My wife insult me @any sight of provocation.

Please I need advice.
My wife is usually the first to insult and call me all sorts of name when we gave issues. I have complained severally to her mum and dad about this and she has promised to stop. Funny enough, she usually come back to apologise after like 2 or 3 days later.
The last issues we had, she said I'm such a shameless man and that she has lost all the respect she has for me.
She a good girl anyways, but this attitude of always been the first to insult and call me name's even when I may just be mute because that's just my best way of expressing my anger.
She's currently begging for forgiveness but I have made up my mind to return her to parents tomorrow for them to give her some advice.. nd if she must come back to my house, she must promised never to insult me again else, the marriage will be over and we go our separate ways..
Advice me🙏

Has she always been that way with you, even before you married her?

mariahAngel:
Has she always been that way with you, even before you married her?

No, but she always use my mute issues when anger as an excuse but sincerely speaking. All this her altitude started immediately after I opened up a business for to manage after her NYSC.. I guess is because, she's noe seeing enough money.

Most women become insulting when there is an underlying issue or stressor - lack of money, no kids, infidelity, unfulfilled career...

Why did she call you a shameless man?
Are you constantly cheating on her and rubbing it on her face like it's your right?
If none of the above is the reason then you should put her in order

Ikemoore08:
No, but she always use my mute issues when anger as an excuse but sincerely speaking. All this her altitude started immediately after I opened up a business for to manage after her NYSC.. I guess is because, she's noe seeing enough money.

Mute issues, as in, you'd rather stay silent when she's insulting you or what?

How can not "seeing enough money" be her reason to insult you? It does not make any sense.

mariahAngel:


Mute issues, as in, you'd rather stay silent when she's insulting you or what?

How can not "seeing enough money" be her reason to insult you? It does not make any sense.

He's been economical with the truth
Men always play victim in marital issues

IconicR:
He's been economical with the truth
Men always play victim in marital issues

Then, wouldn't the wife have reported him to her parents, just like he reported her to her own parents?

mariahAngel:


Mute issues, as in, you'd rather stay silent when she's insulting you or what?

How can not "seeing enough money" be her reason to insult you? It does not make any sense.

Yes, when we have issues I prefer being silent than saying anything till I'm fully calm.

As for my money issues, I say that because since the fuel crisis issues that affected my business so bad , her business is not really affected nd she most tines take care of 65%bills and most time's I borrow from her to though I still pay back but may not be timely.

IconicR:
Why did she call you a shameless man?
Are you constantly cheating on her and rubbing it on her face like it's your right?
If none of the above is the reason then you should put her in order

I have not cheated on her, that is my anger..she doesn't know how to control her anger nd will always come begging after vomiting nonsense.

On several note, her mum has always tell me to overlook her choice of words that is women voice, but it's getting worrisome.

mariahAngel:


Then, wouldn't the wife have reported him to her parents, just like he reported her to her own parents?

Hmm
You'll be 😲 if it's possible to hear from the wife
From the lines the wife use in attacking him it simply shows there's something he's constantly doing that's hurting the wife

Ikemoore08:

I have not cheated on her, that is my anger..she doesn't know how to control her anger nd will always come begging after vomiting nonsense.

On several note, her mum has always tell me to overlook her choice of words that is women voice, but it's getting worrisome.

ok if this is true
You need to look for permanent ways to gain back your respect
Remember divorce isn't an option

IconicR:
He's been economical with the truth
Men always play victim in marital issues

I'm not being any economical with truth, the last quarrel we had, I try avoiding it because of his elder sister came to visit us that day.. yet she didn't mind nd was hitting me.. I wasvery ashamed..her sister tried stopping her to no avail nd she left angrily even as I tried to stop the sister.
Later I called the sister to forgive us, she accepted nd asked that I should forgive her jr sister , that her man cannot control himself they way I did..that she will still call her parents to infome them nd she promised the will talk sense into her.
Sincerely, since yesterday she (my wife)has been begging for forgiveness, but the choice of words she used even in the presence of her elder sister keep hurting me.

Ikemoore08:

I'm not being any economical with truth, the last quarrel we had, I try avoiding it because of his elder sister came to visit us that day.. yet she didn't mind nd was hitting me.. I wasvery ashamed..her sister tried stopping her to no avail nd she left angrily even as I tried to stop the sister.
Later I called the sister to forgive us, she accepted nd asked that I should forgive her jr sister , that her man cannot control himself they way I did..that she will still call her parents to infome them nd she promised the will talk sense into her.
Sincerely, since yesterday she (my wife)has been begging for forgiveness, but the choice of words she used even in the presence of her elder sister keep hurting me.

