Vijuchoco:
I don't need to ask, he'll give me on his own

why? Should he give you money?
What are you selling.?I
Why can't you give him money instead?

Shalommy:
And there is no crime for her to ask you for money if she's in need.

If she needs money, what stops her from working and making her own money to earn a living ? Why must it always be man all the time? Why does she depend on a man for survival? So without man you won't eat?

Vijuchoco:
I don't need to ask, he'll give me on his own

Why exactly should he give you money?

What exactly are you selling that requires him to purchase and Pay you for it? Why can't you give him money instead or do you hate him?

Shalommy:
As a man, if you don't wanna spend on a lady then stay on your own. Is it too difficult？

Why exactly must he spend on you? For what reason? What do you sell for him to patronize you? Or are you into hookup?

Men have been staying on their own but your gender keeps chasing after men! They now go to churches and wear wedding gowns while desperately praying for any man to settle down with. I'm sure you're blind to that?

No go hustle and make your own money, be waiting for a man that'll come and take away your poverty stricken life

Shalommy:
It's trade by barter.

You would have simply said you're an olosho na!

mariahAngel:


Emotional blackmail as always!
Most of you guys are fond of twisting things to suit your interest.

Simple question; can you be in a relationship without sex?

A woman cannot stay in a relationship without sex! Proven facts!

She enjoys the sex far more than a man does! So who needs it more? Madam an average Nigerian girl cannot stay 2 weeks without sex else she masturbates. So what nonsense are you saying? U think a man's life depends on sex or what?

Besides sex is meant to be enjoyed and the woman enjoys it more. To answer your questions a man can be in a relationship without asking for SEX! There are prostitutes everywhere he can go to. Except of course you're one of them Hence you think you can bill him because you're giving him kpekpus you enjoyed more than him. In a loose sense na you suppose pay that Young man for servicing your engine

Gajagojo:
why? Should he give you money?
What are you selling.?I
Why can't you give him money instead?

Well, I just feel it's the natural order of things..

My nieces and nephews visit me, I give them money. Most times, I go out and I give whoever attends to me something, money or gift. It's not like is anyone's right, it just feels like the sane thing to do.
And just so you know, I've also assisted guys financially so no big deal abeg.

Vijuchoco:
Well, I just feel it's the natural order of things..

My nieces and nephews visit me, I give them money. Most times, I go out and I give whoever attends to me something, money or gift. It's not like is anyone's right, it just feels like the sane thing to do.
And just so you know, I've also assisted guys financially so no big deal abeg.

It is the natural order of things to pay for services rendered
I think people should be upfront about the services they provide and their fees.

It feels like the sane thing to do for whoever gets the most benefit to pay for it . E.g sugar mummies will pay toyboys and vice versa The issue here is the Nigerian context and mindset of Nigerian women that it is the sane thing to do to be paid by their lovers
In my travels I found it is not so everywhere and it is a very prominent thing among Nigerian women. I just have a problem with pretending it is not transactional

Gajagojo:

It is the natural order of things to pay for services rendered
I think people should be upfront about the services they provide and their fees.

It feels like the sane thing to do for whoever gets the most benefit to pay for it . E.g sugar mummies will pay toyboys and vice versa The issue here is the Nigerian context and mindset of Nigerian women that it is the sane thing to do to be paid by their lovers
In my travels I found it is not so everywhere and it is a very prominent thing among Nigerian women. I just have a problem with pretending it is not transactional

Eh God!
I don't see it as transactional though, it's more like gender roles in my opinion..

Vijuchoco:
Eh God!
I don't see it as transactional though, it's more like gender roles in my opinion..

There is no contradiction.
Even in transaction there are gender roles men tend to pay female prostitutes most of the time
Like I said Nigerian women see it differently from other places and even then that varies with social class.Upper and upper middle class Nigerian women tend to be more financially independent.
It ultimately comes down to background and need. If a person has sufficient money for all her needs she won't need anyone to give her money
If she grew up in the trenches or close by she has that mentality of entitlement to remuneration

Gajagojo:


There is no contradiction.
Even in transaction there are gender roles men tend to pay female prostitutes most of the time
Like I said Nigerian women see it differently from other places and even then that varies with social class.Upper and upper middle class Nigerian women tend to be more financially independent.
It ultimately comes down to background and need. If a person has sufficient money for all her needs she won't need anyone to give her money
If she grew up in the trenches or close by she has that mentality of entitlement to remuneration

Hmmmm..
My mum was the pillar in our home and somehow even as a child, I just had a strong feeling within me that it shouldn't be so. Not like I ever saw my parents quarrel or anything, I just didn't like it..
I later went on to live with my uncle, where he's mostly in charge and I really admired that, seemed the ideal way to me.

