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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Villa12(m): 4:10pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Dshocker:how will divorce affect her later? With those evidence she can file for divorce and their kids automatically will be given to the woman. The man will be mandated to pay a stipulated amount of money monthly for the kids wellbeing. If he defaulted, she can get him arrested. So tell me where divorce will affect her? 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by benqo01(m): 4:10pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: Go FOR THE TEST ASAP,SECONDLY KEEP ALL EVIDENCE WATCH OUT HOW TINS PLAY OUT AGAIN IN THE NEXT ONE WEEK.BUT BECAREFUL SO HE WONT NOTICE |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 4:11pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
stanisbaratheon:Okay but u know if to say na man dey complain most ladies here will be claiming the man is insecure, not man enough or can't satisfy her needs. Woman go cheat everyone will blame the man, man go cheat everyone will still blame him. Is it not too much. I'm just trying to turn the tables today and y'all want to crucify me 😁 One of the girls insulting me here for my comment was also on another thread about few minutes after insulting a good guy for not giving in to the advances of a girl disturbing his life. I mean who does that? Because I don't like u then u call me all sort of names? But if it's the other way round they will quickly use all sort of labels on the guy ; stalker, sexual molestation/ assault and if he's unlucky he's labelled a rapist. They should enjoy what they dish out. I just dey test the waters and I love the turn out so far ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by abbey621(m): 4:12pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Villa12: You were misinformed! This is 9ja, women don't get the kids unless the man willingly let go or is fully incapable of their well-being. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Villa12(m): 4:13pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
UDUJ:who told you single ladies are frustrated for being single? Who told you married women aren't frustrated in marriage? I mean naija married women o 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by all4ualone: 4:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
@Op I can be of help to you towards unraveling the real identify and tracking of this girl disturbing your husband. I'm an expert in tracking of different categories.... Inbox my email akinadetayo4abel@gmail.com to help you out pls.... Best regards ma'am |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by komzy589(m): 4:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Baronthecelebri:Please kindly correct this notion. Sex is not a gift. You don’t give sex to anybody. You enjoy sex with one another. There’s mutual benefits for both parties involved. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Martinsvp1(m): 4:15pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Those persons advising her to get a divorce are quick to strike.. Divorce isn't the solution, if she divorces him what assurances would she have that her next husband won't also cheat, that is if she remarries? Is she independent financially? How many kids have the marriage produced? Does he performs his husband duty of caring for the family..?The only crime in marriage I would advise a divorce is if he is a wife beater. Otherwise sit your husband down, talk to him about your discovery, be angry and see if you can change him.. My opinion. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Villa12(m): 4:15pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
abbey621:Lol Keep deceiving yourself bro. My neighbour got custody of their kids if you want to know. They do grant custody to the victim. If the man was responsible and the woman living wayward lifestyle, the man will have the kids. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by OROSUNBOLB(m): 4:17pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: Whatever you decide,good luck to you ! You only need to prepare your mind for it;your relationship with your husband will never remain same again ! O ti lo ! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Dshocker(m): 4:17pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Mjshexy: @villa12 below is my reasons 👇👇👇 1... If she divorce, the upbringing of the children will be compromised. 2... She can hardly remarry again, so loneliness will torture her. 3... She will have to hustle hard, because financial burden will arise. 4... All those, especially her friends that are pushing her for divorce, will still be the same friends that will be mocking her and gossiping about her, for being divorce and single. 5... After about 4yrs, she will regret for taking such action, she will start talking to herself that; After all, in the olden days, our forefathers used to marry as much wives as possible. In as much as i don't support cheating, i still wouldn't advice her to leave, better still; She should park her bags and move back to her family, that way the man will realise his mistake Versitee just move out of his house, that way, the shame will be upon him and he would definitely come begging, even with his people, but in all you do, please do not divorce him out of anger.... Go and check the history of women that angrily divorced their husband later regretted their action years later.... Sorry ooO, but 23yrs old hot sha, girls of nowadays. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Missyajoke(f): 4:18pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
rickleye: You're right |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:20pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
abbey621:You dey joke abi? Nigeria where the majority of men literally abandon their children with their women you dey talk as if men dey even bother fight at all. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by OZ511: 4:20pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
[quote author=dkidd post=125426881]How do u know they're having sex? So because he chats someone named Vicky hookup and ur neighbors name is Victoria now means she's the same person ![]() You be mumu no doubt |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:22pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
OROSUNBOLB:Ding dong ding! ![]() OP, please prioritize your peace of mind, your self-esteem, and your private happiness and joy from this point on. Else, receding hairline, premature wrinkles, etcetera, na im await. ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Lunar2010: 4:22pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: May I know why you ask? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:24pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Lunar2010:Why are you suggesting she make up a cock-and-bull story rather than deal with reality at a time like this? ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dilicond: 4:24pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Just talk to your husband about it first and hear his side of the story before any action. That's the best advice you can get here. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Dshocker(m): 4:25pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Villa12: You think say na America or Europe you dey? Besides she and the husband are just managing life, so which properties are you talking about? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Lunar2010: 4:27pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Who be dis wan? