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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 2:41pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
samsegs:Lol! He went to an expensive City. You are earning 450k He could not save or do investment |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by vickydevoka(m): 2:48pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rubyjade:The issue with abroad, the moment you start having kid , couple with a stubborn, lazy wife forget it. If you are single you can save over 2 million naira if you are not lazy. I paid my school fees of 7 million we within 4 months , buh I don't have that energy again. I just do small support work n rest. The only sacrifice you can make in this abroad is to be single for 10 yrs. Your generation will not be poor. But 90 percent wants family. They go to Nigeria and get a lady n wahala everywhere. You will never build anything until your kids becomes 18. N you might be paying mortgage for the rest of your stay, even if your wife have divorced you. I know a Yoruba man that just die of high BP in Canada even if he is making plenty money. Ladies are always smarter than guys, you approach them in the UK at 28 the will decline you, when they are getting to 33 to 35 they will accept any guy . By then they have investment in their name. Nothing comes easy sha 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by samsegs(m): 2:48pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rubyjade:That's y I said its for those still hustling here in 9ja... 3 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Originalsly: 2:50pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Chigozie321: You have a lot going on at home. Why give it up? That is your life ... what life will you have abroad? This I will advise you ... I assume you are in a position to get PR .... do so. Until then ... apply for visa and go on vacation to see your family like twice a year. Japa doesn't have to be permanent .... visit... see what it's like .... you will broaden your perspective ... you may even see ways in which you can boost your business... but in the end you will be in a much better position to make a decision you can live with. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by ozo13(m): 2:53pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
ThiefnubuBandit:I always smile when I read comments like this. Some people left the country in the name of Japa but are still squeezing the country dry by collecting salary for work they didn't do and also not allowing those behind to get the job they even come to Nigeria to do verification exercise just so to keep the salary coming to them.Majority of the citizens alongside the political class made Nigeria the sad state it is today.make we no deceive ourselves. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by NnamdiN: 2:57pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
My sincere advice to anybody Leave while you can. Nigeria isn't working and may never work... My only regret is not leaving earlier 5 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by jesmond3945: 2:58pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
ochukoccna:no nigerians are the problem. Tribalism in naija has reached a deadly dimension. 3 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Day169: 3:02pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Iamfrank:You really must be Frank, frankly speaking! 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by tshtsh: 3:08pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Chigozie321:Don’t worry some will come back particularly those who went to study. Nothing like home 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 3:10pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Interactive34:I don't think so bro. |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by tshtsh: 3:11pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Iamfrank:Most Nigerians japa because of money. Nigerians by their nature don’t move away from where they are making money. I’ve met people make fun of those who japa simply because they are making money from bribe in Nigeria. Just do what is best for you with realistic expectations because money is scarce everywhere 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 3:12pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rubyjade:😂😂😂😂😂😂 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by etrange: 3:14pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rubyjade: Hhm... Did he tell you he's in Nigeria because he thinks the country will get better soon? He has already made it very clear that he hasn't left the country for some PERSONAL reasons. I'm sure you know what that means, but in case you don't, it means he's got a reason that has to do with his private life which he wouldn't want to put out there. So you asking him again what he's waiting for instead of answering his question of whether they're other people experiencing this negative impact of Japa isn't really addressing the subject of the thread. @OP, this is one of the major impacts of Japa. It's a sacrifice made by both the people leaving and the people left behind. Longtime friendships are left to dry off. If you think you're lonely, ask your friends abroad about thier own situation. The loneliness out here can lead to madness especially for the single ones. So while they are many gains from moving abroad, the loneliness part will still be there except if you move to a place where your friends are clustered. Like they say, everything good thing has some downside. I believe Nigeria will later feel the positive impact of this Japa period in the long run, but things will get harder before they eventually get better. Hold forth, re-evaluate your situation and weigh your options from time to time and do what's best for you at every point. 6 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by bukatyne(f): 3:17pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Chigozie321: That is the social and emotional cost of this japa craze. All my inner circle at work who have become family have japa'ed. The two left are just one leg in and one leg out. Yet for some very strange reason, I am neither interested nor keen to japa. I have not even thought about it. 5 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Backpedal: 3:32pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Anfieldboss: Yea I went through this phase But I have rekindled the jaapa move And thus Hopefully within the next 12 months I'm out 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Jaqenhghar: 3:33pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Chigozie321:Its just as lonely for them over there. Im sure peole around will be looking at you like you are a one billionaire now because your folks are abroad. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Gerrard59(m): 3:47pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
