Afodot0022:
This is trash... as a man , never be scared of loosing a woman even a wife, never allow yourself to be manipulated by your in-laws hence you will be a slave in their hands, show them some little madness.... if they like they should give her to another suitor, they can only collect your wife but not your own kids, there are authorities that will get your kids for you. same thing happened to me, my ex wife took my kids to my in-law without getting my approval, since January i just ignore , now they are calling me to seek my consent. my plan is to take my kids custody from my ex and give them their daughter to eat.

🔥🔥🔥💯

Offpointng:
Ion need a Prophet to tell me ur wife is from the Igbo tribe. With this their backward and primitive culture.

My guy guy sponsored his girlfriend thr school till she graduate. now she has graduated torh mai we marry asap, The parents are still charging him millions for bride price saying they have to settle who and who foolish elders in her hometown

Nigga is so confused and can't really back out cuz he has invested so much in her. he's now considering a low key court wedding, nothing more

DemDem. can only do it to poor guys.

If them born Chioma papa well, let him try Davido and he will be stripped naked and flogged in market square.

They can't even try it with someone like me.

Me, I just screw their babes married and single. Na my leftovers the mugus go pay 35 page bride price lists for.

If i were you stop bothering urself about ur wife and children . Ur children are safe in the hand of their mother. how i wish u can quickly use the opportunity to travel out of the country and hustle for ur life. if u are truly d father of the children they will look for other wise to get another children no be issue.

PlsBanMe:
INomorethief

I don't think you truly want your wife and children back but if you do, the only way is to pretend that you don't.

Call your wife one more time and tell her you expect her home in the next 24 hours. Tell her is she doesn't return at that time, she should forget the marriage as you will reject her and the children.


If she refused to return, completely stop all forms of communications with her. No calls, no text, nothing through social media. Even if it take months, stop communicating with her and the children. The children won't die. Do not pick any calls from her family members too.

If you can do this, your wife and children will eventually be back without you paying nothing. A fight will break out between your wife and her family.

Sometimes you need to be a man, else they will take you for granted.

Simple my brother

calabaman:

Simple my brother

I will change my number self

immortalcrown:
Is the marriage legally-instituted? If not, forget about taking a legal action.

After all, how will you fund the legal step as you have no money to settle your in-laws?

Remain patient and peaceful in the matter.

Ask it pastor. When they asked u people to always investigate about the culture of ur spouse before u say I do, u say people who hold such view are living in the past. Go and perform the traditional rite as demanded of u. Stop disturbing people. We sensible Nigerians have a lot to attend to

Orinechi:
Ask it pastor. When they asked u people to always investigate about the culture of ur spouse before u say I do, u say people who hold such view are living in the past. Go and perform the traditional rite as demanded of u. Stop disturbing people. We sensible Nigerians have a lot to attend to

Which useless culture? Does any culture involve kidnapping? I wish any inlaw would try that shi with me.

Fvuck around with the wrong person and find out !

Orinechi:
Ask it pastor. When they asked u people to always investigate about the culture of ur spouse before u say I do, u say people who hold such view are living in the past. Go and perform the traditional rite as demanded of u. Stop disturbing people. We sensible Nigerians have a lot to attend to

No comment of mine on this forum supports your claim. You expose your stupidity when you make claims that you cannot prove.

Secondly, this is not a case of the guy not knowing the culture of his in-laws. It is a case of him being too broke to follow the in-laws' culture. Stop being stupid.

Villa12:
I have seen a woman with 4 kids married to another man better than her first husband.

Let me quote this for posterity for when your fellow menfolk start shouting who will want single moda, divorcee etc to shame women into staying in marriages that are not working.

shaybebaby:

Let me quote this for posterity for when your fellow menfolk start shouting who will want single moda, divorcee etc to shame women into staying in marriages that are not working.

very funny statement from some guys. I know a woman with 5 good children. First child is 20. You will never know this woman had 5 children. She left her marriage as a result of violence. Even a blind man knows that this woman can remarry if she want to.

immortalcrown:
No comment of mine on this forum supports your claim. You expose your stupidity when you make claims that you cannot prove.

Secondly, this is not a case of the guy not knowing the culture of his in-laws. It is a case of him being too broke to follow the in-laws' culture. Stop being stupid.

sadly, culture doesn't know if you're broke or not. They can only help him reduce the cost if truly it's cultural.

MartinCorridon:


DemDem. can only do it to poor guys.

