A neighbor in the village introduced his niece to my partner saying they are brother and sister based on same village. She came over to charge her phone and took his number, it's been three days and she keeps calling and coming everyday but doesn't stay, only to plug in her phone. So, she came this time and asked if he has a visitor, my man said yes, that his girlfriend is around, why? She then went ahead to say she's lonely and can't stay in the house alone due to boredom that the uncle travelled this morning. My man came in and told me, I was like saying "lonely" is weird for someone she doesn't know, but it's all cool. So we concluded to just send her movies so she would watch since we had a series to watch. She came and I went to the living room to spend a few minutes with her, cos I and my boyfriend had a movie to watch. Lo and behold, my boyfriend left the room when she came, went to the living room and was discussing with her for almost 2 hours, forgetting the movie, after an hour though, he came and asked me if he should get me my phone for company, got me angry. In all, he came in later and asked we watched the movie, after an episode. I told him I didn't like how much time he spent there and how he was encouraging her disrespect for my presence. He only said sorry, was only getting to know her. And then he stopped talking to me, not long the girl said she was leaving. My boyfriend didn't talk to me for hours, I was cooking at night and she called him saying she needs to charge, meanwhile there was no light. My boyfriend went out of the house to go get her without letting me know, she returned with him, he gave her power bank and they continued their discussion again until 9pm. I was hurt, when she left, I queried him again and his reply was "she did nothing to you, you are only giving attitude". It even got to the point he slapped me, what can you guys make of this? Thank you.

Your bf no dey try o.

Modified : It is perfectly normal to feel jealous at the thought of the opposite sex spending time with your man. Absolutely. Now I don't know how old he is, but he didn't handle the situation well. He shouldn't have gone as far as slapping you. I would thread with caution if I were you. I don't know how old you are too but you need to be wary of that your partner.

There's more to this than meets the eye. If he could slap you cause you were being protective of your territory, something else dey sup.

He is definitely being manipulated by the other lady. She get plan. There's no need to fight him or get yourself slapped in the future. If this continues, I would advise that you take a walk.

How old are you pls?

Thank you. He wasn't talking to me when I was trying to talk to him about his behavior at night, he was walking out on me so I drag him back furiously. I apologized though, but I didn't feel it was bad of me to tell him how I feel. I am a woman, women don't respect women nor know boundaries. So I felt bad having someone come from nowhere saying she's lonely, what if he wasn't here. I'm 23 though.

he was in a all shades of wrong... people like that won't even take an inch of what they give out if they tables were turned... he even slapped you? unprovoked??

in summary, dump the idiot... or else, you'll receive more than just slap next time...

Aimere:
Thank you. He wasn't talking to me when I was trying to talk to him about his behavior at night, he was walking out on me so I drag him back furiously. I apologized though, but I didn't feel it was bad of me to tell him how I feel. I am a woman, women don't respect women nor know boundaries. So I felt bad having someone come from nowhere saying she's lonely, what if he wasn't here. I'm 23 though.

you're not wrong for saying how you feel, but I don't know what really ensued between you guys or how you reacted or if you're really telling the full story... but he was wrong for slapping you if unprovoked... he would have respected your feelings at least, till maybe you're away from his side... he wouldn't accept it if it was you.....

just study the kind of man you stay with, or else you'll keep getting used by men only to end up wasting your time...your love for a man shouldn't make you lose your respect...

Reminderz:
he was in a all shades of wrong... people like that won't even take an inch of what they give out if they tables were turned... he even slapped you? unprovoked??

in summary, dump the idiot... or else, you'll receive more than just slap next time...

Thank you, I appreciate your response. I wouldn't say I deserved to be slapped, but I actually dragged him out of annoyance. After she left, I expect a conversation. But he saw her off, returned and went to bed. I wanted him to not encourage whatever her intentions were with his conversation with her. It's creepy coming to say she was lonely, and I went out to greet her and talk to her as a fellow lady. She was speaking Igbo for me, I was like okay cos she was speaking English to my boyfriend when she could have used same Igbo. Now, when she was leaving during the day, she didn't even tell me bye. When she returned at night, she didn't say hello to me or bye when she was leaving. Told my boyfriend and he was like" maybe she doesn't want to, it doesn't matter". E pain me, I no go lie.

