On this marriage matter a good marriage is healthy food for the soul. God did not make a mistake.

Only that society has created heartless, soulless, disloyal, greedy individuals who are bent on taking advantage of each other and na them full ground. Marriage is not the problem and similar to family, Countries we are witnessing the effect of decadence of society.

Get some financial muscle (skill or good education) so that you can be intentional about the people you choose to spend your life with.

Life is to be enjoyed not endured.

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

CHoccolaTE:
This topic really pained nairaland boys ooo

See them crying all over the thread

Selfish fools with no self control over their libido. If you like cry, wives leaving cheating husbands has come to stay and na una cause am.

In the olden days when men were actually providers like the Bible and Quran said, wives stayed with cheating husbands because they had no money to liberate themselves from terrible marriages since they depended on their provider husbands' income to survive.

Then you men started insulting women that couldn't provide like their husbands and started calling them liabilities until women acting as co-providers or even better providers became the norm.

Now these providing and hustling wives have no reason to stay behind and tolerate their husband's selfishness and wickedness because they can survive very well without men in their lives.

Every woman that works and makes equal financial contributions in her home deserves fidelity from her husband and has every right to demand same.
But you see all these ladies that wait until a man has suffered alone and made his money, they don't have any right to demand fidelity from the man. Regina Daniels for example knows from the get go that her husband Ned Woko is entitled to more women, therefore I'm sure she'll not start making trouble or demanding a divorce if Ned decides to sleep with other ladies.

The problem is with all the ladies that want to remain stuck to the old patrarchal system of men providing for them but refuse to accept the man taking care of and sleeping with as many women as he can afford as supported by same system.

Ladies have to choose between the modern day gender equality marriage and the old patrarchal system of marriage. They shouldn't expect to eat their cakes and still have it.

Go nigerian girls

Marriage has more disadvantages than advantages. It is for societal status for women. They do not really love the man .

Amumaigwe:


On the contrary, those women were the ones that cheated. Men don't talk about their cheating wives for their childrens' sake. Get that.

It's too deep for him to get.

He is still a bachelor..

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

Just imagine these ones you mentioned...women coming from and raised in broken/dysfunctional homes and backgroundsALL they possess is just temporal passing physical external looks as the ONLY thing of value they have to bring to a relationship..

How do you expect that relationship to be positively sustainable for the long haul?

Do these ones even understand that,on a deeper level,you attract in life almost all the time,who you are?

If you catch your man cheating, either he comes to agreement to have open marriage or you leave.


Two can and should play the fu...cking game.

Fiscus105:
A married woman who is a graduate, working with her certificate, earnings a good income, knows her rights and supporting husband at home.

There is no way you can subject such wife to the way ,18 century's husbands subjected their wives into.


THIS IS HARD REALITY MODERN DAY's HUSBANDS MUST KNOW AND INCORPORATE INTO THEIR SYSTEMs, IF THEY WANT LASTING AND PEACEFUL MARRIAGES.

Nevertheless, wife must also know that, no civilisation can make husband to play second fiddle in Marriage.

With this, compromise becomes Integra tool that can make Marriage works in 21st century.

Meanwhile, every wife knows that husband likely to cheat, a wise husband would do it discreetly in such a way that, even if wife knows, it would still make their Marriage intact. But foolish would say do ur worse, before you know, a once a beautiful family becomes object of ridicule in the society (Yul Edoche)

You spoke as a young bachelor or just recently married with no experience in these matters...

And talking about Yul and his wife,May,you don't have the slightest idea what really went down..

I say this because I know him and his siblings and parents VERY WELL...and I have spoken to Toby,his elder brother who has told me what really the issue is.

Yul bleeped up...but it had to take May to Bleep up for Yul to Bleep up..

Just take it like that and have peace .

Biglittlelois:
Lol the era of "enduring wives" has come to an end, stay if you can manage a cheating partner, leave if you can't.

This is one of the reasons you kids end up in toxic marriages.. because of your warped mentality..

What do you mean by the era of "enduring wives" or even enduring husbands for that matter

Life itself is all about suffering and endurance...it now depends on your perspective to it ..Bill Gates/Dangote suffer...almost 99% of people in this world will not be willing to go through what they are going through but they have found meaning in their suffering and make it look easy and that's what you focus on and think they don't suffer..NO..you are deluded.

You can't be married and that marriage will last for 50 to 60 years and above without endurance,both for the man and woman...It's NOT even naturally possible..

When both parties, husband and wife, understand that marriage is a GROWN MAN'S SPORT(definitely not an age matter),you then begin to drop all these childish, irrelevant notions from so called "woke" ignoramuses/society and WORK on your marriage with OCTANE levels of endurance/tolerance knowing that you aren't doing it for personal gain but for the admonition of the next ones coming after you(your kids if you have any or the younger generation)...these Ignorant fellows,both men and women ,breaking their homes these days did NOT get the admonition of their own Parents,Guardians,elders before them ...