I can give you an advise to permanently put her on track, it worked on my uncle's wife but we ain't close enough and I don't meddle in family affairs
So apply wisdom and take charge of your home

IconicR:
Hmm
You'll be 😲 if it's possible to hear from the wife
From the lines the wife use in attacking him it simply shows there's something he's constantly doing that's hurting the wife

Nothing, I mean nothing..ask her, the only thing she will say is that I have anger issues...honestly I have been that way,even while we are dating I constantly tell her I have anger issues, but then,istead of talking..I rather remain silent to avoid saying words that may hurt her.. I love her with all my heart, but this attitude of always insulting me, calling me all sort if names is killing me inside.. at some point I told her to leave my house, but she will say I should throw her out myself else,she will go nowhere...before you know, we have reconciled.

Ikemoore08:

Yes, when we have issues I prefer being silent than saying anything till I'm fully calm.

As for my money issues, I say that because since the fuel crisis issues that affected my business so bad , her business is not really affected nd she most tines take care of 65%bills and most time's I borrow from her to though I still pay back but may not be timely.

Now, I get it.
Situations like this happen when men ignore the signs.
Even if you deny it, I'm sure you saw the signs before, but still went ahead to marry her, knowing you yourself are not much of a talker.

Well, you have to find a way to gain back your respect.
What do you do?
As in, what are you into?

Ikemoore08:

Nothing, I mean nothing..ask her, the only thing she will say is that I have anger issues...honestly I have been that way,even while we are dating I constantly tell her I have anger issues, but then,istead of talking..I rather remain silent to avoid saying words that may hurt her.. I love her with all my heart, but this attitude of always insulting me, calling me all sort if names is killing me inside.. at some point I told her to leave my house, but she will say I should throw her out myself else,she will go nowhere...before you know, we have reconciled.

Any kids yet?

IconicR:
Any kids yet?

No kids yet.. nd we are 2yrs +..

Ikemoore08:

I have not cheated on her, that is my anger..she doesn't know how to control her anger nd will always come begging after vomiting nonsense.

On several note, her mum has always tell me to overlook her choice of words that is women voice, but it's getting worrisome.

Don't listen to her mother.

Find a way to address the issue permanently.
Never for any reason or anyone lose your self value.

mariahAngel:


Now, I get it.
Situations like this happen when men ignore the signs.
Even if you deny it, I'm sure you saw the signs before, but still went ahead to marry her, knowing you yourself are not much of a talker.

Well, you have to find a way to gain back your respect.
What do you do?
As in, what are you into?

I'm into transport business

mariahAngel:


Don't listen to her mother.

Find a way to address the issue permanently.
Never for any reason or anyone lose your self value.

I want to go to her house tomorrow, together with her.. then request she stay with her parents so the can advise her..not that I'm no longer interested the marriage but the should advised her, especially on the side of always calling me name's and insulting me each time we have quarrels..

IconicR:
Hmm
You'll be 😲 if it's possible to hear from the wife
From the lines the wife use in attacking him it simply shows there's something he's constantly doing that's hurting the wife

You're known to make excuses for bad behaviour and disrespect, so I'm not surprised by your stance.

Ikemoore08:

No kids yet.. nd we are 2yrs +..

Is it on agreement between both of you to withold making babies yet?
If no then you should understand she's going through emotional problems as well
I think you guys will outgrow this
Just this year I outgrew alot of things I did last year
This coming week I'll be going to apologize for behaving rudely to some people but I tell you these are things I won't do just this last year
So give room for growth especially if she's always sober and apologize for her wrong doings
It's a phase she'll outgrow
I'm someone who believes in change and as such don't totally write people off no matter their attitude
You love her and she obviously loves you , so be patient and allow growth between both of you.
I think a baby will make your bond stronger as well.
Goodluck

mariahAngel:


You're known to make excuses for bad behaviour and disrespect, so I'm not surprised by your stance.

No, I actually don't believe in writing people off just because of some habits that seems bad of which you misunderstood

Ikemoore08:

I want to go to her house tomorrow, together with her.. then request she stay with her parents so the can advise her..not that I'm no longer interested the marriage but the should advised her, especially on the side of always calling me name's and insulting me each time we have quarrels..

How about your own mother?
Do you have sisters?
Do they know what is going on?

Ikemoore08:
My wife insult me @any sight of provocation.

Please I need advice.
My wife is usually the first to insult and call me all sorts of name when we gave issues. I have complained severally to her mum and dad about this and she has promised to stop. Funny enough, she usually come back to apologise after like 2 or 3 days later.
The last issues we had, she said I'm such a shameless man and that she has lost all the respect she has for me.
She a good girl anyways, but this attitude of always been the first to insult and call me name's even when I may just be mute because that's just my best way of expressing my anger.
She's currently begging for forgiveness but I have made up my mind to return her to parents tomorrow for them to give her some advice.. nd if she must come back to my house, she must promised never to insult me again else, the marriage will be over and we go our separate ways..
Advice me🙏

Be a man dude…

Don’t be letting anybody make you feel inferior.

