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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Fuckyoumod: 4:48pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee:And so what if your husband is knacking outside? Is he the first man to cheat? Are you the first married woman that her husband would cheat on? Oya go and kill your husband because he is cheating. Ok Buy rat poison or use knife and stab him when he is sleeping then your mind will rest, Mumu woman. See stop disturbing us with nonsense here. You even went ahead to search his telegram and whatsapp. Oya divorce him let's see who will marry you or that man that won't cheat on you when you finally lose your marriage. A wise wife, would advice him to wear condoms finish. Do 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by KarinaSlim(f): 4:48pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: Please go for the Test tomorrow. When you are done, confront him with evidence. Expect his defense to come up. When you are done, please report him to all his family members. Don't keep quiet. Let everybody in the family know. Even small children should know too. Your kids should also know. Don't make the mistake my neighbors wife made by keeping it all to herself. When it blew up, it now backfired on her. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Rochasstatue(f): 4:53pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Your husband is a danger to your and your family. Even if you confront him, he will devise another method of concealing his cheating runs.. If you are financially stable, cheat on him. If you are not yet financially independent,build yourself up and cheat on him. Allow him find out and divorce the assholē 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Risingsunn: 4:55pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Ahmed0336:after showing all the evidence, what is next? If you know you are not ready to divorce just move on with your life. Some women cause all these things. You dey house because u be wife, u no even dey dress better dey look sexy again, you just dey do anyhow, why wouldn't your husband go knacking outside? I have a neighbor at 50, she is still beutiful, very neat and sexually attractive but my 2ife that is less than 30 no dey take care of herself again. Me I don tell am, the day I start cheating don't blame me. You caused it 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Osobi32(m): 4:56pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Guys I beg you all... Whatever you do in this life, try and avoid insecure women. Those women are horrible! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by highchief1: 4:57pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee:too much findings will kill u.ask urself why ur husband is cheating on u.maybe u r not doing well.it’s a mama world here Nthg when u go discover when go make the world attack your husband.If u do anyhow e go marry the girl join u. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by WriterX(m): 4:57pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: What are you saying? I’ve often heard that they stayed in an unfaithful or abusive marriage for decades because they were taught that divorce was a sin. This myth says that all divorce is forbidden by God, sinful, and unpardonable in God’s eyes—or, similarly, it says that Jesus or Paul never mention the topic of physical or emotional abuse, so those must not be biblical reasons for divorce. In reality, Scripture shows us God’s permission for divorce in several places. In addition to adultery, sexual immorality, and abandonment, emotional and physical abuse is mentioned in the Old Testament and repeated in the New Testament, but we’ve never seen it because we aren’t looking for it. Jesus specifically allowed divorce for infidelity Matthew 19:9 (ESV) And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. Note that Jesus does not say this is the only reason for divorce. We find other reasons for divorce in Scripture. The Apostle Paul allowed divorce for abandonment 1 Corinthians 7:14-15 (NIV) For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. Yet if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. The Law of Moses commanded divorce for neglect/abuse The Law of Moses actually commanded divorce for breaking any of the three marriage vows in Exodus 21:10: food, clothing, and "marital rights," which can be defined as love, as we read in the New Testament passages earlier. Exodus 21:10-11 (ESV) If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish [the first wife’s] food, her clothing, or her marital rights. And if he does not do these three things for her, she shall go out for nothing, without payment of money. We should not associate with people who claim to be Christians but are immoral. Not even to eat with them. 1 Cor 5:11-12 (NIV) But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people We are not to be partners with Christians who have even a hint of sexual immorality, impurity, or greed. Such Christians are deceivers. They aren't going to inherit the Kingdom of God. We hear the verse about not being "unequally yoked" all the time, but this verse says we shouldn't be partners with Christians who do such things. Eph 5:3-7 NIV But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them. 3. We can and must talk about our spouse's bad behavior. It is not slander. This passage said that we must expose it and why. Eph 5:11-13 NIV Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light. Hopefully, you can better interpret and understand what you read, Peace to you ! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by UnfairLife7(m): 4:59pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
abbey621:Meet a lawyer to educate you. You think Men are automatically given the custody of their kids after divorce? You probably do not understand how law work even in Nigeria In Nigeria, women are mostly considered to have custody of their kids after divorce. Except the woman isn't physically or morally fit to have the kids. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Emaprince: 5:00pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
