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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by DyingFetus: 11:27am On Sep 12, 2023
Too bad you're going to ruin what a gold mine you got
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Fahvvy: 11:36am On Sep 12, 2023
OP the concern of your woman is not unreasonable, if you have the capacity to start building a house of your own, please delay that marriage and do so asap undecided....

However what I frown out is the fact she more or less gave you an ultimatum by saying "you MUST build a house before tying the knot" undecided...

It gives me the impression that she made up her mind on her own without considering your own point of views and that my friend is not something that sits well with me undecided...

Secondly...
If you do decide to build a house before getting married, I wouldn't advice you accept a dime from her undecided...

Cause women in general, will buy a sachet of water 20years prior and when there's a fight, they wouldn't hesitate to remind you how they "made you the man that you currently are" grin...

I'm not trying to box every woman into one basket, but like someone told me this morning "women are like children" grin...

Following that train of thoughts, there are something's you shouldn't involve a child in undecided...

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Solofresh2: 11:36am On Sep 12, 2023
Samantha124:
Ee, ke nna mo Afrika Borwa... grin grin grin
O bolela sesotho sa leboa akere grin

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Nobody: 12:01pm On Sep 12, 2023
Wow! I'm impressed... All thanks to Google translate.. grin grin grin
Solofresh2:

O bolela sesotho sa leboa akere grin

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by skj1377(m): 12:38pm On Sep 12, 2023
She wants to be a sure landlady
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Dexy4yah(m): 12:50pm On Sep 12, 2023
Don't be surprise, maybe her friend's husband owns a house so she is doing everything possible for her husband too to own a house...weda money dey or not.


Women and competition.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Solofresh2: 2:01pm On Sep 12, 2023
Samantha124:
Wow! I'm impressed... All thanks to Google translate.. grin grin grin
grin but I understand Afrikaans small
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Blitzking: 2:01pm On Sep 12, 2023
Building a house is no Childs play in present day nigeria..one of my house currently under construction spent close to 450k for a thousand blocks last month and you need 4000 or more depending on the house..the price of sharp sand for tipper no be here..cement price just day fly from 4900..now 5200...u can't even do foundation with 500k for a good house.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Opanka44(m): 2:03pm On Sep 12, 2023
Okay.
Her intentions are good and right, but the timing is very wrong. You mustn't build your house before marrying her. And if that is a condition for her to marry you, then u have to leave her and move on.
Again, what can her 250k do? Can it buy a land or build a house in this economy? You guys don't even need to contribute money to build a house. If as a man and head of the home isn't ready financially, then leave building for now. Women can't be trusted these days o. She may have an ulterior motive behind this

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Quebec91(m): 2:03pm On Sep 12, 2023
cheesy
Greattestman:
Run if you are wise... she's there to covet your money. She will deceive and when you begin the project she will leave you alone in it saying she has no money. And after you build the house, she will bring her ex to your matrimonial bed.
Be wise!!!
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Quebec91(m): 2:04pm On Sep 12, 2023
cheesy
Greattestman:
You will soon learn the hard way since you refuse to be wise.
Idiot!
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by onlyboyson(m): 2:04pm On Sep 12, 2023
Bro relax šŸ˜‚ menopause will soon knock on her

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by haveMONEY: 2:05pm On Sep 12, 2023
Correct šŸ’Æ
Good fiancee
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by money121(m): 2:05pm On Sep 12, 2023
Lobatan
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by LordIsaac(m): 2:05pm On Sep 12, 2023
Greattestman:
Run if you are wise... she's there to covet your money. She will deceive and when you begin the project she will leave you alone in it saying she has no money. And after you build the house, she will bring her ex to your matrimonial bed.
Be wise!!!
Seems harsh, but with our co-gender, we must assume the worst! cheesy

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by randymirrors(f): 2:05pm On Sep 12, 2023
Solofresh2:
Good.But when a woman wants you, she won't even bother about the house

