Well it does alot of times ooo. My coligs wife earns more than him. She has a car and he doesn't. She even lied that her salary is just 80k which is same as the husband but she will always book flight when she wants to travel to other states and will place the bill on the man to pay. You can imagine, the wife requesting for house help and the husband has to be the one to pay 55k monthly from his salary. Is this not madness

Tajbol4splend:
We men have to forget and ignore our women's income and focus on our responsibilities as the husband, with that you remain the king, no matter how big her pocket is

Hahaha

How do you remain a king while you are struggling?

It's quite complex, people don't do financial scenario testing for their would be partners while dating, they now find out the rate of hypergamy of their partners is above the roof.

There are women who will participate in family building without anyone hearing of it no matter how much they put in. The problem is that most women are hypergamous, wether you struggle to provide and do what you have been doing the hypergamous instinct will make them look up by then you are no where to be found..

The solution to this is to always be with a spouse who is supportive, who doesn't see spending for the family as only the responsibility of the man. In so doing you are able to avert possible conflict issues if you are in a situation where the woman begins to earn more than you.

Life is beautiful and making it complex to me isn't worth the stress. If everyone can do to others what he or she wants others to do to him or her the world will be a better place.

Greed, entitlement mentality, selfishness are some of the reasons most ladies would not share resources with their partners if they find themselves in a position to. The job of men is to weed out greedy and selfish women while looking for their life partners.

IamDora:
It depends on the maturity of the husband, if he's one of those Nairaland Broke Alpha males,

Then, probably

Are you a Harlot I'm asking because of your dressing in your dp...

It's dicey

I dey come

AmazingELixir:


A woman will be a woman anyway...what they earn doesn't matter to them....the husband money is always sweeter.

My own almost earn thesame amount with me....madam still dey ask me to give her money for her clothing, I just dey look her with red eyes.

Give her, buy her gifts also. That's your responsibility as the man of the house. You didn't marry her because of money, you married her because you love her. Show her the love. That's what makes you the Head. Even if she earns more than you, she will still be submissive(if she really loves you, not because of the money o)

If you two are real partners and you guys have humility, there is nothing to worry about. Situations can change anytime. When I and my wife were dating, I was earning like 5 times her own earnings and there was no problem about it. When we got married, after 3 months her new job she was processing clicked. The new job is in the US and she traveled in the month of October 2023. When I saw the first payslip that she sent to me, her salary was 8 times my salary. And mind you, I earn in dollars too in Naija. And we are still fine, I play my part and she plays her part. Nothing like pride and allowing the money to get into her head.

It shouldn't affect the marriage if a wise woman is involved. Money tends to corrupt today's woman making it hard for her to be submissive to the husband. At the end of the day understanding is what matters. A woman must not disrespect her husband because she is richer, neither should a man be jealous when the wife earns more. Love conquers all if both parties are wise.

loswhite:
Do you play chess? In a game of chess the queen work to protect the king so your analysis of queen don't work...lol I wonder where you got that from sha

E no go better for Chess and the person wey invent am.

We are talking real life you are talking chess.

In real life, does the Queen protect the king or the guards? Get out!

Notfogotten:
Does a wife earning more than the husband affect the marriage institution?

While a lot of people believe it does as according to them most women in this category tends to disrespect the man; others believe it doesn't as there are women who earn more than the husband and the information is known only between the man and the wife.

What is your opinion, do you have real life
experience or know a family where marriage is suffers because the woman later turned out to be earning more?

What would your advice be for men who later in life earns less than their wives?

What would be your advice for women who later earn more than the husbands

hope ur married? If not leave marriage matter for the married!

Notfogotten:
Does a wife earning more than the husband affect the marriage institution?

While a lot of people believe it does as according to them most women in this category tends to disrespect the man; others believe it doesn't as there are women who earn more than the husband and the information is known only between the man and the wife.

What is your opinion, do you have real life
experience or know a family where marriage is suffers because the woman later turned out to be earning more?

