stuffs2002:



My former neighbour married a lady from a poor home and she was the first child out of 9 siblings. Imidiately he married her, a large part of the family responsibilities fell on him. 3 of her siblings moved in with in after he got married with the rest always coming and going. He became their "go to" guy for things like JAMB, WAEC, medical fees and othe things. He was even the one paying their house rent in their family house. He was always sending feeding money to the family all the time. He practically shoulders his wife's siblings weddings and other celebrations.

Before he got married, my former neighbour was into private business and his business was flourishing. Now, he flat on his back and has even sold his car because he responsibility of catering for a large pooe family of his wife made him broke.




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UyaiIncomparabl

This is sad, very sad.
.uneise decision by him.

Carry only what you can carry and look the other way.

mightyhaze:
Mine is not just the first ,but the overall first child











And only girl ..


And we doing real great

Guys have independent mindset unlike most ladies , having more guys is lesser trouble.

Annahh:
First children are taught to be hardworking, caring and responsible. It's an honour to marry a first child.

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It is a thing of honour to choked with people not giving you free space to achieve your life potential


Take your honour and use it to ccok.

Can't fathom why children can't take care of their parents and expect others to do that on their behalf.

CorperKola:

How can you contradict yourself in your ranting, you admit the situation happens sometimes, and then you still went ahead to say only insecure men bother about it
So only insecure men try to plan and organize their lives or you think everybody has pride like you
Nawa o

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I thought I was the only one who saw that

ExudeLoveToAll:

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I thought I was the only one who saw that

u suppose know say many ladies for here no get sense,they are blockheads forming smart.

Badadvisor:

First daughters not single mothers.
Smh

You're right. My bad

I really dont know the reason but I married one and it has not been easy, sincerely.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Only insecure men bother about not wanting to marry a first child/daughter. Truly, some families comes with lots of financial baggages, and this is what most of these men fear.

Some families too, are very shameless. How they manage to heap their numerous needs and wants on the men is just so nauseating.

I can't even give any man that glory to take care of my siblings or parents for me. I too get pride abeg! It's your choice to help, if you want. No be say tomorrow go reach, one man go come give me my life history of how he catered for my family and I when we were nothing. Kolewerk!

Immediately I saw this comment, I knew that it must be a daughter of Eve that drop this gibberish.

mariovito:
1. You're NOT her priority. She has a deeper bond with that kid than she can have with you especially if the kid is still young like below 18. She'll cheat on you to take care of that kid if it comes to that

2. The kid you have with her may be your first ki,but it's not her first. Your kid automatically has an elder sib, do with that information whatever you wish.

3. The father of her kid will/may be in her life for life.

4. At some point, you may have to play father to that kid, knowingly or unknowingly.

You Missed The Topic .. Check Again!
She is the first daughter Not a Babymama!

Prechgold1180:
my girl is the first child.

Just dating her responsibility her siblings responsibility don Dey fall on me

Food hardly last in my house
Her siblings her always around

Me on my own my I am also a first born

My family finance Dey on me
Siblings sch fees and parent welfare

I Dey mk much but fat I nur gree fat

Thinking wan Kill me
Pay this pay that

Call God Bro to Open Blessings ... You will be amazed !

Entanglement:
first female child are park with whole lots of psychological problems

They are the Direct Beneficiary of The Parents Curses 🤬 🙄 Especially The Mother & Part of The Father's Sheeeeetttss!

Primebuilders:
I married first girl child my problem is that she sees me as one of her little siblings she will control and micro manage. That's is the greatest problem I am having in my marriage now. It have been war

All Men Must Learn Psychology Because Managing Another HumanBeing(Brain) Requires Psychological Skills so as for you to Institute Reverse Psychology in Controlling Her Frame.

Without Psychological Skills, You shall have a Thug & Tout Combined as a Wife ....

I control mechanisms before it even happens By Going On Offensive or Defensive as the case Might Be Before She would even decipher what the Cause are .... Na me Go be the Trouble & Solutions ... With That Na Me I dey Manage

Annahh:
First children are taught to be hardworking, caring and responsible. It's an honour to marry a first child.

Mine Na Always First Daughter in the Family.... Like 4 Different First Daughters Consecutively...

I don't know why Nature just like playing with me Pairing Me with Them & They are Mostly Second Born But First Daughter(They ar

The Traits I have seen is Loyalty, Hardworking, Dedication & Motherly ..... They are Natural Mothers & Wife Material .... But You Must Be a "Man" Cuz She Will Test Your Manliness & Manhood at The Same Time ... Your Testosterone Go Shake ... You Must Show Her Who The Man Is Especially If She now Grew Among Male Siblings Chaiii ... You Must Raised Your Mental Spheres to "Pseudo-Male Management" !

The Negative Sides I witnessed are They can be very Overprotective, Electromagnetic-Remote-Control(Witches-Tendencies Due to Hyperactivity Right From Childhood Affecting Their Mental Sphere- Imagine An 18yo On The Street Hustling to Support her Parents Tufia!), Authoritative, Co-opting, Abusive, Pains, Toxic ....

Only Wizards Could Manage Many First Daughter From Humble Background Not Just Any Adult-Boy(Semi-Man), She go Inherit all the madness in her background Especially Whatsoever Matrimonial Sufferness/Issues of Her Mother, They Share The Mental Consequences First Hand Which They are Bringing to Their Matrimonial Home Thus If You ain't a Good Psychic Yourself ... You will Later Abandoned Her for Small Girls in order to Experience Peace of Mind, Trust Me Your Life will Shake Odds Small Cuz Most First Daughters in Most African Homes are Mentally Damaged!

... Once You Can Clear Her Head & Clear Her Doubt(Put Her Under Your Authorities) ... You shall have a Great Mother For Your Children & a Great Life Patner Because You Can even Travelled to Antarctica With Best Rest Assurances That A Fellow "Man-Warrioress" is at Home Managing Things As If You are There!

Food & Sex with them is also Beautiful Cuz They are Matured Since Their Early Days But You Must Become More Than a Father to Her ... Intelligence, Intellectualism, Tolerance & Good Fvck to Cleanse Her Toxins(Mental Weyrey) .....

First Daughter are like Lioness of their Family, It Requires Extra Manliness & Skills to Tame a Warrioress Especially Someone with First Hand Street Experiences.... She would have seen through all Ya Mojorojo & Cleanse You Out !

I'm Managing One Presently!

DonroxyII:
You Missed The Topic .. Check Again!
She is the first daughter Not a Babymama!

Yea,

Someone already drew my attention to it.
My bad 🤭

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

Can't you say no? Or them put gun for your head?

pansophist:


Can't you say no? Or them put gun for your head?

We are Nigerian men.
We love our miseries.
We also love to complain about them, even tho we love them.
If we don't, you would think we are enjoying them, of which, we are!

Chemlite:


Can you also say "I and my brothers have never asked anything thing from my sister except she gives"?

You should know that husband and wife are one, most time, the lady might not be able to say I don't have, rather she will meet her husband and that need will be solved, even if it's not CONVENIENT.

Just pray to have an understanding partner and families, else, you might find peace.

Yes,I can boldly tell you that I and my brothers are all independent!
There’s absolutely nothing wrong in asking for things from your siblings,all I’m saying is that not in all cases will first borns take over their siblings responsibilities!