I'm a lady, almost in my thirties now. I have a mother who is very godly , if not over godly (she claims after God is Jesus christ, then after Jesus christ is her) p.s , shes a pastor.
She believes she does nothing wrong and incapable of offending anyone.

She and my dad used to fight alot when he was alive, to the point that she left the house on various occasions with us to go live somewhere else, later we would come back , when they fight we would leave again and the cycle continued several times affecting I and my siblings education. I used to think my dad was the bad person(that was what she made us believe). She painted all bad pictures of him and his family to us, this has today caused a gap between we and our fathers family since theres no relationship whatsoever .

Even with her own family right now, shes at war with them. My cousin died three weeks ago and I know we're not at speaking terms with them but my mum showed no sign of sadness, all she said was that one of her enemies has died.

Even members of her church dont stay with her ip to a year at least. People are always coming and going, she talks to someone anyhow in church, insinuate things about them and paste it on them. There was lady who just left. She sufferd emotional abuse from my mum a lot. The lady is a gullible type and always succumbs to what my mum says. Worst part of it is that my mum always uses her sin to condemn her each time she feels the lady has offended her. This lady will be crying most of the time and I'll be like she's a fool, already she has a choice, me and my siblings dont. That's how this lady beared and beared saying she want to obey God ( my mum), so her life will be okay until one day she cut all of us off including my mum, she spent want to speak to her again.


Now to my own personal story. I'm the third child , I learnt to live with this character from my mum but as I grow older , it just keeps getting on my nerves. I cant make decisions for my self because I have to obey God (my mum) . I can't have any friends, she said all my friends are possessed that she doesnt want to see them In her house. One of my friends even lost her mother due to stroke, I knew the mum at the time she was sick, so it was something that made me cry, when I told my mum she said she's a witch that it's good that she died. My elder sister doesnt talk to her till date based on how she treated her. My elder brother had to sneak away from the house just to have peace of mind.

She doesnt know how to tolerate people/us or overlook our actions sometimes, everything she must talk. There was a day when she started at me, saying things I have never imagined, justifying it with the fact that shes a pastor who sees all things. I only tried to explain myself, she started beating me which I told her to leave me alone, next thing she injured me on my eyes , blood flowed that moment, I thought I was going to go blind but thank God. Several times she has physically abuse me and mostly it is saying things that can make me commit suicide. She has no iota of respect for her children. This is the woman I give almost half of my salary everything, making me not to take care of myself as i should. When she feels that I have paid, she'll start thinking i dont want to give her money, she'll say I must give her, that shes the one that trained me to read and write( lies! My own education was entirely my dad's doing. And I'm even a sec school cert owner, not like she trained me to university level) . I sha wont have peace for those days. Still yet she wont respect me. She acts like this to all my younger ones but my own case is worse. I've depressed because of her, I got so thin and she was still the one laughing at me again, she said shes ashamed of me that I look so unattractive, and compared me to my younger sister back then. The more I stay with her, the more I become bitter towards her. Now I'm not saying shes overall rude, she has her good times, when she all okay and tries to provide but she makes it important that we must have issue at least once every week and its affecting my mental health.

The one that happened of recent is that in church on sunday, she left what God asked her to preach and started comparing me with one of her member mocking the clothe I put on(this Is something I've been wearing in her eyes, she called me a old woman and all the members were laughing at me openly, then she told them I was going to cry, where I sat I was just boiling, i has to walk out of service that day. If i dress fine she'll complain, if i dont she'll compare, i just wanted to look simple that day. She really offended me that day cos i cant get that laughter off my mind, now shes expecting me to come kneel down and beg her(for what?!) She refused to talk to me since that dsy, she travelled, she calls all my younger ones and they pass the phone to each other but she doesnt want to talk to me, me too I dont want to call her, I dont know how to pretend cos shes the one who offended me. I dont know If I can ever enter her church again cos I'm so ashamed of myself.

