He already turned her on by saying all those..

..

heartofcity12:
..

This is the tragedy with the female gender. You are supposed to enter into long term relationships or marriage with the person you love.
It's heart breaking and tragic to marry a man you don't love probably for money, social acceptance or other selfish reasons.
I mean this is someone you will grow old with. Its tragic of them. With this mindset it's easy for them to commit adultery since the love is not sincere. No wonder paternity fraud is on the rise.

Philosopher1979:


This is the tragedy with the female gender. You are supposed to enter into long term relationships or marriage with the person you love.
It's heart breaking and tragic to marry a man you don't love probably for money, social acceptance or other selfish reasons.
I mean this is someone you will grow old with. Its tragic of them. With this mindset it's easy for them to commit adultery since the love is not sincere. No wonder paternity fraud is on the rise.

💯

heartofcity12:
Can you just imagine..

Some of the your posts are exaggerated and not really a true reflection of reality. But most are spot on. Like this one

Nothing is more exciting and attractive to a woman than seeing women around you or wanting you.

You can't go wrong from a woman knowing other women desire you.

It's like cocaine to their brain. And they fight to keep you and not lose you.

And it's not even about cheating. It's just a natural instinct to go for something other women want.

That's why it's a HUGE mistake when you stop flirting with other girls when you have a gf

Light casual flirts with female friends, waitresses etc is a fine way to raise her attraction for you

25 maxims for you to have an abundance of women:


---- women are cute, silly creatures and naughty sexual adults at the same time. Don't overreact or take what they do seriously.

Don't overreact to little things. But at the same time, hold her accountable and punish her bad behaviour. It's not a contradiction but a paradox. One that once you understand, you'll have an endless supply of gorgeous women hungry for your dìck


---- Her emotions matter than logic. Use emotional language to stimulate her and get her to do things for you. The more logical you are with women, the worse you'll do.

Understand that what she says is a reflection of her CURRENT emotional state.

She says she loves you? Okay - right now
She says she hates you? Okay - right now


---- Never leave your purpose for women

---- Her words don't matter. Only her actions


---- negative emotion is better than no emotion. Make her feel drama, anger, sadness and jealousy and she'll never leave you


---- women aren't looking to manipulate you. They want to enjoy a satisfying relationship with you.

However, if you make yourself an easy target, she'll exploit you. Like most women would


---- the more Conservative, holy or good she looks or behaves, the wilder her naughty side is.

Every girl is naughty. Even the "good ones" Especially the good ones


---- women want a strong leader not a follower.


---- Never hide your sexuality or willingness to fùck. Women want and love to fùck

They want it just as you do. Show them that you can give it to them and give it.

--- no matter how great things are with a girl, things can go bad fast.

And no matter how much drama she gives, she'll always come around.


---- every girl has a goal (money, Connection, career, sex, stability, children, soft life, party etcs)

As long as you're serving that goal in her life she'll always want you. Sex is one goal majority of women have


---- Over the long term she should be investing into the relationship more than you.

---- She should never completely feel like she "has" you.

The moment she does, she'll look for another challenge


---- women will pretend for various reasons. You should develop intuition to know when she's lying

---- watch your woman's self esteem. Being a bad boy is great but too much of it can trigger her insecurities and send your relationship crashing


--- she doesn't necessarily love you. She loves how you make her feel and how you make her achieve her goals

That is why her goals should be aligned to yours


---- you never really truly know a woman until you've bleeped more than 3 times.

---- she will try to change you or domesticate you. Never let it happen


---- Bleep her first (and fast) date her later

--- hook up material >>> Bf material >>> husband material.

--- there's no point a woman's drama or testing is ever over. It will continue till the day you die


---- her past matters. But not mostly her body count.

If she has cheated before, she's more than likely to cheat again (even if she's a virgin)

---- Sex is a glue. Fùck your woman well

---- too many male friends mean too many hands in the soup

Martinez39s:
Using style to change the issue of discussion to give yourself an escape doesn't fly. Stop wasting your time.

A man who has a sexual past is not doing anything amiss or being hypocritical when he wifes a nonvirgin. His past doesn't matter, and women and men are not the same. Get this through your dense skull.