What would your advice be for men who later in life earns less than their wives?

What would be your advice for women who later earn more than their husbands

If the man is ready to learn how to make wealth, no wahala. He will leverage the financial stability of his wife and make his wealth. But if he is lazy and wants his wife to keep carrying the major burden, he will have challenges. The other factor is that if the wife's wealth is from her parents and the parents don't like the guy...then, the guy needs to be sure that he is on the same page with the girl.

The issue here is that the man should tap into what works. If he fails, he will have challenges. This is just the truth.

And it is the same vice versa in advanced countries. It is only in Africa ladies think men should do it all...and it is why they are used and disrespected. A woman (not a gold digger) abroad does not care about the man's wealth because she can do it too. But here...most girls see the man as the burden carrier. They will even justify it with the fact that they carry a pregnancy and do house chores. Na person wey no get money dey do house chores na. Lol

CaveAdullam:
The average person lacks self-awareness, knowledge, and wisdom. Because building these virtues and values takes a long time.

A woman earning more than her man in the process of a relationship ought not to be a problem. But the average woman doesn't think beyond the first layer of her head. Hence, many become obnoxious and treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect.

Women want to be with men higher and better than them. Once a woman senses that she's better than you in one or two areas, resentment and disrespect start breeding in her heart.
Because she sees you as a leader, and expects you to operate from a higher dimension. You operating below her scares her evolutionary wiring - that you are a man who can't protect and provide for her kids in dire moments.

These challenges men face with women have led men into the field of innovations and different wonders. The burden of performance is always upon the man. The woman wants that assurance that she is with the right man.

Relationship isn't a competition. It ought to be two people working together to achieve a particular goal.

However, in sexual relationship, men must be ahead of their woman in all ramifications. It breeds respect, ensure the stability of the relationship, and gives the woman an assurance.

Men that have their women ahead must work hard to pass them and maintain first position. It isn't by pulling her down, treating her badly, subtle jealousy, subtle hate, and acting macho.

It is him going back to the strategy board to plan better ways and win his game. After all, it is his duty to lead his family, and by so must remain at the forefront.

It's easier to tell women to maintain submissions, modesty, and humility when they are on top and earning more than their husbands than for said women to deliberately act that same way.

Only advice for this women is to help stimulate their husbands in getting to the top. Not by anger, henpecking, nagging, subtle jabs, and negligence. But by love and humility.

It will not be easy. But it is possible. Because a woman wants to see her man at the top and it gives men joy to be at the top.

Thanks.

The problem I have with all this commen from Nigerian men is that most of you have women as your bosses in your place of work....lol. if in your place of work you have not resigned because a woman is your boss I don't see how your wife earning more than you is a problem. A poor wife can insult likewise a rich wife. A poor wife not insulting you is because of slave Master relationship and not because she respect you. If she insult you ....lol you will foolish tell her you will not eat today and there is nothing she can do so she begs you so she can eat....How is this respect? Most Nigerian men cannot earn respect without money. They lack value system hence all the time you hear them talk is just make money you can get any girl...lol some of them think the reason to get money and be rich is to get women....useless species

A lot of men disrespect and mistreat their financially dependent wives because they know they can't survive without them but their fellow men will never see nothing wrong with it. A woman dare not cough that she bought salt for the family, this bunch of hypocrites and will start shouting that she's being proud and insulting her husband. One nincompoop in the first page said women of yesteryears stayed in their marriages because their husbands provided. Did it ever occur to you that most of them stayed because they will starve to death if they moved an inch from the marriage? The longevity of the marriage is what they emphasize on, they will never look at the quality of the marriage. Were those marriages mutually beneficial? Let's be honest with ourselves for once

saasala:


E no go better for Chess and the person wey invent am.

We are talking real life you are talking chess.

In real life, does the Queen protect the king or the guards? Get out!

in real life if ur wife no protect u , through prayers, support or any form ur a dead man. We men naturally leave carelessly a good wife pays attention to details.

