Please I need your help and advice. This post might be a little bit longer.

I met my baby mama through a friend in January 2023 and we bonded So well. The relationship was so lovely and I supported her in her academics and also helped her to acquire some skills, which I will not go in details to avoid a long thread.

Fast forward to may 2023, I proposed to her and she accepted the proposal. Though she earlier told me that her mother wanted her to marry from her village but she loved me and will want to spend her life with me.

Yea, we are from different state but the same tribe. After the proposal, I told her that I want to come and see her parents for proper introduction, and she told me to wait first, that she want me to meet her mom first.
Then her mother traveled and she spent like 2 months before she came back.

Fast forward to second Sunday of July, I went to see her mother. I bought some things and went there. She accepted me and told me that they are Christian family. That they will pray and seek the will of God before she will ask me to come for other things. That I should give them time.

So, after that brief introduction, my girl change. Though we were talking everyday as usual but I noticed that she was sliding away somehow. I confronted her about that which she denied and assured me of her commitment in our relationship.

I had my birthday that same month, my girl sent me personal messages on WhatsApp and text but she failed to post me on her WhatsApp status or even Facebook. But I didn't take that serious, but my friends that have her number began to ask some questions why my woman failed to post me on her status.
They even confronted her and later she apologized to me and gave me one stupid reason that she doesn't want her people to see her post of me. Since the family is already praying, that they told her to minimise the way she Relate with me so that our steady communication will not influence her decision or affect the prayer.

By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She went home that day and the next day she went to see her elder sister. After that very day, my girl totally changed. She refused to go for the test I told her. She was like she don't want to run any test, that if I insist that it will be by Saturday of that week.
I got annoyed and later that Wednesday night, I asked if she was really pregnant, she said yes and I asked her if I'm responsible for the pregnancy. She got mad and ended the call.
The next day I went to her house, I heard her praying inside. The sister asked me to wait for her outside. After her prayer, she came out and told me that her dad is around, that since he doesn't know of me yet, that she don't want to bring me in.
The next day, she told me that no need to go for that test again, that she's no more pregnant. I was confused. I contacted her friend which she reported me to when I asked her if I'm responsible for her pregnancy. She told her friend that I got her pregnant and want to deny her.
When I told her friend what she said, she told her friend the same thing. I asked her if she took abortion pill, she said no. She was like she declared a word of faith and God has taken away the pregnancy. The whole thing sounded so stupid to me. I was more confused because she sounded with so much convintion

But I insisted on going for the test. I took her for the test and the result came out the next day and it was positive. When I collected the result, I asked her to come around so we can talk but she refused and told me that she won't come to my house again.
I tried so many times so we can talk, she kept hiding from me until after 2 weeks, she asked Me to come to her side. I went there, she took me to one church close to her house.
She told me that she don't want to go ahead with the marriage, that she want to hear from God. That if I want to travel out or do whatever I want to do, that I should go ahead and do it. That she will wait on God no matter how long it will take. After some days
I went to see her elder sister. The elder sister told me that their mother swore that anybody from my state and few other states she mentioned will not marry any of her daughter's. That any of her daughter that refused, she will never had any relationship with the very daughter and she would assume that the person is dead.
That even the very first day my girl mentioned my name to her mom. She was not happy.

To cut the whole thing short, they took the girl to a hidden location. They want her to stay there and gave birth there. When she was about two months pregnant, I asked her to go to hospital and enquire about atenental. She said I should send 20k for it. I sent her 20k

They now lied against me that I sent her 20k to go and run test to check the gender of the baby.
The mom told me to forget about the girl and the baby. That I should take it as one of the relationship things. That I shouldn't send any money again to her.
The girl has blocked me both on WhatsApp and Facebook.
I am not interested in the marriage again. All I want to know if there are legal ways I can have access to my baby. I never denied her in any way. Even In the relationship, she can't say that I wronged her.
Around early November, she returned my engagement ring. She told me that I will never see the baby nor have any relationship with the baby.
When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

You met someone this January and you already planning marriage around July. She is in her prime expect her to do that. And next time, not every relationship will leads to marriage, have that at the back of your mind. Don't be in a hurry during relationship.

