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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by extremelygolden: 9:20am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Emaprince: Amen. I'm not the Op anyway and I'm not experiencing any such thing in my relationship. Just being empathetic, you know. Like putting myself in her shoes. I can't just imagine how I'll feel if I found myself in such a situation. I'll be completely torn and highly disappointed I must tell you! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 9:30am On Aug 30, 2023 |
labake1:Okay but the western culture does support women over men. In fact it suppresses the man. So allow us enjoy our privileges in Africa in peace and besides even our society here is also biased towards women. There are things so many things a woman can do and get away with for free and a man can't dare it. Make we still breath small. Let men breathe |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Successlane: 10:03am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247: Madam, read through the highlighted lines in red color, and adjust. Better luck |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by RevenuesBoost(f): 10:43am On Aug 30, 2023 |
I wonder how women cope with a cheating husbands and a man who put passwords in his phone. From the relationship sef, it's our phone, our money, our everything. We must be as transparent as... |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by adelafe2019: 10:47am On Aug 30, 2023 |
VERSITEE, Do not bother yourself unnecessarily. A typical African man especially a married Nigerian is polygamous /promiscuous in nature I.e. apart from his wife he will have at least one girlfriend or concubine except 1.HE Is broke and so poverty prevents him from having a sidekick. 2.he is a 100% born again Christian.l do not mean a pastor because that is just a mere title. 3.He has low sexual drive and can hardly satisfy his wife sexually. If you find out that he is cheating on you you can run hiv test.lf the result is negative do not worry and do not confront him to avoid altercation. If you want to confirm the identity of Vick hangout use a new sim or another person's sim to do that.Otherwise she is likely to know you are the caller. Assuming you and your husband reside in different towns would you know whether he cheats? Do you know that some women have their husbands in diaspora and have not travelled home for the past 3 or 4 years or more? Do you want to tell me that they do not know that their husbands have s*x with ladies over there? I know that some readers asked you to divorce your husband if the allegation is true but how are you going to be sure that the man you will marry again will not do the same thing? Confronting your husband on the matter cannot stop him but will make him to be smarter in his approach to hangout matters. The only condition that is reasonable for a woman to go for divorce is if the husband always beat her/ domestic violence or if he always collect money from her without paying back. Such attitude can lead to the woman's death directly or indirectly. So the woman can run for her dear life.SHALOM. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by emanobis(m): 10:52am On Aug 30, 2023 |
For those of you shouting divorce up and down...plz dnt spread your nonsense mentality to everyone. Reading carefully will make u understand this is a woman dt wants to save her home and her husband, and looking closely, divorce isn't yet an option to her. She seeks way to discuss with her husband without causing a fight...she wants to discuss with her husband, and not cause a fight. Please psychologists and therapists in the house, guide her please. She still wants her home and her husband, not all these home breakers looking for others to robe into their misery life 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 11:24am On Aug 30, 2023 |
dkidd: I wonder what does things are |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by omobolarinwa1(m): 11:37am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Versitee: They kept telling to divorce your husband lol madam.if you do no be we men wey de street be diz lol I pity you make loneliness no finish you in years to come... there's nothing new under the sun my dear you have to take things easily gather more evidence confront him and ifnhe felt remorse and apologise kindly find a way to accept his apology .. Like one musician sang.. Oko won Lode ooo Meaning Husband is scares this day. Kindly grab your piece and move on. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 11:49am On Aug 30, 2023 |
labake1: Example if me and u are arguing and u even ur my girl do u know u can run to anywhere and claim rape. Maybe devil want come punish me we had consensual sex I'm done for. 2. People (men) are always ready to give u favours and u really don't have to do much to get that. Just fine small and be accommodating. Na u go tire for simps waiting to please u daily. From internet and cable subs to lunch and dinner etc 3. By general societal standarts men have to be the ones to initiate contact if there is interest and must accept rejection graciously so most women get to pick and chose, and most men don’t. All u have to do is just sit pretty and expect the world 🌎 4. Public Confrontations: Women are more often seen as the defendant in male vs. female confrontations. Men are usually seen as the aggressor. So a woman can yell at you but the second you raise your voice as a man, someone will come in and ease you off of the woman. She’s always right, until everything is cleared up. 5. Sexual Harassment: Cases of sexual harassment against men are taken far less seriously than it is for women. It is also socially acceptable for women to feel men’s arms and chests, but if we so much as brush a boob then that’s a lawsuit and defamation... Even here some stupid simps will make fun out of any guy who cries out being assaulted by a girl and say he's a liar. 6. Female Privilege: Males are always seen as a potential threat whereas women are not. For men, just walking down the street we make people tense. The police stop us for just looking good or driving neat cars but u don't hear of police stopping a lady and asking her to open her phones or being suspect for fraud or any of those vices even though they (women) still play the games. That said, women have more freedom to roam without getting shot or harassed by the police. Unlike us we might go out and never return back home because of one trigger loving police. I can go on and on but ponder upon those. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 11:51am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Keep us posted after the confrontation! All the best |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:37pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
countryman13:Again, If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing? Or are you trying to get us to believe that you could never do what you have advised OP to do here? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:42pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
