Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

Ask the brother why he acts like that to someone he houses

What if the brother is barely managing to feed himself?

MS247:


Ask the brother why he acts like that to someone he houses

Where will I go and ask the brother?

Though he's not telling us the whole story. But why will a senior brother ignore a brother who left village to come stay with him to the extend of hiding everything from him, why can't the senior brother communicate with his younger brother. Reason this matter again if your senior sister did the same to you.

Caaz:
What if the brother is barely managing to feed himself?

Pacesetter2021:

There is something that serving does. Not everytime one will be advised to move out and stay alone.

Serve for some time. Serve under someone. It grows you inside.

You are right

It grows one mentality

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Well done. I always give to my sibling and I have never got anything back in return. Never for once and I keep that in mind.

Skyview01:


Well done. I always give to my sibling and I have never got anything back in return. Never for once and I keep that in mind.

God bless you bro... I am the last born and my brothers and sisters really gave me a lot... I appreciate them in my own ways and also give to my nieces and nephews

Even Dangote appreciate heartwarming gifts

Caaz:
What if the brother is barely managing to feed himself?

Can't he share the "barely" with his younger brother?

Your brother owes you nothing? A direct family doesn't owe you support? Where did this stupid line come from? Where did we learn this? The western life or where exactly?

You have an irresponsible brother, ditch him and continue your life, people may call it entitlement mentality but no matter what a brother have brotherly duties once it’s in his capability

If he can’t be able to cater for you then he should let you understand why you need to go back


My own brother said I feel entitled living with him and sent me away, that was after he picked up some good money, he betrayed me, he gave me blow for my left eye and blood was gushing out(na him still clean am after he felt it was too much), he made fun of me and made it obvious I must beg him to live(I refused), he has apologized many times to me after his actions and claim i have strong pride and never apologized for my wrong doings(I never did any wrong to him).
I’m on my own and struggling while he bought 10milion car and asked the kind of drink I want, I said malt and he gave me, he requested for my account, I told him to go fvck himself 😹 but in a polite way sha, e shock him.

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders. Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me. As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs. My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country. But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment. I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.
He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me. Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food. I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one? He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him. But is this how we should behave as blood brothers? He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Has your brother always been this way or did something happen between you two that caused him to begin acting this way towards you? I find it hard to believe your own blood brother would suddenly start treating you like a stranger for no reason.

Yes,why not?the complainant has to table his concerns with the elder brother.

Cpossibility:


Can't he share the "barely" with his younger brother?

MS247:
■ This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

So you no fit give ordinary food — sustenance— to your own siblings wey dey your own house?

All of you saying entitlement mentality, abeg bone that shit. This is all shades of wrong. Unless the OP did something to his brother which he's not telling us. I go get mind chop clean mouth while my kid bro way no get anything go sleep with empty stomach, mbanu!! untop wetin na? my own blood. This life is nothing ooo.

Even if i'm so poor that it's only garri I can afford, I'd gladly share it with him.

Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

My friend, the world has passed all these - No matter how you guilt trip or use emotions to handle this, fact remains HE IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYTHING FROM HIS ELDER BROTHER.

OP is entitled to care from his dad and mom. Since the duo have failed in their primary responsibility which should be a serious criminal offense in Nigeria (Child support should be a serious deal in this dead country), OP is now left to fend for himself.

Irresponsible parents and breeding are part of the cause of poverty in ya country.

Back to you Openfortruth , your elder brother owes you nothing. Earlier you realize that the better for you.

As someone pointed out in first page, you have to treat him like an OGA to get something from him. Do things that you know will make him happy in the long run.

The state of Nigeria is the problem. If you were in the States you could be flipping burgers in a fastfood and have a side hustle and still pay your bills and get a nice apartment.

I cant imagine the job you could do in Nigeria to give you a good salary considering you dont even have a degree.

So of course Nigeria also failed you. You better go out there and hustle.

Nobody gives a damn about gender M.

CC Agentgoat

Kobojunkie:
Has your brother always been this way or did something happen between you two that caused him to begin acting this way towards you? I find it hard to believe your own blood brother would suddenly start treating you like a stranger for no reason.

I'm still trying to find out where I have offended him.

Openfortruth:
■ I'm still trying to find out where I have offended him.

Your parents should have an idea of what it is. Have you asked them?

MS247:


Send him #1100

How exactly does he eat if he doesn't have 1k

Let him go and beg, or hustle in a market as a labourer

Get out of my face. His brother is a good definition of irresponsible human being. We all know the fact that, he is not the father. That doesn't mean he should not provide him the welfare he can afford instead of ignoring the boy totally. Many people has sponsored their siblings to school or learning trade. If the parents can not afford to. I cannot let any younger person around me go hungry talk more of my brother. Na this kind brother go dey do for people outside and ignore his own blood. If you cannot afford to feed him. You go clear him say things no dey easy for you.


