Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

EreluRoz:
Should I tell him?

Sometimes I just laugh when some of these guys are excited that their women don't demand from them and they think it's healthy. A woman who value you and see you as her support will demand from you reasonably else someone else is filling that space, all women like money, the one wey no ask anything from you is just pitying you as she don know say you no get or she just dy pretend to get the ring.

Another one is attention, if she's not demanding the attention from you then something is wrong somewhere.

fyzaila:
When i am in love with a guy and we're dating, we can't go a day without hearing each other's voice, it's an offence. Chatting is not enough for me. We must talk. I can't imagine going a week without speaking with my b.f and we're in the same country o. Unless i don't love you or i have someone else who fill that vaccum beautifully. And I'll make occasional demands to see how generous you are.

So op, stop wasting your time on that babe, probably someone else is occupying that time of hers. Either you call her and request for a heart to heart conversation to sought things out, if actually you're still her main option or you keep up with ghosting each other till whatever is between you two fade out.

Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Gadafii:
Are you not loved at home, why are you so desperate for a womens attention


Do you need a prophet to tell you this is one sided and headed to somewhere you may regret your actions

If you don’t know what to do wit your life why not register at a local gym and pump iron, if she’s into you like you are into her she would make efforts towards that too

Girl wey dey work and stay at the island for that matter oo, I pity you gaan

Shegs105:
Bro, I am deeply loved at home, and also I am a fitness enthusiast.
She works in a fashion house on the island as a stylist, and she keep telling me that the pressure entails on the work usually exert her so much to weakness.

Although, what keeps bothering me is that, since she isn’t getting anything inform of material reward from me, then why is she giving the attention sparingly?

What did she want?

We had both reached an agreement a few months ago that I would go see her mum, which she oblige, although she said I give her days to process this when I asked I want us to at least take the relationship to the family introduction aspect.

In summary, should I just formally inform her we should terminate this not too healthy affair or what?

Also note that I gave her some conditions a few weeks ago and asked what used to happen when ever she doesn’t answer phone that makes her explicitly explained the afforemention

Gadafii:
don’t inform her to end the “relationship “, start acting busy and unavailable too

However why are you in a hurry to go meet her mom when you barely have met her

Don’t rush this thing, if she’s sincerely busy, it’s left for her to create time for both of you, don’t be the one to force her to do that. If she wants it like you do she will do that for you guys

For the man time face front

That she’s not demanding stuff from you isn’t enough reason to continue to beg for attention, as a man, you are the prize not the other way

Divert your attention to something, if you text her and it takes her 2 hours to reply, wait for 4 hours to reply her, by now you should know her busy hours and days.

Shegs105:
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My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Kelklein:
It 'appears' she might be seeing someone else.. women naturally crave attention.. if she's really into you, she would get mad if you don't call her in a day..

But like i mentioned she might the getting that attention elsewhere, tho may not necessary be into that person..but from your writeup it looks like anytime you too have chances to talk, it's all lovey-dovey again.. then another switch off..

I suggest you make time to see her more often.. say every week.. 3 months is too long a time to not see your supposed girlfriend while the two of you live in the same city.. I understand working on Island and Mainland dichotomy tho..

Have some serious discussion about how you feel and the need for more connections between you both.. my assumptions above might just be wrong.. she may just be the quiet type who no too like relationship stress..(some are like that)

Remember it is you that would draw a woman closer and not the other way round..

The ball is in your court..🥎

Shegs105:
Bro, I am deeply loved at home, and also I am a fitness enthusiast.
She works in a fashion house on the island as a stylist, and she keep telling me that the pressure entails on the work usually exert her so much to weakness.

Although, what keeps bothering me is that, since she isn’t getting anything inform of material reward from me, then why is she giving the attention sparingly?

What did she want?

We had both reached an agreement a few months ago that I would go see her mum, which she oblige, although she said I give her days to process this when I asked I want us to at least take the relationship to the family introduction aspect.

In summary, should I just formally inform her we should terminate this not too healthy affair or what?

Also note that I gave her some conditions a few weeks ago and asked what used to happen when ever she doesn’t answer phone that makes her explicitly explained the afforemention

torqque7:


Are you guys intimate?does she receive funny calls when you are together abi puts her phone on airplane mode?

Shegs105:
Bro, I am deeply loved at home, and also I am a fitness enthusiast.
She works in a fashion house on the island as a stylist, and she keep telling me that the pressure entails on the work usually exert her so much to weakness.

Although, what keeps bothering me is that, since she isn’t getting anything inform of material reward from me, then why is she giving the attention sparingly?

What did she want?

We had both reached an agreement a few months ago that I would go see her mum, which she oblige, although she said I give her days to process this when I asked I want us to at least take the relationship to the family introduction aspect.

In summary, should I just formally inform her we should terminate this not too healthy affair or what?

Also note that I gave her some conditions a few weeks ago and asked what used to happen when ever she doesn’t answer phone that makes her explicitly explained the afforemention

Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Shegs105:
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We haven’t seen each other this year

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.

Shegs105:
We meet around 2020, and as from that moment, we would talk often on phone, whenever she comes around, we were once intimate while we never even defined our relationship.

On a particular day of December, last year, we typically gave a definition to our relationship which we had a deep conversation on WhatsApp.

Meanwhile, she agreed to come over to see my mum at the mid month of March, but suddenly revise her coming to after the month of Ramadan, as she said since it has been a long time we had seen, it would be reasonable she come over to my place first, then go to my mum place in subsequent week.

Overall, why am I having contradicting thought after all what we had agreed on? We haven’t talked since Monday, till this present moment, all these symptoms are just pointing to a cheating person.

Shegs105:
...and we started dating a while now, she works on the Island where she passes all nights over there as she has accommodation in the work place.

We haven’t seen each other this year, and we have discussed recently about taking our relationship to the serious pedestal by meeting her parent and considering introduction later this year.

I can tell you for free that since I have been dating her, she had never make any form of monetary or material requests from me, even whenever I call that I would like to send her some gifts to her workplace address, she would usually decline with I shouldn’t bother myself.

At the moment, what I am worried about is that, sometimes we may go one week without hearing her voice, most of the time when I call, it’s either she misses my calls and call back the next day or even days, thus this is giving me a red flag, even though I had questioned her on this and she would always say she was engage with work at that point in time.

My instincts keep telling me she is cheating.