Gbam! If only you knew the number of women getting married to the first man that proposes to them. That's why most marriages are crashing these days. Most women marry the available and not the desired. Any woman who loves you wouldn't give you such a condition to meet. Smh.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by AImiron: 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?
whatever you do, donā€™t ever collect money from her to buy land or build house, thatā€™s my only advice.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Quebec91(m): 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
Confirm šŸ‘
Geniemoi01:
I am sorry sir,but you'll be an idiot to follow the words of a woman. She doesn't mean you well at all! If you wanna build do so with your money from start to finish. She wants to contribute chicken change while planning her escape route with the house should you both divorce. She's already eyeing your future property. You better be wise. If she doesn't want to rent with you, let her go.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by ednut1(m): 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
Land of 250k Where. Women like this their papa no get house, their family members or siblings self married in a rented house. The joke is on you for dating an unreasonable woman like this

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by iwaeda: 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

Go and build in your village, atleast land is cheap. grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Nobody: 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
That's nice.. smiley smiley smiley
Solofresh2:
grin but I understand Afrikaans small
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by ImoleNaija: 2:06pm On Sep 12, 2023
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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by LaSenior: 2:07pm On Sep 12, 2023
Even if I have 30million I won't build house

Money wey I go use invest in my guest house plans

Taaaah at least I will live in a rented apartments for 7years before planning to build my house

Building house when you are still hustling no make Sense invest in landed properties first

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by IamtheTruth1(m): 2:08pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?


Are you dating a 15yrs old girl? Can 250k even cover foundation not even fascia board?

If truest she is not a kid below 18yrs, canā€™t you see she is thinking like a child? Is that not a Red flag?
The truth is that man no dey reason marriage again o and you have someone. Who wants to marry you and you are demanding he must build before you guy get married? You way be the Price?

just ask her if her Papa build house before marry her Mama. From her response, if u have sense, you will know what to do

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Rubyjade: 2:08pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?
There types are rare, women think šŸ¤” about the future of a man, while man think about the past of women. Her type are rare among my genders, don't loose this opportunity. How many ladies would even think of withdrawing to buy an investment together with their partners?. THINK šŸ¤” šŸ¤”

When by buying the name should be Mr LewisHamilton15 & Mrs (her name) and not Mr&Mrs LewisHamilton15

If you are not comfortable with the advice here, run it through your mentor or someone older than you in your family.
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Switruth: 2:08pm On Sep 12, 2023
Let her dad hand over a house key to you guys na. Thatā€™s how a family that loves their Inlaws does.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Newmans: 2:08pm On Sep 12, 2023
If she is ready to surpport u moraly and financialy is an achivement.

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Rubyjade: 2:09pm On Sep 12, 2023
LaSenior:
Even if I have 30million I won't build house

Money wey I go use invest in my guest house plans

Taaaah at least I will live in a rented apartments for 7years before planning to build my house

Building house when you are still hustling no make Sense invest in landed properties first
Why Sir, but my grandfather built his house when he was hustling
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by Ghidey(m): 2:09pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.
Buy land and go on with your wedding and invest the money to expand your business.
Then you can be building gradually.
One mistake they put to our head is getting a house. A house is a liability if you don't have a business. This is why you see many landlords reliying on rents and spending NEPA bills because they don't have sustainable business. House is not a wise investment. Having a land is better.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by LordIsaac(m): 2:09pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?
You may not believe me now but you will surely believe me later, if you fall for her trick. Sheā€™s smart! What that lady really wants is not marriage; all she wants is power and security! Agreeing to her terms seals your fate as ā€œthe wifeā€ ab initio. Flee now, while yet tis day!

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Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by xjiggy: 2:10pm On Sep 12, 2023
LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?
Only you know how much you got and what's coming in. Building a house is not cheap. I guess you're already paying rent somewhere, so I don't see why you should not continue for the time. I'll advice you guys get married and start the project. With strong will and perseverance, you'll get there in a short time. I expect her focus to be on building the home... Not the house
Re: My Fiancee Said We Must Have A House Before Getting Married by chloride6: 2:10pm On Sep 12, 2023
You proposed to a girl congrats grin

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