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Re: Married But Lonely by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
SSpeter:Life is a string of exactly thoze moments. So if you can achieve that one happy moment after another happy moment and so on, that is what it means to have happiness. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Soukiss(m): 8:59pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
TimT:ur head get Sense |
Re: Married But Lonely by Kobojunkie: 9:00pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
Gboom:There are no 3 sides to loneliness...there is just you in it, and the one and only solution also comes from you. No one else can solve your loneliness problem on your behalf. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Kobojunkie: 9:02pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
FromZeroToHero:The only person who can solve her case is she. Once loneliness sets in, it becomes a personal more than it is a marriage problem. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married But Lonely by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
Iamzik:Yes, it is good to have somebody but loneliness does not care whether you have somebody or nobody. Once it latches on, the resolution has to come from you and you alone. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married But Lonely by BarrElChapo(m): 9:05am On Dec 21, 2023 |
TheWinterBird: So he cannot develop an addiction after getting married ? People change bro, it's something perfectly human. |
Re: Married But Lonely by TimT: 9:30am On Dec 21, 2023 |
Cromagnon:I'm not a Christian |
Re: Married But Lonely by YoungBlackRico(m): 9:39am On Dec 21, 2023 |
Iamzik:You're right! I realized this just few days ago. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Josywhyte: 9:53am On Dec 21, 2023 |
TimT: Op this person has said it all. Na happiness and peace of mind be everything o. No come die because of one person wey no value or see ur importance 1 Like |
Re: Married But Lonely by EvangelistChuks(m): 9:53am On Dec 21, 2023 |
Accept Jesus into your spirit and intentionally & deliberately renew your mind with the word of God-this makes you have a new concept of what marriage truly is ,this in turn changes your expectations.Your expectations because hithertho your problem was that you have a wrong concept of what marriage is as stipulated by the One that established it. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Jayboi(m): 9:53am On Dec 21, 2023 |
Greatmind653:Apologies I misread the issue. I thought he had his complaints. You will need to pick urself up again and maybe seek the help of elders who can sit both of you down. There is nothing prayer too can do. Not just when things go south but even when things are fine. |
Re: Married But Lonely by jumokeadele(m): 9:54am On Dec 21, 2023 |
constantly travel , get busy in another state and constantly go for 15days 1 week , 10 days, even 1month sometimes. It create that vibe of dating and you guys will miss each other again Greatmind653: 1 Like |
Re: Married But Lonely by Jayboi(m): 9:55am On Dec 21, 2023 |
Mindlog: Apologies, I didn't get the msg well. I initially thought the man had his complaints. I just found out it's an addiction problem |
Re: Married But Lonely by lekankim(m): 10:33am On Dec 21, 2023 |
It is impossible to change a person, if they are not willing to change. You can try to appeal to his emotion, influence him, show him how important he is to you. Maybe pray for him. God bless you. |
Re: Married But Lonely by imustsaymymindo: 12:24pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Combating loneliness, achieving contentment, being happy...these are things that can only come from within. And they are things that are more important than anything. More important than marriage, children, or whatever. Don't fall into the popular fallacies of: 1. You are now one after marriage: No. You are still an individual. And as an individual, it is your duty to make yourself happy. Reduce your loneliness. Etc. 2. Communication is the best way to solve your problems: No. If you share this issue you face with your husband, it'd only bring new issues in your marriage as he would suspect you and also view you as unloving, ungrateful, and can't understand the situation as you. So instead, find ways to solve your loneliness problems yourselves. Read books, watch related movie/documentation on your situation, to find possible solutions. 3. Marriage Counselling: No. Same reasons with the first two. Even much worse as you would have a large focus on the problem and watch it grow. Instead of taking actions. Instead, take actions from what you learnt in number two. Even in marriage, there are some things you solve as an individual and from within. One of which is loneliness. If you can do that, it only helps the marriage more. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married But Lonely by Mindlog: 1:41pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Jayboi: OK...Noted. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Mindlog: 1:43pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Gboom: What OP is experiencing, is part of my daily bread |
Re: Married But Lonely by Love800(m): 2:40pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
That is the best form of relationship. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Gboom: 2:41pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Mindlog:What caused your own loneliness? Is it distant relationship or your hubby is the busy type? |