If them born Chioma papa well, let him try Davido and he will be stripped naked and flogged in market square.

They can't even try it with someone like me.

Me, I just screw their babes married and single. Na my leftovers the mugus go pay 35 page bride price lists for.

you just dey make mouth. There are tradition and culture which must be respected. Why did davido paid her bride price? He should have ignore it na and watch if the child will be his.

Your neighbours fit even purposely find your trouble just to yab you say your wife don abandon you. Nothing you go talk that'd merit consideration. They go tell you say if you're a responsible man your wife no go abandon you.

Villa12:
you just dey make mouth. There are tradition and culture which must be respected. Why did davido paid her bride price? He should have ignore it na and watch if the child will be his.

Your neighbours fit even purposely find your trouble just to yab you say your wife don abandon you. Nothing you go talk that'd merit consideration. They go tell you say if you're a responsible man your wife no go abandon you.

They can't dare it with me. Neither can they dare it with any man worth his onions.

Go and check what a Court said recently. I swear all of them will be lined up and given a lesson they wouldn't ever forget.

MartinCorridon:


They can't dare it with me. Neither can they dare it with any man worth his onions.

Go and check what a Court said recently. I swear all of them will be lined up and given a lesson they wouldn't ever forget.

tell me what court said please. It is a known fact that most times court gives mothers custody of the child/ren while fathers provides their upkeep. Unless if proven with evidence that the mother isn't mentally or psychologically capable of raising a child.

Court is not a home for emotional sentiment. If op take the case to court the woman would still have custody to those kids. Court understand that the man will obviously outsource the nurturing of the kids either to their mothers, aunties or the newly wives. Unlike women that'd singlehandedly look after their children

Sapasenator:


Which useless culture? Does any culture involve kidnapping? I wish any inlaw would try that shi with me.

Fvuck around with the wrong person and find out !

U cannot do anything.

Tame26:


I can’t help you here , you obviously didn’t marry from the south west. You did from the east or south. Over here, marriage requirements isn’t that difficult. They will clearly tell you they are not selling their daughter

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Shut up madam. You are a bigot and a tribal idiot.

I am Igbo and married a Yoruba from Osun, living in Ilorin. I am in the op's exact shoes. Lost father in law who was buried 27 April. Your people demanded 400k from me. Wifey stayed close to 2month. Received all sorts of insults.

All the kids who couldn't buy him an Android phone when he was alive, were ready to make 400k donations for cow and party to impress visitors. Shame.

But they were messing with the wrong man. Stood up to them. Ignored their antics. Las las, mother inlaw came begging.

One more time, Bleep off with this tribal nonsense.

advanceDNA:


Men need to start making better choices.... A woman will not marry a man that adds nothing to her...
.I don't know why men opt for shallow women, with no ambition, other than to fvck and eat.....they will now have the guts to say "i suffer for that man"..... Like WTF

like wtf 🤣

Offpointng:
Ion need a Prophet to tell me ur wife is from the Igbo tribe. With this their backward and primitive culture.

My guy guy sponsored his girlfriend thr school till she graduate. now she has graduated torh mai we marry asap, The parents are still charging him millions for bride price saying they have to settle who and who foolish elders in her hometown

Nigga is so confused and can't really back out cuz he has invested so much in her. he's now considering a low key court wedding, nothing more

I heard gurls in igboland dont even get inheritance. Na why men gas marry from reasonable family

Orinechi:
U cannot do anything.

don't mind them. They are just keypad warriors.

Squirrel1:
I heard gurls in igboland dont even get inheritance. Na why men gas marry from reasonable family

what has that got to do with op situation? You always look for any means to bring in religions, tribe into everything. Who told you what happened to op is peculiar to one tribe? It rains everywhere. Once a man is not really doing fine, his in-laws wouldn't rate him and if peradventure the family don't want their daughter marry him but their daughter insisted due to love. Just believe they can still convince their daughter to leave, expecially if things hasn't improved after some years. Every tribe experience what op is going through.

Is your wife a baby that she can't leave there? I am sure she's in support of all the rubbish. My advice for you is to get police involved. They should release your children too you and take their sister. If you can't involve police, leave all of them there, do like they don't exist. When they are tired, they will all come back to you.

This extortion all in the name of traditions need to stop. If they won't come back, just let them f*cl off...

advanceDNA:


Are u sure they have not planned to marry her off to someone else before that burial..??

. because I don't understand how exploiting u for money suddenly leads to holding your wife and kids...