extremelygolden:You will eventually walk into the arms of the wolves waiting to devour and pass around. No one really cares anyway. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by UnfairLife7(m): 5:01pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
highchief1:lowlife jonkie spotted ![]() Men had condemn the man in numbers. You think Men reason like you lowlife ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 5:03pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
WriterX:Learn to focus... on what that passage is telling you before you go off trying to argue every disconnected fact out there. ![]() Matthew 5 vs 31 - 32 does not tell you that you commit the sin of adultery when you divorce your spouse. It does not tell you that your partner is immediately guilty of adultery for being divorced. What it clearly states is as written. Anything to try to add to what is written is of you and not of God. ![]() If you find another place where Jesus Christ in fact directly condemns one as having sinned against God for divorcing a spouse, bring it up. ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Sweetvie: 5:04pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Wahala be like marriage ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 5:05pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: 1.. its a general statement, if you decide to get married at all also prepare for the garbage that comes with it as a woman cos most married man cheat just that some do it with respect and still love and maintain their marriage. Infact some men are so good at it that their wives can even swear on their behalf that their husbands has never cheated. 2, I was just giving the op the realistic options and consequences of the options post divorce . Which you will agree with me it's almost 100% correct if you want to be realistic. 3. We don't know how much the op is involved with her husband , you only assuming the op is at her best but from what I can deduce from the question asked by vicky on the phone about who is better on bed. It's quite points to the ops not up to her game or not enough for her husband game and vicky has taken it as a challenge. 4. I haven't said you must accept infidelity as a woman , what I am saying is as an African woman its best you go into marriage and be prepared for the garbage which is your husband cheating. Once you decide to marry just get your self mentally prepared for the day it happens. If I want to be generous 8 out of 10 men have cheated on their wives. Most women know and just forgive and move on but if you want to divorce or define your marriage based sorely on cheating the options available have also been stated above. The truth is we humans don't want to be realistic we always want to assume and say in our mind my case will be different. My question is this... As a woman are you going to let cheating alone define your marriage ? Based on the options post divorce? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by WriterX(m): 5:06pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I have no quarrel with you dear sir/madam, have a blessed day, we all have been given the spirit to discern and understand the word of God, God is fair and Just, if what you feel you stand by truly is the meaning behind the word of God , then this is your opinion and I do not argue it with you, stay blessed! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by enemyofprogress: 5:07pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Person go just dey fight over wetin she no fit chop finish. Dey there dey do gragra till your husband send you packing over nothing, especially if the girl's pusssssssy sweet pass your own |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by KarinaSlim(f): 5:07pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: I have another idea to give u. Now get a man. Give him the lady's number and tell him to flirt with the lady and possibly offer her some money to meet him in a hotel. She is a Vickyhookup. Na money she dey find. She will come. At the hotel, let the men be like 3 in number. They should be hefty in stature and strong. When she gets to the hotel. Tell the boys to threaten her till she confesses. She will confess. Then tell her to flirtatiously call your husband to come to the said hotel for their usual hookup. When your husband enters the hotel room, he meets you and his hookup girl. He has no defense. Please in all these, tell one of the men to video everything till your husband gets to the hotel. Then send the whole video to his family members and to his church members. If you have contact of his place of work, send the video file via email to the company email address and tag it "Watch What Mr Peter Your HR Manager Does Behind Close Doors" Just arrange like 30K to run the package. Thank me later. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by highchief1: 5:10pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:ok thanks high life man.If she return from the test make she file for divorce.I first ur papa marry.u no senior my first child.what an elder sees sitting down |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by UnfairLife7(m): 5:13pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
highchief1:you're a lowlife jonkie ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 5:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
WriterX:This is a lie! Jesus Christ never said that to all. As a matter of fact, He said that Spirit is only handed to those who qualify for it. Also, No man has the authority from God to add, change, or remove anything of that which is spoken by God. That is a sin against God Himself. So, whatever discernment you claim, if it leads you to inject ideas where God Himself has not said so, it is not of God. ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Socratiz: 5:15pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
