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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 11:56pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
dawnomike: She can as well get to a safe place first, what if he gets angry and beats her up.. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 11:56pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
So sad. What a disgusting girl. I wonder what you will see in another lady’s husband. And you still have mind to commit such atrocities between your parents house and your childhood neighbour, tufiakwa what a disgrace. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 11:57pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
yankison:So, after you tell your cheating wife you have seen everything she has been hiding from you, there and then the problem of her cheating has been resolved, and your peace of mind restored? That's how you envision it happening when you catch your wife cheating on you? Oh... country is hard so that somehow makes it less of a hassle to deal with for you? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 12:04am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Foodqueen: Good and classy idea. I like this |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:07am On Aug 30, 2023 |
sunsweet33:She may be close to that family but the one who in fact betrayed her isn't the family but her husband. Unless she and the Vicky in question are tied buddies, I don't see how Vicky's conduct may be considered betrayal particularly since Vicky is just a 23-year-old kid. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 12:18am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Sister what on earth is a “23 year old kid?” 23 is old enough to mind her manners abeg. Anyway the reason I say it’s a good idea is because it allows her to leverage her losing position by getting to the husband through “Vicky”. And the further step would be to confront her parents without even saying anything to her, which would really teach both adulterers a good lesson (not because she’s a “kid” but because of the embarrassment it would cause). |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 12:36am On Aug 30, 2023 |
highchief1: It is now her fault her husband is cheating ? Were you dropped on your head at birth? Asking for a friend 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Liverpoolfc(m): 12:38am On Aug 30, 2023 |
[quote author=jaeyking post=125426809]What you don't know doesn't kill you But since you know, run your STI test and you could file for a divorce if you are not comfortable. It's quite simple or more easier to say[/quote wrong advice. Don't think of divorcing your husband. Iron things out. Do not let husbandless person advise you against your husband. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:49am On Aug 30, 2023 |
sunsweet33:Well, if the old man— OP's husband— who is boinking Vicky had minded his manners, Vicky, a child, would have maybe learned to mind her manners from him. But sadly, OP's husband is the adult here who failed to show a good example. 2. Attacking Vicky, the child, would only make OP seem like a desperate wife trying to defend her probable community dick of a husband. There is no way that will end up looking good for OP unless she moves from that community immediately after that confrontation. 3. You make the mistake of assuming Vicky's parents are able to control or speak to Vicky about her habits. Too risky if you ask me. Worse the parents might turn on OP and accuse her of not being able to keep her own husband. It would be terrible if OP loses the rest of what is left of her dignity in all of this. Remember say na OP dey go borrow oven from her neighbors; no be the neighbors' dey come to her house to borrow oven. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:50am On Aug 30, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 1:02am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I can't leave my child in the care of a pastor/GO or GS as I don't trust them. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 1:03am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Skyview01:As far as I see this world, na dem person suppose fear most. Wolves in sheep clothing indeed! 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 1:08am On Aug 30, 2023 |
mcprince32: With all due respect, no single sense in your advice. Pray for 3 days while the husband is busy sleeping with a sidechick. He will eventually bring to her in the home while you go continue your prayers on the outside. You have a wierd sense of humor. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by amba2017: 2:50am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Buy huge quantity of con don and give to him as gift. Tell him to be using it incase if he tempted and seduced by victy hook up girls. If he is reasonable man, he will never cheat on you again |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Yugoslavia247(m): 3:26am On Aug 30, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Ned nwoko assistant. You know so much pass about it 😁 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Samadict(f): 3:38am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Scared of confronting him? What would your husband do if you were the one cheating? If he'll be scared to confront you, then stay scared. But wait, must you confront him? Drop some of his lines or Vicky's lines during discussions with him. If he doesn't care, then you know what to do. And go check your self!!!! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by koolaid87: 4:41am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247: Your anointing no go dry I laugh mehn |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by koolaid87: 4:43am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Mjshexy: Ori e bi ori tolontolo yen Hope you get brothers wey go marry her once she divorced him. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sulakishop(m): 5:31am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Madam FBI/CIA |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Mjshexy(f): 5:39am On Aug 30, 2023 |
koolaid87:You lack manners, you're sick and have a big problem, eranko |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by GorillaApp(m): 5:41am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:Street wisdom! Madam op pay attention to this |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 5:42am On Aug 30, 2023 |