There is no proof yet that the baby is urs... if there is proof, get a lawyer and explain everything to the lawyer; her family will be served papers. U will all meet Maybe in court and probably they wil give her a verdict to allow you see the baby anytime u want and at a public place...

And another thing, don't ever allow emotion make u do stupid thing; if you take laws into ur own hands and you are caught, u will end up behind the bar... just imagine that woman will now have time to deal with u very well...

So many girls that age are so terribly... Daft!

Imagine allowing her mum ruin her relationship... Bros let her be for now and for a very long time..

Leave her alone... She's not worth the stress since you have played ur own noble part of trying to right the wrong

Authoreety:
So many girls that age are so terribly... Daft!

Imagine allowing her mum ruin her relationship... Bros let her be for now and for a very long time..

Leave her alone... She's not worth the stress since you have played ur own noble part of trying to right the wrong

How she take daft?... her mom doesn't want something, so u want her to go against her mom. No be her mum train her reach that stage before she met the young man and u want her to disobey the mum now because of the man...

Family first...

Na this kind headache make Pastor Righteousness dey preach against fornication everytime

Wotoporiously speaking

Baba if you get the strong mind wey I get, you go forget that babe and the baby, leave them make them dey their dey, time will tell, that pikin go find you come one day no matter the brainwashed stories wey dem go feed am.

Blood is thicker than water no matter how many times you dilute am.

Just pray a simple prayer to God, sit back and relax, watch the magic that will unfold in years to come.

Iceman2017:


By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

You both will be alright, as time fixes and heals all things. 😟

Get yourself a lawyer asap ...

Cause if you let this slide in the future, she'll change the narrative to how you abandoned her and the child and bla bla bla ...

She'll even turn the mind of the child against you and her "evidence" will be that you weren't there for them ...

So get yourself a lawyer now and fight for your child!!! ...

You most likely won't gain custody of the child especially considering the age, but you sure will get the right to be in your child's life ....

Wen u were smashing, you pull it out and socket in again, you hit the cuntus with your tiny gbola. Wetin u expect b4 to happen ni. You don jam family wey no dey relate with strangers. If u go court, be rest assured that your case will be dashed away cos no marital nor traditional rites were performed, even when claiming the child as your unlawful seed, DNA will reveal the court decision.

Fattycheque:


How she take daft?... her mom doesn't want something, so u want her to go against her mom. No be her mum train her reach that stage before she met the young man and u want her to disobey the mum now because of the man...

Family first...

Her mum said she should alienate the father of her child and she did, that's a very wrong move from her.

On a serious note why are most women who turn single nun very bitter? That your relationship with the father of your child isn't going ahead has nothing to do with co-parenting. Allow the child access to the father, that's the right thing to do.

Let her be.
She will be the one to contact you when reality starts hitting her….unless you are not responsible.

ExudeLoveToAll:



Her mum said she should alienate the father of her child and she did, that's a very wrong move from her.

On a serious note why are most women who turn single nun very bitter? That your relationship with the father of your child isn't going ahead has nothing to do with co-parenting. Allow the child access to the father, that's the right thing to do.

Father of which child? Do u think that her mum will not tell her to terminate it... ..... Dey Play ▶️ 😎

Fattycheque:


Father of which child? Do u think that her mum will not tell her to terminate it... ..... Dey Play ▶️ 😎

Wether terminate or Keep both moves are wrong.

I can't even get to this stage with a girl, you didn't pray while we were getting along you now found it worthy to pray for 39years when I want to marry you you go pray tire no evidence.

ExudeLoveToAll:



Wether terminate or Keep both moves are wrong.

I can't even get to this stage with a girl, you didn't pray while we were getting along you now found it worthy to pray for 39years when I want to marry you you go pray tire no evidence.

Bro... no be everybody OT gum.. once dey get money for pocket, na marriage dem go dey look for. Shey the babe no sabi say hin marle no go gree before dem do am reach belle. BUt the babe still dey suck the guys money...

Get money, Get OT also... once you are rich or get money, trust less. No too dey trust, take time to make conclusion.