Depends on the personality of the person you married and your attitude towards her earnings.
My wife earned much more than me but l foot the bills and do all that is expected of me as the man of the house.
I don't Force her to help out with her money, just that when she makes l demand and l don't have, l expressively so without asking her to take from her money.
But sincerely, she helps out most time financially without me asking.

Na lazy and greedy man wey no Sabi him responsibilities go dey look the wife purse to act responsibly.
Some men sef go dey jealous their wife ontop her money
Mtchewwwwwwwwww
Create a healthy underau on finance in the family

12345baba:
in real life if ur wife no protect u , through prayers, support or any form ur a dead man. We men naturally leave carelessly a good wife pays attention to details.

You are going out of topic. We are talking about finances here.

Firstly I dont believe in prayers, so thats bullshit. But if you believe in it, fine. She can support you with prayers and any other forms of support, its all good as long has she is not the one paying the bills.

once a giver always a giver, uve solved half if not all life's challenges

saasala:


E no go better for Chess and the person wey invent am.

We are talking real life you are talking chess.

In real life, does the Queen protect the king or the guards? Get out!

In real life go and watch and understand the politics of how to protect. The person that invented that game get sense pass you sha so show some respect. In Niger who plotted the coup? Is it not the guard?

saasala:


You are going out of topic. We are talking about finances here.

Firstly I dont believe in prayers, so thats bullshit. But if you believe in it, fine. She can support you with prayers and any other forms of support, its all good as long has she is not the one paying the bills.

finances na form of protection too. Read what I wrote well

loswhite:
In real life go and watch and understand the politics of how to protect. The person that invented that game get sense pass you sha so show some respect.

It is people like you that use games and motivational books to direct your life.

Wake up from your slumber and face the real world.

Chess? Fvck the inventor!

12345baba:
finances na form of protection too. Read what I wrote well

If you have your own money, you dont need your wife's money for protection.

Buy your protection with your money.

We dey teach you about life you still dey argue. Continue.

saasala:


It is people like you that use games and motivational books to direct your life.

Wake up from your slumber and face the real world.

Chess? Fvck the inventor!

In real life a guard plotted the coup to over throw the president of Niger. The president is still prison locked up by his own guard. I don give you real life example...lol

It depends on the man and the woman in the marriage.

BlaqFaze:
Very much...the woman isn't suppose to provide in the first place and since she earns more than the husband she will feel the husband is not on her level, women do this alot.

If the husband is not willing to "bend" (he's not supposed to as far he's still providing for the family), that marriage will not last.

Are you talking from experience?

Anyways, I think it all depends on the woman and also the husband.

There are so many women who make more than their husband or fend for the family and still respect their husband.
Also husbands make it easier for those women by loving her, respecting her, and appreciating her.

I know this family where the lady makes more money than the guy, both being cops. Here's the twist – she's cool with it, but he's all about this joint account thing. And guess what? He's the boss of that joint account, even though she outranks him. They're both non-commissioned officers, but she's higher up. Life goes on, and it's like nobody notices.

ThunderFireAgba:

Give her, buy her gifts also. That's your responsibility as the man of the house. You didn't marry her because of money, you married her because you love her. Show her the love. That's what makes you the Head. Even if she earns more than you, she will still be submissive(if she really loves you, not because of the money o)

Noooh!...She can take care of that herself, I want to driven 2011 venza this year, I'm saving towards that.

Please understand with me.

loswhite:
In real life a guard plotted the coup to over throw the president of Niger. The president is still prison locked up by his own guard. I don give you real life example...lol

It has nothing to do with a woman. The president should have hired his wife then.

Whatever happened in Niger is just life. Life is cruel and anyone can stab you at the back. There are about 200 countries in the world with presidents and their guards and security have not betrayed them. Niger is just one country out of many so you have no point here.

