Well, as you mentioned with the evidence you had in your possession.

I will advise you to go for the STI test you wanted to go for. If the results is positive show it to your husband. However, make sure you begin treatment for it.
2. If the result is otherwise. Keep it to yourself first.
3. Thirdly, call your husband and ask him if you are no longer sexually attractive to him. Expect rhetoric answer from him. Don't fight him, just tell him to put an end to all the immorality he had been doing with your neighbour's daughter. Please, apply wisdom here so as it doesn't result to fight. I don't how temper your husband is.
4. If you still love him and you want to continue with your marriage. Resolved this matter amicably with him.
5. If he put on attitude of what will you do and never feel remorseful. Just invite your neighbour and her daughter to the house. Tell your husband to start having the sex with her in your presence and her mother. That you don't want them to go to the hotel often again.

Matter will resolved itself...

I have a question - hope such things had not happened between your husband and your female cousins too?

UnfairLife7:
I have same within my family and the woman was granted custody

Like i said,it depends on the nature of the accident. Men do not have automatic right over the kids

Where did I say men have automatic rights? I said vast majority of the cases favored men, this is the absolute truth let nobody deceive you!

Kobicove:
Inspector Gadget now you have seen what you're searching for

This man

StrongAlphMale:


You're not serious. You don't have any evidence against him you have already gone with speed to quickly speed the gossip to your sister and family. Bomb dey your head.

Madam if you can't handle your home without involving others, I'll advise you to divorced him asap, and na you go still lose because he'll finally bring in the same Vicky hookup to always visit and relax in his house, and she might end up even cooking for him while you've been displaced. No Wise up! Stay there dey jonz around.

she has every right to inform her family. She wasn't thrown to the world from the sky. She came through her parents who happened to be her first family. You don't need a telescope or seer to tell you her hubby is nothing but a cheat and promiscuous man. Those details she put up there are evidence. She can only go furtherby setting him up to nail him completely. I am a man so i understand the man is a cheat.

Telling a lady not to tell her family when a man is going astray is completely wrong. She obviously wouldn't be in her right frame of mind having discovered it. She definitely needs someone to talk to and i see no crime informing her family.

abbey621:


Where did I say men have automatic rights? I said vast majority of the cases favored men, this is the absolute truth let nobody deceive you!

which vast majority favoured men? Everything still boils down on the nature of the case Mr man. No one has automatic right on the kids until the case is table before the court. Stop being biased. I'm a man like you too.

Exodus15v11:
Adultery is grounds for divorce. Save all the evidence from his phone onto yours and keep a backup just in case, then do the needful. Don't let anyone tell you to continue the marriage. In fact, if you do, he will become more empowered to continue cheating (with your neighbor or with anyone else) because he now knows you won't leave, although he may start hiding the evidence better or password his phone completely to prevent you from opening it and knowing he's still cheating. Abegi, just do yourself a favor and leave. There's nothing to salvage here. If he kills you before your time with disease or hbp he will forget about you and still be on top of woman the next day, so choose yourself and leave while you can with your remaining dignity. Marriage is not a do or die affair.

Divorce isn't a child's play oooo. It should be the last option

Pls don't kill your self with hbp you are even at falt by checking his phone without his consent so long as you never catch them red handed pls give your self brain.

Fuckyoumod:
And so what if your husband is knacking outside?

Is he the first man to cheat?
Are you the first married woman that her husband would cheat on?

Oya go and kill your husband because he is cheating. Ok Buy rat poison or use knife and stab him when he is sleeping then your mind will rest, Mumu woman.

See stop disturbing us with nonsense here.
You even went ahead to search his telegram and whatsapp.

Oya divorce him let's see who will marry you or that man that won't cheat on you when you finally lose your marriage.

A wise wife, would advice him to wear condoms finish.

Do

another lowlife jonkie spotted

UnfairLife7:
Online SOYINKA. You didn't add DANGOTE to your bio

See as you cast yourself nigga. They even give you song title "Mumu like you"

Can't you guys allow others air their opinions freely?

You think your stewpid opinion about him matters?

Even if his opinion doesn't augur well with you i.e even if you feel he is not making sense, correct him politely or ignore it totally, instead of calling him names.