Your bf is playing with fire. Slapping you is off.
But you need to check your reactions.

Reminderz:

you're not wrong for saying how you feel, but I don't know what really ensued between you guys or how you reacted or if you're really telling the full story... but he was wrong for slapping you if unprovoked... he would have respected your feelings at least, till maybe you're away from his side... he wouldn't accept it if it was you.....

just study the kind of man you stay with, or else you'll keep getting used by men only to end up wasting your time...your love for a man shouldn't make you lose your respect...

I was furious cos he wasn't talking to me though, won't lie. I was trying to have a conversation and he was ignoring me, I felt stupid. I apologized cos I am responsible for how I react to things. That's all that happened.

madone:
Your bf is playing with fire. Slapping you is off.
But you need to check your reactions.

I dislike being ignored, so he was doing that. I dragged him angrily which I immediately regretted, maybe I should have kept quiet
But I don't know how to keep things in.

Aimere:

I dislike being ignored, so he was doing that. I dragged him angrily which I immediately regretted, maybe I should have kept quiet
But I don't know how to keep things in.

don't do that next time... that would have triggered him because you will seem desperate and he will start taking you for granted.. sometimes show no reactions, and observe, and he will undoubtedly reveal the kind of person he is to you... just tread carefully...

you also need to be emotionally matured enough for a relationship...

Your boyfriend's reaction and attitude is belittling of you before her.
No guy should do that unless there is something they're hiding from you.
With that, she won't ever accord you the respect you deserve.

Take your time to think on how to save yourself the embarrassment next time, but don't cause any harm or damage.

Reminderz:

don't do that next time... that would have triggered him because you will seem desperate and he will start taking you for granted.. sometimes show no reactions, and observe, and he will undoubtedly reveal the kind of person he is to you... just tread carefully...

you also need to be emotionally matured enough for a relationship...

Thank you,I got it.

so pe o ti lo!

aunty, your boyfriend is aiming for that girl.
For him to slap you (except you insulted him or hit him first), his mind is on her

Kayberg:
Your boyfriend's reaction and attitude is belittling of you before her.
No guy should do that unless there is something they're hiding from you.
With that, she won't ever accord you the respect you deserve.

Take your time to think on how to save yourself the embarrassment next time, but don't cause any harm or damage.

I appreciate.

anthonyuncle:
so pe o ti lo!

aunty, your boyfriend is aiming for that girl.
For him to slap you (except you insulted him or hit him first), his mind is on her

Lol, I appreciate your reply. I only dragged him furiously when he was walking away.

OP I feel your pain. I don't like it when guys feel you can do shits to women all because you wanna prove dominance or a point.

It wasn't a bad thing you spoke up. You are defending your territory and he should know that thus he shouldn't take advantage of it as weakness.

What he did was a total disrespect. Moreover that girl will also disrespect you in the end.

DND069:
OP I feel your pain. I don't like it when guys feel you can do shits to women all because you wanna prove dominance or a point.

It wasn't a bad thing you spoke up. You are defending your territory and he should know that thus he shouldn't take advantage of it as weakness.

What he did was a total disrespect. Moreover that girl will also disrespect you in the end.

I appreciate your reply. The disrespect already started because I don't see why she would ignore my presence all day, even when she returned at night. Couldn't even say goodbye. Telling him about the attitude and he said it's not a must for her to talk to me, that maybe she doesn't want. Told him he was siding with someone else at the expense of my comfortability. I felt like the stranger, not fair. I can't say what I did wrong. Maybe my approach wasn't good, but then.

If I were you I'd also have stopped watching the movie and joined them in the living room.

I'd make sure that she feels my presence in the house... You should've also asked her to come to the kitchen and assist you with the cooking when she came for the second time... If your boyfriend asked you why, use it as an excuse to bond with your potential sister in law.

