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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Mombebe: 8:35pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
descarado: No he should be giving her 600k plus the little busy she's doing just to be a good husband. May I ask you,are you married? How much do you make monthly not to talk about the monthly upkeep you give your wife? If that 100k is not enough,can you bring your mother to be doing all that his wife does so that she will be paid 100k, while the man's wife works or engage in other businesses apart from home keeping. If you're not a married man or you're an irresponsible man, keep off this thread. Go and make 700k monthly and give your wife 600k upkeep just to be a good husband,onye ara. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:39pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
RALPHOW:So, OP won't first "test" second wife to be sure she can satisfy his libido's needs before he marries her? You folks are not only naive but very ignorant in the way you analyze the things of the world. Allow the man divorce his wife o'jare!
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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by NoChill: 8:39pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
ADURA123: The only advice I can give is to marry a second woman. It will help you a lot |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:41pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
NoChill:Yes, because women are nothing but accessories to servicing a man's needs and nothing more, abi? 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:42pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
kunle75:I hope that when your wife gets herself a side-dick for any reason there is, you will be equally fine with it. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by franchasofficia: 8:48pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
RALPHOW:In Christianity, marrying more than one wife is adultery, so whether you married more than one wife or married one and got a side chick, both of you are committing same sin of adultery. The only acceptable standard is marry one wife and be faithful to her, if you cannot, any other route you follow is sin, no short cut 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by altteemy: 8:51pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
@ADURA123, I went through at least 10 pages before posting my view on this. We do have a few things in common. I believe in working hard to take care of the family and at the very least in a union, everyone should play the part they have positioned themselves for. Two areas that affect the marriages are sex and money issues. A third one is children decisions. Sex is so much important that apart from violence and infidelity reasons, a party not fulfilling their conjugal duties is also grounds for divorce in court. Whomever is not ready for sex in marriage should not even undertake that task. That's why marriage is not for kids. ADURA123, you have the finances covered by having a savings habit that will secure the future for decades to come. Please don't give a heed to those who believe in eating their savings. Some families still manage that 100k as a combined income. You might however increase it based on recent inflation. If this would affect your investment savings, you could consider that extra side hustle you've put aside all this while. Everything will add up with time. Your intimacy game is top notch considering most Nigerian men do not believe in going down on their woman and that's a pointer that her clitoris wasn't circumcised. If she enjoys it too, and you're not a low timer man, why should she deny you? Excessive "I am tired" is not doing her any good here. One aspect where you're feeling betrayed is that if your best friend could deny you, surely any other woman has a higher chance of doing same and probably much more. This is why you are not even considering remarrying. I guess resenting her is probably happening too. Still with all this, you plan on setting her with a million and I believe you would still send monthly upkeep. I assume making regular calls to the family from your new base and occasional visits so as not to make the vacuum too obvious. I respect your planning of not making your absence felt. I feel your wife is being comfortable that you would not cheat. Your dad's advice is honorable. After all, it is this same nairaland that even feminists say that if a man is not satisfied with just one woman, he should divorce and not bring diseases home to an innocent woman. Also, you seem to have agreed with her on no second wife despite your religion allowing it. Finally, after telling her to change for 6 years and you feel you were simply used as a child making factory for the early years, you've had enough and you wish to have a good life and enjoy what your expectations should be. You're not wrong doing so. Then I came to 4-5 times a week and two hours a session, brother, I want to tell you to instantly ignore all I posted above as it does not apply to you. A weekly average of 3 times a week well spaced would do you both a refreshing romantic marriage till your old days. A Google search would point to once a week. There really is truth to Wifey's claim to tiredness. Find a way to work it out with your lovely woman. You already have everything. Maybe reduce the length of the sessions or reduce the number of times per week. Either of this would help. You don't have an issue dear. Wishing you well - Teemy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by authentic18: 8:51pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by KennethEnyi(m): 8:51pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Offpointng: Like say they leave the cobalt for u u go know wetin to use am do Beside US get oil o Mumu for Texas ,Pacific Northwest, New Mexico ,Arizona and that Alaska that they purchased from Russia |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:52pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
SINisSIN:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:53pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Dminister:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by greypencils: 8:55pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Divorce will break the home. If he can keep his adultery on the low, they might do just fine. The rule is not to get caught. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:55pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
ArcSEMPECJ:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Harddiskng(m): 8:55pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Acidosis: What are writing, is it everyday you clean your house vigorously? Oga when i was younger, my mum would cook for a whole month on one Saturday and put all in the freezer. You don’t any reasonable point. Someone earning 700k in Nigeria, do you think he goes to work to play?? Do you know the emotional trauma some people endure to keep their jobs? Is wanting sex from his wife out of place? From the look of things she refuses him sex for an extended period of time. Well I can’t advise OP I would maintain my stance, marry someone that matches your sexual energy. You see early he/she doesn’t like sex and you like sex. Madam/Oga don’t marry him/her, leave him/her! Or it would end in tears 4 Likes
