yoniehuin:
They are not your kids, why do you think you are entitled to send someone's kid on errand just because you are friends with the mother or because you feed them

The mother was right, her kids are not your errand children

If you had a kid and people send them on errand as they feel like, will you be happy.

Dont you think if any thing happen to those kids on errands, do you think the mum will be happy with you, she will blame you forever

Ginaz:


why did she not tell me she doesn't want her kids to run errands for me? And besides , the same kids come to my house everyday , eat my food and all. Have I ever complained the way they come to my house and scatter my things?
do you know the inconvenience i go through when 5 of them come to my house? I cook and make sure they're ok.

what's little errand they can't help me go? and I give them the change left. so who is stressing more between me and the children ?

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Ginaz:


it has been sorted out. take your time to read through the pages.

I'm fine.

Ginaz:


why did she not tell me she doesn't want her kids to run errands for me? And besides , the same kids come to my house everyday , eat my food and all. Have I ever complained the way they come to my house and scatter my things?
do you know the inconvenience i go through when 5 of them come to my house? I cook and make sure they're ok.

what's little errand they can't help me go? and I give them the change left. so who is stressing more between me and the children ?

izonborn098:
Saying you want to end ur relationship with ur friend because of what a child said'' is an intitle mentality..
There are better ways to solve this issue and you know's it..

Kobojunkie:
1. It is OK that they come to your house by themselves but sending them on errands outside of your house that they came to? No!

yoniehuin:
They are not your kids, why do you think you are entitled to send someone's kid on errand just because you are friends with the mother or because you feed them

The mother was right, her kids are not your errand children

If you had a kid and people send them on errand as they feel like, will you be happy.

Dont you think if any thing happen to those kids on errands, do you think the mum will be happy with you, she will blame you forever

yemmit90:


You don't actually base on what her child told you, children do lie sometimes, especially the moment they knew you won't give them a particular thing if they don't talk about something.

Try to let her mum know about it and settle it amicably.

izonborn098:
Saying you want to end ur relationship with ur friend because of what a child said'' is an intitle mentality..
There are better ways to solve this issue and you know's it..

Kobojunkie:
1. I am very much against it is what.

2. If you don't like the kids in your place then why allow them in?

3. You should not do that at all. I think you are being overly sensitive here about this by the way.

Kobojunkie:
1. It is OK that they come to your house by themselves but sending them on errands outside of your house that they came to? No!

Ginaz:


wow. thanks!

Qatar2022:

You don't have sense at all , they eat and dime in her house but can't help her whenever she's in need

chudez0147:

You are the one with empty skull. She has entitlement mentality.

Kobojunkie:
1. They are her children and she has right to send them anywhere she wishes; you do not.

2. OH wow!! how loving of you, not!

3. She begged your opponent ON YOUR BEHALF and that was a problem for you too?

4. Tor!

5. Some people like too much drama for this life!

Ginaz:


the matter has been settled. she came to my house and asked me to forgive and forget. if you read through the pages you will see it. the daughter wanted to come with her friends but the mother refused so the child didn't come to me.

I've kept my distance to a reasonable degree. I only feel uncomfortable for the kids when they come to me and say they're hungry which I can't drive them away.

I still care for the kids but I'm traumatized someway. I don't let them stay long in my house anymore. I help at a distance but still provide periodically cos they're children and shouldn't be hungry. God will bless us all.

Qatar2022:

You type will talk nonsense but if the case is reversed you will do the worst mumu

PROPEACE:

If OP created this thread for clout, I will understand, but if she is serious, then it means she has a problem. You helped a childhood friend so you should be sending the kids on errands? I am sure she will not like people doing that to her kids. That is why if I tell people to manage their poverty and be careful how they go about asking 'friends' for help, they always tell me it's pride. that thing dey bring see finish no be small.

LIGHTROOM:



Telling her specifically to send you her daughter is wrong. You said that you've block her number, how come she is still able to call you?. You could approach her with this issue and settled it. Check your emotions and your level of jealousy and also learn to forgive. And don't allow the help you are giving them make you feel that you have right ever those children. God bless those who are able to help their neighbors in this hard and trying time.

Fountainofyouth:
This OP is something else, so because you are helping them means they should be at your beck and call? truly nothing is free in freeland, very petty Op, see how she's mentioning all she has done for them as if she was forced to do it, see the way she's even defending her disgusting behaviour, na wa.

Ginaz:


which errands am I sending them apart from getting me tomatoes or milk or fish within the street as the distance is just 2minutes away.

they come to my house by themselves and sometimes I'd drive them away before they would leave. I never let them go home hungry , whatever I eat, they eat too.

I don't send them to go to the market for me or use as slaves.

Ginaz:


what will the child gain from lying against her mother ? this friendship is one sided.

abeg I dey my own. I'm even happy the child told me her mother refused her to come to me. she should not send her children to me to make any monetary request. I don't want to hear anything

Ginaz:

sending them message is wrong but they can eat my food, request for things which I provide, scatter my house and spoil my things. little message to buy me fried fish or fresh tomatoes now at front of the street is a crime.

Ginaz:


why did she not tell me she doesn't want her kids to run errands for me? And besides , the same kids come to my house everyday , eat my food and all. Have I ever complained the way they come to my house and scatter my things?
do you know the inconvenience i go through when 5 of them come to my house? I cook and make sure they're ok. Did u find out the mother of the child before u draw conclusion. What if the child was lying to u. Cutting that woman off is the best. What if the woman part of the story is different from want u are thinking.

what's little errand they can't help me go? and I give them the change left. so who is stressing more between me and the children ?

Ginaz:
I felt bad that she would asked her daughter not to come run errand for me. this is someone who I have been very good and supportive to since I moved here. I don't want to talk about all I've done cos it's between me and God.

the phone she's using i gave her as her own phone got spoilt.

If she could tell her child not to come to me, I'm just wondering the rest things she might be saying behind me.

could her child be lying against her mother ?

this world is wicked though. becareful of those you call friends , they may not have the same good intentions for you.

Rhado:

Helps and not helped, I go help you with Ur family needs but Ur kids can't help run few errands for me abi