labake1:Why em dey pain u specially. So hookup girl no fit do another business again |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by ddeola: 6:42am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Your husband has really disappointed you no b lie but really there's nothing new under the sun. You need to handle the situation with godly wisdom and carefulness because it's your home we are talking about, it must not crash for vultures outside to come and take over. I believe your husband loves you but he just can't handle that side very well (konji na bastard when e hold you especially if you can't control yourself), am not trying to excuse your hubby but am just trying to help you see that he can still be faithful to you if he can handle the situation well going forward. Am not a relationship expert but I will suggest the following steps if one or two will help: 1. Take the matter to God in prayers. your closest ally here is God and He will fight for you. Reclaim your husband from all these strange women (the girl might not be the only one in the picture). Decree no more erection for him when he's with another woman. Take charge in the spirit because the Bible say em bodi na your own and your bodi na em own in marriage. Decree that every other woman’s “thing” should become irritating like gutter to him say na only your own “thing” go dey appealing to am. Decree that anytime konji hold am, you will be the only woman on his mind and na only your “thing” must dey hungry am to “chop”. 2. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your hubby, don’t be confrontational and don’t raise your voice of fight with him. Let him know how you discovered that he is sleeping with d girl and express how it broke your heart and betrays your confidence in him. Let him know that: - He put both of you in danger by sleeping with her without protection STDs can destroy any marriage. My own elder sister’s husband gave her HIV, now they are separated but not divorced even their daughter also have HIV. This is a truth am sharing with you - He is hindering his own prayers because God will never grant his prayers because of unfaithfulness (whether you discovered or not it is still d same because nothing is hidden before God) - He has united himself with strange forces/spirits by sleeping with another woman. You can’t tell the level of damage spiritually because you don’t know what these ladies have gotten themselves into and when they sleep with a man, they share their demons - One woman is enough to give him sexual satisfaction all his life. He just needs to be creative and spice up your marital bed. The main thing a man needs in sex is satisfaction, as long as you can give him that satisfaction most of the time even if not all the time it will help - He can be faithful to you whether or not there are other ladies that are coming at him freely. He only needs to make up his mind to stop being unfaithful and God will help him. 3. Get him to make a commitment never to sleep with any other woman again but you only. You should also make the same commitment to him. 4. You may need to find out why he fell into the habit. e.g. maybe you started it by being unfaithful to him, maybe you no dey give am well or you no dey service em “thing” as he liked, maybe you dey always give excuse when em wan do, maybe you don’t appeal to him sexually like wearing wrapper all d time wey your appearance no dey give an erection, he is your husband you must always seduce him, make him want to grab you and do nasty things if he gets the opportunity, afterall na em get dat “honeypot” let him lick, drink, and be drunk with you ecstasy, that is the only place he is permitted by God to get really jiggy allow him explore the kingdom and chop till “belle-ful” everytime, he no go see another woman again etc. To be honest, if he stops, you have to fill in the gap for him, grant him full access anytime and everytime he wan “chop”, you also must pursue him constantly and regularly say you wan “chop”or say make he come “chop”. (At times, when a man is getting full satisfaction and is well-serviced at home, he will not be bothered about wetin dem dey throw for em face outside, he will always look away) 5. Pray together, forgive each other, hold hands and promise to work on your marriage and ensure that there is no crack for any funny thing to creep in. If your marriage sweet well well, na una go enjoy am with una children. Be a good Christian or Muslim (I don’t know your faith) and render quality worship to God 6. Pray, pray and never stop praying for your husband, you are his watchman, his backbone, his ally, his everything only after God. He will be absolutely helpless without you, so you are that important in his life as his wife (some men don’t know this unfortunately) 7. Be a blessing to him and the whole world. May God make your home a model home worthy of emulation and not an excuse to avoid in Jesus name |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 6:48am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Rochasstatue:How can u be advising her to cheat on him? That's how u ladies useless ur life. Why can't she go her own way if she can't stay married? And when she cheats and starts fvcking random guys she starts another chapter of men are scum because no one wants to keep a cum dump |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 7:18am On Aug 30, 2023 |
dkidd: Pack one side I dislike men that cheat or has the potential of cheating 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 7:21am On Aug 30, 2023 |
labake1:But u know I'm only doing what u ladies do on here when ever a guy complains like this op. And btw I don't cheat or support cheating I only want u people to know how it feels to be blamed all the time and u can't even take it a little |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by nurudeen181(m): 7:40am On Aug 30, 2023 |
jaeyking:if she paid for the wedding, i believe she wont ask for divorce like you make it simple.. if head dey pain you next time no use panadol, cut the head off |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 7:44am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Versitee:U go get BP for nothing sake! Why don't you just hold your peace as long as d man is doing that which he's suppose to do as a father. Confronting him won't stop him coz no b today. U are just lucky to know ds singular one of Vicky |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Emaprince: 8:24am On Aug 30, 2023 |
extremelygolden:I understand you better now. I wish you well and peace in your union. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 8:33am On Aug 30, 2023 |
countryman13:If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 8:43am On Aug 30, 2023 |
dkidd: The society supports whatever actions a man do whether positive or negative. It's not the same with women that's why women are starting to talk down on men's actions. I am sure if she should report him to his parents, they will advise her to endure it or even tell her that he is capable of marrying another wife. African culture doesn't favour women, men thinks they can do anything they like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Pjoe238: 8:43am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Online marriage counselors without any qualification or marriage experience. Skip the post if you don't have better advice to give to the lady and that's if her story is true. |
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