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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Ndidi2: 8:56pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
ADURA123:please kindly work things out with her. Child birth does a lot in women's body.. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:56pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
seyijosh:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ACE1010: 8:56pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Bro everything is wrong with your decision to divorce your wife. If not having enough sex is the only excuse you have. I'm a widower for the past 6 year, I desired to be happy again, but can't find that woman anywhere. Be careful before you take a decision you will regret for the rest of your life. Do everything you can to get the best in your marriage. You may marry another woman with big butt, and bursty breast and may give you a mind blowing sex, but at the end you may not have peace compared to the one your wife gives. No woman can give you everything you desired in marriage. You listed some exceptional qualities your wife possesses, why not build your marriage around them and have a happy home? One love bro 😍 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:57pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
smasher1:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Validated:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
WetSmoke:Nigerians and blackmail ehn!!! She is a "good" woman who can't offer him what he needs the most. How is she "good" for him? If she is good for you, take her. She is not "good" for OP so let him set her free. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 9:00pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Seems like you don't know what marriage is all about or you are not yet married.... Do you know this woman cooks for OP? She can't offer it because of some reasons best known to her....and it is the duty of the Husband to checkmate the issue... If she is contradicting matters and lacks some other qualities apart from satisfying the OP....I would gladly agree with you ... |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Freelancerr(m): 9:00pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
My advice, if you love your wife this much please don't divorce her you can get the sex somewhere else, but don't have kids with another woman unless your wife. Use protection always if you decide to play away. I repeat don't make babies with a different woman. Keep loving your wife and kids. ✌️ |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 9:02pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
greypencils:If your woman resorted to getting herself a side-dick as well, would you equally be fine so long as she is not caught by you too? Definitely, others will catch on and probably know of it but you, so will you be fine with that too? Cause I see you lot prescribing a medicine that you probably wouldn't expect anyone to dish out to you. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by kunle75(m): 9:02pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I was already, your opinion is secondary bro |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Oluwatobiloba07: 9:02pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
My take on this is very simple We are in advance world where everything work. Apply wisdom as a man. Just express yourself to her very well, if she fails to hear you out, visit a doctor, their drugs that will make her want sex every time you need it If she refuses to take the drugs, then apply man wisdom, just cook for her or give her drink. This shouldn't give you headaches. Spiritually women are another thing, don't marry another person so that you won't come down or go broke, most of the ladies you're seeing outside have been used. It takes grace of God to break free if you encounter it. Divorce or staying alone is not good for you sir, just visit doctor, the will give you drugs. Just put it inside her drinks to arose her stimuli. I'm very sure you will get tired of sex. Their are many things you can do sir, we're in era where we get everything in one person God will help you sir, I understand you have high libido and she's having low libido, so the proper way to fight this is to visit a good doctor God bless your home, devil will not come in between you sir. Don't leave her, wisdom is profitable ADURA123: |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ACE1010: 9:03pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Acidosis:One bottle of Alomo bitters for you bro👍👍👍 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 9:04pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
ArcSEMPECJ:Stop pretending that all marriages run on a template. People marry for different reasons. OP's idea of marriage is not the same as yours obviously so stop trying to blackmail him using standards that are yours and not his. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
ACE1010:Your standards are not the same as OPs, so you do you while you allow him to do him. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by WetSmoke: 9:07pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:What that how he met her?? Answer!!! |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 9:10pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
WetSmoke:It doesn't matter. As he said, she is no longer to his spec or maybe never was to begin with. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 9:19pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Lols which standards are you referring to? For heaven's sake, we are talking about human beings here.... You don't impose yourself on your fellow human because you feel you married them.... That you have a dog at home doesn't mean you should treat the dog like an animal simply because your standard says "it is a dog ".... You should treat your wife as a human being who has feelings and a say of her own than thinking your nonsense standard MUST be met... The best the O.P can do is to get himself a sex doll....because even the most sex addict of a woman on Earth will sometimes feel like not having sex for months even years..... So advice the OP to buy sex dulls that he can impose his standard on and it won't complain.... 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by NoToPile: 9:19pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
altteemy: I hope the OP will listen to your advice especially the last paragraph. I am still waiting for the woman that won't complain about OP's request and it's even 2 rounds per session. E no fit happen for this Lagos we dey hustle so. It's a serious something!!! 1 Like |
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