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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Pclemenza: 5:38pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Prompt and plain not pop and plain |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 5:38pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:For you to even be in a street argument might reveal the kind of person you are. So you wanted the said friend to come and fight on your behalf? It seems you don't even put on a thinking Cap. She did the right thing as your friend to calm the other woman on your behalf and calm you down later. Sorry to say that your friend is way smarter than you are. You're just feeling you're better maybe because you're more financially stable. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 5:41pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:my sister Ignore them.you see one of the characteristics of the poor is that they're usually ungrateful and entitled.theres nothing you can do about it.thats just who they are and it's better you stop at this juncture because the day you stop giving because you have your own commitments that is when you will be seen as a bad person or only helping because you want to take advantage of them. Channel your money to your family. That money you're using to feed ungrateful people,use it and buy Christmas clothes for your mother, beautiful shoes for your sister and send money to your brother.helping ungrateful and entitled mothers will put you in trouble as you are already seeing.stop this joke now before it turns to a circus show |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Pclemenza: 5:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: My only issue is how frequent you sent them on errands. She(their mum) felt it was getting too much hence her action. You probably feel entitled to do it(send them on errands) because of the financial aid you give to the woman. Wanting to end your relationship with her is totally up to you, reasons valid or not. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 5:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Pclemenza:Nah! Growing up in the 90s, na "Pop and plain" e be! ![]() |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 5:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:You must be a lady to have this high sense of entitlement. No one is saying sending children on errand is bad! But calling the mother to send her kid to you so you can send them an errand is an insult. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 5:43pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:her friend is better than her Na him she get 6 kids that she cannot cater for and still poor? She's intelligent indeed 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Pclemenza: 5:43pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: ![]() If na 90’s na pump and play we Dey call am |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 5:44pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Pclemenza:Again, Nah! Growing up in the 90s, na "Pop and plain" e be! ![]() |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:44pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5: Don't be stupid. The person I had an argument with said she will poison my cat cos she doesn't like cats. so I should sit and watch while she yells and threaten my pet? I had to stand up for myself and defend my poor innocent cat who is being prejudiced for a being a cat. The lady was saying i sent my cat to harm her. imagine the nonsense. while we were exchanging words my friend came to pacify the lady while ignoring me. same lady she has even badmouthed to me to avoid in the neighbourhood o. you all find it very quick to criticise someone without caring to know how they feel. 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:46pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5: |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by frog12: 5:47pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
maybe you are not lying after all. find other things to do. make yourself unavailable. go out so that each time she call, you tell her you are outside and busy. blocking her is childish ! Ginaz: |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 7upnigeria: 5:48pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Sending her children errands is a no no. You're taking advantage of their situation. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 5:49pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:lmaooo insult? ![]() But it's not an insult to play and mess the whole surroundings, spoil things in the house (that the mother cannot afford to return) or collect free food courtesy of the mom who uses tactics of telling them to go and play with the neighbour so that their lunch and dinner can be sorted out.yoruba will say who no know how to put meat for mouth and look for it.smh.tomorrow now Na your type go dey open thread to wail about how ladies are getting too entitled to men's money and bringing nothing to the table but you're encouraging someone to leech on another person Again my gender is irrelevant to the issue at hand.whether I'm a man or woman,it doesn't matter,I hate entitlement and ingratitude.even God expects us to give our time and energy serving him as he gives to us. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by frog12: 5:50pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
people send other people's children on errands. there's no problem there. i think her friend is becoming angry and annoyed maybe because of the way it is done. 7upnigeria: |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 5:50pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: I swear. Till date, they are not on talking terms. I still see the husband wear my clothes my wife gave him. It's over 3 years. Poor people? Fear them 3 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 5:52pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
