These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.

If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.

Lol.

There's nothing wrong with it but I WILL NEVER TRY THAT OR ALLOW MY CHILDREN TRY THAT NONSENSE WITH ME.

If nobody is pursing you and your parents house is close to were you work, please remain in your father's house.

I saw many people lamenting about house rent in one thread like that.

Ignore people's opinion. They are not the one feeding you.

I will only leave my father's house when I have enough money to build a better house.

No woman should ever stay in such a home.

It wouldn't be long before ur mother in law will tag u a witch,there must always be friction between them.

But in all,I don't wish any woman such a trap as home.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it, as a matter of fact, that's what I did. I got married and lived in the same house with my parents and siblings. While living with them, I was saving massively. My wife and I went back to school as well and got masters degrees. We had no kids for the 3 years we lived there so it was manageable. This allowed us to save enough money to build our own house without any debts. So it is financially wise to live in your parents house while married. You get to know each other more, it strengthens the bond between your wife and her inlaws and there's this sense of appreciation you have when you finally get your own place.

Hmmm, that means you're not man enough.

Hustle and get your own for your peace of mind.

Nice2023:
No woman should ever stay in such a home.

It wouldn't be long before ur mother in law will tag u a witch,there must always be friction between them.

But in all,I don't wish any woman such a trap as home.

That's very wrong. I know many people married and staying in parents home with their wives and there is nothing like that tagging witch thing. I guess you just watch too much Nollywood movies. As a matter of fact most of the ladies I know are taken as eggs by their inlaws in the home.

NikoDeBonAmi:


That's very wrong. I know many people married and staying in parents home with their wives and there is nothing like that tagging witch thing. I guess you just watch too much Nollywood movies. As a matter of fact most of the ladies I know are taken as eggs by their inlaws in the home.

Then allow ur sister to marry into such a family. U will know why most ladies avoid such place.

Name the ladies u know and give us their contacts u think it's by lying.

Nice2023:



Then allow ur sister to marry into such a family. U will know why most ladies avoid such place.

Name the ladies u know and give us their contacts u think it's by lying.

I have no time to argue with a shallow mind. You can hold on to your believe, I never said you must believe whatever I say.

NikoDeBonAmi:


I have no time to argue with a shallow mind. You can hold on to your believe, I never said you must believe whatever I say.

U brought a topic and u still don't want us to air our opinion.

U are too immature. Is like u are being spoon feed at home and that's why u want to live till u are 60years in ur fathers house.

Be deceiving yourself.

U want to enslave another man's daughter,lazy man.

NikoDeBonAmi:
These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.

If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.

Every woman wants her own kitchen, decoration etc

Every woman wants a house that accomodates relatives including her own

Every woman wants to built what is hers and the children not what drags family relatives


Living with in mother and father in law's house makes it difficult for woman to do that

In simple terms your growth and freedom is limited, when living under someone's roof. Have your own roof where you direct and call shoots

ZIMDRILL:


Every woman wants her own kitchen, decoration etc

Every woman wants a house that accomodates relatives including her own

Every woman wants to built what is hers and the children not what drags family relatives


Living with in mother and father in law's house makes it difficult for woman to do that

Some married couples are living in one bedroom. Living with inlaws is not what will make her not to achieve what you listed.

Building requires finance. Saving can help to increase finance. Save the money for rent while staying in father's house. 6-8 years, you should buy a land and start building yours.

jmoore:

Some married couples are living in one bedroom. Living with inlaws is not what will make her not to achieve what you listed.

Building requires finance. Saving can help to increase finance. Save the money for rent while staying in father's house. 6-8 years, you should buy a land and start building yours.

clearly you missed the point, am sure the thread wasnt talking about it as temporal measure aka living with parent for 5 years while save

The thread is talking about as permant home,

ZIMDRILL:


clearly you missed the point, am sure the thread wasnt talking about it as temporal measure aka living with parent for 5 years while save

The thread is talking about as permant home,

The op didn't say it as permanent home.

jmoore:


The op didn't say it as permanent home.

neither was mentioned as short period, but my understanding, it meant permanent stay

If it was short stay one would start a thread of a short stay while one saves

I would approach the issue if staying with your parents when you're married on a case-to-case basis. It depends on the nature of your relationship with your parents.

Those who have a toxic relationship with their parents will never do that. You have heard of children who avoid even a normal conversation with their parents. You cannot advise such a child to live with their parents with their spouses.

But if you have a loving, convivial and stable relationship with your parents, you won't mind living with them with your spouse.

However, you need to set healthy boundaries between your family and your parents.

If each party is aware of their boundaries and such boundaries are respected, there should be no issue between you.

In conclusion, I submit that it's the nature of your relationship with your parents that determine whether you'd live with them with your spouse or not.

Socratiz:
I would approach the issue if staying with your parents when you're married on a case-to-case basis. It depends on the nature of your relationship with your parents.

Those who have a toxic relationship with their parents will never do that. You have heard of children who avoid even a normal conversation with their parents. You cannot advise such a child to live with their parents with their spouses.

But if you have a loving, convivial and stable relationship with your parents, you won't mind living with them with your spouse.

However, you need to set healthy boundaries between your family and your parents.

If each party is aware of their boundaries and such boundaries are respected, there should be no issue between you.