Re: Married But Lonely by mysticwarrior(m): 3:02pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Kobojunkie are you ok now? I heard you fell sick when nairaland server was down for two days, it was the first time you didn't comment on nairaland for twos days for the past 16years that you have been on nairaland. |
Re: Married But Lonely by nobilie: 5:01pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
A lot of Marriages are failing this days. Wifes not aggreeing with husbands is no longer new. Reasons for the misunderstanding varies and are valid to the couples. A lot of women want their husbands to do more as to earn more so they could live a good life but the husbands see those as pressure to take quick and risky decisions. Disagreements amongs couples could lead to loneliness and if stretched, u'll see the man either masturbating, visit hotels or have a side chick who becomes the main chick. A healthy home is built by the man and his wife. Women must learn to drop pride, knowing that the man is the head of the family. I have seen that a woman who loves a man even during boyfriend/girlfriend relationship will always plead with the man when he is angry even if its ghe woman thats right but when love is lost, the woman wont care how the man feels even in a marriage. My advice, if u can't continue, u better separate before one person kills the other as we all know, love and turn to deep hatred. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Bravelion: 5:21pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
The addiction is not explicit but I guess it could be masturbation. If it is, it's usually difficult to break out of it except with strong will to stop it and supernatural intervention. Why because the masturbator derives satisfaction in what he/she's doing and makes the other spouse feel neglected and lonely. My advice is to go on with your dreams, make yourself happy and live a fulfilled life |
Re: Married But Lonely by Cromagnon: 9:10pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
TimT:is that what your Quran says |
Re: Married But Lonely by TimT: 11:01pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
Cromagnon:I'm not a Muslim either.... Besides, there are lots of religion existing besides these two... Oya rest |
Re: Married But Lonely by Mindlog: 6:16am On Dec 22, 2023 |
Gboom: "is part of my daily bread" means I get paid for actively listening to such experience in therapy sessions. |
Re: Married But Lonely by vikkogg: 8:50am On Dec 22, 2023 |
send me a mail on mastervikk@gmail.com Greatmind653: |
Re: Married But Lonely by Starz825(m): 2:39pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
Kingrshd3: he no fit pass gambling...oga...na bet9ja |
Re: Married But Lonely by Kingrshd3: 2:59pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
Starz825: I dey tell you 😁😅😁 |
Re: Married But Lonely by Starz825(m): 3:01pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
[quote author=BloomingDale post=127549103][/quote] Not always true in all cases in fact ladies are the ones who ain't always ready for marriage... they teach tolerance and patience cos most ladies don't know what it take to be a submissive wife..... Women wants Love and provision. Men wants Respect and support. thats all... thats the standard for me ...everyone should know their role...I will love and provide for you...I want you to respect and support me in any way possible...that's all |
Re: Married But Lonely by BloomingDale(f): 3:09pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
Starz825: Love and provide for me? Even your so called Bible says “Cursedth be a man that puts his trust in another man”. Ladies, you better be financially free from your husband. Nothing like love in this day and age. If you depend on your husband to provide for you, be ready to be a slave and suffer lots and lots of abuses. |
Re: Married But Lonely by Starz825(m): 3:34pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
BloomingDale: so who said ladies shouldn't make their own money....how do my woman financially supports me if she doesn't make her own money.....personally I don't mind if my woman is richer sef...its her destiny so I will support it I don't have a problem with that....what I'm saying is...women don't have to be misandrists....there are men who understands the value of marriage and are ready to give their best...you just need to pray to God so you can meet with one.. Women on the other hand must learn to understand that the responsible man she is married to is the head of the family....and she's expected to give him the respect and honor as at when due.... irresponsible men are the only ones you can go head to head with... I dont see the reason why some ladies do that to a responsible man...they just create unnecessary issues with their men just cos of their big baby attitudes... when you meet a good/ responsible man...let your guard down and show some respect...he go love you die..... |
Re: Married But Lonely by BloomingDale(f): 4:57pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
Starz825: Not everyone believes in your so called Bible. Moreover more women are better managers. The marriages that last the most and are more functional are Atheist marriages, cos they believe in whomever is a better leader leads or they can both be co leaders. Nothing like the head cos you have something swinging btw your legs or your misogynist bible written by men lead by a fictional god said so. |
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