ThunderFireAgba:

Give her, buy her gifts also. That's your responsibility as the man of the house. You didn't marry her because of money, you married her because you love her. Show her the love. That's what makes you the Head. Even if she earns more than you, she will still be submissive(if she really loves you, not because of the money o)

Noooh!...She can take care of that herself, I want to driven 2011 venza this year, I'm saving towards that.

Please understand with me, I'm sure when that car arrives she will monopolies it....but let me get it first.

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

This Man!




Anyway some of the facts you have mentioned are hard to swallow. Remember I said Facts. Not Truth. Facts.

Other opinions you shared like you cheat and beg and she accepts but she cheats and she goes home to her father’s house is also a major fact of the modus operandi in a home where the man is the Main Bread Winner. Simple rule he can cheat and get caught. She dares NOT!!!

But the way you come put the thing, e go shock and annoy women.


A woman is typically not used to being powerful. By training. Culture. Tradition. She is typically raised, develop and trained to be led by a man. Many societies are this way. Even societies where the men are lazy and the women go to the farm, they are still raised to be led by a Man!
However it is now being known that many women were not contented and married these men to survive or avoid socio-cultural pressures.

It is now clear that if such women had money in the first place MANY WOULD NOT HAVE EVEN ALLOWED THEIR NOW SO CALLED HUSBANDS COURT THEM NOT TO TALK OF TOUCHING THEM or Opening their legs for such men. It is the same phenomenon that has led to marital issues in the Japa Situation as well. Many of those women were suffering in silence in Nigeria and the men were meal tickets. Getting overseas and seeing the freedoms and working to earn their own money, they realize they won’t take such “bullshit”. Even when the bullshi t no plenty o. 😃

So the moment the woman finds herself in such a financially strong role, her true nature and how much regards, loyalty, submissiveness that she truly has for the man comes out. It takes a woman who is humble, understands that life has its ups and downs and also a Man who isn’t lazy but also tries his best for this equation to work. Because a woman can earn more, and she may not leave her husband, but she will belittle him, sleep around outside, treat him like trash, etc.


Talking about cheating and marital challenges. Now the funny thing is a woman will be accepting of these things in her household, but when she sees a friend, relative or any other close woman around her experiencing the same thing she is going through she will brag about how “I cannot accept that nonsense”. How she will never be such a woman to accept such nonsense. How she would have packed out immediately. WOMEN can be hypocritically almost “evil” to themselves.

For me sha, I usually say if it will hurt you when she does it, why don’t you think it hurts her when you do it.

Thinking too I equally ask myself, Are women designed to accept that their Men can mate multiple women? I am not talking of these so called Modern Women on Social Media. I mean the original women who survived and evolved. Were these women designed to be more accepting of it? Religion like Christianity popularized monogamy. A few cultures and animals are monogamous, but it became popular through the Church. And the debate as to why it became popular exists with various theories and paradigms including the “Betta Male” and “Simp” theories. Did Societies with human kind evolve with the men having the authority, energy, resources and BRUTE STRENGTH to have multiple mates? By implication perhaps only women whose brain allowed polygamy could procreate with men. Such mindset then was a survival tactics.If you couldn’t allow a man do what he wants with other women you starve with your child and get eaten by a Sabre Tooth Tiger. Additionally, women evolved such that once pregnant, they were “locked down” for nine to ten months while the man was biologically free to do whatever the hell he wants.

Anyway this is me being a philosopher and an uncertified evolutionary psychologist in my parlour with groundnuts, suyaa, desperado and red wine set on a side stool and trying to select a movie on Netflix.

saasala:


You are going out of topic. We are talking about finances here.

Firstly I dont believe in prayers, so thats bullshit. But if you believe in it, fine. She can support you with prayers and any other forms of support, its all good as long has she is not the one paying the bills.

You and your wife have a shared responsibility. What bills are you paying that you beating hand on your chest that she cannot pay? Okonjo iweala na person wife...lol Is there a bill that you can pay that she cannot pay?