Finally, redpillers unashamedly want virgins and there is nothing you can do about it. Once again, stop wasting your time and energy. Sit your ass down.

See those fellas saying "if you want to marry a virgin woman as a man, you should also be a virgin..."

Basically, they are saying, Only virgin men should worry about marrying virgin women.

To be honest, they seem to be almost making a good argument...but unfortunately it's an unrealistic one.

I have never in my life met a woman who wish she find and marry a Man who's still a virgin. Any woman who says she wants a male virgin is only just catching cruise.

Please, don't get me wrong fellas: There's literally nothing wrong with being a virgin as a man. It's actually a good thing as long as it's by choice...

But realistically, women don't really care for a virgin man. Infact, to most women, being a virgin as an adult Man subconsciously convey to women that you have no attractive value... Unless she sees that it's by choice: i.e you are getting lots of greenlight from women but you are intentionally ignoring the women.

Women know they are the gate keeper of sex, so an Adult male who's still a Virgin (not by choice) is a sign that he doesn't have the qualities or value that'll get women to open the gate of sex.


But a woman who has high body count is a sign that she has low value and standards.


Men are NOT the gate keeper of sex. So a man who has high body count is a sign that he has high value and standards


I could remember one time I playfully lied to this cute girl I'm still a virgin. Immediately, I could see the disappointed look in her eyes. She wasn't really feeling that at all.

Although, she didn't believe me. She said, "unbelievable! You can't still be a virgin."

I said, "why?"

She said, " From the way you talk and behave, you look like those players that sleeps with different girls."

And that's it. The very fact that I behave like a Playboy that bleeps lots of girls is the very reason why she's attracted to me.

If I looked like a naive simping Virgin boy in her eyes, she wouldn't even be talking to me...unless she wants to exploit me.

I have seen many men write the list of all the qualities they wish their dream woman will have... A virgin woman (or at the very least, a woman who is not sexually lose) is almost always on the list. This is not coincidental: it's an instinctive desire.

This is because there are lots of "hidden" great benefits of marrying a female virgin.

Even God himself didn't give a shit if Joseph the carpenter was a Virgin or not, but God made sure Mary was still a Virgin. He made sure his son, Jesus, came to the earth through a female virgin.... E get why!

If God your Creator prefers a female Virgin , then who are you?

No, seriously, who are you?

Biofil84:
Sincerely studying Ubunja's write up (miseducation) as well as Charles ineji write up ( bang rule & Advance bang rule ) as well as dedicating my time to this thread and practising them have really changed my life positively.

Not just with women but every area of life ...I want to thank all who have contributed to this thread positively...

Please can you do me the favour of mentioning me on bang rule & advance bang rule thread?

Thanks in anticipation.

wahaladondey:
Hey men, I need y’all input. I’ve been talking with this girl for a while and she likes me (very obviously), now the problem is I’m a very socially restrained kind of guy so I consciously avoid the sex topic, I want to ask her out but I want to Bleep her first or at least get sexual with her. How do I go about infusing sexuality in our normal daily conversations?

Pukkalolo
Rizzputin
Caveadullam
Ubunja
Karlifate

And every other senior men on this thread, good morning.

Simple.

When the sex topic comes up, don't avoid it. Just stay with it. Be calm... share your thoughts and opinions in a chill, confident way

Ask about hers too. While talking with her.... picture yourself fùcking her. And let that sexual energy move through your body. Embrace it. As the interaction proceeds, she'll feel the energy and get turned on

Be bold to make moves on her. You have to understand that women LOVE sex.

She's been dying for you to get sexual with her and bang her.

When you do this, she'll test you. Remain calm, don't overreact. For me, I ignore most shìt test with a smirk

A woman testing is her natural inclination to love tension. That's why she loves drama. That's why they love sneaky sex. That's why they love threesomes and fùcking in public places

So she will want to put you under tension with testing & drama to see how you react.

Act offended or reactive and she'll think your weak and leave. Remain calm and her attention increases.

So to recap, talk about sex with her in a calm chill way. Don't laughing and giggling like a girl. Just talk about it comfortably. Tell her you love sex and how passionate it is. But that you love sex with a special kind of woman. If she asks you what that kind of woman is just tell her " you find out later" with a smirk


Do not attempt to hide your sexual desire. But don't be desperate.

