LaRosa01:
no custom dey like that,the wife has planned with her brothers to extort him.men are weak this days if na me,I tell the brother and wife to f off.them go beg you later and you no go gree for atlist 6 months but know that woman is a snake

Dogalmighty17:
Tell them to f(u)ck off. If she won't return home let them keep her. I don't know why we still practice such useless and barbaric norms.
You don't have a wife. What you have is an agent of backwardness that will impede your progress in life. If she doesn't want to return home, celebrate and thank God.
If your in-laws get you to bend now, they will use your eye see shege.

immortalcrown:
Is the marriage legally-instituted? If not, forget about taking a legal action.

After all, how will you fund the legal step as you have no money to settle your in-laws?

Remain patient and peaceful in the matter.

SINisSIN:
You are worrying over nothing and unfortunately, your wife is not reasonable at all. Tell them to keep them.

Something of this happened when we newly married, my wife and our kids went to their family house for Xmas and after like 2 weeks, she still not planning when they will be returning home.

Exactly three weeks, I called her babe if by 5pm tmwr, you are not back to this house with our kids, just continue your stay in your mama house.

Mother in law called me, what is it now? Why are you threatening your wife. I said you can keep her ma.

You can guess who was at the door as early as 10am the following day.

SINisSIN:
You are worrying over nothing and unfortunately, your wife is not reasonable at all. Tell them to keep them.

Something of this happened when we newly married, my wife and our kids went to their family house for Xmas and after like 2 weeks, she still not planning when they will be returning home.

Exactly three weeks, I called her babe if by 5pm tmwr, you are not back to this house with our kids, just continue your stay in your mama house.

Mother in law called me, what is it now? Why are you threatening your wife. I said you can keep her ma.

You can guess who was at the door as early as 10am the following day.

INomorethief:

I payed for bride price and church wedding

DavidEsq:

Thank u oh! I no get time to tell them to ffuck off o! I go jus lock up dey dey my own. Dem go call tire, shimgbain call I no go answer. Shey na madness abi? Dem go see overripe one

mkoabiola:
If na me i wont even bother mysef .

Na dem Go beg me las las

When they are tired,they Will push her out

CountinBlessins:
Dialogue is the way brother. Don't let emotions get the better fo you.

Travel back ands it with them and dialogue face to face. Mobile phones have ruined a lot of relationships.

Do it the old fashioned way of face to face conversation .

All will be well. Two hot heads can never resolve anything. This isn't about ego or pride. Go there and calmly talk to them trust me they will understand.

Villa12:
I pity you. Your wife will be given out to a potential suitor better than you while you may not have access to your kids. You think op is foolish worrying about his wife and kids. You go just become old bachelor again

INomorethief:
Good evening all. For anonymity's sake I had to create a moniker for this. I am in distress as it is. My wife recently traveled last month for her late father's burial. I showed her all the support I could give as a husband according to my means, and due to the situation in the country, I could only convince one of my friends to accompany me to her town on the day of the burial to pay homage and I left that same day which her people also saw. I was expecting her to come back after some days of stay but to my surprise, I received a call the following day that there are some certain things I need to do as an in-law and one of her brother chatted me on whatsapp about it.. with pictures I can't post here. That the family is expecting my return that same week. At first I was surprised and felt he was joking. I even tried to make him understand my situation, that I am not financially strong and am hardly surviving and if it can be skipped. Because in my own town it's just that day alone I just need to come with my people and represent after that it's finish..From what was supposed to be a mature conversation resulted in insults because I can't just stand there and see him insult me... He bluntly told me my wife won't return to my house unless I come to do what was demanded of me by them the family. which costs quite alot. I have been depressed ever since about all this. I never bargained for any of this. I am not the one responsible for her father death.. I spoke to my wife about it and she knows our situation hoping she be able to talk to her people..first she was reasonable but now it seems she has joined them in it. For the sake of my kids I am thinking about taking legal action or human rights because this is another form of bully..I payed for her bride price and I can't be treated in such a manner.