Because honestly speaking, she's the problem and it seems like your boyfriend is weak and blind... Men are so easy to manipulate and they can be easily deceived by good looks too... She's playing some mind games on your boyfriend and it seems like she's winning, in order for you to get rid of her or get her to respect you, you need to beat her at her own game.

Samantha124:
If I were you I'd also have stopped watching the movie and joined them in the living room.

I'd make sure that she feels my presence in the house... You should've also asked her to come to the kitchen and assist you with the cooking when she came for the second time... If your boyfriend asked you why, use it as an excuse to bond with your potential sister in law.

Because honestly speaking, she's the problem and it seems like your boyfriend is weak and blind... Men are so easy to manipulate and they can be easily deceived by good looks too... She's playing some mind games on your boyfriend and it seems like she's winning, in order for you to get rid of her or get her to respect you, you need to beat her at her own game.

She's not in any way related to him. I get you, I had done something like that before and it was an issue, said I didn't trust him. This is morning and she's here again. His siblings or cousins never do this, she didn't say bye or anything even after spending few minutes with her. I didn't want a situation I would go there and he would find a problem with it.

Problem is that you were too quick to confront him and you guys already fought about it.

Even if you try to act nice towards her now, he'll suspect that you've got an ulterior motive... On top of that, it sounds like your boyfriend is an abusive guy, if he can just slap you just because of a minor issue, imagine what he'll do to you if you guys start having serious issues.

Are you willing to risk your life for someone who doesn't care about your feelings?

Aimere:

She's not in any way related to him. I get you, I had done something like that before and it was an issue, said I didn't trust him. This is morning and she's here again. His siblings or cousins never do this, she didn't say bye or anything even after spending few minutes with her. I didn't want a situation I would go there and he would find a problem with it.

Samantha124:
Problem is that you were too quick to confront him and you guys already fought about it.

Even if you try to act nice towards her now, he'll suspect that you've got an ulterior motive... On top of that, it sounds like your boyfriend is an abusive guy, if he can just slap you just because of a minor issue, imagine what he'll do to you if you guys start having serious issues.

Are you willing to risk your life for someone who doesn't care about your feelings?

Thank you so much. She's even back here, mtcheew. I've heard you. I might have been in a haste.

Aimere:

Lol, I appreciate your reply. I only dragged him furiously when he was walking away.

If you get the point, you know what to do.

Aimere:

Thank you so much. She's even back here, mtcheew. I've heard you. I might have been in a haste.

you're in an abusive relationship but you don't know it yet. the way he undermines your feelings and doesn't in anyway put himself in your shoes to process your emotions is very alarming.

On no account should he had slapped you if he really cares. you're apologizing and feelinh you caused his outburst even though you're the victim.

you need to leave. The red flags are very glaring to the blind, he's not the one for you.

A man has the right to talk with whoever he wants to talk with and he also reserves the right to fucck whoever he wants to fucck. When the kitchen gets hot and you can't withstand the heat, leave the kitchen. You're in his house, what happened to your own house? You're sounding like you're the best girlfriend and not just another coded hookup like every other vaginarian out there. Mtchew

Aimere:
A neighbor in the village introduced his niece to my partner saying they are brother and sister based on same village. She came over to charge her phone and took his number, it's been three days and she keeps calling and coming everyday but doesn't stay, only to plug in her phone. So, she came this time and asked if he has a visitor, my man said yes, that his girlfriend is around, why? She then went ahead to say she's lonely and can't stay in the house alone due to boredom that the uncle travelled this morning. My man came in and told me, I was like saying "lonely" is weird for someone she doesn't know, but it's all cool. So we concluded to just send her movies so she would watch since we had a series to watch. She came and I went to the living room to spend a few minutes with her, cos I and my boyfriend had a movie to watch. Lo and behold, my boyfriend left the room when she came, went to the living room and was discussing with her for almost 2 hours, forgetting the movie, after an hour though, he came and asked me if he should get me my phone for company, got me angry. In all, he came in later and asked we watched the movie, after an episode. I told him I didn't like how much time he spent there and how he was encouraging her disrespect for my presence. He only said sorry, was only getting to know her. And then he stopped talking to me, not long the girl said she was leaving. My boyfriend didn't talk to me for hours, I was cooking at night and she called him saying she needs to charge, meanwhile there was no light. My boyfriend went out of the house to go get her without letting me know, she returned with him, he gave her power bank and they continued their discussion again until 9pm. I was hurt, when she left, I queried him again and his reply was "she did nothing to you, you are only giving attitude". It even got to the point he slapped me, what can you guys make of this? Thank you.

