Samantha124:
I will sit and wait to be served because I don't know what she's cooking and how she's cooking it.

It'll only seem disrespectful of me being a new guest, but already being too forward and all over the place... But I can help her with washing the dishes afterwards.

south animal no man can marry u wit dis mentality. U think ur mum in law will accept dat is she ur slave dat u sat and wait dat she serve u

It depends on who you are...
Joining his mother to cook doesn't mean you will make a good wife.
Not joining her to cook doesn't mean you will make a bad wife.
If you're comfortable with the setting and you feel like you want to join, do it....
If not, maintain your space unless she invites you.
No do pass yourself.
You fit cook for the whole family make them still no like you....

As an African lady, the right thing I to join her in the kitchen. Even if you are not his son's lover ( just a casual friend), african courtesy demands that you support an elder.
If I vist my girl friend for the first time and meet her Dad doing anything, I will definitely support him as a young African man with home training.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

Goodluck in your marriage. Hmmmm....

See all these simpsons forming woke. A wise girl herself will volunteer to help her fiance's mom in the kitchen. If she doesn't, a wise mother inlaw wouldn't castigate her. But for the guy, a girl that just sits down and waits for your mother to serve her, first time or not, prolly lacks good home training.

Samantha124:
I will sit and wait to be served because I don't know what she's cooking and how she's cooking it.

It'll only seem disrespectful of me being a new guest, but already being too forward and all over the place... But I can help her with washing the dishes afterwards.

mrstwrite

You can at least join her in the kitchen and gist, whether you choose to actively participate in d cooking should not be forced on you. While my mother won't make you to do anything, she will at appreciate the courtesy of you having you around.

I will do the same too if I saw your dad changing the car fluid or mowing the lawn because I enjoy those things on a normal.

That aside, the rate of laziness among so called modern women calls for a national emergency.

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

She can do eye service.

No fix answer, that is it depends...

[quote author=Dangrace01 Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.[color=#006600][/color]

That's ya mom not African mothers .

englishmart:
I will personally insist she doesn't do anything sha.

no one takes a hit and run girl home to see his family . Her has finished his assesment , this is the final test where Elders see what children cannot see while situing down . And you my friend want her to fail the final test of M(ORALS) ? Thou art wicked

pansophist:
As a boyfriend, you visited your girlfriend's parent for the first time, and met them arguing with the carpenter that they still owe him 20k for his workmanship.

Should the boyfriend pay the 20k, or not?

Heping in the kitchen won't remove anything from the girls body but paying 20k could make a hole in your pocket, that is if it doesn't even hijack the whole pocket

Is the house a two-room apartment abi wetin? Mummy go dey cook for west wing me and babe dey for South wing. Kitchen far.

It would be wise to approach the mother in the kitchen and say "Is there anything, I can help with in the kitchen?

The mother will diffenayely say no.

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Old school that shît doesn’t happen or matters anymore.

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Ask if she would like some help. Not everyone wants strangers in their kitchen.

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

You should make an effort to help....obviously she would turn it down.

It doesn’t even if have to be ur mother in law, Any home u visit & see thier parents doing a chores..Try & help out( dis applies to both male or female).

My mother and my family can not enlsave my girl friend.

My Dad didn't allow it on my mum, so I won't allow it on my girl too

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

ur thinking on this matter is so shallow mehn like seriously

pansophist:
As a boyfriend, you visited your girlfriend's parent for the first time, and met them arguing with the carpenter that they still owe him 20k for his workmanship.

Should the boyfriend pay the 20k, or not?

No, u should try and help settle d dispute...later, if u have d financial muscles to help, U can ask ur girl, IF ITS OK TO PAY THAT 20K...then help out, otherwise mine ur own business

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

Which mean you're deceiving the lady cos,nothing wrong for her in helping Elderly women even, Been her in law or not

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

JOIN HER IN THE KITCHEN TO HELP OUT. IF SHE INSISTS THAT YOU BE THE GUEST YOU ARE STILL HANG AROUND THE KITCHEN AND FIND SMALL TALK WITH THE MAN WHO INVITED YOU. I EXPECT HE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU TO KEEP THE TALK GOING ON SMOOTHLY.

I will ask her to join in the cooking, my mom is so humble I 100 percent sure she wouldnt allow her cook!

englishmart:
I will personally insist she doesn't do anything sha.

First impression lasts longer, you should at least try to do it. Most mothers wont allow you being the first time, but respect is reciprocal.
This is only in respect to my tribe, Most yoruba mothers will give you that honor for the first time, they wont allow you else you insist.But you will gain the respect for trying

Puss360:
In as much as I am the girlfriend of her son, to her, I am a visitor, coming to her house for the first time... she should cook and serve me....
Then we talk Nd familiarise ourselves...
On my next coming, I can then see if I can assist her in doing anything I can do

For the first time, you act like a visitor.


No go dey do eye service.

Being the first time you don't do anything at all, you first sit and watch and take time to study everything about them.

If you rush into activities by helping, you will make so many mistakes that will be used to gossip when you have gone

pansophist:
As a boyfriend, you visited your girlfriend's parent for the first time, and met them arguing with the carpenter that they still owe him 20k for his workmanship.

Should the boyfriend pay the 20k, or not?

This is how you fail a simple exam!! Is this the answer to the OP's question??

Samantha124:
I will sit and wait to be served because I don't know what she's cooking and how she's cooking it.

It'll only seem disrespectful of me being a new guest, but already being too forward and all over the place... But I can help her with washing the dishes afterwards.

Dear Samantha,

Sit and wait to be served like a queen, right?
Are you even married or don't want to be married?
I see! You only want to be married to your cats.
Please, take the initiative.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

This is a good point.
But as a Nigerian, she better offer to cook for your mom and you better offer to assist/join the father to win good points.

Both cases show a sign of responsibility which parents want to see before being able to trust you and commit their child to you.

Some have however abused this so you have to be sensitive about it.

She's a visitor and should be treated as one.

As a sensible and well trained lady u join her but l'm sure she might just tell you not to worry and if she want you to do d cooking along with her nothing is wrong dere just carry body u no go die and dat first impression wud go a long way abt ur relationahip. Anyway me l no like lazy lady especially wen it come 2 cooking. If u no sabi cook u no go even reach my family house be4 we scatter

Dangrace01:
Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

Not for the first please

Stupid post.