adelafe2019:If you were to find out that your wife were cheating on you, would you also do everything you have asked OP to do here? Will you also not consider divorcing her since the okay condition you believe is good for divorce is if she beats you or something along those lines? Will you equally refuse to confront your wife because you know and accept that confronting her will not cause her to change her ways? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 12:47pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Am sure ds👆 solve d problem of how to confront him! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:49pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
emanobis:She wants to save her family from her husband who decided to break it of his own accord. So her fight to save is against her own husband who decided it is best broken for the sake of his dick. it takes two to make a marriage work so in order to save the marriage, OP and her husband who is the problem need to come to the same table and agree to be on the same page in terms of the marriage. Sadly, this this where it becomes hard to save a marriage after adultery has occured in the marriage as more times out of not, the cheater continues his cheating ways leaving the other partner to go on in the marriage relationship alone. Letting OP know that the situation isn't hopeless and divorce is an option in the case that she finds she is in the marriage with her own self, isn't a bad idea at all. No one person suppose carry marriage for head. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:50pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
countryman13:You haven't answered the question so how can we know if it solves it? Again, If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing? Or are you trying to get us to believe that you could never do what you have advised OP to do here? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 2:21pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:U aren't truly looking for a way to confront d man coz it seems U are channeling Ur energy solely on my post. OYO! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 3:00pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
dkidd: That's little compared to what men are benefiting in the society. Thank God for education, women are knowing how to speak up to say what they want. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 3:01pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
countryman13:You mean you would not confront your wife at all if she was cheating on you? You will simply continue being the dutiful husband to her that you have always been and let sleeping dogs lie or should I say let your wife continue to lay with your neigbhor? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 3:10pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Versitee: My advice for you is to focus on your life, if you have a child, let that child be your main priority. If you put men matter for head too much, na the child go feel the consequences (God forbid). Let him know that you know what he is doing, Yes CONFRONT HIM but not violently. Men are naturally promiscuous, if you know this, you will have peace of mind. There was a time I told my guy to be moving with CD, I can't allow someone to put me in trouble. You can tell him that, also be praying for him. Go for the test and if he doesn't stop, let him use CD before touching you. STI is real Your mental health is important, if he doesn't change, follow your heart. I no dey put mouth for couples matter. |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 3:23pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
labake1:Really? Tell me about it then because I don't think we benefit even up to women |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 3:40pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Now i know your type! My wife i know is not a cheat! Even if she does,my problem n now that you are contemplating of confronting Ur man, Ur problem! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 3:50pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
countryman13:And your type is of the kind who can never practice what they preach? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Iamzik: 4:24pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
extremelygolden: 🤣🤣 |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by OmoGomesIlorin: 5:16pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: It used to be a talk when I was in secondary school the movie goes like these => Last summer => I know what you did Last Summer => I Still Know What You Did Last Summer (or I Remember What You Did Last Summer) => I'll Always Know What You Did Last Summer In early 2000 MBC 2 use to show them a lot on Thursdays night |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by BennyDGreat: 6:34pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
omobolarinwa1: Hmm loneliness or STD...which one kills faster 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 6:40pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
omobolarinwa1:I hope that if and when your wife cheats on you, you will be willing to reload that song to play "Wives are scarce this day, " given that your conclusion is that cheating is no big deal in marriage. Be sure to equally grab your peace and move on if and when your wife equally cheats on you. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 7:32pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
dkidd: Really? I will let it be known that you said that |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 7:55pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Ooshhh! |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by emanobis(m): 8:23pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Your assumption, no factual evidence to all your point All I can sense is trying to push your unwarranted motive and idea upon another lady The man cheated yes, but never asked for divorce or even abused or molested his wife, you guys should please stop breaking homes please. Divorce isn't the solution she is asking for...she is asking for the better way to talk with the husband...period |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 8:30pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
emanobis:Actually, the facts contained in that post of mine are from OP's own admission. 2. You folks always think that by shoving your warped ideas down your opponent's throat, you gain some sort of edge in the debate. Wrong! The one pushing the unwarranted here is you pretending that divorce should not even be an option for her to consider when she is instead to decide that for herself. 3. She is asking for a way to talk does not mean she has made up her mind on what to do next. Those let her know that a divorce is also an option open to her should she decide to consider it simply making her know this fact before her. Or is she only to consider it if and only if the man asks for it? |
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by adelafe2019: 10:26pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: |
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