ThiefnubuBandit: Some people decide not to leave Nigeria for personal reasons, which should be respected. The problem is that some of those who preach anti-japa/relocation to those who actually want to leave do so dishonestly or are propelled by wickedness. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Anonymoususher: 3:48pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
samsegs: My brother na that thing dey fear me. Like this I get offer to japa to Canada through visit visa with the agent promising to get me job offer with lmia approval to convert the visa to working visa. Fee is 2.5m and I am not paying anything except 250k for visa processing which will be deducted from the 2.5m once visa shows but fear no gree me. Naija hard but at least I dey see above 300k monthly, e no go anywhere but hunger no dey catch me. I just dey fear what if I go there and meet something different from what he said? What if that lmia approval job isn't as easy as he sounds? What If them even abandon me after getting there? Shey I fit survive a night for Canada's harsh weather? Omo, I just pushed the offer to my friend. He said he is willing to take the risk. No problem he can go and make way 4 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Afrobasic(m): 3:52pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Japa is a must. I used to be depressed when I was in Nigeria until I japed. Depression is all gone now 4 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Gerrard59(m): 3:52pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
samsegs: Most of your politicians and celebrities japa'd during their youthful years. A whole lot did. How did almost all achieve second passport status? There is no prominent Nigerian politician who does not have a second passport for him/she and his/her family 6 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by lendahand(m): 3:54pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
emekajacobogbon:they said they knew their God would deliver them from the fury of the king and the fiery furnace but even if He doesn't, they would still not bow to the molten deity of Babylon They to me thought God was the only one that deserved worship and is the only one able to deliver from every danger A fourth person that looked like the son of man joined them in the fire and the fire was rid of it's very nature to destroy, so they were saved from the destructive power of the furnace and even their very hair were not singer neither was the smoke of fire perceived anywhere on their body. The king's guards who tried to increase the heat of the furnace all got burnt The king had no option but to order for their release and they were given important positions in the kingdom and the living God was recognised by the king as the highest. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Gerrard59(m): 3:54pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Anonymoususher: Converting a visit visa to a working visa in Canada is almost impossible except if you come from a country with LMIA approval, which Nigeria is not a member. Your friend will experience the same issue. Why do you people like using agents when every piece of information is online? 7 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by emekajacobogbon(m): 3:58pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
lendahand: More anointing on your head. Your knowledge of your God will make you strong and do exploit 1 Like |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by lendahand(m): 4:02pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
emekajacobogbon:Amen sir, You will surely fulfill your destiny in God. Continue the good work. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by CaptainFM1: 4:07pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rubyjade: They were bored and lonely abroad. I'm not here in Nigeria. BIGO is probably for them not me. 3 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Meerahbel: 4:07pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Bakrabas: 4:13pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
I made various attempts back in 2017 ain't work, I stopped everything about Japa in 2019 to focus about myself. God safe my life during the time the Libyans were killing other Africans in Libya, my agent wanted me and other to travel to Italy through Mediterranean Sea, but the whole ain't work through. I started blaming myself, little did I know that God just safe my life from the desert terror ahead. I got admission in Ukraine in 2018, with hope to stay over after 2yrs, God safe me again, may be I might have be the victim of the war in Ukraine now , who knows? I filled another form in 2017/2018 wanted to travel to Dubai, not quiet long, the Emirate stop the Nigerian workers in UAE. I gather the money I wanted to use for Japa to establish myself in a transportation sector while I'm still working as a cashier in Lagos. I thank God for life and everything. I am not there yet but I'm still better than some Japas. If Japa is part of my destiny, I'll but it gonna be on the platform of irorun. I starved myself, I denied myself of so many things, 2 girl friends left me...but today, I say glory be to God Despite all odds, couple with the economy brouhaha God is doing wonder. My salary is just 50k but you see that 50k is like 50M I'm into transportation and mini importation too. If you have occasion, I can fry any small chops for you free of charge . 12 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Meerahbel: 4:14pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
bukatyne:Any reason(s). |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Bfly: 4:14pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Ain't here to force shit. I have decided to experience life wherever i find myself. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Meerahbel: 4:14pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Backpedal:hmmmmm, what changed all of a sudden. |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by ocelot2006(m): 4:18pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
I understand. My elder sister and her family relocated years. Right now most of my university classmates have done same. Still contemplating about doing same, but I must confess that my life here is decent. 3 Likes |
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Dyfynezz12(m): 4:23pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
ochukoccna:Since 1999 tell me one Nigerian president that has done better than his predecessor |
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