Villa12:
I pity you. Your wife will be given out to a potential suitor better than you while you may not have access to your kids. You think op is foolish worrying about his wife and kids. You go just become old bachelor again

INomorethief:
I have tried to make them understand my situation. They don't even pick my calls anymore like I am the one responsible for their father death.

Afodot0022:
This is trash... as a man , never be scared of loosing a woman even a wife, never allow yourself to be manipulated by your in-laws hence you will be a slave in their hands, show them some little madness.... if they like they should give her to another suitor, they can only collect your wife but not your own kids, there are authorities that will get your kids for you. same thing happened to me, my ex wife took my kids to my in-law without getting my approval, since January i just ignore , now they are calling me to seek my consent. my plan is to take my kids custody from my ex and give them their daughter to eat.

Villa12:
I pity you. Your wife will be given out to a potential suitor better than you while you may not have access to your kids. You think op is foolish worrying about his wife and kids. You go just become old bachelor again

ChybuzzDD:


After he has been insulted and disrespected already

Men were not known to be like this. You guys are ending a worthy era, and that's quite unfortunate.

The wife should remain there, let's see who loses eventually.

INomorethief:
Good evening all. For anonymity's sake I had to create a moniker for this. I am in distress as it is. My wife recently traveled last month for her late father's burial. I showed her all the support I could give as a husband according to my means, and due to the situation in the country, I could only convince one of my friends to accompany me to her town on the day of the burial to pay homage and I left that same day which her people also saw. I was expecting her to come back after some days of stay but to my surprise, I received a call the following day that there are some certain things I need to do as an in-law and one of her brother chatted me on whatsapp about it.. with pictures I can't post here. That the family is expecting my return that same week. At first I was surprised and felt he was joking. I even tried to make him understand my situation, that I am not financially strong and am hardly surviving and if it can be skipped. Because in my own town it's just that day alone I just need to come with my people and represent after that it's finish..From what was supposed to be a mature conversation resulted in insults because I can't just stand there and see him insult me... He bluntly told me my wife won't return to my house unless I come to do what was demanded of me by them the family. which costs quite alot. I have been depressed ever since about all this. I never bargained for any of this. I am not the one responsible for her father death.. I spoke to my wife about it and she knows our situation hoping she be able to talk to her people..first she was reasonable but now it seems she has joined them in it. For the sake of my kids I am thinking about taking legal action or human rights because this is another form of bully..I payed for her bride price and I can't be treated in such a manner.

Villa12:
I pity you. Your wife will be given out to a potential suitor better than you while you may not have access to your kids. You think op is foolish worrying about his wife and kids. You go just become old bachelor again

Villa12:
I pity you. Your wife will be given out to a potential suitor better than you while you may not have access to your kids. You think op is foolish worrying about his wife and kids. You go just become old bachelor again

Aurelius1:
You think suitors just jump from the sky abi? Single girls with good jobs are finding it hard getting suitors talk less of a single mother of 2 who has no job, no source of income, except a hole between her legs. She would end up loosing on the long run. Think am na! This is a woman that is legally married, bride price paid and all. What else does the family want? They should go to hell.

CountinBlessins:


You need to grow up. Two wrongs never make a right. Keeping silent doesn't make you a fool. Neither does turning the other cheek makes you weak.

Infact to react the way you are suggesting shows chronic weakness

ChybuzzDD:


Two wrongs never make a right?

But people who commit crimes are imprisoned and sometimes executed
And even God himself promised to send sinners to hellfire.
But you know better than both governments and God. Isn't it??

You're growing up with a lot of nonsensical beliefs and that's very dangerous.
It's not by force to be a real man, anyway. You can continue to be the weak-ass man you've chosen to be and allow people you're not owing to insult and dribble you around.

CountinBlessins:


Stop typing epistles.
Grow up

Malawian:

Na so e easy to find husband? especially After 2?

Villa12:
I have seen a woman with 4 kids married to another man better than her first husband.

Hedgefunds:


Are you sure.? It hard to believe

Foodqueen:
When you are marrying out of your tribe, pls ensure you know all the customs and traditions before you proceed.

Gra-gra won't solve anything.

If u can, travel back and negotiate.