The brother na irresponsible person abeg.

majesticguy:
All of you saying entitlement mentality, abeg bone that shit. This is all shades of wrong. Unless the OP did something to his brother which he's not telling us. I go get mind chop clean mouth while my kid bro way no get anything go sleep with empty stomach, mbanu!! untop wetin na? my own blood. This life is nothing ooo.

Even if i'm so poor that it's only garri I can afford, I'd gladly share it with him.

God bless you sir. If I were to be in his position, I would never behave with him this way.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

You and the 254 people who liked this comment have serious issues. How can an elder sibling starve his younger sibling? He didn't say his brother didn't buy him a car, or build him a house. He said food. He goes to bed hungry, treks distances. How can you deny your younger sibling - same father and mother, especially as he is not yet earning. Even if they are step brothers how can you starve your sibling and pretend like this over food.

What is this world turning into? Food? Ordinary food? For food, brothers are turning against each other.

Na Wa o..

Nasri100:


My friend, the world has passed all these - No matter how you guilt trip or use emotions to handle this, fact remains HE IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYTHING FROM HIS ELDER BROTHER.

OP is entitled to care from his dad and mom. Since the duo have failed in their primary responsibility which should be a serious criminal offense in Nigeria (Child support should be a serious deal in this dead country), OP is now left to fend for himself.

Irresponsible parents and breeding are part of the cause of poverty in ya country.

Back to you Openfortruth , your elder brother owes you nothing. Earlier you realize that the better for you.

As someone pointed out in first page, you have to treat him like an OGA to get something from him. Do things that you know will make him happy in the long run.

The state of Nigeria is the problem. If you were in the States you could be flipping burgers in a fastfood and have a side hustle and still pay your bills and get a nice apartment.

I cant imagine the job you could do in Nigeria to give you a good salary considering you dont even have a degree.

So of course Nigeria also failed you OP.

CC Agentgoat

You telling me the "world has passed all these".....makes me laugh ....how did child support creep into the story, did OP clearly state he is a minor and neglected by his father?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

No 3 is the real deal. Tell them the truth. This entitlement mentality is part of the reason Nigeria is a mess.

In the States you would see the old people working to pay bills!

When the kids get them gifts its a special occasion and appreciated.

I got an elder brother and i cant imagine asking him to feed me. The shame sef go too much.

He only decides to give me money on his own will and i am always apperciative.

Part of the reason is my dad is a hardworker and made us comfortable right to 21 and explained how its important for a man to be responsible.

Mindlog:


You telling me the "world has passed all these".....makes me laugh ....how did child support creep into the story, did OP clearly state he is a minor and neglected by his father?

I mean you probably been in Naija all your life so how would you understand responsibility in the real world. I don't blame you.

The child support was in a (). I added it to explain how parents would understand how demanding and expensive it is to raise kids in the right way into adulthood, not those suffering and smiling upbringing in the Nigerian culture.

If OP was born into a proper setting, do you think he would be be waiting for his elder brother to come home from work to feed him?

Nasri100:
■ I mean you probably been in Naija all your life so how would you understand responsibility in the real world. I don't blame you. The child support was in a (). I added it to explain how parents would understand how demanding and expensive it is to raise kids in the right way into adulthood, not those suffering and smiling upbringing in the Nigerian culture. If OP was born into a proper setting, do you think he would be be waiting for his elder brother to come home from work to feed him?

Stop spewing bullsheet abeg!

In which world out there is it sensible not to feed someone you are housing? Which kain brain damage this one dey try sell abeg?

Kobojunkie:
Stop spewing bullsheet abeg!

In which world out there is it sensible not to feed someone you are housing? Which kain brain damage this one dey try sell abeg?

You mean its your duty to feed someone you are housing?? So i kept someone homeless in my apartment so its automatically my duty to feed the person?

Now tell me whos spewing bullsheet between the both of us.

MUMU


Cc Kobojunkie

Nasri100:
■ You mean its your duty to feed someone you are housing?? Goodluck.

So, you would welcome visitors or family into your home but would not feed them? And you somehow think you can sell that hogwash resolution of yours as some sort of abroad thing? Nonsense!

Kobojunkie:
So, you will welcome visitors or family into your home but will not feed them? Na wa ooo!

Another nonsense mention maybe you should sit this one out cause you are talking off point!

Let me help you,

The topic is about a younger brother whos feeling entitled to help from his elder brother.

I was only letting the younger brother know the reason he's in this predicament is because his parent failed and his country also failed him. Now he has to be at the mercy of an elder one who is NOT interested in taking up any role in his life.

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Visitors? They are not permanent so how's their feeding a problem?

Family? I got an elder brother and if i am planning to live with him for a long time, you best be right i am getting a job so i can help my elder brother PAY HIS GODDAMN BILLS.

And if i cant get a job i would do things that would make my elder one interested in feeding me. HE OWES ME NOTHING!!!