The reason women lust after me is because my sexual desire rubs off on them.

So allow yours to come out but don't be desperate about it.

Many guys have asked me about this. Seems getting things sexual is a common problem from guys.

Later, I'll pen a comprehensive guide on it. But this should be helpful for you

The Nairaland thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/8082484/wofai-fadas-in-laws-reject-marriage



Taiwo Cole has been pussy whipped by this post wall masturbator.

Engr Kunle Cole do not want his bloodline to be corrupted.

heartofcity12:
Agreed

If she's on and off,she just wanna play you.

It's as simple as that.

Reel you in ,get you to invest more then go for the kill.

Women are really vicious 😅

Rizzputin:


Simple.

When the sex topic comes up, don't avoid it. Just stay with it. Be calm... share your thoughts and opinions in a chill, confident way

Ask about hers too. While talking with her.... picture yourself fùcking her. And let that sexual energy move through your body. Embrace it. As the interaction proceeds, she'll feel the energy and get turned on

Be bold to make moves on her. You have to understand that women LOVE sex.

She's been dying for you to get sexual with her and bang her.

When you do this, she'll test you. Remain calm, don't overreact. For me, I ignore most shìt test with a smirk

A woman testing is her natural inclination to love tension. That's why she loves drama. That's why they love sneaky sex. That's why they love threesomes and fùcking in public places

So she will want to put you under tension with testing & drama to see how you react.

Act offended or reactive and she'll think your weak and leave. Remain calm and her attention increases.

So to recap, talk about sex with her in a calm chill way. Don't laughing and giggling like a girl. Just talk about it comfortably. Tell her you love sex and how passionate it is. But that you love sex with a special kind of woman. If she asks you what that kind of woman is just tell her " you find out later" with a smirk


Do not attempt to hide your sexual desire. But don't be desperate.

The reason women lust after me is because my sexual desire rubs off on them.

So allow yours to come out but don't be desperate about it.

Many guys have asked me about this. Seems getting things sexual is a common problem from guys.

Later, I'll pen a comprehensive guide on it. But this should be helpful for you

Young man you are harnessing sexual energy which us a basic crude but powerful energy of the universe, humanity and human relations. Its present in every human being. Thats all. I'm not good in the details anyway.

However, try and encourage youths to go into something that will develop them. Entrepreneurial skills, intellectual development etc. No be everything be sex. Woman etc. We all know sex is innate to everybody male or female. But then, there is more to life than having sex.
Teach young men more useful things. How to be succesful and respected in society. How to harness your talents etc

Smartb0y:


If she's on and off,she just wanna play you.

It's as simple as that.

Reel you in ,get you to invest more then go for the kill.

Women are really vicious 😅

Exactly 💯.. It’s just as simple as this. This is why I laugh when I see some ppl write epistles here on how to bend this things, they claim it’s not black and white, I laugh 😆

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Philosopher1979:


Young man you are harnessing sexual energy which us a basic crude but powerful energy of the universe, humanity and human relations. Its present in every human being. Thats all. I'm not good in the details anyway.

However, try and encourage youths to go into something that will develop them. Entrepreneurial skills, intellectual development etc. No be everything be sex. Woman etc. We all know sex is innate to everybody male or female. But then, there is more to life than having sex.
Teach young men more useful things. How to be succesful and respected in society. How to harness your talents etc

Yes it is powerful. Very powerful. Sexual energy exists in everyone.

But it goes beyond just harnessing it... it's has to be refined, channeled and displayed in a way that it can wake up a woman's sexual desire for you

It something that takes practice, experience and skill to know how to do.

Now, regarding your stuff about entrepreneurship... I'd like to remind you that my primary goal is making men better at handling women. And to give men the choice and opportunity to have wonderful, beautiful, stimulating relationships with women that serve their goals

If you do things the way I teach them, women will be a compliment to your life. They will help and support you in your purpose. Few things are as powerful as a woman riding for you and supporting. She will go all out to please you

In a world where about half of the population are women, it is delusional to not learn how to handle or deal with them.