Oga, are you sure you're the father of that child? U met her Jan,by July she told you she's pregnant and she's 2month off but you insisted you had sex with her 3weeks prior so let's assume it's June and i know say pregnancy na 9months dem dey carry am, the belle never suppose reach 9months talk less of giving birth. I just dey ask, you sure say na you get belle.

@OP If to say you keep your preek inside boxers, you for no get this wahala wey you get now.

For you to lay claim to any child, a DNA test must be done... do you have money to run DNA test in like 2 labs??

Most of these girls sleep with multiple men at a go and later pin pregnancy on any unsuspecting dummie among their sexual partners.. See how two groom cancelled wedding cos their wife to be went to visit their ex boyfriends a night to their wedding.. that's how a man should think, fast and decisive.

Make your baby mama disappear and go freely with your child

Take your mind off it
Cause from the way you wrote up there you are obviously emotionally disturbed already about the issue
Leave them for now when, calculate birth period from now ... After you have done your due investigations silently that she has given birth and she's comfortable taking care of the baby

Strike by requesting for a DNA first

I won't support those that are saying you should forget the mother and the child, you fit forget the mother but not the child. Whether the child is yours or not, try to find out by doing DNA test so that your mind will calm down. Talk to a lawyer and I believe he will advice you appropriately. No woman can go away with my child oo, we go die there. Me wey I like pickin.

nah by FORCE? U aren't the owner of the pregnant. Mama don tell u to stop sending money.. Wake up

Oga, just thank God you escaped such a family. God just saved you but you didn't know realise that. A family where the mother calls the shot and can decide whether or not the daughter will marry from certain areas. Without being told, this is the case of Anambra versus Abakalika something. Anambra people are just like that

What you should do is simple, move forward with your life. The burden of raising the child will be much and the girl will seek you out. No be Nigeria again?

Alphamarine:
Me read all these because of Vagina



La read, la bend

Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha

Both she and her mom and the rest of her siblings do not value you.
Move on! Forget about her, she doesn't deserve you.

Forget about her. The baby might even be aborted. Her mum is damn evil.

What type of men are we raising nowadays? Very weak and insensitive. You saw all the red flags and you persisted. You now saw the hand-writing on the wall, but you still can't comprehend. That pregnancy is not yours, you laboured in vain

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Baba if you get the strong mind wey I get, you go forget that babe and the baby, leave them make them dey their dey, time will tell, that pikin go find you come one day no matter the brainwashed stories wey dem go feed am.

Blood is thicker than water no matter how many times you dilute am.

Just pray a simple prayer to God, sit back and relax, watch the magic that will unfold in years to come.

OP follow this advice
That family will keep on frustrating u nd the resources u have.
Their girl has been brainwashed beyond redemption

Iceman2017:
Please I need your help and advice. This post might be a little bit longer.

I met my baby mama through a friend in January 2023 and we bonded So well. The relationship was so lovely and I supported her in her academics and also helped her to acquire some skills, which I will not go in details to avoid a long thread.

Fast forward to may 2023, I proposed to her and she accepted the proposal. Though she earlier told me that her mother wanted her to marry from her village but she loved me and will want to spend her life with me.

Yea, we are from different state but the same tribe. After the proposal, I told her that I want to come and see her parents for proper introduction, and she told me to wait first, that she want me to meet her mom first.
Then her mother traveled and she spent like 2 months before she came back.

Fast forward to second Sunday of July, I went to see her mother. I bought some things and went there. She accepted me and told me that they are Christian family. That they will pray and seek the will of God before she will ask me to come for other things. That I should give them time.

So, after that brief introduction, my girl change. Though we were talking everyday as usual but I noticed that she was sliding away somehow. I confronted her about that which she denied and assured me of her commitment in our relationship.

I had my birthday that same month, my girl sent me personal messages on WhatsApp and text but she failed to post me on her WhatsApp status or even Facebook. But I didn't take that serious, but my friends that have her number began to ask some questions why my woman failed to post me on her status.
They even confronted her and later she apologized to me and gave me one stupid reason that she doesn't want her people to see her post of me. Since the family is already praying, that they told her to minimise the way she Relate with me so that our steady communication will not influence her decision or affect the prayer.

