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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by IjebuWarrior: 7:34pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Offpointng: The useless lady is delusional and entitled. She's very foolish and useless at the same time. She no get commonsense to understand basic life principles. Na frustration and anger go finish am las las. 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:35pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior: as you dey madd na so you dey type. You brain never develop well for this your madness and I'm sure you will soon start walking naked for this matter. continue to dey mad, you just dey start. rubbish. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 7:37pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme:Here's a simple question. Why do you feel that repayment for the help your wife afforded her was necessary? ![]() At least, if your only reason for being kind to someone is in order that the person can in turn be useful to you, then let those terms be known even before you extend the help so the other party is aware that by obtaining help from you they become enslaved to you. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:38pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: See this one. Na why I say I no dey help poor people be that, what I do is strictly business. You come, help me, I pay you, you find your square root. I have something you want, I sell for you or you GTFO. Nobody is entitled to anybody by so doing Abi? So I don't expect from you, you sef don't expect from me. You are ignorant because you don't know the whole story. When they had their own last born, na me use my car carry the woman go hospital in the middle of the night, leaving my own family behind. Sebi Lion too fit come chop them, I for leave her to labour till they are able to sort themselves out too nau. As I talk, I to help poor people na the most stupid thing wey anybody fit ever do, and you sound like a typical poor person. Kpele. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:40pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: That is not repayment. That is been there for someone that have Been there for you. If na so everybody dey milk without contributing, how the place no go dry? If I come use Money collect person to dey with my wife, which money I go use buy food wey dem sef go chop inside? I just narrated how my wife learnt the hard way. Me I no be nice person normally, because human beings na so dem dey do. I would have been surprised if she agreed sef. The fact that you are good to people does not mean they will be good to you, infact most likely, they will use, drain you and leave you dejected. You fit dey do father Christmas dey go, na you get ya life. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 7:43pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme:Repayment is exactly what you demanded from the woman and your comment made that much very clear. ![]() 2. Thankfully, there are those out there who are able to give without requiring anything in return. Your own giving na something else and I suggest next time you add a clause that makes clear that repayment is required of those who accept your kind of "kindness" so they at least know what they are signing up for if and when they accept anything from you. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 7:44pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks: Lol. On NL, nobody agrees with sending other people's kids on errands. So who are the nigerians that are doing this in reality? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:45pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks: you just dey cap for the internet bro. I know you can never let kids access your house for 2days straight. nor dey talk as if you get sense cos you don't. it's easier to spot someone being wrong while you can't take half of what they go through. It's basic human tendency to help and be helped. Even God wants us to follow his rules before he will help us. you saying they are surviving before me is laughable as I have never played superior to them. I'm not in a competition to see how long they will survive without me. it's the opppsite as I am terribly fighting for my privacy right now. The kids still come to my house and the mother still calls me for help. I really wished to be alone. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:46pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: That is not repayment abeg. If you are in trouble, and you see your neighbor passing by, won't you expect them to help you? If they help you and you see them in trouble, won't you also help them? Is that repayment? Abi is that not what friendship is all about? But as I have said, human beings are like that. If you like lay down your life, dem no go send you. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by escapadechuks: 7:48pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: She's one. Lol Thing is, people do. But it's the manner in which she did it and her reasoning. Check am na |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:48pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior: As you useless so, you think everyone useless and foolish like you? na people like you go watch your neighbour die of hunger but come outside to form saint. you stupid nor be small. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by escapadechuks: 7:49pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme: Mistakenly quoted you. Sorry |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by escapadechuks: 7:50pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Na real bro 😂😂😂. Me bro? Madam rest and stop justifying being an entitled Karen. 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:50pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Abeg no dey disturb yourself. Na tit for tat I dey do. I don't expect anything from anybody, and I don't sacrifice for anybody also, everybody dey he dey. If I need you, I pay you, if you need me, you pay me, we deal and everybody goes their separate ways. What is the benefit of me supporting you and you are not supporting me? And from the comments, you can see that most people are ingrates. The fact that you are nice to people does not mean they will be nice to you. Na the reality be that. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:51pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme: my brother I wish I'm like you I for nor day this issue. imagine you risking your life to ride her to the hospital but she can't reciprocate even a little for your sick wife. na so the life just be. Thank heaven it's God who repays good deeds , if it was a human who will repay your good deeds people go die plenty. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:52pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks: Nigerians are usually the best online, lol. Everybody go say he mama na the best, which people mama come be witch? 