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Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by eldoradoxx: 9:12am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Mindlog:Nothing, but she cannot bring another man to her matrimonial home especially where she has kids for the late husband 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by IamAsiri: 9:12am On Aug 26, 2023 |
mmadu5: Where in Ondo state is this? ![]() |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by mosaicafrique: 9:13am On Aug 26, 2023 |
So after sleeping with her it's now you want to cut ties, after enjoying your self it's now that things are running through your mind. Just tell us you didn't see her the way you expect and you want to dump her and move to the next woman. Fear God, From what I know once a man dies, the ties is broken after she has performed the mourning rites to her late husband, except she didn't do the needful and who knows if she has a hand in the man's death. Just discuss with her to know if she did all that was required after the demise of her husband. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Mindlog: 9:14am On Aug 26, 2023 |
eldoradoxx: Matrimonial home, I guess you mean the house the man built because if she is moves into another rented house or a house she built, there is nothing matrimonial about it anymore. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by id4sho(m): 9:15am On Aug 26, 2023 |
fineboynl: What killed the husband ![]() Think deep |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by fineboynl(m): 9:17am On Aug 26, 2023 |
mariahAngel:she has children and she keep tie with the family as they still assist her. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Harrynight(m): 9:17am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Berrityga: Did you even understand what you typed ![]() Till DEATH do us part not FOREVER. after death, nothing bind you with the person irrespective 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by yesloaded: 9:18am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Berrityga: Widow: woman wey her husband don die Till death do us part: D death of her husband already separated them |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Integrafamoo: 9:19am On Aug 26, 2023 |
fineboynl: Return to who? The dead? The husband paid bride price, not family members. My answer is NO |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by mmadu5(m): 9:20am On Aug 26, 2023 |
IamAsiri: Ikare Akoko to be precise |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Zinpat: 9:26am On Aug 26, 2023 |
fineboynl: She should let her late husband's family know about her intention and also the bride price should be returned 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by alizma: 9:26am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Berrityga:You typed the commitment promised by both party yet you do not understand what you typed, death of either party automatically set the other person free from the commitment. Come to think of it, if you are in her shoes, will you keep out of sex forever? Witchcraft is not by flying at night alone, it also involved forcing others to do what you can't do half of 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Exceed15: 9:31am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Death ends it all. Start afresh. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by godofuck231: 9:38am On Aug 26, 2023 |
She refused some burial rites to detach the husbands spirit form her , a soul tie is present and its dangerous, she should go back to his family and redo or complete those rites or the malevolent will strike |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Badgers14: 9:42am On Aug 26, 2023 |
MrsTwrite: @Op, listen to this post here. I will also add, her family should return her bride price if she wants to move on with her life. Although I don't know if I agree with this next line buy returning the bride price, the late husband's family could collect everything that their brother bought for her.. if she is living in the late brothers house, they could kick her out , some might even go to the extent of collecting the kids from her (if they have a kid together). But yet still, the first thing first. Have a candid conversation with her and you both can figure a way forward. Cheers!! @fineboynl |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by gare2510(m): 9:43am On Aug 26, 2023 |
In some cultures if the widow as much as cook for the children she had with the late husband with money from the new man without returning dowry and prayer, the children will fall sick and might lead to their death if not discovered and addressed quickly. When it comes to married women and widows, tread with uttermost caution. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by centpado(m): 9:43am On Aug 26, 2023 |
author=TotoGame post=125366508] Igbo Culture! A widow that wishes to remarry must return her bride price to her husband's family [/quote] Brideprice must be returned 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Badgers14: 9:46am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Mindlog: That's incorrect. Respectfully speaking, may be in your hometown that's how it is done. But I have seen a scenario in igbo land were after the mourning period they ask the widow if she wants to stay with the husband family or move on and go back to her parents house. Then if she chose to move on and move back to her parents house. Bride price is returned (at a later date). Generally, one cannot pay a bride price twice on top of one lady. The old bride price have to be returned before they can pay the new bride price. Cheers! 2 Likes |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Omoluabi16(m): 9:47am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Whalis:wait. For example, we know that Igbo bride price could be high running into millions. Are you saying if she is Igbo she should return every dime, when she is probably not in a good place financially? @ badgers14 |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Leebeedo(m): 9:50am On Aug 26, 2023 |
In Urhobo tradition, the family of the woman will return the bride price to the late husband's family and then she can move on with her life. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by gare2510(m): 9:51am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Omoluabi16: Aside all the items there is usually an amount specifically called bride price |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by cococandy(f): 9:52am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Death did them part. Nothing else matters fineboynl: |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Blitzking: 9:52am On Aug 26, 2023 |
fineboynl:When did her husband die |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Mindlog: 9:52am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Badgers14: It will be interesting to know the community or communities in igboland that practices such. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Badgers14: 9:54am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Omoluabi16: Igbo bride price is not that high.. what could be high there is other things requested in the list like 20 tubers of yam.. 10 carton of this and that .. But the actual bride price is usually not that high. And typically what the girls family normally do is, if the bride price was say 20k, the father of the bride will take 2k and give the rest back to the inlaws and tell them , his daughter is not for sale.. let them take care of his daughter etc... (At least thats what my father did and I have been at other places in igbo land where the same was done as well). 2 Likes |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Badgers14: 9:55am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Mindlog: Where do I start ![]() I have witnessed that in Imo and Anambra state, heard about it in Abia state as well. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Omoluabi16(m): 9:55am On Aug 26, 2023 |
gare2510:wow. Okay.. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Mindlog: 9:57am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Badgers14: Name the communities in Imo and Anambra that do that, so I can enquire further. |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by tfelicityk(m): 9:57am On Aug 26, 2023 |
This is oddball. It is better you discuss it with her. she may be ignorance of your own assumption and whatever you envisage. However, she may open up to you if she is hiding anything from you the moment you tell her your own observations. Good luck |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Omoluabi16(m): 9:57am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Badgers14:okay. Thank you for your response. 2 Likes |
Re: Does A Widow Need To Return Bride Price For Her To Date Another Man? by Bullfallo(m): 9:59am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Death do them apart is a white man wedding. Africa wedding is marriage to the family that's why bride price are paid. The white people don't pay bride price. As far as she is still using her late husband surname. She is still married to that family. And each family with their culture and traditions. The white people culture the marriage ends. But Africa culture is different. 2 Likes |
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