My one policy in life especially in love relationships Is never to tolerate what I cannot accept.

Don’t let love blind your eyes to accept nonsense… then when it gets out of hand come to NL to complain and seek advice.

Always resolve certain issues when they start and make sure to deal with it to the barest minimum.

Give some women 1 inch and watch them take one yard. Don’t sit there smiling in love.

Set boundaries from the beginning!

IconicR:
No, I actually don't believe in writing people off just because of some habits that seems bad of which you misunderstood

Even when they themselves refuse to acknowledge that they're wrong, then make effort to change, but instead, boast about it? 🙄

IconicR:
Is it on agreement between both of you to withold making babies yet?
If no then you should understand she's going through emotional problems as well
I think you guys will outgrow this
Just this year I outgrew alot of things I did last year
This coming week I'll be going to apologize for behaving rudely to some people but I tell you these are things I won't do just this last year
So give room for growth especially if she's always sober and apologize for her wrong doings
It's a phase she'll outgrow
I'm someone who believes in change and as such don't totally write people off no matter their attitude
You love her and she obviously loves you , so be patient and allow growth between both of you.
I think a baby will make your bond stronger as well.
Goodluck

Yes honestly we both sincerely needs a kid, infact we need it like no tomorrow..I'm 28 nd she's 25.
She always wishe we have kids... but we are trying our best as we hope on God.. we are medically OK..
Her sister told me she will outgrown it,she's always apologise. Even as I'm trying this ,she has sent another apology to my WhatsApp but the fear of repeating it again is my concern...
I can tell ,we love each other somuch..that people even mistaken us as brother and sis..you hardly known we are husband and wife, because there's this resemblance in our face and skine colour..
Honestly we love each other so much, I just pray age stop all this name calling..it's really affecting my mental and emotional health.

Ikemoore08:
I'm into transport business

That's a good business.

mariahAngel:


How about your own mother?
Do you have sisters?
Do they know what is going on?

Yes. My mum is aware, this is just the first time I tell her about my marriage , I honestly don't like involving my own immediate family..coz the truly love and accept her..I feel telling them often, about my marriage may make them start hating or having different feelings for her..so I do keep my family off.
Istead I tell my my boss...
Well my mum ,said I be a man and handle it the best way I can, that she cannot support throwing her out..nd bringing in another woman ... she said, if telling her parents can solve the issue I should do that... the she don't want ti involve herself in my marriage..so she won't be tag any name tomorrow by both of us...nd she hang up on me

Ikemoore08:

I'm not being any economical with truth, the last quarrel we had, I try avoiding it because of his elder sister came to visit us that day.. yet she didn't mind nd was hitting me.. I wasvery ashamed..her sister tried stopping her to no avail nd she left angrily even as I tried to stop the sister.
Later I called the sister to forgive us, she accepted nd asked that I should forgive her jr sister , that her man cannot control himself they way I did..that she will still call her parents to infome them nd she promised the will talk sense into her.
Sincerely, since yesterday she (my wife)has been begging for forgiveness, but the choice of words she used even in the presence of her elder sister keep hurting me.

Omg! She even hits you. 😲

IconicR:
Is it on agreement between both of you to withold making babies yet?
If no then you should understand she's going through emotional problems as well
I think you guys will outgrow this
Just this year I outgrew alot of things I did last year
This coming week I'll be going to apologize for behaving rudely to some people but I tell you these are things I won't do just this last year
So give room for growth especially if she's always sober and apologize for her wrong doings
It's a phase she'll outgrow
I'm someone who believes in change and as such don't totally write people off no matter their attitude
You love her and she obviously loves you , so be patient and allow growth between both of you.
I think a baby will make your bond stronger as well.
Goodluck

Would you type these if it were the other way around?
I saw how you avoided where he stated his so-called wife hits him.

Ikemoore08:

Yes. My mum is aware, this is just the first time I tell her about my marriage , I honestly don't like involving my own immediate family..coz the truly love and accept her..I feel telling them often, about my marriage may make them start hating or having different feelings for her..so I do keep my family off.
Istead I tell my my boss...
Well my mum ,said I be a man and handle it the best way I can, that she cannot support throwing her out..nd bringing in another woman ... she said, if telling her parents can solve the issue I should do that... the she don't want ti involve herself in my marriage..so she won't be tag any name tomorrow by both of us...nd she hang up on me

Your mum hung up on you? Hahaha
Then, you have to find a way to put an end to the problem.