Another thing is that Ego has NO PLACE in marriage..Over 99.8% of failed marriages from time immemorial had ego as a major culprit..ego is a byproduct of IGNORANCE and ignorance is "procured" from your environment or place of nuture..

That is why broken/dysfunctional homes produce dysfunctional/internally damaged children that end up producing more broken homes and the vicious cycle continues...the beat goes on..

On NO ACCOUNT must separation or divorce be an option...ON NO ACCOUNT..unless in serious repeated cases of physical /mental abuse.. physical abuse is mostly domestic violence while mental can be severe verbal name calling/insults or an inordinately cheating partner..the words here are REPEATED and INORDINATE...

In mild cases of these happenings,the marriage MUST be worked on by both parties and it will survive ..

Biglittlelois:
Lol the era of "enduring wives" has come to an end, stay if you can manage a cheating partner, leave if you can't.

You are obviously too young to grasp the concept..

A marriage doesn't only fail on grounds of cheating alone..

So what happens when there isn't cheating but repeated domestic violence?

What about no cheating but severe ongoing mental abuse?

Young girl,go and get yourself schooled/prepared if you really want to get married and stay married..

ukaface:

What are you saying?

So men don’t cheat?

He say on the contrary…so Wetin Yul do?

Do you know Yul personally

Or you just spew the one you heard on social media by strange online "inlaws" that know nothing of what really went down

Yes men cheat too..but that isn't what he meant...you just interpreted wrongly..

Friends Jesus Christ loves y'all and he want you to accept him as your personal lord and saviour by giving your life to Christ, believing in him and repenting of your sins.remember tomorrow might be too late. Shalom

There is a difference between a wife material and an olosho material.
Choose widely or marry a free to air wife!

wagzyl:
Sincerely, this warped mentality (my man cheats, I must cheat too. what a man can do, a woman can do better) is the reason why our society especially Southern Nigeria continues to deteriorate massively in the name of being 'educated', 'woke', 'not taking nonsense'. Whether you like it or not, both genders are wired differently. The success of any marriage depends a lot on the maturity of the man and the patience of the woman. I'm not excusing men but this mentality has one and only one outcome, DESTRUCTION of the marriage. The white folks who brought/facilitated this warped mentality have already run down their own societies. They raise feminine men, high rates of divorce, and many more men shying away from marrying altogether. Their women hoe around in their twenties and are left with regrets in their forties, with many taking solace in their cats, dogs and other pets. Their society cannot sustain its own population and their politicians are facilitating immigration at insane levels. Those who fail to learn from the mistakes of others would definitely taste the same cycle of failure. A divorced woman is a money spinning venture (you can research more into their spending habits and the effect of divorce on the black communities in Baltimore, Chicago, etc.) and the children suffer the most.

What more? You divorce your husband for 'cheating' and end up as a side piece to another man in a relationship, most times married. The joke remains on the woman! Those who praise a woman for leaving a loving man whose only downside is cheating (no diseases, no violence and takes great care of his wife and children) are the same people who would quickly fill up her space. These women wont tell you but the truth is that it is only after about four to five relationships after their marriage, that they realize the enormity of the bad decisions that they've made but it's too late. They would then keep posting pictures online, seeking validation from random people to make it seem as though they're happy. If you disagree, it's fine but Jeff Bezos's ex-wife divorced him, remarried one everyday guy (a music or french teacher or so) and guess what? She divorced him again after 2 years. Is she married again now? Oh, you don't need to be married to be happy? Lol.. keep deceiving yourselves. The joke is on you!

Same joke is on , would you rather prefer the woman remains and also cheats on code I bett the joke will be on both of them right, not everyone Is strong to stand a cheating spouse.

Laple0541:
At the end we shall see who will be at the receiving end.

A man can boastfully come out and count the number of women he’d slept with, if a woman tries it, she will be tagged a LovePeddler. Our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers that were patient with their husbands did that not because they were stupid. But they did to respect God’s commands and build better future for their children.

I’m not saying men should be wayward in nature, but the issue is, cutting off the head should never be a solution to migraine.

You are shallow in reasoning go and ask your grandmum if she is still alive, if she was ever happy in her marriage to your granddad then come back and ask your mum.
When a partner cheats it simply means the other partner is not good enough kapish , this is emotionally draining to bear and not everyone wants to go through the drain.

2Radii:
Are u a single mother?? I want to spoil you and service you mercilessly

Spoil yourself and service your broke life

Donake:
Its because established men dont want to take more than one wife. Once men have 4wives anyone can leave.

This copy and paste culture by westernization isnt working here and wont work. Men should get not less than 3wives as two isnt healthy. Get three wives and see the home grow. Everyone would be in a healthy competition.

You mean the wives that nysc boys will help you service , the joke is on you and body go tell you, try ask an NYSC guy was up with married women

The funny thing is that they will most often remain as single mothers and date married men secretly (the same hubris that made you leave your husband in the first case is the same thing you participate in eventually).

We go dey alright las las

Fiscus105:
A married woman who is a graduate, working with her certificate, earnings a good income, knows her rights and supporting husband at home.

