Does a wife earning more than the husband affect the marriage institution?

While a lot of people believe it does as according to them most women in this category tends to disrespect the man; others believe it doesn't as there are women who earn more than the husband and the information is known only between the man and the wife.

What is your opinion, do you have real life
experience or know a family where marriage is suffers because the woman later turned out to be earning more?

What would your advice be for men who later in life earns less than their wives?

What would be your advice for women who later earn more than the husbands

Depend on level of maturity and understanding

Very much...the woman isn't suppose to provide in the first place and since she earns more than the husband she will feel the husband is not on her level, women do this alot.

If the husband is not willing to "bend" (he's not supposed to as far he's still providing for the family), that marriage will not last.

Stuupid question

It depends, study your wife to be, personality matters. Nobody can know her better than you, if you fail to do the needful, you will pay a heavy price for it. My wife has been earning more than me for like 4 years now since we've gotten married and we have a son. Nobody knows about it, she's humble, loving and understanding. We plan on each salary, invest with hers and use mine to run other expenses like food, school fees and any other thing you can think of. We moved into our house January 2022, each time I collect loan from cooperative, we use more than half of her salary to pay the loan.
I know she's humble before I married her, we discussed this before marriage. If you see any trait of pride in a girl, pls run, it will grow with time, block third parties totally and you are good to go. Besides if your wife is well trained, from a good home, you have no problem. You have to be reasonable as a man too and not feel unsecured as a man, some things are just meant to be like that. If you try to fight it, your marriage may crumble.

The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

Not really.

It only require maturity and understanding.

I think it's cool... but women have a way of letting ego get in the way then all hell breaks lose

In Nigeria, yes. When a woman starts handling the financial responsibilities, they tend to insult their husbands. Only a few (25%) try to respect their husbands during that period.

You can't fully blame them. The society (the family of the woman) may contribute to the quarrels. And sometimes, some men take it personal and start insulting their wife in order to show superiority in the marriage.

In fact, it's a complex thing.

If she's not the proud, controlling and immature type

It does in Nigeria marriages. Women can not be honest with you and won't give you respect for long if they earn above you no matter the maturity you have as a man. They are wired differently.

It depends on intellectual maturity.

Even very poor income women still disrespect their husband.

Nah,doesnt.As far as they are both matured in handling issues.

No it depends on the level of maturity and understanding

Damnnn niggar

Nothing wrong before o

But pride go let we Nigeria men

One of my baby girl earns more than me

I'm just a keyboard warrior sometimes six months i don't see pay slips

But that my baby girl ehnn
She is selling female shoes and bags and clothes
She will go to onitsha and buy them and return to Benin city and be selling
The money she gets from those selling and buying ehnnn go shock you
And yet she is very cool with me

100%

We men have to forget and ignore our women's income and focus on our responsibilities as the husband, with that you remain the king, no matter how big her pocket is

Depends on who you married.

If you married a Wife, then it doesn't matter... But if you married the female gender, then you're in trouble.

No

It does. Because most women do not know how to keep quiet, especially when there's a little misunderstanding between her and her man. She will start calling him all sorts of unprintable names like lazy, irresponsible and so on. Even the so called godly ones among them are also culpable of this, telling everyone that they are ones feeding their men and catering for the upkeep of the home.
Most women don't know how to handle success especially when the man is struggling, they easily lose their composure

To me it doesn't matter and do not change anything, as long as the woman respects the man as the one in charge.

The average person lacks self-awareness, knowledge, and wisdom. Because building these virtues and values takes a long time.

A woman earning more than her man in the process of a relationship ought not to be a problem. But the average woman doesn't think beyond the first layer of her head. Hence, many become obnoxious and treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect.

Women want to be with men higher and better than them. Once a woman senses that she's better than you in one or two areas, resentment and disrespect start breeding in her heart.
Because she sees you as a leader, and expects you to operate from a higher dimension. You operating below her scares her evolutionary wiring - that you are a man who can't protect and provide for her kids in dire moments.

These challenges men face with women have led men into the field of innovations and different wonders. The burden of performance is always upon the man. The woman wants that assurance that she is with the right man.

Relationship isn't a competition. It ought to be two people working together to achieve a particular goal.

However, in sexual relationship, men must be ahead of their woman in all ramifications. It breeds respect, ensure the stability of the relationship, and gives the woman an assurance.

Men that have their women ahead must work hard to pass them and maintain first position. It isn't by pulling her down, treating her badly, subtle jealousy, subtle hate, and acting macho.

It is him going back to the strategy board to plan better ways and win his game. After all, it is his duty to lead his family, and by so must remain at the forefront.

It's easier to tell women to maintain submissions, modesty, and humility when they are on top and earning more than their husbands than for said women to deliberately act that same way.

Only advice for this women is to help stimulate their husbands in getting to the top. Not by anger, henpecking, nagging, subtle jabs, and negligence. But by love and humility.

It will not be easy. But it is possible. Because a woman wants to see her man at the top and it gives men joy to be at the top.

Thanks.

100%. Even the ones that are not earning up to you are mis having. It only take grace for a woman making money that can feed her to be submissive in marriage.

Na

Nigerian women na just bag of trouble.
If she’s earning more than you,na disrespect u go d chop.
If she no de earn at all,na more wahala

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Does a wife earning more than the husband affect the marriage institution?

While a lot of people believe it does as according to them most women in this category tends to disrespect the man; others believe it doesn't as there are women who earn more than the husband and the information is known only between the man and the wife.

What is your opinion, do you have real life
experience or know a family where marriage is suffers because the woman later turned out to be earning more?

What would your advice be for men who later in life earns less than their wives?

What would be your advice for women who later earn more than the husbands

For women who love their husband it doesn't matter but u see those ones who were forced or moved with money it affects..my wife initially earned more that me.. but she choose to marry me. Now we have businesses that take care of our needs and wants. What women that have sense want are men that are up and doing. Not loafers. If no job he should get himself busy with learning a skill..tiling...plumbing...electrician...furniture making...pop and wall screeding...painting...aluminium work..transportation...dry cleaning...barbing....bakimg /making small chops..tailoring..the list is endless..