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 7:53pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5: Smart with 6 kids? And no means to train them. You may not agree with the OP but you don't need to lie. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:55pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: As in eeh, the thing weak me. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by IjebuWarrior: 7:55pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Madam, didn't mean to brag... I personally donate >N5M annually to orphanages and widow(ers). It's my calling and my responsibility towards humanity. Cuz you dey give ur poor friend's kids cheap rice and stew, we no go rest again, ba? Madam, you no well, I swear. 🤬 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Bolded shows you clearly do not understand the bible which says love your neighbour as yourself not help, Bible also says you shall get in return meaning your reward is in heaven not getting a return from whom you helped, don't twist the bible to suit your narrative. The husband clearly stated that she wanted the woman to stay as in sleep over with his wife in the hospital, so where exactly are you getting your assumptions from? I clearly gave several suggestions and ways the woman can help without sleeping over in the hospital with his wife how can you not see that? Of all the people they know, must that woman be the one to sleep over? I do not have time for unnecessary back and forth on something mundane that requires basic common sense and sound logic, it's simple, give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return, let God or posterity reward you, simple. 3 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 7:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme:You may not want to see it for what it is but that is exactly what you have required of her here. ![]() 2. Not really! ![]() 3. I help regardless of whether I was previously helped by them or not. ![]() 4. Nope! Tit-for-tat is not friendship... it is something else. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks: OH okay |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:57pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme: na so! In fact this thread has opened my eyes. That's why some big rich men don't take boys from the street to learn their business or useful trade anymore. they will start accusing them of exploit and using them selfishly. Person want teach you how to catch fish, you say he dey command you to hold fish net. ![]() life na per head o. nor kill yourself for anyone cos tomorrow you will be surprised to see your name in the mud. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 7:57pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Tooor, make everybody do wetin pay am. I don't even have friends sef, because better people no pass 2 for this country. Na use dem go use you, especially if you are a genuinely caring person. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:59pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: In fact, why should we even exist at all, because we are also someone's kid, meaning no one can be 100% safe, all we can do is make the best of what we can and hope for the best. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 8:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5: How are you any different? Did you ask the child's mother permission before sending on a an errand? How many kids have discomfort but don't show it? Which child likes being sent on errands? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by ultraviolet27(f): 8:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Abeg I beg all those spewing trash that She can't Send Her Friends kids on errands are just unreasonable it isn't as if She sends them to cross over the road and these are ingredients She will Use to cook the Food they will eat out of too!!.She cooks for them give them material things so what's bad there?? Don't their Mum send them on errands and they go too? Even in my compound my Neighbour do send my Son on errand at times though to my knowing before hand this is Someone my Son has never entered Her House to eat before This will serve as Lessons to Nigerians who love breeding like Rabbits and they won't be able to cater for all their Kids if any of Her Kids end up as a help to any Family too He/She will be Sent on many errands if She was able to fend well for Her kids will they be frequenting the Op House to eat often?? Why should a Woman who ain't or Her Husband a Billionaire even give birth to 6 Kids in this Nigeria inflated economy?? Nigerian we like saying what we can't even take!! 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 8:03pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Na the thing be that. You won't believe that, my wives younger sister come to live with us briefly during holidays, she go dey call their mama dey complain that her sister is always sending her. Omo, the day I heard her on phone, na the second day I pursue her. Person wey my wife buy her phone and clothes, whenever she's going to school, send her some money. So, she want to be enjoying someone else's money, but don't want to work and make the life of that person easier by supporting them also. Abeg which kind life be that? You go see those rich people, they know how poor people Reason, na why dey hardly pick calls because they know it's always billing, and not support or assistance, the rich man sef get he owns problems nau. 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 8:03pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme: Toh......the shalaye don start, same as Op ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2nd bolded....lmao ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 8:06pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: That's exactly my point. But it flew over your head. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: it is you who is twisting the bible to suit your narrative. you have no compassion at all. David took Jonathan's son who was crippled to be eating at his table. when he went to war with his son Absalom , Jonathan son didn't follow him and David felt betrayed and gave his inheritance to his slave. it was when he came back from war he learnt that the salve deceived him. it's people like you will say David is wicked and heartless cos he helped crippled mephibosheth he don't have any right to demand his loyalty. What about the priest who was murdered cos of David? David took his son as his own. peoole like you will say David have no right over him despite David sworn to protect him with his life. you lots are the ones wicked . Thank God David no dey social media una for call am names. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:15pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: you don't know the bible so shut up. early christains shared things between themselves and were helpful to each other. na people like you for say "nor touch my things" cos you don't know what compassion is like. not getting help from who you helped really? you're so dumb. |
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