dominique:God bless you. Whenever i want to send a child on arrand, i say "Please can you help.." If the child show some kind of discomfort i quickly say dont worry without having any bad blood. Now audacity of someone calling another mother to send her child so they could send the child errand is an insult. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 5:53pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:madam no be everything you go say here.the more you talk,the more your words are misconstrued to make you look like a bad person. In the first place you don't even have any point to prove to anybody.God sees your heart and motives and he is a rewarder.he rewards everyone accordingly for their deeds on Earth |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 7upnigeria: 5:53pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Madam, the little change you have is getting into your head. They were not eating before you moved into their street abi. Haven't you heard? 'Who go help you no go stress you'. Nobody truly wants their kids becoming househelps, its financial situations that makes people consider such options. If you want to help them, please help. Stop looking for cheap labour. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:55pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY: Yes o. but I needed to put some point straight or they run with false narrative. imagine him judging my personality based on a street argument that he knows nothing about what led to it. can you imagine? 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Obinzubechi: 5:58pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
My dear I don't think you dropped this write up here for people's opinion because all what they're saying seems not to be sounding write to you, if you feel you know it all you shouldn't have come here asking in the first place.....you can't be too sure your friend actually told the daughter not to come, confront her and hear what she will say, and feeling entitled that the children must always do what you ask of them is too bad, for me that is know more help, because you are expecting something in return. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 5:58pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
I hate this african habit of sending your own or other people's kids on errands. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 5:59pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:tell the mother in clear words and actions.no hide mouth talk am or be sounding apologetic, speak firmly and with conclusion.if after telling the mother the kids still come around,do something that will provoke the woman that will make her never to allow her kids around your house again.e.g when the kids come around (that's after you must have warned her o) carry broom and sweep their legs off your premises.anybody that is Yoruba knows the meaning of that. No mother can stand watching her kids getting embarrassed or chased away so that trauma will be a reminder to her to ensure she doesn't allow her kids to your vicinity again |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 6:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:Both of them to go their separate way if what you just typed is the true issue on ground. But what the op did still remain an insult to the other woman family. You just want to justify the insult because the other lady is leeching. If i were in the op shoe i will render limited assistance. I have this believe that once a person give birth to children beyond 4 then they're more than capable to face the music. This is the reason i run away from first born female, its only me and my elder sis so why would i marry a lady with 5 younger once and poor parent? The op should have use her head in the beginning but she's enjoy feeling like boss to her childhood friend. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
7upnigeria: how many children that are not related to you have you helped or fed in your life? come and carry 5 children in your house, cook for them. then go out to buy ingredients that you will use in cooking their meals. wash the plates after they are done eating, sweep and arrange the house they disorganized. don't let them touch or do anything then come and give a review after months. hypocrite 🚫 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 6:02pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:exactly the reason I said you don't owe him any explanation because the more you respond to him the more he takes your work out of context and he already has a prejudice against you that you're a bad person so no need to shalaye because that Will not change his mind 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 6:05pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:Nawa o.so to help person Na problem? Na Una go still abuse am if she no she'll say she's pompous, selfish and wicked.she no fit help.omo nothing wey human being for do wey go satisfy anybody.tuehh 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by frog12: 6:06pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
how many children do you have? why can't you send your children on errands? ![]() ![]() Ginaz: |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by ferhyntorlah(f): 6:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: You knew all these and still reconnected with her? If I were you, I wouldn't at all. That's a parasitic relationship, and not a symbiotic one. Most relationships these days are parasitic in nature. So, I'm not surprised. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 6:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
7upnigeria:then the woman too should train her kids right instead of looking for free food for her kids.this is what happens when you give birth to children beyond the capacity you can cater for them.if she tells her kids not to go to the lady's house,she meets another person Na the same thing go still happen.na bad ending go end am because nobody likes a leech |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 6:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
ferhyntorlah:exactly my point |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Obinzubechi: I will defend myself cos I know all I put through just to make them happy. and it's very repulsive that they felt I am making the kids my slaves. when that is absolutely untrue. Other people are sending these same kids in the neighbourhood errands that are worst and inhumane without having the conscience of helping or feeding the kids. It's easy for you to say I don't want to accept what others are saying but I do know where it pains me right now and I will not allow it cos it's not my nature to use people as slaves. I now understand why people don't like helping others. it usually ends badly. |
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