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by WriterX(m): 4:27pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Sometimes I ask myself if some people give response without thinking, for crying out loud what sort of heart breaking and nerve wrecking comments do some of you put up here, do you have any idea how painful and hurtful it is to find out the truth about the man or woman you share your body with, your entire being with , do you have any idea how bad and hurt this lady is? I pray as many of you who enjoy posting senseless and unreasonable comments , I sincerely pray you do not find nor encounter such situations in your own marriage you have sacrificed so much for. Dear lady, first of all I am very sorry for this hurt you are feeling, its one of the biggest betrayal one can have, see the bible likens the relationship between Christ and the church as a bride and bridegroom, a husband and a wife. Marriage is sacred and the man you call your husband has done the unthinkable. Honestly just like the bible says, divorce MAY BE ONE OF THE REMEDIES because this is adultery, even Jesus says this "only on the charge of adultery" but really, I am in pains over this issue, I am terribly sorry and I hope you find the time, courage and strength to do what is right. Forgive and forget madam , do not jeopardize your own sanity, dignity and overall health for those who will feel they know better, Cheating is not a mistake madam, it is a carefully and conscious decision irrespective of the conditions and circumstances surrounded it. My final words "people will only apologise for two reasons, either because they are sorry for what they did or because they are ashamed for been caught" May the good lord continue to strengthen you, don't be influenced by anyone's advice not even I know a lot to advice you on this matter, its only you who must take the decision that Is right and good for you, Listen to all, and make your decision. Peace To You All. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Villa12(m): 4:28pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Dshocker:I am not referring to property. After divorce he will be mandated to pay a stipulated amount every months for the kids wellbeing. If he defaulted,he will be arrested. I have seen that in my neighborhood 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by zakkxx: 4:29pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Madam show him proof he has been cut, insist on general test before u sleep with him, don’t risk your life ooo. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 4:30pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Exodus15v11: All those of you preaching divorce to the op, I just hope you realise its easier said than done. Why not preach peace and forgiveness. When she divorces what's happens next, at best she remarried, does that mean the next husband won't cheat ? And if she decides not to remarry she starts sleeping around with different men in the name of boyfriend of man friend. At the end of the day divorce isn't the best option. She should learn to forgive and get closer to her husband cos for the Vicky to be asking who is better on bed clearly shows the man had told Vicky where his wife is deficient. In my honest opinion, though I don't support infidelity but it's not really an African thing or culture to divorce ur husband becos he cheated. Weather we like it or not men will continue to cheat on the wives till eternity. A wise african woman who is ready to actually be married knows this and doesn't judge her marriage solely on this. As a matter of fact , if she divorces today the next husband or boyfriend is 95% bound to cheat on her , so what's the point in moving between 2 constant? As long as ur husband respects (doesnt place any woman above you ), loves, and isn't violent with you. Just work on your marriage woman and stop looking for a clean pig as they are not synonymous. Just imagine u divorce and vicky replaces you in d house. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:31pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
WriterX:What Jesus Christ actually said is that remarriage is an option available in the case of fornication; He didn't in fact limit divorce to just the case of fornication at all. ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Klass99(f): 4:35pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by WriterX(m): 4:37pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Matthew 5:31-32, “'It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. ' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL IMMORALITY, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. I was talking about this and please notice that I said one of the remedies, I had a discussion recently with a friend and we talked on this and the question is Jesus would rather prefer we don't even divorce at all, marriage is a seal respected within the physical realm and the spiritual realm, the Moses law was made to justify the hardness of man's heart, intolerance, unforgiving spirit, society values and norms. The bible says the only legal ground divorce should be considered an option is on sexual Immorality which is this case hence my advice, thanks. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:38pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
drsibz66:1. Even the one entering marriage for the first time faces the same odds so I am not certain why you use that against the subject of divorce when you could equally use it as a counter to marriage altogether. ![]() 2. Speak for yourself and your situation. Only the one wearing the shoes knows what is the best option for his or her case. 3. OP is worried that she might be infected meaning she has been intimate with her husband all that while. How much closer must OP get in order for you to realize that OP isn't the problem in this situation? Why is the victim the one who has to work on this assumed deficiency? Why must OP work to please the husband who instead preferred to have his knobs shined elsewhere? ![]() 4. A wise African woman is one who accepts infidelity as her lot in marriage. I was waiting for you to say that and you did just that. Over to you African woman... see what you have reduced yourselves in marriage to. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Exceed15: 4:40pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Madam please I beg you in God's name don't kill yourself before your time. Don't start fire you can't quench. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by WorldRichest: 4:40pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Ahmed0336: What will she do when the husband says YES, he has been sleeping with the girl? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by jerrybabasam: 4:44pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Gbam e don happen, something your husband hide from you still you use Google and Telescope 🔭 to find it, madam you are now in-between. Either you leave and become single mother or be prayerful and repair your marriage. Something must kill a man! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 4:45pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
WriterX:1. If you read the text carefully, you will find that the one who divorces her is not himself accused of adultery. 32 But I tell you that any man who divorces his wife, except for the problem of sexual sin, is causing his wife to be guilty of adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman is guilty of adultery. - Matthew 5 vs 32She who is divorced is potentially guilty of adultery. That potential is realized in remarriage. ![]() |
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