The guy may even be better than you in every sphere of life in reality.
So, you guys should stop this rub bish name calling or should I call it as slicking.

Na wa o...

Osobi32:
Guys I beg you all... Whatever you do in this life, try and avoid insecure women. Those women are horrible!

Men are very much insecure than women. Men feel jealous far more than women. I am a man so i know all that

UnfairLife7:
which vast majority favoured men? Everything still boils down on the nature of the case Mr man. No one has automatic right on the kids until the case is table before the court. Stop being biased. I'm a man like you too.

You are on nairaland attacking anybody that their opinion doesn't go well with you.

Maybe you are still single, you better go find something do with your life.

If you continue this way, you fit no escape make this kind scenario no happen to you.

UnfairLife7:
she has every right to inform her family. She wasn't thrown to the world from the sky. She came through her parents who happened to be her first family. You don't need a telescope or seer to tell you her hubby is nothing but a cheat and promiscuous man. Those details she put up there are evidence. She can only go furtherby setting him up to nail him completely. I am a man so i understand the man is a cheat.

Telling a lady not to tell her family when a man is going astray is completely wrong. She obviously wouldn't be in her right frame of mind having discovered it. She definitely needs someone to talk to and i see no crime informing her family.

And las las when her so called emotionally feelings discovered to be that the man was innocent? What would become of her family and the insult and attitude they given the man?

A wise woman would think before acting. This one acted with speed without thinking. She must be on colos! A wise woman covers her husband's scars and protects her home intruders...not running mouth from East to West like tap!

Did she comfort the man? Why didn't she tell us the man's part of the story? Abi the man no reply? Noticed everything she wrote was between her, her feelings and the said Vicky hookup? Bros don't allow any girl to manipulate with cock and bull emotional stories without hearing from the other party!

Telling her sister was wrong, if she's tired of the marriage what stops her from divorcing him? After telling her sister and humiliating the man so she'll now still park her things and go back to the same husbands abi? Dey play!

UnfairLife7:
another lowlife jonkie spotted

Don't act dumb in the very society we live,men Cheating is real and more real than all this online garnishing and trying to project your man a Saint.
Sad Reality , but it is very true. I haven't seen a non Christain fanatic religious Man passed the cheating test so far.

BabaIbo:

You are on nairaland attacking anybody that their opinion doesn't go well with you.

Maybe you are still single, you better go find something do with your life.

If you continue this way, you fit no escape make this kind scenario no happen to you.

The guy is jobless. Only jobless people go around attacking everyone on nairaland.


He probably needs a job. Kindly ignore him

One shallow doesn't make a summer,it will be good you check out for more facts in order to catch him by the wrist and confront him with the facts.Meanwhile go for HIV test as you've said.

StrongAlphMale:


And las las when her so called emotionally feelings discovered to be that the man was innocent? What would become of her family and the insult and attitude they given the man?

A wise woman would think before acting. This one acted with speed without thinking. She must be on colos! A wise woman covers her husband's scars and protects her home intruders...not running mouth from East to West like tap!

Did she comfort the man? Why didn't she tell us the man's part of the story? Abi the man no reply? Noticed everything she wrote was between her, her feelings and the said Vicky hookup? Bros don't allow any girl to manipulate with cock and bull emotional stories without hearing from the other party!

Telling her sister was wrong, if she's tired of the marriage what stops her from divorcing him? After telling her sister and humiliating the man so she'll now still park her things and go back to the same husbands abi? Dey play!

I hope you would have the same strength and energy to say the same thing if the table turns around tomorrow?

Osinachi was hiding everything away from her family and we all saw what happened.

4ward4:


Don't act dumb in the very society we live,men Cheating is real and more real than all this online garnishing and trying to project your man a Saint.
Sad Reality , but it is very true. I haven't seen a non Christain fanatic religious Man passed the cheating test so far.

Speak for yourself biko. There are exception in everything.

Una dey inside marriage/relationship, una still no get peace of mind...

Una go get sense las las...

UnfairLife7:
I hope you would have the same strength and energy to say the same thing if the table turns around tomorrow?

Osinachi was hiding everything away from her family and we all saw what happened.

Dude, you have no point at all.