All these pple seff.....bride price, Dem go nearly cut ur head....after marriage, they will still not let u rest...

Na u kii their papa??

Guys make una dey try marry from decent home ....all these pple wey dey poor and no get shame join will only lead to frustration

21 gunshots salute. Much respect Baba 🙏

SINisSIN:
You are worrying over nothing and unfortunately, your wife is not reasonable at all. Tell them to keep them.

Something of this happened when we newly married, my wife and our kids went to their family house for Xmas and after like 2 weeks, she still not planning when they will be returning home.

Exactly three weeks, I called her babe if by 5pm tmwr, you are not back to this house with our kids, just continue your stay in your mama house.

Mother in law called me, what is it now? Why are you threatening your wife. I said you can keep her ma.

You can guess who was at the door as early as 10am the following day.

Warning shots fired 😳😳😳, LWKMD 😂😂😂

PlsBanMe:
INomorethief

I don't think you truly want your wife and children back but if you do, the only way is to pretend that you don't.

Call your wife one more time and tell her you expect her home in the next 24 hours. Tell her is she doesn't return at that time, she should forget the marriage as you will reject her and the children.


If she refused to return, completely stop all forms of communications with her. No calls, no text, nothing through social media. Even if it take months, stop communicating with her and the children. The children won't die. Do not pick any calls from her family members too.

If you can do this, your wife and children will eventually be back without you paying nothing. A fight will break out between your wife and her family.

Sometimes you need to be a man, else they will take you for granted.

See better setup💯, her mind go touch ground 💯

MartinCorridon:


DemDem. can only do it to poor guys.

If them born Chioma papa well, let him try Davido and he will be stripped naked and flogged in market square.

They can't even try it with someone like me.

Me, I just screw their babes married and single. Na my leftovers the mugus go pay 35 page bride price lists for.

Why did Davido pay her bride price after the sons death? He for misbehave and see if he could bury his son.

Una wey never buy 1 pampas for any pikin go just they make empty nosie. Na una type dey wash woman pants behind close door.

Are you a

MAN


?

dododawa1:
Are you a

MAN


?

Yes unlike your father

INomorethief:

Yes unlike your father

Op give us an update, what's going on.

Offpointng:
Ion need a Prophet to tell me ur wife is from the Igbo tribe. With this their backward and primitive culture.

My guy guy sponsored his girlfriend thr school till she graduate. now she has graduated torh mai we marry asap, The parents are still charging him millions for bride price saying they have to settle who and who foolish elders in her hometown

Nigga is so confused and can't really back out cuz he has invested so much in her. he's now considering a low key court wedding, nothing more

If your mama was washing her toto well, an îmbecile like you, a born by mistake for no show in your form.

Sapasenator:


Op give us an update, what's going on.

They still been held hostage. I took the advice of no communication so I haven't bothered to call for days now.

INomorethief:
They still been held hostage. I took the advice of no communication so I haven't bothered to call for days now.

You are doing the right thing my brother. Do not go into confrontation with your in-laws. Just pretend you are busy and have no time, talk nice with them and still stand your ground. Within Three weeks, they will be looking for you to have your wife and children, if you cave in now, they will always have something to blackmail you with in the future.

Tomorrow27:
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Shut up madam. You are a bigot and a tribal idiot.

I am Igbo and married a Yoruba from Osun, living in Ilorin. I am in the op's exact shoes. Lost father in law who was buried 27 April. Your people demanded 400k from me. Wifey stayed close to 2month. Received all sorts of insults.

All the kids who couldn't buy him an Android phone when he was alive, were ready to make 400k donations for cow and party to impress visitors. Shame.

But they were messing with the wrong man. Stood up to them. Ignored their antics. Las las, mother inlaw came begging.

One more time, Bleep off with this tribal nonsense.

fuckkk off and stop being stuppiiiddd, you married from a mentally deranged family. The southwest is a region of over 50 million people, we’ve family is not thesame! Generally, yorubas don’t force for bride price, we are talking about marriage requirements here and your delusional tribal is tic idiottt was talking about burial rights. In YORUBA LAND that I know of, majority will take the bride price and return it to their daughter except u married from a useless family. There are useless families everywhere. No one send you to marry from the wrong family in the SW, fulfilling your in laws ceremonial rights is not by force, it’s by choice. If you are not pleased with it, go back to the east and marry with your 1.5m and stop complaining. And please don’t quote me anymore, I won’t reply.