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Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Oasis003: 2:59pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
![]() Eunoiaa......?! You seriously faulting the innocent guy for confronting his cheating wife? I am 100% sure it was even him that financed the trip, probably by selling all his properties. Ooin.....make una calm down with this una feminism abeg. 2 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by seankafor(m): 3:00pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
raumdeuter:sad true.. except your parents thoor.. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by A001: 3:01pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Spy360:Then you don't know what's called culture. For freethinkers, the norm is to approach issues or beliefs about God using either the agnostic, atheistic, or humanistic perspective, or a combination of some of these three positions and related ones. Norm is an element of culture. You're discussing a topic you don't even have basic knowledge of. First you didn't know religion is under the umbrella term of culture, and now, you don't know norm is also under culture. If a person visits Nairaland daily and does so for a considerable period of time in his life, that has become an aspect of his culture. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by izzou(m): 3:01pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
KingTom: Bros, tribalism is for the poor. Na poor people dey tear cloth and throw insults like you see on front page. The rich people don't even see tribe or religion in their dealings. Osibanjo (a pastor) gave his daughter to a Muslim for marriage. I don't think there is any RCCG in Lagos that would approve that. Drop millions of Benjamins, and watch Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa Generals cling glasses together. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Melvyn11: 3:01pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Eunoiaa:This is basically my last reply to him on this issue but ofcourse he missed it. Back and forth headless argument doesn't interest me Melvyn11: |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by A001: 3:04pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Spy360:You're always funny with your takes on various issues. You think all these African atheists you see on Nairaland and other online platforms today are the first sets of atheists on this continent? Lols Na wa o. This discussion with you sef is a waste of time |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Eunoiaa(f): 3:05pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
izzou: You're not "allowing" your spouse do anything, lmaooo. Your language is funny to me. There's literally nothing you can allow your spouse to do or not. Like, are you going to padlock their private parts or you'll "disallow" and forbid them from sleeping around? You're talking as if you can command faithfulness out of somebody, and you can punish it out of them by confronting them. Izzou, the man has no chips or cards to control here. Nothing is literally in his hands. Like, how does their fuçking around realistically affect you? Sure, it may affect you because of your expectations of and commitments to the relationship, but you can withdraw all of that. That is in your control. It is not just "obodo oyinbo", it is a means for him. Maybe you should go back and really read the long comment again because I am not even saying he should accept the disrespect. My focus is on him remaining there (because that's HIS OWN desire) with little to no blow back as possible. His feelings of disrespect and betrayal is on him. Your bolded is very funny, because it is easy to comment and spit "wisdom" when you have no experience or are not in their shoes. So, are you really telling me now that there is NO OTHER WAY for the man to have handled it that wouldn't resorted in his deportation? Deportation o. For a travelling he worked hard at processing. Are you saying you wouldn't mind losing your source of livelihood just to confront a cheating partner (who is indirectly the link to that job)? Since "obodo oyinbo" doesn't "shack" you like that, replace it within something more dear to you. 2 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by KingTom(m): 3:06pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
izzou:I concede ![]() ![]() |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by A001: 3:06pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
In any culture around the world, take any practice or belief or language or any element of that culture at all, that element was started or pioneered by some people in the past. This one thinks a culture just dropped from heaven. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by raumdeuter: 3:08pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
DeadPresidents: Have you always thought like this or the west influenced your thinking? All the time I hear this doesn't like me that doesn't like me just grates my ear. Why should he like you? Is he your parent? You don't like me and I don't like you. In global politics does anyone like the other? Even break it down to the smallest unit a family do you genuinely like each other of you are just serving your interests? As a man, many of your relationship including spousal friendship even family will change when you don't have much benefit especially financial to offer As an employee ensure you are constantly developing yourself. Every 6months update your CV and test waters apply to positions outside your company to know what you are worth in the market you don't have to take the job but know where you stand and what skills you have that the market needs and what you need to work on. In the last 2yrs during the massive layoffs there were very smart guys who lost their job and they don't even have a resume nor have interviewed for any job in 20yrs. They don't even know where to start. They got comfortable. They believed the company's lamba that they are needed, you are the company's future etc Personally I am not even pro union. I go strictly by forces of demand and supply. If you imagine yourself as a business owner paying salary you will understand this better. The only reason you have an employee is because they are adding value to you. How many of us will keep Househelp who is always falling sick or sleepy or driver that's always complaining of back pain and not showing up. Some might call it being mean but it's what it is You can fire me anytime and I can leave you anytime. We don't like each other we just work together now because we have MUTUAL interest and benefits. One of the things Africa has is cheap labor. Instead of hammering on natural resources where other people have the same The west have money and we need it. If you notice my response to the Niger coup was always based on what will you give us in return for supporting you. That's how global politics is played. 