your BF want to fvck her but no opportunity,he may have already fvck her and you are asking what we make of this,when a girl says she is lonely it means she is ready to knack,simple and short.

Aimere:

I dislike being ignored, so he was doing that. I dragged him angrily which I immediately regretted, maybe I should have kept quiet
But I don't know how to keep things in.

guys fear a lady that is reserved. U need to be more patience if not you may over react and misjudge issues

Aimere:
■ A neighbor in the village introduced his niece to my partner saying they are brother and sister based on same village. She came over to charge her phone and took his number, it's been three days and she keeps calling and coming everyday but doesn't stay, only to plug in her phone. So, she came this time and asked if he has a visitor, my man said yes, that his girlfriend is around, why? She then went ahead to say she's lonely and can't stay in the house alone due to boredom that the uncle travelled this morning. My man came in and told me, I was like saying "lonely" is weird for someone she doesn't know, but it's all cool. So we concluded to just send her movies so she would watch since we had a series to watch. She came and I went to the living room to spend a few minutes with her, cos I and my boyfriend had a movie to watch. Lo and behold, my boyfriend left the room when she came, went to the living room and was discussing with her for almost 2 hours, forgetting the movie, after an hour though, he came and asked me if he should get me my phone for company, got me angry. In all, he came in later and asked we watched the movie, after an episode. I told him I didn't like how much time he spent there and how he was encouraging her disrespect for my presence. He only said sorry, was only getting to know her. And then he stopped talking to me, not long the girl said she was leaving. My boyfriend didn't talk to me for hours, I was cooking at night and she called him saying she needs to charge, meanwhile there was no light. My boyfriend went out of the house to go get her without letting me know, she returned with him, he gave her power bank and they continued their discussion again until 9pm. I was hurt, when she left, I queried him again and his reply was "she did nothing to you, you are only giving attitude". It even got to the point he slapped me, what can you guys make of this? Thank you.

Please go get yourself a job and maybe even your own place as well, so you can have your own life apart from that of your boyfriend.

Aimere:
Thank you. He wasn't talking to me when I was trying to talk to him about his behavior at night, he was walking out on me so I drag him back furiously. I apologized though, but I didn't feel it was bad of me to tell him how I feel. I am a woman, women don't respect women nor know boundaries. So I felt bad having someone come from nowhere saying she's lonely, what if he wasn't here. I'm 23 though.

You are 23, do you have a job and a life of your own at least apart from occupying space in your life with your "boyfriend"? If you no get work, at least go library go find books study during your free time to broaden your mind and horizons abeg. A life wrapped around "boyfriend this... and boyfriend that" never pay anyone.

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When your boo starts punching you , don't forget to let us know

Your boyfriend is a suspect.either he is banging her or he will soon

madone:
guys fear a lady that is reserved. U need to be more patience if not you may over react and misjudge issues

Thank you so much.

Nonexisting1:
A man has the right to talk with whoever he wants to talk with and he also reserves the right to fucck whoever he wants to fucck. When the kitchen gets hot and you can't withstand the heat, leave the kitchen. You're in his house, what happened to your own house? You're sounding like you're the best girlfriend and not just another coded hookup like every other vaginarian out there. Mtchew

You are being too rude for someone you know nothing about. I AM NOT A CODED HOOKUP. Don't make conclusions out of your personal experiences, try to find yourself a good girl so you would know not everyone gives their body around. Have a good night.