You already possess incontrovertible evidence of your husband's Infidelity but please, go for the necessary tests to be sure you have not been infected by sti. You cannot pretend not to know what he's been doing so you need to confront him. It would be good to know how long you have been married and whether there was a case of infidelity during your courtship. Is this the first time or there are other cases? I advise you don't start with a fight. Present your evidence in a clear and matured manner. Let him know how painful and traumatic you feel that he could do that. His response should determine whatever steps you'd take afterwards. If he shows a sense of remorse, then you can forgive him. If not, you may need to escalate to a respected authority in his life. In any case, marital infidelity requires counselling. Usually, there are underground and unresolved issues responsible for it. Such issues can I my br discovered in counseling sessions. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 5:17pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
drsibz66:Here's a bold question for you to answer honestly! If you were to find out your wife was cheating on you with your next-door neighbor, would you also be willing to not let the cheating define your marriage? Would you be willing to allow her to continue her cheating ways on the grounds that she is a good cook and mother to your children? Is that what you are insinuating? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by yewit37486: 5:21pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
WriterX: That moniker is well known here for cantankerous back and forths, please save yourself the time and energy. Your replies were very informative by the way. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by abbey621(m): 5:26pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
UnfairLife7:I have 3 family members that are lawyers and have few friends including an uncle that have been through child custody divorce in Nigeria, keep shut and stick to topics within your knowledgebase! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by abbey621(m): 5:27pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: We are talking about A, you're talking about B. I'm not here to argue nonsensical whataboutism! We are talking about situations where both parents are capable and willing to raise their child! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by abbey621(m): 5:30pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Villa12: What happens in situation where they are both capable and responsible? Cheating is not considered irresponsibility when it comes to child custody, ask your friendly neighborhood lawyer! I don't know the situation surrounding your neighbor, she could have connections, money or simply the man was incapable of raising the kids properly. I'm talking about the majority of cases not exceptions here, speak to experienced divorce lawyers in Nigeria ask them the percentage of child custody cases won by men compared to women, you'll discover the simple truth! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by StrongAlphMale: 5:32pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: You're not serious. You don't have any evidence against him you have already gone with speed to quickly speed the gossip to your sister and family. Bomb dey your head. Madam if you can't handle your home without involving others, I'll advise you to divorced him asap, and na you go still lose because he'll finally bring in the same Vicky hookup to always visit and relax in his house, and she might end up even cooking for him while you've been displaced. No Wise up! Stay there dey jonz around. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by LEGALSER: 5:34pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Versitee: If your husband cheats, divorce him. If your wife cheats, divorce her. You people should stop being in patch patch marriages. Anybody who cheats on your doesn’t have an atom of respect for you irrespective of the situation and anybody who does it repeatedly is the devils right hand man. A word is enough for the wise. Gracias! 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by UnfairLife7(m): 5:36pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
abbey621:I have same within my family and the woman was granted custody Like i said,it depends on the nature of the accident. Men do not have automatic right over the kids 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 5:36pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: A man and a woman are different humans anatomically,psychologically or mentally. While I have seen men having 2 or more wives I have never seen a woman having 2 or more husbands. Men are wired differently from women. Most Afican women can stand a second wife if the conditions are right and favouable (Wealth and affluence) but men won't at least not openly claim it that " I am one of her husbands" As a man , if any woman who I[code] pay her bride price cheats its surely over. That because 1, I married her and paid her pride price. 2, I choose her at of the lot 3, it's a ego bruiser for you to continue to live with a woman you cheats. And I know majority of men won't forgive either. It's just natural a man and a woman aren't thesame even though they ate both humans. That's why a man doesn't produces eggs and women don't produce semem. They hormones responsible for most of our actions and behaviours aren't also the same so you can't expect the same reaction from both sex when they face the same stimulus and challenge. Those are my opinion as the question was directed to me. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Quebec91(m): 5:36pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 5:37pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
drsibz66:Again, Here's a bold question for you to answer honestly! If you were to find out your wife was cheating on you with your next-door neighbor, would you also be willing to not let the cheating define your marriage? Would you be willing to allow her to continue her cheating ways on the grounds that she is a good cook and mother to your children? Is that what you are insinuating? ![]() |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Azzik: 5:38pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
dkidd:So you no sabi read abi |
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