You seem to underestimate how many men are clueless and lost with women. Even a large majority of red pillers are clueless with women (always trying to play defensive and thinking women are out to get them)... Not to talk of average guys who aren't privileged to know this


So you make all the money, get all the status... then what? You pick the wrong woman. And everything comes crashing down. This happens regularly. I've had men write me to tell me how one woman or the other finished them

And most of them are just basic stuff they could have handled.

While there's a place for business etc... there's a rightful and we'll deserved place for seduction and sex. No two ways about it.

It's even harder to learn about women when you're successful because you become a target for fake love and gold digging. If you're inexperienced, you will fumble massively.

I have rich, successful guys that are completely clueless with women. These men are even willing pay thousands so I can teach them. Something they could have learnt for free back then by interacting with women.

Seduction and sex is an area I specialise in because I have extensive experience in. That's why I talk about it

If you have other areas of male development you talk about, share it. But don't discourage men who are looking to develop their relationship life


EDIT:

Also, if you go through my posts you'll notice one where I gave a guy that had his mental health messed up by a "Drama Diva"

Those girls are very common now with Gen z. The guy has already made a huge mistake with that girl. And will most likely pay for it in future whe the girl comes for him after he's successful

Learning how to deal with those girls and other categories of girls will be beneficial to any man

Smartb0y:


If she's on and off,she just wanna play you.

It's as simple as that.

Reel you in ,get you to invest more then go for the kill.

Women are really vicious 😅

I disagree.

This is one of the many misconceptions in the men's community.

The tendency of making black and white arguments: "If it's not this extreme then it's the other extreme"

If a girl is OBVIOUSLY playing games with you then she's interested and likes you.

I'm sure you've probably had this experience before (like every other guy). You're texting or vibing with a girl and she's just going hot and cold with you. You tell yourself that this one is just shakara because of how obvious she's making it.

Whenever you see something like that, just know the girl is interested

Do you think men are the only one that read stuff online on how to get better women?

Women do the same. In fact "mixed signals" is a common tactic used to get people attracted from both genders.

Once you see a girl doing that it means she's shown her cards that she likes you. So she wants to try and get you interested as well. That way it won't feel one sided.

Some other girls will love bomb you as tactic. Some will offer sex. Some will be submissive. Etc

If you've had enough experience, you will know different girls have different tactics to get a guy interested In them when they've shown all their cards.

The main thing is HOW you respond to these mixed signals. If you chase or get angry or get rude... you've failed.


Another reason why a girl sends mixed signals is that something about how you're seducing is making her unsure about you.

Remember confusion is anti seductive. Mystery is sexy but not confusion. Most guys in their aim to stay mysterious end up confusing the girl.

If a girl is confused about you, she'll throw mixed signals so you can reveal yourself a bit more and she can understand you better.

Yes, mixed signals CAN be a sign she's playing with you. But there are many cases where it's not the case

heartofcity12:
Apt 💯, it’s genuine high interest or nothing.. #trp

This is why one must be filter who you give your attention to. Your attention,most times,is your currency. Spend it wisely on things that will benefit you first before any other thing. Most women can't stay without craving for men attention.

lymelyte:
This is why one must be filter who you give your attention to. Your attention,most times,is your currency. Spend it wisely on things that will benefit you first before any other thing. Most women can't stay without craving for men attention.

💯

Tell her 👍

TRP

Facts #trp

heartofcity12:
No lie told

This is correct.
This is why I don't answer this kind of question.

Tonnyray:
We become what we behold
-William Blake
The only things you ever behold are harlots, simps and divorcees.
May Light locate you.

That's a big issue with the redpill and the manosphere in general. Too much attention is given to harlots, simps, weak men and weak women.

Men and women don't think or process thoughts the same way.

Don't make the mistake of thinking when a woman gives you mixed signals she wants you.

That's a recipe for disaster.

Once her pussy is tingling for you, she won't be able to rest,she just wants to be around you. No time for unnecessary games.

There's a miseducation of Ubunja that delved deep into this. Check it out

Her heart and her pussy are two different entities.

If her heart wants you,she can still play you.
If her pussy wants you,no time for games.

All roads will eventually lead to sex.

So understand this,if she's thinking with head(heart), she'll likely shit test you to eternity.
https://www.nairaland.com/4949684/ubunjas-miseducation-woman-2-hearts

Philosopher1979:


Someone said it that women have the tendency not to evolve beyond their sexuality. It traps them and underdevelops their mind.