In conclusion, I submit that it's the nature of your relationship with your parents that determine whether you'd live with them with your spouse or not.

you are trying to be nice over such situation but lets look at this way ?

If you have money to have your own home, why not have your own home like your daddy. No matter how good your parents are, ask yourself why your own daddy is not livinh with his own daddy

As man we need our own castle, the one i rule as mine, most we live with parents becoz we provide them with care they need due to old age, but if you look carefully the young couple these days dont want to be house wives and care givers

If your own parents well do with their own money, let them or help them to get a care giver while you as couple your thrive to make your own wealth and built your own couple

Most man would be biased to say its ok to stay home with parents etc becoz 1 wife is being used as care giver 2 he has the intention to inherit the property


A wise father would advice his son to have his own castle, which is attached to his name and wife. Than his house which is attached to his wife and the children who are already grown ups

Everything is wrong with it in this part of the world...

Let's even assume your parents still lived in their own parents house till now how would you feel

If not for anything but for the sake of respect you just have to move out and start your own family on your own turf....

I see nothing wrong if it is for temporal stay. My dad has 4 brothers, they all stayed in our family home with my grand father and mother and worked in the state. They all had 3 children each and some 4, but as we the children approached 18 years they all started moving to the houses they built due to space. The 3 bedroom they each had was no longer enough. As we speak they have all moved out with no one staying behind except the first son and family.

This has always been the traditional startup in my village, the children depart when their family becomes too big for the family home.

It fostered love and peace, but as the new generation came in this is now hard but they still occur. The implication is children now hardly know their cousins, in fact they pass each other without knowing.

Don't allow anybody to make you move into face me I face you when you father's house is empty, only move when the time is right.

SUPERPACK:
I see nothing wrong if it is for temporal stay. My dad has 4 brothers, they all stayed in our family home with my grand father and mother and worked in the state. They all had 3 children each and some 4, but as we the children approached 18 years they all started moving to the houses they built due to space. The 3 bedroom they each had was no longer enough. As we speak they have all moved out with no one staying behind except the first son and family.

This has always been the traditional startup in my village, the children depart when their family becomes too big for the family home.

It fostered love and peace, but as the new generation came in this is now hard but they still occur. The implication is children now hardly know their cousins, in fact they pass each other without knowing.

Don't allow anybody to make you move into face me I face you when you father's house is empty, only move when the time is right.

another thing, you will
never accummulate wealth if two generations stay in one place, let individual blossom in their own places

Sometimes we get gifted partners that make you blossom as a couple where you buil your own empire and it can inspire brothers and sisters.

Living with with in laws in their own house can
suppress individual growth (couple)

If its a family business i understand but a family home No No No

ZIMDRILL:


Every woman wants her own kitchen, decoration etc

Every woman wants a house that accomodates relatives including her own

Every woman wants to built what is hers and the children not what drags family relatives


Living with in mother and father in law's house makes it difficult for woman to do that

In simple terms your growth and freedom is limited, when living under someone's roof. Have your own roof where you direct and call shoots

So how about a situation where the house has a separate one or two bedroom BQ with its own kitchen and everything where they don't have to share anything with the parents in the main family house. Is that also bad

ZIMDRILL:


clearly you missed the point, am sure the thread wasnt talking about it as temporal measure aka living with parent for 5 years while save

The thread is talking about as permant home,

Obviously not as permanent home per say but until you decide to build a home for yourself and not going to pay rent. If the parents later die while still in the house what becomes of the house?

The truth is that some people here that are against having a family while living with parents, will still later start up their family while living with their parent(s).

Dem no dey use mouth put fish for soup.

Really

NikoDeBonAmi:


So how about a situation where the house has a separate one or two bedroom BQ with its own kitchen and everything where they don't have to share anything with the parents in the main family house. Is that also bad

there is a difference in having your own house and living in someone house even when you have 20 rooms to yourself

Eg sence having your own home, living under your own rules, not having to consult anyone in development or changes of physically building

NikoDeBonAmi:


Obviously not as permanent home per say but until you decide to build a home for yourself and not going to pay rent. If the parents later die while still in the house what becomes of the house?

like i said thread was looking at from
the point of being a permanent resident, if it was short he wouldnt open a thread like this becoz we know that you would soon move out

Have you ever realised that most things for free sonr make you wiser.

There are many options if parents die while you live with them, rent out the place let it generate money

Let me unravel this societal yarn for you. If your parents have a sprawling palace, and you've got a flourishing career nearby, who says you need to flee the nest like a startled pigeon?

Living with your parents doesn't equate to failure; it's a choice, a practical one at that. If the cohabitation vibes are harmonious, and everyone's doing the cha-cha of happiness, why disrupt the rhythm?

Marriage isn't a swift exit strategy from the parental abode; it's a union built on love 💑, respect, and occasionally stealing the TV remote. So, to those wielding judgment like a bludgeon, I say, let people nest where the heart is content, not where society dictates. After all, a house 🏡 is not a home if it's not filled with love, whether it's your own or your parents' overflowing embrace.

I don't know

Nigerians are crazy people

See finish

Your mom and your female siblings wouldn't respect your wife. She won't feel comfortable in that house

Only a desperate woman would marry a man living in his parents house.