I plan to get work on the island and I'll find a friend who I can squat with, so I can leave her house for her for my mental health sake and so I can take care of myself. I would have left since, but because of what society will say about me being a lady not in her parents house. I dont think I care anymore


Sorry for the epistle, if I should go on and on you might read for three days straight. Thanks

I pray God gives you your desired job
..
Pack out

Live your life independently

duduade:


I pray God gives you your desired job
..
Pack out

Live your life independently

I pray so too
Thanks

Take that step to leave that home and see better times in your life ahead.

Your mother is sick and hides under religion to cover her mental state.

Don't give in to her theatrics again, stand up to her and walk away

CarlosTheJackal:
Take that step to leave that home and see better times in your life ahead.

Your mother is sick and hides under religion to cover her mental state.

Don't give in to her theatrics again, stand up to her and walk away

That's what I intend on doing.
I'm not planning to be wayward or whatever, I just want to experience peace of mind for now
Thank you

Hannn:
I'm a lady, almost in my thirties now. I have a mother who is very godly , if not over godly (she claims after God is Jesus christ, then after Jesus christ is her) p.s , shes a pastor.
She believes she does nothing wrong and incapable of offending anyone.

She and my dad used to fight alot when he was alive, to the point that she left the house on various occasions with us to go live somewhere else, later we would come back , when they fight we would leave again and the cycle continued several times affecting I and my siblings education. I used to think my dad was the bad person(that was what she made us believe). She painted all bad pictures of him and his family to us, this has today caused a gap between we and our fathers family since theres no relationship whatsoever .

Even with her own family right now, shes at war with them. My cousin died three weeks ago and I know we're not at speaking terms with them but my mum showed no sign of sadness, all she said was that one of her enemies has died.

Even members of her church dont stay with her ip to a year at least. People are always coming and going, she talks to someone anyhow in church, insinuate things about them and paste it on them. There was lady who just left. She sufferd emotional abuse from my mum a lot. The lady is a gullible type and always succumbs to what my mum says. Worst part of it is that my mum always uses her sin to condemn her each time she feels the lady has offended her. This lady will be crying most of the time and I'll be like she's a fool, already she has a choice, me and my siblings dont. That's how this lady beared and beared saying she want to obey God ( my mum), so her life will be okay until one day she cut all of us off including my mum, she spent want to speak to her again.


Now to my own personal story. I'm the third child , I learnt to live with this character from my mum but as I grow older , it just keeps getting on my nerves. I cant make decisions for my self because I have to obey God (my mum) . I can't have any friends, she said all my friends are possessed that she doesnt want to see them In her house. One of my friends even lost her mother due to stroke, I knew the mum at the time she was sick, so it was something that made me cry, when I told my mum she said she's a witch that it's good that she died. My elder sister doesnt talk to her till date based on how she treated her. My elder brother had to sneak away from the house just to have peace of mind.

She doesnt know how to tolerate people/us or overlook our actions sometimes, everything she must talk. There was a day when she started at me, saying things I have never imagined, justifying it with the fact that shes a pastor who sees all things. I only tried to explain myself, she started beating me which I told her to leave me alone, next thing she injured me on my eyes , blood flowed that moment, I thought I was going to go blind but thank God. Several times she has physically abuse me and mostly it is saying things that can make me commit suicide. She has no iota of respect for her children. This is the woman I give almost half of my salary everything, making me not to take care of myself as i should. When she feels that I have paid, she'll start thinking i dont want to give her money, she'll say I must give her, that shes the one that trained me to read and write( lies! My own education was entirely my dad's doing. And I'm even a sec school cert owner, not like she trained me to university level) . I sha wont have peace for those days. Still yet she wont respect me. She acts like this to all my younger ones but my own case is worse. I've depressed because of her, I got so thin and she was still the one laughing at me again, she said shes ashamed of me that I look so unattractive, and compared me to my younger sister back then. The more I stay with her, the more I become bitter towards her. Now I'm not saying shes overall rude, she has her good times, when she all okay and tries to provide but she makes it important that we must have issue at least once every week and its affecting my mental health.