2 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Eunoiaa(f): 3:10pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Melvyn11: Exactly!!!! Like, literally get a fallback plan! You can do anything you want to do to her o, in the end, as you like, but know that if she chooses to move left, you're covered. The man can even be the one to file for the divorce himself. I mean, he is seeking for a sponsor now. Why confront her with something like that only to end up looking for one now within the space of a month? The "I won't allow my wife to continue forking around because I want to stay in obodo oyinbo" bit is so short-sighted a thinking, I'm sorry lol. 1 Like |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by raumdeuter: 3:11pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
seankafor: As a child have you realized that your parent seem warmer towards you when you are doing well in life? |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by izzou(m): 3:11pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Eunoiaa: I have not even proferred any solution. What i find funny is how you are blaming a man for doing the right thing. You marry a rich man that gives you everything you need. You find out he is cheating and you confront him Then everybody blames you for confronting your legally wedded husband. Maybe it is wisdom to you, but it is very stupid to blame a man for doing nothing wrong. How long was he supposed to keep quiet? 4 years? Can you even do it? It is very easy to type with an android phone, you know. 2 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by izzou(m): 3:13pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Very easy to call him unwise for confronting his wife. Marry first, then catch your spouse cheating, and let us see whether you will confront or not. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by izzou(m): 3:17pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
KingTom: KingTom, See an example of poor people congregating in the name of tribalism. ![]() ![]() ![]() https://www.nairaland.com/7825928/gboyega-odubanjos-body-found-uk 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Oasis003: 3:17pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
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Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Melvyn11: 3:19pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Jesus Christ nobody is blaming the man for anything. We are saying the man didn't think ahead of the repercussions of confronting the woman and therefore plan accordingly. You know confronting her means the marriage is definitely going to end or you are going to forgive her and continue with the marriage. So if the the marriage is going to end you can no longer depend on her as a dependent then you should have made a fallback plan if that happened. Get yourself prepared so in the case of divorce like it's happening now you won't be affected. He won't be crying on the internet right now looking for job and sponsors if he had applied wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by izzou(m): 3:21pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Oasis003: Na true naa When i was in secondary school, i used to see my uncles and aunties as stingy people because they were not sending me money easily, or as i wanted Now, i don become uncle. I intentionally avoid calls from nephews and nieces most times, just to avoid unnecessarily billing Marry first. Then show us how to ignore a cheating wife/husband 8 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Melvyn11: 3:23pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Eunoiaa:The point is pretty straightforward for those who actually wants to get it. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by DeadPresidents: 3:32pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
raumdeuter: I learned this lesson the hard way when I was a fresh undergraduate. I was always broke and always calling home for money. I lost my dad when I was like 5 so na only mumsy with her limited earnings doing her best for upkeep. I remember begging my uncle for 5k and waiting 2 weeks to receive the 5k with insults on top. And I don’t even hold a grudge against my uncle, I even called him and his wife recently and thanked them for their assistance during my time in the university and even sent some choppings money for my little cousins. I think that particular episode made me much more determined to earn and I spent an inordinate amount of time mastering my craft. And that was my first understanding about how nobody owes you nothing—not your uncle, father, mother, brother or friends. Anybody that always laments about all the stingy uncles or relatives in his hamlet will always be broke ![]() I’m just 28, but i don see something for Sapa hand. My experiences and studying history from all the great civilizations with their rise and downfall has shaped my personal philosophy greatly 10 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Ibime(m): 3:32pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
liveLongNprospa: BlueRaydick, this is what shooting into a crowd looks like. This is even a very small crowd of less than 1,000 people and videos are everywhere of bodies. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by akwesenana: 3:39pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
DeadPresidents: ![]() |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by DeadPresidents: 3:40pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