By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She went home that day and the next day she went to see her elder sister. After that very day, my girl totally changed. She refused to go for the test I told her. She was like she don't want to run any test, that if I insist that it will be by Saturday of that week.
I got annoyed and later that Wednesday night, I asked if she was really pregnant, she said yes and I asked her if I'm responsible for the pregnancy. She got mad and ended the call.
The next day I went to her house, I heard her praying inside. The sister asked me to wait for her outside. After her prayer, she came out and told me that her dad is around, that since he doesn't know of me yet, that she don't want to bring me in.
The next day, she told me that no need to go for that test again, that she's no more pregnant. I was confused. I contacted her friend which she reported me to when I asked her if I'm responsible for her pregnancy. She told her friend that I got her pregnant and want to deny her.
When I told her friend what she said, she told her friend the same thing. I asked her if she took abortion pill, she said no. She was like she declared a word of faith and God has taken away the pregnancy. The whole thing sounded so stupid to me. I was more confused because she sounded with so much convintion

But I insisted on going for the test. I took her for the test and the result came out the next day and it was positive. When I collected the result, I asked her to come around so we can talk but she refused and told me that she won't come to my house again.
I tried so many times so we can talk, she kept hiding from me until after 2 weeks, she asked Me to come to her side. I went there, she took me to one church close to her house.
She told me that she don't want to go ahead with the marriage, that she want to hear from God. That if I want to travel out or do whatever I want to do, that I should go ahead and do it. That she will wait on God no matter how long it will take. After some days
I went to see her elder sister. The elder sister told me that their mother swore that anybody from my state and few other states she mentioned will not marry any of her daughter's. That any of her daughter that refused, she will never had any relationship with the very daughter and she would assume that the person is dead.
That even the very first day my girl mentioned my name to her mom. She was not happy.

To cut the whole thing short, they took the girl to a hidden location. They want her to stay there and gave birth there. When she was about two months pregnant, I asked her to go to hospital and enquire about atenental. She said I should send 20k for it. I sent her 20k

They now lied against me that I sent her 20k to go and run test to check the gender of the baby.
The mom told me to forget about the girl and the baby. That I should take it as one of the relationship things. That I shouldn't send any money again to her.
The girl has blocked me both on WhatsApp and Facebook.
I am not interested in the marriage again. All I want to know if there are legal ways I can have access to my baby. I never denied her in any way. Even In the relationship, she can't say that I wronged her.
Around early November, she returned my engagement ring. She told me that I will never see the baby nor have any relationship with the baby.
When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

Are they Deeper Life, Choosen members or some of these similar Themed Churches? Those people can difficult to understand though.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Baba if you get the strong mind wey I get, you go forget that babe and the baby, leave them make them dey their dey, time will tell, that pikin go find you come one day no matter the brainwashed stories wey dem go feed am.

Blood is thicker than water no matter how many times you dilute am.

Just pray a simple prayer to God, sit back and relax, watch the magic that will unfold in years to come.

Wallahi! As much as I have tried to disprove this fact, Omo I no fit o! It always turns out as u said it. I have this client who was a soldier back in the days. He impregnated one werey from Benue State and was preparing to come pay her bride price when the family carried him handicap, on the basis that baba was too poor to marry their daughter. They later found one foolish man who took the useless girl abroad. She gave birth to twin girls. 22 years later, the bastard woman don tire for life and the fact that her kids go do DNA discover say the foolish man no be their papa. They are now in Nigeria and they've met their Dad (my client) who is now far richer than both the foolish woman and her foolish husband who is now an ex husband

Iceman2017:
Please I need your help and advice. This post might be a little bit longer.

I met my baby mama through a friend in January 2023 and we bonded So well. The relationship was so lovely and I supported her in her academics and also helped her to acquire some skills, which I will not go in details to avoid a long thread.

Fast forward to may 2023, I proposed to her and she accepted the proposal. Though she earlier told me that her mother wanted her to marry from her village but she loved me and will want to spend her life with me.