If we men understood that girls are people like us with problems we will not place them on the pedestal simps place them

Your second paragraph explains it all. But let me add to it

Let's think of it. Let's assume you are a baker. And you bake three snacks. Cake, meat pie, sausage...

You start marketing them. But you notice that the market seem to value the Cake more than the other snacks. You seemed to be making shit load of money from selling the cake, but nobody seem to be buying the other snacks... Infact you were making losses from the meat pie and sausage.

So logically, you decided to start marketing and advertising mainly the cake... And as expected, you cash out very well on it...

But then one random person on the internet observe this and said: "this baker have the tendency not to evolve beyond selling cake. It traps him and underdevelops his business potentials..."

He might be right, but duh! You don't give shit about what he said because you are steadily cashing out on the cake.

Business isn't about giving the market what you want; it's giving the market what the market want.

Same with women: the typical young woman have three products to sell: her personality, her achievement, her sexuality.

But unfortunately, she noticed that the market(men) don't really (initially) care much for her personality and her achievement. Rather the market(men) place more million dollar value on her sexuality and are willing to pay huge to acquire it. So she decided to market and advertise her sexuality more because she's making shit load of money from it.

But some dude, I guess a redpiller, then say, "this woman have the tendency not to evolve beyond their sexuality."

Well, he's right, but duh! She's making shit load of money from her sexuality, so she doesn't give a damn.

As guys we need to be honest with ourselves. If we truly want a woman to evolve beyond her sexuality, the market(men) should first evolve beyond her sexuality, and stop placing it on pedestal.

This why I always preach that men should stop being pussy(sexuality) focused. It's crazy how some guys still argue with me on that.

If we stop being sexuality focused, women will be forced to evolve beyond her sexuality.

THE CHANGE BEGINS WITH US AS MEN.

Pukkalolo:
Your second paragraph explains it all. But let me add to it

Let's think of it. Let's assume you are a baker. And you bake three snacks. Cake, meat pie, sausage...

You start marketing them. But you notice that the market seem to value the Cake more than the other snacks. You seemed to be making shit load of money from selling the cake, but nobody seem to be buying the other snacks... Infact you were making losses from the meat pie and sausage.

So logically, you decided to start marketing and advertising mainly the cake... And as expected, you cash out very well on it...

But then one random person on the internet observe this and said: "this baker have the tendency not to evolve beyond selling cake. It traps him and underdevelops his business potentials..."

He might be right, but duh! You don't give shit about what he said because you are steadily cashing out on the cake.

Business isn't about giving the market what you want; it's giving the market what the market want.

Same with women: the typical young woman have three products to sell: her personality, her achievement, her sexuality.

But unfortunately, she noticed that the market(men) don't really (initially) care much for her personality and her achievement. Rather the market(men) place more million dollar value on her sexuality and are willing to pay huge to acquire it. So she decided to market and advertise her sexuality more because she's making shit load of money from it.

But some dude, I guess a redpiller, then say, "this woman have the tendency not to evolve beyond their sexuality."

Well, he's right, but duh! She's making shit load of money from her sexuality, so she doesn't give a damn.

As guys we need to be honest with ourselves. If we truly want a woman to evolve beyond her sexuality, the market (men) should first evolve beyond her sexuality, and stop placing it on pedestal.

This why I always preach that men should stop being pussy(sexuality) focused. It's crazy how some guys still argue with me on that.

If we stop being sexuality focused, women will be forced to evolve beyond her sexuality.

THE CHANGE BEGINS WITH US AS MEN.

You have sense.

Pukkalolo:



Your second paragraph explains it all. But let me add to it

Let's think of it. Let's assume you are a baker. And you bake three snacks. Cake, meat pie, sausage...

You start marketing them. But you notice that the market seem to value the Cake more than the other snacks. You seemed to be making shit load of money from selling the cake, but nobody seem to be buying the other snacks... Infact you were making losses from the meat pie and sausage.

So logically, you decided to start marketing and advertising mainly the cake... And as expected, you cash out very well on it...

But then one random person on the internet observe this and said: "this baker have the tendency not to evolve beyond selling cake. It traps him and underdevelops his business potentials..."