The one that happened of recent is that in church on sunday, she left what God asked her to preach and started comparing me with one of her member mocking the clothe I put on(this Is something I've been wearing in her eyes, she called me a old woman and all the members were laughing at me openly, then she told them I was going to cry, where I sat I was just boiling, i has to walk out of service that day. If i dress fine she'll complain, if i dont she'll compare, i just wanted to look simple that day. She really offended me that day cos i cant get that laughter off my mind, now shes expecting me to come kneel down and beg her(for what?!) She refused to talk to me since that dsy, she travelled, she calls all my younger ones and they pass the phone to each other but she doesnt want to talk to me, me too I dont want to call her, I dont know how to pretend cos shes the one who offended me. I dont know If I can ever enter her church again cos I'm so ashamed of myself.

I plan to get work on the island and I'll find a friend who I can squat with, so I can leave her house for her for my mental health sake and so I can take care of myself. I would have left since, but because of what society will say about me being a lady not in her parents house. I dont think I care anymore


Sorry for the epistle, if I should go on and on you might read for three days straight. Thanks

I think say na only my Mama oh!
When people say they love their mum and celebrate them on social media it's so strange to me because I can't relate.
My mum is a religious Fanatic and Bigot just like yours
She claims to hear directly from holy Spirit, accuses everyone of witchcraft, can't live peacefully with anybody not even one friend.
The woman is just impossible

One EreluRoz will soon come and tell us that this too is the nature of women.

I'm glad you've come to the realization that your father wasn't the problem.
So many other children aren't that lucky and thus spend their entire lives accusing the wrong person.
What you and your siblings are experiencing now is just an iceberg of what your dad passed through in the hands of that woman.
It's unfortunate he died with that burden of accusation and i wish his soul a perfect rest in eternity.

As for you, the best decision will be to leave her house, irrespective of the consequences..
After all, it's your fellow woman that said ''if i perish, i perish'' in the Bible.
So, there's nothing to be afraid of.

Hey chap My advice for you is to do what makes you happy. Imagine having a mother who act like Patience ozokwor, you will understand why you must fear Igbo women.



IRMC

If all you typed is the truth, you need to move out ASAP.

Hollybratt:
Hey chap My advice for you is to do what makes you happy. Imagine having a mother who act like Patience ozokwor, you will understand why you must fear Igbo women.
IRMC

I didn't see where the Op mention her ethnicity

Why are some of you so useless that all you amount to is ethnic bickering and bantering

Sorry to say but your mum has a big problem and needs serious deliverance. For your sanity's sake move out of that house asap and go get your life in order, she will be the one looking for you later.

See evil mama; Devil in the church!

ChybuzzDD:


I didn't see where the Op mention her ethnicity

Why are some of you so useless that all you amount to is ethnic bickering and bantering

We know them na! .

But he actually did not say anything ethnic based just pointing out what we all see that lots of ibo mothers do this wickedness.

This same exact story has been posted before.

Your mum is a narcissist and leaving her house is the best if you are above 18 years and you can afford it. Stop worrying about societal opinion about you living alone because nobody feels the pain in you.

You need to do the following:

1. Stop giving your mom money
2. Start taking care of yourself
3. Planning to leave home without telling her
4. Leaving home and refusing to talk to her.
5. Feeling happier
6. Reconnecting with your father's family.

Your mother is the definition of an evil woman. She will never ever change. Being with her will destroy you or anyone else who associate with her.

Run and never turn back.

Hannn:
I'm a lady, almost in my thirties now. I have a mother who is very godly , if not over godly (she claims after God is Jesus christ, then after Jesus christ is her) p.s , shes a pastor.
She

Sorry for the epistle, if I should go on and on you might read for three days straight. Thanks

your mother is mentally deranged.