Yea, we are from different state but the same tribe. After the proposal, I told her that I want to come and see her parents for proper introduction, and she told me to wait first, that she want me to meet her mom first.
Then her mother traveled and she spent like 2 months before she came back.

Fast forward to second Sunday of July, I went to see her mother. I bought some things and went there. She accepted me and told me that they are Christian family. That they will pray and seek the will of God before she will ask me to come for other things. That I should give them time.

So, after that brief introduction, my girl change. Though we were talking everyday as usual but I noticed that she was sliding away somehow. I confronted her about that which she denied and assured me of her commitment in our relationship.

I had my birthday that same month, my girl sent me personal messages on WhatsApp and text but she failed to post me on her WhatsApp status or even Facebook. But I didn't take that serious, but my friends that have her number began to ask some questions why my woman failed to post me on her status.
They even confronted her and later she apologized to me and gave me one stupid reason that she doesn't want her people to see her post of me. Since the family is already praying, that they told her to minimise the way she Relate with me so that our steady communication will not influence her decision or affect the prayer.

By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She went home that day and the next day she went to see her elder sister. After that very day, my girl totally changed. She refused to go for the test I told her. She was like she don't want to run any test, that if I insist that it will be by Saturday of that week.
I got annoyed and later that Wednesday night, I asked if she was really pregnant, she said yes and I asked her if I'm responsible for the pregnancy. She got mad and ended the call.
The next day I went to her house, I heard her praying inside. The sister asked me to wait for her outside. After her prayer, she came out and told me that her dad is around, that since he doesn't know of me yet, that she don't want to bring me in.
The next day, she told me that no need to go for that test again, that she's no more pregnant. I was confused. I contacted her friend which she reported me to when I asked her if I'm responsible for her pregnancy. She told her friend that I got her pregnant and want to deny her.
When I told her friend what she said, she told her friend the same thing. I asked her if she took abortion pill, she said no. She was like she declared a word of faith and God has taken away the pregnancy. The whole thing sounded so stupid to me. I was more confused because she sounded with so much convintion

But I insisted on going for the test. I took her for the test and the result came out the next day and it was positive. When I collected the result, I asked her to come around so we can talk but she refused and told me that she won't come to my house again.
I tried so many times so we can talk, she kept hiding from me until after 2 weeks, she asked Me to come to her side. I went there, she took me to one church close to her house.
She told me that she don't want to go ahead with the marriage, that she want to hear from God. That if I want to travel out or do whatever I want to do, that I should go ahead and do it. That she will wait on God no matter how long it will take. After some days
I went to see her elder sister. The elder sister told me that their mother swore that anybody from my state and few other states she mentioned will not marry any of her daughter's. That any of her daughter that refused, she will never had any relationship with the very daughter and she would assume that the person is dead.
That even the very first day my girl mentioned my name to her mom. She was not happy.

To cut the whole thing short, they took the girl to a hidden location. They want her to stay there and gave birth there. When she was about two months pregnant, I asked her to go to hospital and enquire about atenental. She said I should send 20k for it. I sent her 20k

They now lied against me that I sent her 20k to go and run test to check the gender of the baby.
The mom told me to forget about the girl and the baby. That I should take it as one of the relationship things. That I shouldn't send any money again to her.
The girl has blocked me both on WhatsApp and Facebook.
I am not interested in the marriage again. All I want to know if there are legal ways I can have access to my baby. I never denied her in any way. Even In the relationship, she can't say that I wronged her.
Around early November, she returned my engagement ring. She told me that I will never see the baby nor have any relationship with the baby.
When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

The baby is not yours... forget it

Iceman2017:

When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

Icemañ..this pikin wey u dey drag is likely not ur own............even if her mama dey influence her.. her attitude did not in anyway show that u made the baby in her womb together..

Baba .... Face ur life ....get better and get rich...

Inflation dey touch everybody...if na truly ur baby which I strongly, strongly, strongly doubt........relax....Dem go go call u......my boss wife wey carry 4 children vex comot, claiming she will deprive him of seeing his children forever don come back dey ask for school fees and monthly upkeep......

Just forget and move on. When you are very successful, they will come looking for you.