akwesenana: Sapa will force you to catch sense on time ![]() 4 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Theflint1(m): 3:46pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Eunoiaa:You see say the energy get as e dey abi 😁 |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by seankafor(m): 3:52pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
raumdeuter:hahahaha.. that's exactly the situation I'm right now ![]() It's nature bro, no one can cheat it.. Not even you will like yourself if you re not living up to your preffered standard.. |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 3:55pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
A001: Thank you! |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by seankafor(m): 3:56pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
DeadPresidents:sapa Bien merci ![]() |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by seankafor(m): 3:57pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
akwesenana:Omo , me too shock for the matters.. the guy is literally my mate ![]() |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Theflint1(m): 3:57pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
izzou:The new military president that's Bongo's relative was once outed for purchasing properties in the US of about 1m, without mortgage, and his response was that private business should remain private business. Military guys are no more frustrated about the country than the average banker, teacher, bricklayer or businessman....they're no more passionate about the country, neither are they more moral, they just have guns. 5 Likes |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by akwesenana: 4:00pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
seankafor:I don dey look am as family man since morning lol. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by donjazzet: 4:08pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
izzou: This sentence is blatantly false. As in, it's entirely not true. For fvcks sake, we have a living proof here amongst us. Seriously, the notion that bigotry and prejudice is not for rich people is entirely false. There are soo many examples to pick from. Is it from landlords and homeowners rejecting tenants from specific tribes, is it white people rejecting to offer their services to black people? Or Germans outrightly relegating all Jews and having nothing to do with them even those who have money, infact the rich Jews had their entire money and property confiscated and given to state and channelled towards war efforts. Money couldn't save the Jews. There are soo many instances of families rejecting the marriage partner of their children irrespective of wealth because of the person's tribe, be it Igbo families outrightly rejecting a Muslim Fulani or Fulani Moslems rejecting a Christian ibibio unless the girl converts. My brother, some people have innate Bigotry in them, there is how a group of people will be targeted with hateful propaganda and they end up hating a specific demography. Tribalism is a key type of bigotry and money doesn't heal that so don't say that rich people don't do tribalism. That's false. Bigotry doesn't see money. 18th century White racists will still partake in lynching a black man no matter his level of wealth because to them, the black people were closer to animals. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: EPL Chatroom - All Discussions by Eunoiaa(f): 4:11pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
izzou: The right thing in a wrong situation. Context matters here. And I would like to know what you will suggest sef. Really. You marry a rich man that gives you everything you need. Okay, and the woman confronting the man in this case would be dependent on her values (just as the case above is dependent on the man's dreams). And based on your simple narration, I cannot find any grounds for a power imbalance. Maybe it is wisdom to you, but it is very stupid to blame a man for doing nothing wrong. How long was he supposed to keep quiet? 4 years? I don't know, does it take four years to switch visas or to secure a job? He could have vent to friends, an online therapist, write in a diary. Let his emotions subside, and talk to her, if at all he wants to do that and decide the fate and terms of their relationships. (Unless she's an insecure ogbanje sha that would have automatically gone ahead to do what she wanted to do). Can you even do it? Yes. Absolutely. In his case, I would. ![]() And this has nothing to do with me not have a sense of self or anything. Like, humans really like to hype that about themselves when they are opportunistic asf. As I said, I would look for means to pour out my emotions, reorganise my perception about the person and live with a mental barrier towards them until I can stand on my own feet. The betrayal would motivate me towards that, and I am not saying this is a thing I can decide in a day or two, but I will. Staying with a cheating partner for things you can work for yourself may be humiliating; but staying with them when you have no crutches or bearing at all is simply self-preservation, so, staying with a cheating because I am dependent on them abroad is quite different from staying with them because they meet my needs. It is very easy to type with an android phone, you know. Yes, same way it is also easy to thinking through situations and choose the best course of action for a decision. Let me share this story with you, too. Someone came to share it on Twitter. The guy doesn't have a laptop and he needed it to read and prep for some major exams. His girlfriend borrowed him hers, and he found out she was cheating. Would you have him confront her and breakup and she collects her laptop and his fail his exams? Like, there was nowhere he could get a laptop. It is a painful, hard thing but keeping quiet until you're above waters is a wise thing to do. Confronting cheating is even actually harder to do in real life than people make it seem online. The opposite of breaking up or confronting the cheater doesn't mean you have to wallow in self-destructive pity, you know? You don't have to sink into a shadow of yourself if you cannot readily leave a cheating partner. 1 Like |
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