Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

Ahmed0336:
Try to screenshot everything and send to your phone to serve as evidence or you go explain tire

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

Kobojunkie:
1. If you read the text carefully, you will find that the one who divorces her is not himself accused of adultery.
She who is divorced is potentially guilty of adultery. That potential is realized in remarriage.

abbey621:


You were misinformed! This is 9ja, women don't get the kids unless the man willingly let go or is fully incapable of their well-being.

extremelygolden:
Marriage/ relationship these days nawa.

When you're cheating, please don't ever open your mouth to tell me "babe, you know I love you" because even before you finish uttering such gibberish, that thunder that has been doing press up for something now will manifest from no where! Nonsense!
I don't need your love, just give me my respect as your wife, ok?

A neighbour's daughter of all people! Disgusting and highly disrespectful.

Sis, l don't know how you're going to cope with this findings. If I were in your shoes (I forbid it anyway), I'll take a trip to think things over, then when I come back I'll confront him with all the evidence I have and execute whichever decisions I made during that trip.

The day I stopped looking into my husband's eyes, is the day I begin to shed every feeling I ever had for him, and I pray "may that day never come". Because I will take a walk right after that and I'll never look back.

highchief1:
too much findings will kill u.ask urself why ur husband is cheating on u.maybe u r not doing well.it’s a mama world here Nthg when u go discover when go make the world attack your husband.If u do anyhow e go marry the girl join u.

WriterX:
■ What are you saying? I’ve often heard that they stayed in an unfaithful or abusive marriage for decades because they were taught that divorce was a sin. This myth says that all divorce is forbidden by God, sinful, and unpardonable in God’s eyes—or, similarly, it says that Jesus or Paul never mention the topic of physical or emotional abuse, so those must not be biblical reasons for divorce...

Kobojunkie:
1. Even the one entering marriage of the first time faces the same odds so I am not certain why you use that against the subject of divorce when you could equally use it as a counter to marriage altogether.

2. Speak for yourself and your situation. Only the one wearing the shoes knows what is the best option for his or her case.

3. OP is worried that she might be infected meaning she has been intimate with her husband all that while. How much closer must OP get in order for you to realize that OP isn't the problem in this situation? Why is the victim the one who has to work on this assumed deficiency? Why must OP work to please the husband who instead preferred to have his knobs shined elsewhere?

4. A wise African woman is one who accepts infidelity as her lot in marriage? I was waiting for you to say that and you did just that. Over to you African woman... see what you have reduced yourselves in marriage to.

Kobojunkie:
Learn to focus... on what that passage is telling you before you go off trying to argue every disconnected fact out there.

Matthew 5 vs 31 - 32 does not tell you that you commit the sin of adultery when you divorce your spouse. It does not tell you that your partner is immediately guilty of adultery for being divorced. What it clearly states is as written. Anything to try to add to what is written is of you and not of God.

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

UnfairLife7:
lowlife jonkie spotted

Men had condemn the man in numbers. You think Men reason like you lowlife

highchief1:
ok thanks high life man.If she return from the test make she file for divorce.I first ur papa marry.u no senior my first child.what an elder sees sitting down

WriterX:
■ I have no quarrel with you dear sir/madam, have a blessed day, we all have been given the spirit to discern and understand the word of God, God is fair and Just, if what you feel you stand by truly is the meaning behind the word of God , then this is your opinion and I do not argue it with you, stay blessed!

drsibz66:
■ My question is this... As a woman are you going to let cheating alone define your marriage ? Based on the options post divorce?

WriterX:


I have no quarrel with you dear sir/madam, have a blessed day, we all have been given the spirit to discern and understand the word of God, God is fair and Just, if what you feel you stand by truly is the meaning behind the word of God , then this is your opinion and I do not argue it with you, stay blessed!

UnfairLife7:
Meet a lawyer to educate you. You think Men are automatically given the custody of their kids after divorce? You probably do not understand how law work even in Nigeria

In Nigeria, women are mostly considered to have custody of their kids after divorce. Except the woman isn't physically or morally fit to have the kids.

Kobojunkie:
You dey joke abi? Nigeria where the majority of men literally abandon their children with their women you dey talk as if men dey even bother fight at all.

Villa12:
Lol

Keep deceiving yourself bro. My neighbour got custody of their kids if you want to know. They do grant custody to the victim. If the man was responsible and the woman living wayward lifestyle, the man will have the kids.

Versitee:



I am heartbroken. As I write, I am in my sisters house

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

abbey621:

I have 3 family members that are lawyers and have few friends including an uncle that have been through child custody divorce in Nigeria, keep shut and stick to topics within your knowledgebase!

Kobojunkie:
Here's a bold question for you to answer honestly! If you were to find out your wife was cheating on you with your next-door neighbor, would you also be willing to not let the cheating define your marriage? Would you be willing to allow her to continue her cheating ways on the grounds that she is a good cook and mother to your children? Is that what you are insinuating?

Peledonomy:


I dedicate "mumu like you" by zazuu to you

drsibz66:
■ A man and a woman are different humans anatomically,psychologically or mentally. While I have seen men having 2 or more wives I have never seen a woman having 2 or more husbands.
Men are wired differently from women. Most Afican women can stand a second wife if the conditions are right and favouable (Wealth and affluence) but men won't at least not openly claim it that " I am one of her husbands"
As a man , if any woman who I[code] pay her bride price cheats its surely over. That because
1, I married her and paid her pride price.
2, I choose her at of the lot
3, it's a ego bruiser for you to continue to live with a woman you cheats. And I know majority of men won't forgive either. It's just natural a man and a woman aren't thesame even though they ate both humans. That's why a man doesn't produces eggs and women don't produce semem. They hormones responsible for most of our actions and behaviours aren't also the same so you can't expect the same reaction from both sex when they face the same stimulus and challenge.
Those are my opinion as the question was directed to me.

dkidd:
How do u know they're having sex? So because he chats someone named Vicky hookup and ur neighbors name is Victoria now means she's the same person U are just an insecure woman. Try to be more tolerant and trust ur husband more. If u still believe they're both knacking each other then get concrete evidence instead of jumping into conclusions because of ur insecurities