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Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by emmaodet: 8:42am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Bro, you dey waste your talent. You are very good and should be writing for newspaper companies. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by NezzyMike: 8:42am On Aug 31, 2023 |
uche87: UK no go rest for Una...na wa oo Oga writer |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by emmanuelbrown26: 8:45am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Unperturbedpota:Very very deceitful, they always play d victim card. Just give a woman a power and see d worst of her. 11 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by WrriterNig: 8:46am On Aug 31, 2023 |
uche87: Madam all ur thread na always to insult Nigerian men. Wetin Nigerian men do you? Leave Nigerian men, nobody beg you to marry them, madam. Nigerian men king this king that. Give them a break. 4 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by EvangelistChuks(m): 8:48am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Marriages crash because either or both the couples are CHRISTLESS.Christianity is one having the life and nature of Jesus;it’s not a religion.Yes for those Pastors divorcing it’s either they have backslided ,that is loosing the life of Jesus they obtained at conversion or that they were never born again or have that life. 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by SSpeter(m): 8:48am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Racoon:To avoid this, ensure your wife is working in Nigeria and makes good money (that way she sees money as nothing) . If your wife is not used to having her own money and you immigrate to a good country and she starts earning well, brother there is bound to be a problem, if you like marry Martha, cash is power and power is intoxicating 12 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by emmaodet: 8:50am On Aug 31, 2023 |
dettolgel: So true. If there is no stigma against divorcing and single motherhood, oboy divorce go plenty pass condom. Many women are enduring marriages due to many factors. Finance - I know atleast 5 women who have declared to me that if not for stigma, they would have packed out of the marriage they are due to poverty. From my observation, I think poverty will take 70% of the reason why most women are tired and exhausted in marriages. Infidelity - many women will rather endure with a providing man than staying alone while poverty and hardship strikes them down. 14 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by Blitzking: 8:50am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Adeneeyee84:I think say those guys wey dey UK dey always should say konji dey UK oo make ppl no come bla bla bla. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by ogelekpomgam(m): 8:52am On Aug 31, 2023 |
verybadmouth:Oga,there is money there. Let no man deceive you.A cleaner or professional job can fetch you 3000 pounds monthly.About 3 million naira.O boy,in a year, that's 36 million naira. Who dash monkey banana in Nigeria??.. 4 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by BreconHills(m): 8:52am On Aug 31, 2023 |
BoldBrainz: Point well made, But its a great place for a holiday or even an education. Longer well hmm but maybe not Russia...that's a pretty limiting environment if you are very ambitious. 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by Fiscus105(m): 8:53am On Aug 31, 2023 |
LaSenior: You said it all, several marriages among women are only for security reasons, having satisfied such need, body will start looking for other needs of body's desires. If couple really-really love themselves, changing of environment can never ever be an impediment. 4 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by verybadmouth(m): 8:54am On Aug 31, 2023 |
ogelekpomgam:I no talk sey money no dey there oo. Bill sef no be small thing. As you dey collect, you dey spend. I'm a mobile app developer here in Nigeria and work for a US company remotely. Bro, it pays me here. My rent is just 250k yearly in Lagos. I have people that pay over 1 million monthly in London. They are crying 6 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by KaptainAfrika: 8:54am On Aug 31, 2023 |
8. B.B.L 9. Mini-skirts that are school uniforms. 10. White women that are curious about the B.B.C from Nigeria. |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by ogelekpomgam(m): 8:54am On Aug 31, 2023 |
callmevirus:Come first. 1 Like
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Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by YoungLionken(m): 8:56am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Again, marriages over there crash, due to lack of genuine love. Nigerians are deceitful by default. They pursue after their own selfish interests.. I know a man who relocated his newly wedded wife (came and got married to a local girl here) to the US. Now, he deliberately refused to marry over there because of their women's misbehaviors and all. Took this supposed local girl over there, just few years later, she began to misbehave, showing her true colors. Long story short, they're divorced now with the court splitting the man's assets between them and the woman earning alone from the US government for their baby's sake. Brother now lives in full regret.. My brother think twice before you relocate your woman overseas. "My woman is different, she loves me, I love her, she's not exposed, she never lies or challenge me etc", note that, other men as victims today thought the same. You're not different. Women are loyal to their feelings, not to a man.. What should I do? Marry her, set a business or look for a financially reasonable job for her here in Nigeria (that's if she's worthy of your stress). Then visit when necessary... 13 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by tremilatre(m): 8:57am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Money Money Money, I can tell you this for free, it's the number 1 reason marriages crash. The cultural change of our women having to foot bills is something they can't gey their head around. It's a death knell to expect a man to foot all the bills abroad. Another thing from my experience is randy men. Men are used to playing away match and carrying it 2/0, here sex is cheap as chips but she will know, cos its a small community. 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by ogelekpomgam(m): 8:58am On Aug 31, 2023 |
verybadmouth:Yes oo.I know,it's normal.rent is around 1k pounds.but you have about 2k pounds left.In Nigeria,you can spend your whole salary while looking for loan.Quality of life, including cars are far higher than what you have in Naija.Bro,no comparison.Their electric trains are top notch.Chai...