For instance, when I go out with a guy, I don't expect to bring out my money to pay not because I can't afford it but because I see it as somehow.. But if there's need, I would gladly assist

Vijuchoco:
Hmmmm..
My mum was the pillar in our home and somehow even as a child, I just had a strong feeling within me that it shouldn't be so. Not like I ever saw my parents quarrel or anything, I just didn't like it..
I later went on to live with my uncle, where he's mostly in charge and I really admired that, seemed the ideal way to me.


For instance, when I go out with a guy, I don't expect to bring out my money to pay not because I can't afford it but because I see it as somehow.. But if there's need, I would gladly assist

This matters to me from the perspective of a parent and how to orient daughters
My daughters expect to pay when they go out with anybody
They are totally averse to any kind of Awuf.
When a woman pays her bills she avoids toxic relationships and is clear in her head why she is with a particular person.
There is nothing wrong in talking about money
What you are indirectly saying is You won't go out with a guy who has no money to pay for the outing. I don't judge you but remember Mama Peace dated Jonathan when he had no shoes.
Anyway Nigeria is tough. The only kind of outing in Nigeria is about food.
As a young man I have often said to a woman I have got two tickets let us go to a show or football game I would expect her to attempt to buy drinks or food when we get there. If she doesn't I simply cut off unless I am doing it for sex

Now A parent that is the orientation I give my daughters. Never go out without money in your pocket to pay your bill. Don't order what you cannot pay for and always pay it it costs more than Coke and biscuit A responsible woman who is genuine in a relationship must know her partners pocket and either contribute or avoid expenses that will harm him.
Nigerian women come with the attitude of O don't care where you find money just get it.
That is OK for some but don't pretend it is not transactional

Gajagojo:

A responsible woman who is genuine in a relationship must know her partner's pocket and either contribute or avoid expenses that will harm him.

Of course

Shalommy:
Op... Can a guy date a lady without asking for sex？If yes, then i can date a guy without asking for money. Stupid question.

allow him to have sex with you is now a favor, that means giving you money is he paying for the service you render to him?

Tempulated:
Hello Ladies.

Can you date a man without asking him for money.

Of course that has always been my kind of relationship
Everything is not about money

Ballzproblem2:
that's like asking Nigeria girls to breath without oxygen, impossible!

It's possible. While I was still dating, I don't ask for money. Maybe I woulda asked if I dated a tightfisted guy(s) I have my self esteem to protect and it's very high, gbagbe! People I date see a need and just fill in the gap of their own volition. I'll never be at the mercy of any man, the reason why I always campaign that women should work and earn their own money.

Samantha124:
He should stay single... Because most broke men are easily threatened by successful women and will end up taking out their frustrations on the woman.

And a broke man will always see something wrong with the woman he's with, so it's best he stays single.

Hmmm!

Na my mother generation be that, not any of these 'woke' millennials. Those ones go bill you till your bank account balance go enter minimum deposit

DyingFetus:
Girl way like go spend on you and no go let you spend your money


My ex was a pre med student, she no day ever let me spend my money on am always buying me gifts here and there
I had to leave the relationship because it made me feel worthless like I'm sort of a houseboy always getting gifts

You say you want a woman that is financially independent but when you get one, you can't handle it?

mariahAngel:


Would you be comfortable in a relationship where your woman does not ask you for anything?

Well I believe it's almost impossible for two parties to be in a relationship and not ask each other for absolutely nothing.

Depends on the Requests though. Truly I will be worried if she isn't making any requests and i believe same thing applies to her as well.

For example, I will always be available emotionally, communication, care etc.

Pinkyposh:


Of course that has always been my kind of relationship
Everything is not about money

Hmmm are you really sure.

1Sharon:


You say you want a woman that is financially independent but when you get one, you can't handle it?

If you are Single, I'm available.

ismodiwa:
I dated her for 5 years before we finally got married last year, she only asked me for financial assistance once in 5years + she's an orphan..

Congratulations!!!

austinofo:
For this Nigeria?

Yes It's possible believe me.

Tempulated:
Hello Ladies. Can you date a man without asking him for money.

How many Nigerian men can date a woman without asking for sex?

sonofthunder:

Why do you think the men like you are few?

Are you caught up in the matrix?

What is matrix?

I am unique in my own way and i know it.

Kobojunkie:
How many Nigerian men can date a woman without asking for sex?

This has been addressed on the front page of this Topic.

Most nigerian men ask for sex from women.

omoharry:
Guys, can you date a lady without asking her for sex??

Yes sure.

Nigerian men have conditioned and configured their ladies mind and reasoning this way.

It's very worrisome.

Sex is not food, it's just a recreation activity. It is well.

Pathfinder2090:


Bro stop sounding lik holy Michael
Life is give and take
Nothing is free even in Freetown

I am not sounding like angel gabriel.

Life is give and take with Sense.

1Sharon:


Nairaland men and bravado.

Come make we Date jhoor.

ajepako:
Question could also be

Can a man date me without asking for money and favors?

Fixed

Ma'am you be big woman na

You have money na. So you can both ne assisting each other.

Michaelspresh:
Yeahhh

I am financially stable
So yes

Wow this is Nice.