Osinachi's husband was beating her, did you expected her not to talk? Oga she was even supposed to call the police on him ASAP because that's domestic violence.

However, in this story the OP never in any way said her husband beats or harm her. A situation where beating and domestic violence is involved it is expected to call both families and even call the police asap. But in this case there was nothing like violence and so calling everyone wasn't necessary at all. A wise woman covers her husband's scars and protects her home, not disgracing and embarrassing herself and her husband who will later both turn to laughing stock outside.

Divorce him and come and marry me. I won't cheat on you with Vicky -hookup but with Tosin Oloso. U never see anything. E be like say u want become side chick to a married man with 10 girlfriends

Maam i would advice u the way i usually tell my partner if i ever find out she's cheating on me, thats the end of our relationship cuz if u can cheat on me then u can kill me. So why stay with a person who can kill u to elope or remarry a 23 year old

Do not take any drastic action without confronting him, and let it be face-to-face. Also ensure it doesn't degenerate into a physical fight (no point doing that, the deed has been done).

BabaIbo:

Can't you guys allow others air their opinions freely?

You think your stewpid opinion about him matters?

Even if his opinion doesn't augur well with you i.e even if you feel he is not making sense, correct him politely or ignore it totally, instead of calling him names.


The guy may even be better than you in every sphere of life in reality.
So, you guys should stop this rub bish name calling or should I call it as slicking.

Na wa o...

The guy deserve the name given to him. Check all his comments and see for yourself. He goes about attacking women even when they were the victims. He said he was doing better which i doubt because successful men (young or old) don't have time for all these tantrums against women and whataview

I guess he's a bitter man,known as mysogynistic.

Versitee:


She is the one. I saw their telegram chat. It was awful

Is she an Igbo?

StrongAlphMale:


Dude, you have no point at all.

Osinachi's husband was beating her, did you expected her not to talk? Oga she was even supposed to call the police on him ASAP because that's domestic violence.

However, in this story the OP never in any way said her husband beats or harm her. A situation where beating and domestic violence is involved it is expected to call both families and even call the police asap. But in this case there was nothing like violence and so calling everyone wasn't necessary at all. A wise woman covers her husband's scars and protects her home, not disgracing and embarrassing herself and her husband who will later both turn to laughing stock outside.

You don't beat a child and tell such child not to cry or dictate to the child how to cry. You're not the victim here neither am i so let's not dictate to her how she ought to react. Let's wait for our wives to cheat on us first then we see how we all will react.

I'm not in support of divorce though provided the man accepted and apologized never to try cheat on her again. Expecially their neighbours. That is if she further Investigate and found him guilty

I believe her family was in support of their marriage. If not they probably wouldn't be married by now or perhaps she wouldn't have the courage to tell them due to shame.

We all are entitled to our own opinion though. But i quite understand OP absolutely well. I understand how we can take things differ. To me, i see nothing bad informing her family. She was obviously not in the right frame of mind having discovered her hubby sleeping around with their neighbour. She obviously needs someone to talk to which her family comes first.

Like i said earlier, let's wait until it happens to us and see our reaction.

UnfairLife7:
you're a lowlife jonkie

thanks high life camel

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

Go ahead and forward the telegram screenshot to him. You don't need to be verbal about it. That girl is a professional hook up, that's why true caller revealed her name as saved by her client. It's just so unfortunate, hopefully you will come out std free

UnfairLife7:
Men are very much insecure than women. Men feel jealous far more than women. I am a man so i know all that

I bet you haven't had anything to do with an insecure woman...... You will regret every bit of it.

Jossyfine:


My dear brother, even with all these aforementioned if a man wants to cheat, he will still cheat.

Men can stain ur white sincerely.


You see the marriage ba, it’s a difficult task.

If my wife can perform all those styles I mentioned, walai I won't cheat on her .

Your husband catching fun you are disturbing him up and down.let him resign in his place of work and join seminary

Mjshexy:
Oh great since you're certain about it, further decisions rest on you. Is it enough to file for a divorce? Are you also meeting your neighbors to report their daughter's escapade with your husband?

Calm down with your divorce advice

Pikadili:
■ Calm down with your divorce advice

If you caught your wife cheating on you with your next door neighbor, will you equally be this forgiving?