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Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by phemmyfour: 8:59am On Aug 31, 2023 |
LionInZion:Always UK, you won't see such thread about US, Canada, Germany etc as if marriages there are perfect. Àwọn blogger blogger |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by HAICHCONCEPTZZ(m): 8:59am On Aug 31, 2023 |
…. And some marriages still survive |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by Anonymoususher: 8:59am On Aug 31, 2023 |
A friend and a former business partner is seeking a return to come back to Nigeria from UK to start life afresh because to him UK is too difficult to live. This guy was doing well in his business in Nigeria, having sometimes turn over of 9million in 3 months. Like he was OK, he introduced me to this business, taught me everything I know and how to get goods, introduced me to some contacts sef. I was still in the learning process under him when in less than 6months he told me his visa is ready for migration. I was confused, like how come? When you process visa? I was also scared because I just resigned My job to join him in his business and in less than 6months my guy wants to leave me and japa. He left ooo for UK on a student visa. Since he already gave me contacts and links to get goods, I just continued pushing and have survived. It was 2019 and since this year my guy has been complaining that he wants to return back to Nigeria, that he regrets his decision to leave, these and that. His problem is how to come back and start from scratch. I have told him that I am still available, with the savings he has, he can bounce back and moreover though I am still trying to find my feet but I am still in the system and we can push through together. Truly japa is not for everyone. At a point I had the intention to japa but on a second note, I am not hungry, I am not suffering, I have a working business. I will. Just stay, work, invest and send my family there. When money comes I visit and return. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by charlisco(m): 8:59am On Aug 31, 2023 |
I want to understand something, here in nigeria the man almost pay for all the bills in the home and also enjoy the title as the king. If the uk giv equal right, or more right to the woman, hope the financial burden is equally share, because it will look unfair. As marriage will jst b seen as an avenue to produce children nothing more or less. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by Angelfrost(m): 8:59am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Sigh... Why do you all keep recycling this topic?!!! The reason marriages fail whether in Nigeria or abroad is simply because the foundation is flawed and faulty, if not even nonexistent... You can't marry for the wrong reasons and expect it to stand the varied tests of time and environment. So, most of those marriages that dissolve upon immigration had already ended back here in Nigeria... That they stayed married here was just a matter of convenience. As soon as the woman starts making her money, and is surrounded by laws and a culture that gives her equal rights as her husband (even the upper hand and more protection), she takes the long needed exit to finally exhale. So yeah... A lot of women in marriages here in Nigeria are just enduring... Same with some men... It's the religious stigma and demonization of Divorce that keeps them in those unhappy marriages. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by pseudonomer: 9:00am On Aug 31, 2023 |
ogelekpomgam: A cleaner will not earn 3000 pounds after tax monthly in UK… 14 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by oshaosha2014(m): 9:00am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Why should we remove any stigma. We are not animals. dettolgel: |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by crossbreedwears(m): 9:01am On Aug 31, 2023 |
Uk is a no for me from day one. Their are other countries to relocate to and you shall find happiness verybadmouth: 1 Like |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by verybadmouth(m): 9:02am On Aug 31, 2023 |
ogelekpomgam:Bro abeg come and run for president in 2027. I will vote for you |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by ogelekpomgam(m): 9:02am On Aug 31, 2023 |
pseudonomer:But he will earn much closer. The economy class difference is not much.thats the fact. That's why there is no bigmanism there.You no dey call anybody Oga or Sir. |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by ogelekpomgam(m): 9:03am On Aug 31, 2023 |
verybadmouth:Yes o.Mba ooo.Let those that are running run well.lols |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by crossbreedwears(m): 9:04am On Aug 31, 2023 |
You don't get the point. Their are lots of things you by pass or scale through because you know someone in charge, but UK is different. Everyone is treated equally. Also you can't get away with beating you wife over there but 9ja is different Yugoslavia247: |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by verybadmouth(m): 9:05am On Aug 31, 2023 |
crossbreedwears:Thank you o. The UK is now filled with many fake nurses and plenty Yahoo yahoo boys that have gone to buy certificate and transcript. Many of them even buy certificate of sponsorship for caregiver jobs. Funny how UK open their doors to Fraudsters. They will mess up that country in no time 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by WilsonBright935: 9:05am On Aug 31, 2023 |
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