He might be right, but duh! You don't give shit about what he said because you are steadily cashing out on the cake.

Business isn't about giving the market what you want; it's giving the market what the market want.

Same with women: the typical young woman have three products to sell: her personality, her achievement, her sexuality.

But unfortunately, she noticed that the market(men) don't really (initially) care much for her personality and her achievement. Rather the market(men) place more million dollar value on her sexuality and are willing to pay huge to acquire it. So she decided to market and advertise her sexuality more because she's making shit load of money from it.

But some dude, I guess a redpiller, then say, "this woman have the tendency not to evolve beyond their sexuality."

Well, he's right, but duh! She's making shit load of money from her sexuality, so she doesn't give a damn.

As guys we need to be honest with ourselves. If we truly want a woman to evolve beyond her sexuality, the market(men) should first evolve beyond her sexuality, and stop placing it on pedestal.

This why I always preach that men should stop being pussy(sexuality) focused. It's crazy how some guys still argue with me on that.

If we stop being sexuality focused, women will be forced to evolve beyond her sexuality.

THE CHANGE BEGINS WITH US AS MEN.

You made sense in your illustration and I must say that your copywriting skill is top notch . Not so many men on this thread can counter you, because you sound so perfect.

One thing is to understand the red pill , and another thing is to understand the game . You made a good illustration of the red pill through the snack . But a game of not being focus on pussy, is actually a weak game to approach women in the context of your illustration

My advice to you :
You see that aspect of not being pussy focus In your dating ideology must be corrected.

I understand that before anyone would wake up and write a book , he must have been so convinced about his ideology on dating and consider it worthy to market . He sees it as a way to help other people. It doesn't matter whether they pay for it or for free , the value must be shared .

See.... Being pussy focus or not , you can get sex. No strategy special. In dating, you can do the opposite of your game and still get same result. For instance: you can spend on girls and end up not getting laid , you can decide to claim the alpha of not spending on women and up not getting laid, vice Versa.

Whatever that work here might not work when you apply the opposite . For instance: You might decide not to be pussy focus and still not get laid and you can be pussy focus and still get laid . Many road leads to sex . No one is special.

If ," not being pussy " is the best game you come up with after all your experiences and knowledge acquired from dating arena , then you need to open your mind to various aspect of approach in dating, to make your book a great one . Your experience is too limited to cover so many things in dating. You need more experience.

Rizzputin:


Simple.

When the sex topic comes up, don't avoid it. Just stay with it. Be calm... share your thoughts and opinions in a chill, confident way

Ask about hers too. While talking with her.... picture yourself fùcking her. And let that sexual energy move through your body. Embrace it. As the interaction proceeds, she'll feel the energy and get turned on

Be bold to make moves on her. You have to understand that women LOVE sex.

She's been dying for you to get sexual with her and bang her.

When you do this, she'll test you. Remain calm, don't overreact. For me, I ignore most shìt test with a smirk

A woman testing is her natural inclination to love tension. That's why she loves drama. That's why they love sneaky sex. That's why they love threesomes and fùcking in public places

So she will want to put you under tension with testing & drama to see how you react.

Act offended or reactive and she'll think your weak and leave. Remain calm and her attention increases.

So to recap, talk about sex with her in a calm chill way. Don't laughing and giggling like a girl. Just talk about it comfortably. Tell her you love sex and how passionate it is. But that you love sex with a special kind of woman. If she asks you what that kind of woman is just tell her " you find out later" with a smirk


Do not attempt to hide your sexual desire. But don't be desperate.

The reason women lust after me is because my sexual desire rubs off on them.

So allow yours to come out but don't be desperate about it.

Many guys have asked me about this. Seems getting things sexual is a common problem from guys.

Later, I'll pen a comprehensive guide on it. But this should be helpful for you

what happens when you're desperate?
A woman once said I am.

CuteNbad:
what happens when you're desperate?
A woman once said I am.

That is her own definition of desperation. She only wanted to guilt-trip you . If you fall for that , your luck .

A woman will tell one man he is desperate, while being angry with another for not making sexual moves on time .

If you cannot define your reason of approaching a girl and stand by it, you will likely fall for her game ( she will guilt-trip you , even if you ain't desperate)