You need to leave so you don’t end up like her. You are almost in your 30s, you have a lot ahead of you, try to get a stable job, build a family and live your life out of that kind of stress. My dad used to be like that too, as I grew older, I was bold to let him know what to say and what not to say. It’s like an oppressor, if you don’t stand up to them strongly and maybe politely, you’ll continue to be the victim. You can visit her once a while

Omo this is strong oo

Starts looking for means to leave


No time to check time o

DonBenny77:

I think say na only my Mama oh!
When people say they love their mum and celebrate them on social media it's so strange to me because I can't relate.
My mum is a religious Fanatic and Bigot just like yours
She claims to hear directly from holy Spirit, accuses everyone of witchcraft, can't live peacefully with anybody not even one friend.
The woman is just impossible

I just pity for my younger brother and their future wives. My brothers think its normal

StillDtruth:


We know them na! .

But he actually did not say anything ethnic based just pointing out what we all see that lots of ibo mothers do this wickedness.

Shes from edo. Not igbo

Hannn:


Shes from edo. Not igbo

Ok. That is another group of wicked people and they behave just like the ibos too..

So, let me herein state that this wickedness is seen in all tribes whether deltan o or yoruba or efik or nupe.

Oh darling!
Your mum needs help, she is exhibiting psychopathic traits.
It's so unfortunate that she hides under the umbrella of "religion".
As for you and your affected siblings, you need space and healing through forgiveness and counseling.

There is nobody I cannot kick to the kerb,if you become a stumbling block in my life,then you are a goner,I just delete you from my life and move on.

know evil mama; Devil in the church! ... Please, need help with your academic papers? Contact us.

DonBenny77:

I think say na only my Mama oh!
When people say they love their mum and celebrate them on social media it's so strange to me because I can't relate.
My mum is a religious Fanatic and Bigot just like yours
She claims to hear directly from holy Spirit, accuses everyone of witchcraft, can't live peacefully with anybody not even one friend.
The woman is just impossible

A lot of women are on this boat, nothing you say to them that will make them see reasons with you absolutely nothing.

Mental health issue.

The truth is , your mom has a mental health issue. I can imagine what your dad(her husband) went through from her hands before going to rest.

Using religious to cover it makes it difficult for you people to see. Since we have respect for anything with God attachment. If she is taking to a psychiatrist specialist, she will be given a bed. Which sane woman mock her child on the altar. Which woman of God rejoices that some one dies , which normal human being keep making everyone enemy?

Having said that, you have one single option, that is , be in control of your happiness. Leave her alone, relocate and stop being under her control. Go and leave your life, improve your education and settle down. You owe yourself that fulfilment.

StillDtruth:


We know them na! .

But he actually did not say anything ethnic based just pointing out what we all see that lots of ibo mothers do this wickedness.

You bigots will always give reasons to support your bigotry, really ashamed of your thought process.

StillDtruth:


Ok. That is another group of wicked people and they behave just like the ibos too..

So, let me herein state that this wickedness is seen in all tribes whether deltan o or yoruba or efik or nupe.

Stop this rubbish ethnic colouration Mr. Bigot.

Why didn't you mention your ethnic group? You are sick

I have a lot to say but but but
(Tears rolling down my cheeks)

StillDtruth:


We know them na! .

But he actually did not say anything ethnic based just pointing out what we all see that lots of ibo mothers do this wickedness.

Tribal Zombie

StillDtruth:


We know them na! .

But he actually did not say anything ethnic based just pointing out what we all see that lots of ibo mothers do this wickedness.

Nairaland mods will not see this tribal zombie to block, but if it's something important or someone want to sell a product or services they will rush to block the person. Fvck Nairaland moderators for not doing their jobs properly. Fvck all of them including seun. .

Nairaland mods enables tribalism.
Oya ban me.

Hollybratt:
Hey chap My advice for you is to do what makes you happy. Imagine having a mother who act like Patience ozokwor, you will understand why you must fear Igbo women.



IRMC

If you see this my post. Please take a second to click the report button to ban this tribal mother fuvcker