There is no way you can subject such wife to the way ,18 century's husbands subjected their wives into.


THIS IS HARD REALITY MODERN DAY's HUSBANDS MUST KNOW AND INCORPORATE INTO THEIR SYSTEMs, IF THEY WANT LASTING AND PEACEFUL MARRIAGES.

Nevertheless, wife must also know that, no civilisation can make husband to play second fiddle in Marriage.

With this, compromise becomes Integra tool that can make Marriage works in 21st century.

Meanwhile, every wife knows that husband likely to cheat, a wise husband would do it discreetly in such a way that, even if wife knows, it would still make their Marriage intact. But foolish would say do ur worse, before you know, a once a beautiful family becomes object of ridicule in the society (Yul Edoche)

franchasofficia:
scared gini?

So long as your wife have given birth for you, I see no reason why any man should panic when his wife divorces him; it gives you the opportunity to replace her with younger hotties

Men only cry about divorce when their wife uses legal proceedings to take all they acquired, which only happens abroad.


Divorce only favor women in western countries where the law give them upper hand in property and investment sharing after divorce. Thank God such don't apply to Nigeria

You mean the hottie that is there for your pocket while also keeping her side piece on code, the joke is all yours to keep

wany:

Spoil yourself and service your broke life

Who give u the impression that I am broke??

Why the ....wait..

Are u a single mother??

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

E concerns us? Wetin person wan take pussy of blood do? Human being are just animal, they are just like animal...in the minimal... For ur information, women should begin to donates blood so that they would stop seeing monthly outflow of blood or is it monthly inflow...?

WorldRichest:
Very good.

Plenty single mothers running after other women's husbands. We are here, no need to run after us, just come to us with your pussssy for servicing.

See the Olosho ex wife in bikini, irresponsible prostitutes.

If you say wetin she got wear or for beach, then show me Ngozi Okonjo-Iwella or Cecelia Ibru's bikini pictures

You dey mind the buffoons?

These mongrels want to destroy the fabric of society with single-parent families that will raise dysfunctional kids and threaten the society in future. My hand no dey.

Those arbitrary wives, they would always do contrary...

Gnosispd:
I still don't understand this: why would you leave your marriage despite having a husband who never abused you, always cared for you and your children, yet you began dating married men after leaving the marriage and now seek public approval.

The day African women come to realize that an average black man is naturally inclined towards polygamy, that's when we'll see more lasting marriages. Conversely, our marital problems began when we started emulating Western lifestyles.

Warp out cry everyone is wired to be free and loose, it's only self-discipline that closes gaps is not gender base.
Work on your community gbola and your marriage will be fine

cococandy:
You’re saying no more red pant and black bra?

Please explain what this means. What do red panties and black bras signify?

Thread full of rubbish posts.

Let it be a thread about a cheating woman and all this praise on cheating will become Lamentations and long sermons against women enjoying the joys of cheating and being the boss at it.

A lot of sick, illogical or outright idiot men on the thread.

BRATISLAVA:


Please explain what this means. What do red panties and black bras signify?

It’s just a funny inside joke from a while back when any woman whose husband cheated was encouraged to stay and try to win him back. She would be advised to pray for him, lose weight, dress sexier in enticing lingerie aka red pants and black bra. I don’t know who decided those were the sexy colors but that appeared to be the consensus then. It was an unhinged period in NL history.

Not that now is better anyway🙄. but the usual culprits who used to give such asinine advice have either rebranded or maybe grown up? I hope it’s the latter

cococandy:


It’s just a funny inside joke from a while back when any woman whose husband cheated was encouraged to stay and try to win him back. She would be advised to pray for him, lose weight, dress sexier in enticing lingerie aka red pants and black bra. I don’t know who decided those were the sexy colors but that appeared to be the consensus then. It was an unhinged period in NL history.
Not that now is better anyway🙄. but the usual culprits who used to give such asinine advice have either rebranded or maybe grown up? I hope it’s the latter

LMAO.

What won't one see on this forum under such topics? I get your reference to the panties now.

There was the prayer until her knees become pachyderm knees era too.

They never grow up, they just find new ways to go about their business. And the business of misogyny never grows old.

wagzyl:



Well, it's a faceless forum so you can insult as you please. I'd have expected you to at least contribute to the conversation intelligently and argue your points with some grace and candour, perhaps you could convince us about your 'selfless' thought process and offer another perspective.

My life is a success and I'm a happily married faithful man. I choose to be that way with pride and grace. My sisters, mom and other women in my family are highly successful and happily married to the glory of God. You can save your pity for the men and women in your life and the pitiable state of your pitiably pitiable bitter soul who cannot make a few sentences online without expressing the state of your family tree.

Spare us.

Women are like this and like that, they should be treated like this and like that, they dare not do this and that.

Then you're giving your last paragraph as if you don't know that all women are like that.

Live your patriarchal life but don't presume to paint it as the only obtainable way to live.

A man is the head of the family and he decides on the lifestyle that he wants for himself.