Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Yes everything is wrong.

Why take advice from your father when him and your mother are enjoying their own marriage?

Think twice before divorcing her so that you won't regret it later.

My ten kobo advice.

And if the other woman too starts doing the same thing after some years

Besides, adhere to your signature.

Since your problem is Sex and your wife cannot meet up your demands I don't think the issue of divorce should be brought up.
Remember, there are children in the picture.
My take, since your dad prefer divorce to cheating, I'd advise you take a second wife and let the sleeping dog l..

Foodqueen:
And if the other woman too starts doing the same thing after some years

Besides, adhere to your signature.

I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

JONSYN7154:
Yes everything is wrong.

Why take advice from your father when he and your mother are enjoying their own marriage?

Think twice before divorcing her so that you won't regret it later.

My ten kobo advice.

My dad hates cheating, but support divorce...my mum is late

Don't divorce her because of sex if u know she don't cheat..
She need some silent treatment but just that u can't control ur sex drive and u don't like cheating if not u would have find urself an understanding side chicken to satisfy ur urge...
Oga when marriage get to one stage the rate of sex reduce either from the man or woman (but not all marriages)..
Go to ur new enviroment and left her alone in the old house then u visit her once in a while, and anytime u visit her don't talk about sex since she don't cheat as u claim, she will crave for it as time pass by...
Reason the fate of ur kids and give her time...

Front page pls...I need to hear from people...my head is running crazy right now

ADURA123:


My dad hates cheating, but support divorce...my mum is late

is she cheating on you?

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

So, what is the point?

JONSYN7154:
is she cheating on you?

No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed.

ADURA123:


No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed.

Then reduce your sex drive.

One is that don't divorce her

ADURA123:
Front page pls...I need to hear from people...my head is running crazy right now

In the picture you painted, you didn't factor in your children. How about that?

Also, why not move away to the new location without issuing the divorce and watch if she will realize her mistake, be remorseful and with the promise to change. So that you guys can have the chance of getting back together.

ADURA123:


No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed.

Go ahead.with your plans but pause on the divorce proceedings to see if that will compel her to change

Nairaland and marriage wahala

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to

Live alone NOT Leave alone!!

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...
Pls mods should help me run this on FP

Sir pls dont divorce

There are simple herbal solutions that will increase her libido very well and she will be a tigress


It may even be the way you do it too.

This is a sensitive matter that can destroy you both... So be wise.

Seek herbal and medical solutions to low libido and go on a private trip with her.


Work it out. Sex is too flimsy to end a good home.


Never make permanent decisions on temporary emotions.

You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

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Live alone NOT Leave alone!![/quote

Thank you my head is really hot

Stevenbright:


In the picture you painted, you didn't factor in your children. How about that?

Also, why not move away to the new location without issuing the divorce and watch if she will realize her mistake, be remorseful and with the promise to change. So that you guys can have the chance of getting back together.

There is plans for them...and the plan is intact

ADURA123:


There is plans for them...and the plan is intact

Ok. Do whatever you think is to your best interest.

Acidosis:

You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month with, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work, market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy? The same energy you could have preserved by spending 50k extra on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

You dey M*D ni? did you not read the part I said I am investing on a project she is aware of? Does that not tell you it was our agreement to give her that?

Mod: This project is costing me over 7-8 by end of 2024 where the dividend will start flowing in?

ADURA123:


You dey M*D ni? did you not read the part I said I am investing on a project she is aware of? Does that not tell you it was our agreement to give her that?

Mr Project, keep your yeye co r.k until you finish your project. No kill pesin daughter! You want her to work like elephant at day and still do vigilante night work because you don't want to spend ordinary 25% of your finance to run your home.

Acidosis:
You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

clean, wash and market runs. is it an everyday thing?? And what's the duty of a wife if she wouldn't cook? Like nigga are you this dumb?? So he that risk his daily life daily to rake in 700k monthly is playing?

Some of y'all lots ought to be in concentration camps cuz what nonsense is this??

Offpointng:


clean, wash and market runs. is it an everyday thing?? And what's the duty of a wife if she wouldn't cook? Like nigga are you this dumb?? So he that risk his daily life daily to rake in 700k monthly is playing?

Some of y'all lots ought to be in concentration camps cuz what nonsense is this??

You're the du m.b one, clearly. Your earning is useless if it doesn't reduce the burden and workload in your home.

Stingy criminal.

Acidosis:


You're the du m.b one, clearly. Your earning is useless if it doesn't reduce the burden and workload in your home.

Stingy criminal.

What do you refer to as work load?? You really can't expect any iota of intelligence from a Glorified subliterate

Offpointng:


What do you refer to as work load?? You really can't expect any iota of intelligence from a Glorified subliterate

Workload is the amount of work you'd prefer your wife to do to the point of exhaustion, rather than spending 2% of your income on a cleaner.

Y'all wicked men will buy expensive phones for your girlfriends that contribute absolutely nothing to your lives, but watch your wife at home work herself to a state of exhaustion and unconsciousness.

Acidosis:
You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

You dey mind the guy.
See him feeling so good with himself.

Loool what a thread, hilarious comments.


Acidosis is on point though.


Reduce her workload first then the sex will increase but will the OP listen? Maybe maybe not.

ADURA123:


No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed

How often do you ask from her that she's thinking she would be killed.

Do you have too much sex drive as she says?


Either way it's not worth having a divorce, you guys should work it out.

@op

The chances that she will try to change if you carry out what you intend to do is quite high. If she changes, are you willing to continue with the marriage or you just want out?