

If what the woman wrote was 100% correct, i wonder why you would type such rubbish.
From the post did you see anything wrong she did?
Judges like u are the reason this country is in a mess.I bet u haven't seen how some men beat and maltreat women.
So because he is a man, we should start supporting any rubbish but if the woman were to be your sister; you would roast him alive.
Women mostly are the ones to be blamed because some got married to boys in men's clothing.
Ordinary job he lose, he has started feeling depressed, what if REAL life happens to him?

Sharpsharp00123:
so the guy just woke up n destroyed her phone?

Many of u can’t even decipher that op didn’t state everything that happened

She only stated her part to get sympathy

Dennisochampa:
.... A man comes home drunk, smashed her phone... You're acting as if a man under the influence of alcohol needs a reason to act irrationally.... If u know the real story, why not save us the stress and tell us already

Kobojunkiee:
You mean the police who arrested and charged him did so without evidence?

superemmy:
■ You mean you don’t know Nigerian Police is all about who pays better and not who is really on the side of justice? Stop the cap

Riscawendy:
The situation at hand is not easy for both, the man and the woman. For the woman, it is usually frustrating being the bread winner of the family so l can relate with that. For the man loosing your job 2 years no be beans. The anger, the frustration, depression etc will always set in. I feel he is trying to use the drinking and smoking to forget his sorrow but my advice to him is that it will never erase the situation.
Going forward l feel he should use the money he is using to drink and smoke to learn a skill online, who knows something may kick off from there.

Kobojunkiee:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Kai.... Nigerians and denial ehn!

Sharpsharp00123:
guy use your head n understand a man won’t just come home n start acting up

The op didn’t tell us what transpired, only a mad man will do that n op didn’t mention it in any part of d article that the man is mad

Can u just get home n start beating people or destroying everything?

Kobojunkiee:
The man's joblessness is not the reason OP created this thread. I get the sense that she would have continued to support her family as she has for the past 2 years had remained jobless for even the next 5 years. The problem is the violence. The man she has been caring for has turned violent against her and she is confused as to what to do next after the traumatic experience.

Sadly, she would need to take the kids with her because there is no stopping him from taking his anger out on the kids if she isn't there to take the beatings from him. But, yes, she needs to leave or have him leave so he can go tend to his frustrations elsewhere where he does not end up hurting them more than he already has.

Stevedison:


You have a point but I think it's rather too early to leave. He too must be feeling remorseful about his actions by now. Don't forget she didn't really say what exactly made the man angry. We haven't heard from the other party although it's not enough reason to hit your wife. But this probably is the only time it's happening so she should take care of her home and watch her back. If he continues like this then she can leave or have him leave.

Stevedison:
■ You have a point but I think it's rather too early to leave. He too must be feeling remorseful about his actions by now.
■ Don't forget she didn't really say what exactly made the man angry. We haven't heard from the other party although it's not enough reason to hit your wife.
■ But this probably is the only time it's happening so she should take care of her home and watch her back. If he continues like this then she can leave or have him leave.

true 💯. I saw the Op commenting on this thread I hope she’s not truly cheating

Kobojunkiee:
If OP were in fact cheating, would that somehow justify the animalistic behavior exhibited by the man?

buchostags:
■ Let me paint a picture of what happened, he lost his job and after sometime you started thinking in your mind that he is becoming less of the person he used to be, you deny him sex, always form busy and serious. Then resentment started building in both parties. He resorted to drinking himself to numb. You stopped talking to him because you felt he should get it by now. Then issues after issues because he has become too sensitive.
■ Now psyche major is: respect him and see him the way he was before. Sometimes it gets a lot worse before it gets better. Something big might be around the corner. But if you want to leave him it's well. Think deep

culf:
1, what he did is very wrong, very wrong of him. Sorry about all the abuses and violence.
2. For your Marriage, if you're still interested in the marriage, get elders, friends and people he respect to come talk and apologise to him for you, tell him in their presence that you love and cherish your husband that its fear that made you do what you did.
.May God help your home and marriage
Verokeena

Kobojunkiee:
This is conflicting at best! He did wrong but she should bring people to apologize to him? How would you feel if your sister called you up after being pummelled by her husband to come beg him?

culf:
■ YES, if my sister is in Nigeria and still interested in her marriage. This is Nigeria, This is marriage and this is culture. All these talks would've been avoided if she reported her husband or move out with the kids without getting him arrested.
The man 4ked up but her action put her marriage off completely.

Kobojunkiee:
Interesting! So, rather than call the cops to save her at the time of the attack, she should have allowed her attacker to beat the sheet out of her and then if she survived the assault, she should then report him to people(all so the criminal assault can stay covered up), or moved out afterward... WOW... Nigerian culture indeed seems tailored towards protecting culprits and not victims at all. No wonder!

cutesharon:
Any law against a man cooking his own food especially when the woman has gone out to work and fend for his sorry ass. Even if she is talking to a man, and so. Is there a law against that. Someone that should be massaging wife's back for even working for both of them instead of joining his pityful self drinking and complaining. Some women would have carried their bags and disappeared. Nonsense.

culf:
■ How did you know she called the cops at point of attack, with which phone? the one smashed?
■ This is Nigeria, twist it any way you like, her marriage need serious prayer.
■ even in mediation to lay man, police and court is not the first point of call for someone that want peaceful resolution and stable existing relationship
■ I want to believe its someone like you that misled her.
■ Like I say, the man is very wrong, his action is totally wrong but for the marriage, the woman has complicated everything.

culf:
Thank God I didn't marry someone like you, may God help your husband to be

culf:


How did you know she called the cops at point of attack, with which phone? the one smashed? This is Nigeria, twist it any way you like, her marriage need serious prayer. even in mediation to lay man, police and court is not the first point of call for someone that want peaceful resolution and stable existing relationship
I want to believe its someone like you that misled her.

Like I say, the man is very wrong, his action is totally wrong but for the marriage, the woman have complicated everything.

Gloriagee:
The one pouncing on his overworked wife is 'endangered species'? I hear you, I really do.